Do you know what men find sexy?

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Right...I suppose it comes down to the fact that women tell each other that less is more. Less fat, more clothes thus less revealing of flesh etc. but the reaction that a women gets who dresses skimpily tells a different story and many women might presume (before she sees the attention the skimpily stressed women gets) is too "obvious" and no man would find her attractive.

What women? Telling each other what? I am clearly not privy to such conversations.

A picture of brad pitt in his hey day back lazily against a door jar in his undies, looking up through his eyelashes with a "come to me" look and one hand grazing the band of his undies drawing your eye down - of course there are times when less clothes are going to mean sex - and if someone makes you think of sex while looking at them then you are going to find them sexy, no? That works for both sexes - and doesn't detract from those who still turn a guy/gals head without the more obvious cues...

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

And again, I think this is the kind of thing many women tell eachother but it's not actually true.

Well maybe for men its not, I dont know.

I dont think dressing like you are dime an hour is sexy but maybe it is?

I would think that the imagination is far more provocative than having it all laid out for you and on display. But maybe its not the case at all.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

I've heard women say this. That wearing revealing clothes doesn't equate to sexiness. Metrovelvet made a comment a moment ago along those lines. I'm not saying this applies to all women but that's definitely not the first time I've heard that kind of comment.

I suppose it can, but it can look like a hard sell, which might attract but could also repel. Desperation is never attractive in anyone. Cleavage or thigh, not both, right?

As much as I like a Calvin Klein ad, if I saw someone do that in real life, I'd think its pathetic.

whydoibother? wrote: »

I wondered today actually, whether men analyse womens appearances in a more "methodical" way (for want of a better word) than I had realized. I always thought that whether you fancy somebody is not something you really think hard about. I'm a girl, and when I look at a guy I know instantly, without thinking about it. But recently I've heard some men discussing womens appearances on a few occasions and it goes "do you like X?" "yes, she's got a great body", "no, her face is to ..." "Y was looking very green today in that dress" (seriously, heard that one today) "Z has nice hair". Maybe the men I know are different but it seems they break down the elements way more than I ever would with a guy.

But when they see the girl, they don't think "wow nice hair". They just think she is attractive. That's all anybody thinks when they make a split second decision about somebody being attractive. When you discuss it with other people it is normal to try and find reasons why you think like that. Girls talk about "X has great arms, nice eyes etc" as well.

metrovelvet wrote: »

Well maybe for men its not, I dont know.

I dont think dressing like you are dime an hour is sexy but maybe it is?

I would think that the imagination is far more provocative than having it all laid out for you and on display. But maybe its not the case at all.

That split second decision is again at work there. Men just see a nice body and some clothes show that off better than others. In a busy nightclub, there has to be something that catches your attention. Skimpy clothes will help somebody stand out in a busy nightclub. That thought process might be totally different in a different situation.

I think some women over analyse the thoughts men have. Whilst certain ways of dressing can be sexy, the person actually has to be sexy.

parker kent wrote: »

But when they see the girl, they don't think "wow nice hair". They just think she is attractive. That's all anybody thinks when they make a split second decision about somebody being attractive. When you discuss it with other people it is normal to try and find reasons why you think like that. Girls talk about "X has great arms, nice eyes etc" as well.

Okay, that makes a bit more sense. I can understand for the purposes of conversation how people might need to go into detail after deciding they like someone. But some of them do make it sound like they're walking around with a scorecard in their backpocket that has a box for every individual part of the female anatomy.:D

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

IN the same breath, I think many men simplify what a woman likes. Mr. Universe type guys. I think a poster put a picture on the thread of all the men women find hot and it was a photo of some body builder guy, metrosexual type guy and the general consensus from the the females was that he wasn't attractive. This probably confused the hell out of the poster. Do any women find the Chippendales sexy, for example?

I wouldn't particularly. The ideal build for me is somebody who takes care of themselves to a reasonable extent, looks healthy and fit, but not taken to any kind of extremes.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

IN the same breath, I think many men simplify what a woman likes. Mr. Universe type guys. I think a poster put a picture on the thread of all the men women find hot and it was a photo of some body builder guy, metrosexual type guy and the general consensus from the the females was that he wasn't attractive. This probably confused the hell out of the poster. Do any women find the Chippendales sexy, for example?

