Did you panic when you found out your OH was pregnant?

I panic until the bloodening comes, then I am all like 'thank feck'. Then followed closely by 'oh ffs fml hate this shiz dude whatevs' lol.

Average girl in my town-

*Get pregenat between the ages of 18-22
*Once the child is born, get a house of the social welfare
*Have a second child from a different man.

Simple as that.Why a person would not want to get an eduacation,how some sort of security and travel in life before even thinking of having a child is beyond me.Im 25 at the mo , theres not a hope in hell id have a child before the age of 30-preferably 32-33.

While they would never admit it, im sure alot of woman/girls get pregges just to claim single mother allowences,rent supplements,get a house or what ever they get.

--LOS-- wrote: »

As much as I wouldnt want to get pregnant, this post is a bit extreme, why would your whole existence be useless?

My whole life would be dedicated to somebody else. I like my life but if i had a child it would destroy my lifestyle, it would destroy me as a person and i would be a shadow of myself. The only meaning of my existance would be for one person. My soul and personality would be sucked out of me by a child. I would kill myself if it wasnt for the responsibility of looking after my offspring. I have no career prospects and i will never earn a decent wage. My whole earnings would go entirely on that child. I would have no life. I would go to work and go home and my days off i would have to look after a child. That would whole life, every week for 18 years. No going out with the lads, no holidays, no concerts, no festivals, no football matches, just living like a slave to one person. Im 25 and i would be a slave until i am 43, possibly longer and those years should be the best years of my life.

And thats the financial issues, then there is the emotional issues of having a child. You go to work all week at a crap job, then every day you have to go home to a whinge bag child, slowly sucking the last bit of personality out of you. Even when if i try to get away from a crappy life by going to sleep at night, the child would probably start crying and finding more reasons to hate my life. When the child grows older and turns into a teenager, i would be treated with nothing but contempt. Like ive ruined the childs life by just existing and would have to deal with its hormonal issues.

Then we get to the mother of the child. Oh dear jesus. Your life is bad enough as it is and you give up every moment and every cent you have for the child for 18 years but every single day there is one person there to tell you its just not good enough. Somebody who wants more than every single second of my day and every cent i earn for 18 years. Somebody who would never be happy until she gets your head is on a platter. It would be like being in a jail cell on suicide watch whilst being forced to watch videos of kittens and puppies being tortured, just after being told Panda's and Tigers have become extinct.

You may think i could have parental issues but my parents have been happily married for 27 years and i have no problems with them. What ive stated above would be my life if i knocked somebody up

Children are useful in a sense that when you are old and cant drive/move then they can help you.

If a girl has a child she'll do for a one night stand,relationship-not a chance.I dont want someone elses little sprog looking for' 2 euro for the shop' and there father probaly sitting on a high stool somewhere.

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Average girl in my town-

*Get pregenat between the ages of 18-22
*Once the child is born, get a house of the social welfare
*Have a second child from a different man.

Simple as that.Why a person would not want to get an eduacation,how some sort of security and travel in life before even thinking of having a child is beyond me.Im 25 at the mo , theres not a hope in hell id have a child before the age of 30-preferably 32-33.

While they would never admit it, im sure alot of woman/girls get pregges just to claim single mother allowences,rent supplements,get a house or what ever they get.

This is the kind of attitude that pisses me off.
I am 22 years old, and 35 weeks, almost 36 weeks pregnant. Just because I'm young doesn't mean the government/health board or whoever will be financing any part of my lifestyle or that of my childs.



And on topic.

I was delighted. I honestly didn't think it would happen for me.

Storminateacup wrote: »

This is the kind of attitude that pisses me off.
I am 22 years old, and 35 weeks, almost 36 weeks pregnant. Just because I'm young doesn't mean the government/health board or whoever will be financing any part of my lifestyle or that of my childs.



And on topic.

I was delighted. I honestly didn't think it would happen for me.

Well obviously not everyone falls into this bracket ,but i can only go of my experiences,and from what i see around my home town and people i grew up with and at least 70% of people are like i explained.

Good luck with your bundle of joy ( not in a sarcastic way )

Pauleta wrote: »

My whole life would be dedicated to somebody else. I like my life but if i had a child it would destroy my lifestyle, it would destroy me as a person and i would be a shadow of myself. The only meaning of my existance would be for one person. My soul and personality would be sucked out of me by a child. I would kill myself if it wasnt for the responsibility of looking after my offspring. I have no career prospects and i will never earn a decent wage. My whole earnings would go entirely on that child. I would have no life. I would go to work and go home and my days off i would have to look after a child. That would whole life, every week for 18 years. No going out with the lads, no holidays, no concerts, no festivals, no football matches, just living like a slave to one person. Im 25 and i would be a slave until i am 43, possibly longer and those years should be the best years of my life.

And thats the financial issues, then there is the emotional issues of having a child. You go to work all week at a crap job, then every day you have to go home to a whinge bag child, slowly sucking the last bit of personality out of you. Even when if i try to get away from a crappy life by going to sleep at night, the child would probably start crying and finding more reasons to hate my life. When the child grows older and turns into a teenager, i would be treated with nothing but contempt. Like ive ruined the childs life by just existing and would have to deal with its hormonal issues.

Then we get to the mother of the child. Oh dear jesus. Your life is bad enough as it is and you give up every moment and every cent you have for the child for 18 years but every single day there is one person there to tell you its just not good enough. Somebody who wants more than every single second of my day and every cent i earn for 18 years. Somebody who would never be happy until she gets your head is on a platter. It would be like being in a jail cell on suicide watch whilst being forced to watch videos of kittens and puppies being tortured, just after being told Panda's and Tigers have become extinct.

You may think i could have parental issues but my parents have been happily married for 27 years and i have no problems with them. What ive stated above would be my life if i knocked somebody up

Was wondering wtf was wrong with me and your post gave me a lightbulb moment:rolleyes: Mother of 2, 24 & 15

Pandora2 wrote: »

Was wondering wtf was wrong with me and your post gave me a lightbulb moment:rolleyes: Mother of 2, 24 & 15

Sounds terrible. If you were here with me now i would give you a big hug. At least they are getting older now and you can snub their weddings as revenge