Do you know what men find sexy?

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Agreed. I've heard many men state it's the over all image they go for and wouldn't notice details so much but I've heard the same kinds of comments bandied around a fair bit too.

I would agree. We can compartmentalise a fair bit. To an almost cliched degree sometimes. While the ladies will be bum/shoulder/arms/eyes women[delete as applicable], IME they're less focused than men and more open to other aspects of attraction. Consciously anyway, subconsciously they're every bit as sexually triggered I'd say. But if a man is making her "weak at the knees" she's less good at breaking down why. A guy will generally be more likely to tell you the whys as a list.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

I think it is. NO offence to the lovely ladies of Spain but some women certainly fit that bill and get a huge amount of attention.

Having had two spanish exes, I've some exposure to that dating culture. It can be a bit macho on the surface. Certainly Spanish men are much fussier and more vocal about that fussiness than Irish men would be. They also seem to prefer the more obvious attraction triggers in a woman. I recall one of my exes brothers over here for a weekend. I brought the lad out on the lash, Dublin stylee. FYI Spanish lads(and this guy was unusually huge) can chug spirits all night, but 4 pints and it's "TIMBER!" and over they go... I digress... annnyhoo we were in various nightspots and dens of inequity and he was regularly commenting on the local ladies. Mostly favourably contrary to common opinion... but quite a few times he would mention "oh look at him, what is he doing with that woman, she's very fat/ugly/unattractive". I've known Spanish women who weren't getting a sniff in Spain, mostly because they weren't obvious, that would have a queue in front of them here.

I think we've over intellectualised the word, "sexy" and I think women are the ones responsible for that. Men are much more primal than some of us think or want to admit. THIS is my point.

I'd kinda agree yea. Maybe more romanticised it? Or separated "fashion beauty" from "sexy beauty" so much that reality falls more in the middle?

Silverfish/OP wrote:

Men, do you know what women find sexy.

Yea. Well... mostly. Well... what they find attractive anyway. It varies(cop out ahoy:P). *EDIT* as is my wont I had my usual three chapters typed out, avec bullet points and visual aids. At one point there were villagers. Angry ones. With torches. But then thought better of it. If I had to pin it down to one, just one thing? Tall order with all the variability in women TBH, but I'll give it a whirl. Fools rush in...

A man with romantic choice is sexy. A man that you know could ask out/be with other women if he chose that, but he's asking you, he's giving attention to you, he likes you, he desires you. The more romantic choice a man has the sexier he is, the less he has the less sexy he is IMHO.

You will often hear of men joking(or lamenting ) that when they're in a relationship they get much more come ons from women and yet when they're single, nada. Why? Other than confirmation bias, it's usually down to two things; 1) he's already been vetted by another woman so he's safe. Women have more to lose in encounters with the opposite sex(especially in the past) so it makes good sense*. 2) and more importantly IMHO, because he has someone, he's not looking, so he's not bothered, ergo he appears to have more choice.





*there have been quite a few studies that have shown Women(tm) are more attracted to attached men than single ones.