Kind of like assuming all guys find revealing clothing sexy? Or that it equates to dressing like a prostitute? :eek:

I also can't comment on whether a concept is sexy, as opposed to an actual person...

pickarooney wrote: »

You can't tell from a still image if someone is sexy, IMO.

Whilst I don't entirely agree with this I think there is alot to it - after all you can infer from someones still image how they might move. But I actually think one factor in what makes a woman (or a man) sexy or not is as much how the move, how they carry themselves as how they look in stills. Whether they stand tall in confidence instead of slouching in shyness, whether they move, walk, run dance etc with purpose and balance or even with playfullness, versus with restriction, timidity or even shame.

I think some of this can be seen in stills and some of it can't. But one thing that I think is interesting if you notice is the models used in still photoshoots are different people than those used in videos by and large. I mean one look suits a still photo, another suits a video. The still image types tend to be just skinny and have distinctive faces. The moving image types aren't necessarily so skinny but will generally have a bit of muscle tone or more athletic build and more importantly tend to look natural in movement (the stick thin catwalk types just look weird when they walk imho) - but can have more 'plain' faces. The best example I can think of here are the girls on the Nivea ads where they are jumping around alot. These girls are stunning and sexy - but not the kind of looks or bodyshapes you see in still pictures.

I think the same applies to men. in the still images of male models you will tend to have the beefcake types cause that looks good in still images. In moving images you tend to see the sporty type cause that looks better in movement (lets be honest - body builder types trying to run would just look ridiculous)

Intelligence is always good. Confidence and self-sufficiency have already been mentioned. I think these can combine to make someone who has generally "got it together". That's quite attractive to me. Maybe I'm getting into the realms of what I personally find attractive now, rather than women in general, but I love proactive people - someone who decides they're going to do something and actually does it.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

No and I don't think revealing clothing = sexy. Some women will claim that revealing clothing is never sexy. As you said, it could boil down to biitchiness.

To claim they don't find someone sexy is completely understandable - to claim that nobody should find someone sexy, especially for reasons that are down to their personal tastes/ethics/prejudices/whatever, definitely comes across as bitchy.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

An attractive woman in revealing clothing is sexy and will get a lot of attention. An attractive man with no top on won't get the same kind of attention.

I don't think that has a lot to do with women thinking the male form undressed is not sexy though...

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

No no, I'm not saying that to wear revealing clothing equates to looking like a prostitute!! Come on!! I don't think I ever said that. I live in Spain...the weather gets hot...wearing revealing clothing is essential for survival...I do it myself but there's women I see on occasion who'd be dressed like a prostitute would dress..that's a simple fact..thir clothes are comparable to the women I see on the street where the prostitues work...a skirt so short that you can see bum cheeks etc. I'm not saying that's necessarily a bad thing either. I'm a firm believer in women being allowed to whatever they want without anyone passing remarks. It's a personal choice.

Okay - so they think they are in sexy clothes, and their view of sexy would be in line with some guys view of sexy clothes - but whether that particular women is sexy would depend on the personal taste of the man in question...I'm sure some men look at them and think they look awful, too.

On the revealing clothes bit, it depends on the context. If you're on a beach somewhere and you see attractive people with very little on, you don't think any less of them. If you see the same people walking down the street in very little, you may think it looks tacky. I do think quite revealing clothes can sometimes be attractive, but the person (girl or guy) has to have the body and the clothes have to look nice. By wearing something really skimpy it's like people are raising the stakes and saying "Look at me I can pull this off". They are then inviting people to judge and people will. Though I would prefer if people could wear whatever they wanted without comment, that's not the way the world is.

There have been several off-topic posts deleted and Snappy the Moose in now the proud owner of a months holiday for trolling.

Could posters please ensure they are familiar with the forum charter here before posting - including the bit about reporting posts...

And just to re-iterate:

Silverfish wrote: »

The OP is asking:

Men, do you know what women find sexy.

Women, do you know what men find sexy.

So, just to clarify, not reading the thread and jumping in to say 'I'm a man and women type X are sexy' or 'I'm a woman and men type X are sexy' will get your post deleted, there's enough threads about for that, and this one is about something else.