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Internet Dating
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Nearly 12yrs ago I met my other half by using the internet (no not mail order !). Just saying that sometimes it works.
Did they exist 12 years ago1?
:pac:Not saying that it's not an option. But there's no need to run to it straight away.
Who said everyone doing it ran to it straight away??pablomakaveli wrote: »Well i tried it and met a nice girl who i'd have never of met if i didnt try it. You're still taking a chance when you try internet dating.
You seem to think its cowardly when it isnt. When you send someone a message on a site your putting yourself out there to be possibly rejected just like if you approached a girl in a pub.
you do take a considerable risk I think doing it like this. so in a way it's kinda courageous. but at the same time, I dunno I think it kinda is a bit like hiding away. (I've done it so i'm not just attacking people doing it) it seems in a way it is a very clear cut kinda way of doing it. like you're not really setting yourself up for rejection. oh i dunno what i'm saying... tired brain.0 -
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Well, this is my last word on this - 'cause, although it may seem otherwise, I really don't have that strong an opinion on the matter :P!
I really don't think there's anything wrong with internet dating. In fact, there's a lot to be said for it, in that you could meet people that you would never come across otherwise.
However, I think people are using it as a soft option. And yes, I do think it is easier than meeting people in real life. Which is worse - sending a message to a person you like on a site and getting ignored, or walking over to a person and introducing yourself and getting snubbed?
I think people are avoiding the social interaction of going out and meeting others in exchange for doing it over the internet. And that's a bad thing. I've had so many great nights going out with friends and meeting new people and have laughs and chats with them.
There's no reason why meeting people in the outside world and meeting people off the net can't co-exist, but I don't think that internet dating should be the first choice.
And that's all I have to say about that.
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However, I think people are using it as a soft option. And yes, I do think it is easier than meeting people in real life. Which is worse - sending a message to a person you like on a site and getting ignored, or walking over to a person and introducing yourself and getting snubbed?
What's the problem with going for the "soft" option? Does it make it less credible? Less real?I think people are avoiding the social interaction of going out and meeting others in exchange for doing it over the internet. And that's a bad thing. I've had so many great nights going out with friends and meeting new people and have laughs and chats with them.
People have already pointed out that they're not forsaking their social lives for internet dating.There's no reason why meeting people in the outside world and meeting people off the net can't co-exist, but I don't think that internet dating should be the first choice.
People have already stated that it's not necessarily their first choice.And that's all I have to say about that.
Great, well done on completely missing loads of people's points!0 -
ibarelycare wrote: »What's the problem with going for the "soft" option? Does it make it less credible? Less real?
People have already pointed out that they're not forsaking their social lives for internet dating.
People have already stated that it's not necessarily their first choice.
Great, well done on completely missing loads of people's points!
Ah - jeez. I'm not trying to have an argument, and I didn't think this would be such a big deal. I don't think I'm wrong though, so I'll keep on.
You are missing my point. I'm not saying internet dating is wrong in any way - it's just less fun. And I'm not missing people's points - I'm just qualifying them.
One last example. When did you last laugh your heart out? Was it out with a group in real life, or was it on the internet? No big deal if it was in a chatroom on the internet, but I cherish the memories I make when I'm out, in real life, with mates that I can look over at when I'm in the middle of telling a story 'cause I know they'll be nodding along. That I can pat on the arm when I have just thought of something that I want to say to / share with them. If we are all in stitches laughing, I love that I'm with them and we are buzzing off each other.
I'm not saying that anything one does over the internet is bad. It's better than sitting alone! But real life is better. And that goes for dating too.0 -
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Well, this is my last word on this - 'cause, although it may seem otherwise, I really don't have that strong an opinion on the matter :P!
I really don't think there's anything wrong with internet dating. In fact, there's a lot to be said for it, in that you could meet people that you would never come across otherwise.
However, I think people are using it as a soft option. And yes, I do think it is easier than meeting people in real life. Which is worse - sending a message to a person you like on a site and getting ignored, or walking over to a person and introducing yourself and getting snubbed?
I think people are avoiding the social interaction of going out and meeting others in exchange for doing it over the internet. And that's a bad thing. I've had so many great nights going out with friends and meeting new people and have laughs and chats with them.
There's no reason why meeting people in the outside world and meeting people off the net can't co-exist, but I don't think that internet dating should be the first choice.
And that's all I have to say about that.
Agree with your post. except i dont think everyone avoids the social interaction. some people dont have the best of social lives to meet someone. Even some people can be shy. Hence why that type of person would use dating sites.
But yeah, internet dating should come second to meeting someone in real world.0 -
Ah - jeez. I'm not trying to have an argument, and I didn't think this would be such a big deal. I don't think I'm wrong though, so I'll keep on.
You are missing my point. I'm not saying internet dating is wrong in any way - it's just less fun. And I'm not missing people's points - I'm just qualifying them.
One last example. When did you last laugh your heart out? Was it out with a group in real life, or was it on the internet? No big deal if it was in a chatroom on the internet, but I cherish the memories I make when I'm out, in real life, with mates that I can look over at when I'm in the middle of telling a story 'cause I know they'll be nodding along. That I can pat on the arm when I have just thought of something that I want to say to / share with them. If we are all in stitches laughing, I love that I'm with them and we are buzzing off each other.
I'm not saying that anything one does over the internet is bad. It's better than sitting alone! But real life is better. And that goes for dating too.
Last time I laughed my heart out was with my boyfriend...who I met on the internet
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ibarelycare wrote: »Last time I laughed my heart out was with my boyfriend...who I met on the internet
Me too - I laughed my heart out last with my boyfriend, who I first met in a bar. But if I'd met him on the internet it wouldn't make him any less special to me.
It doesn't matter where you meet your friends - what matters is that you meet them. All I'm saying is that people shouldn't use the internet as a replacement for real life.
Best of luck to you ibarelycare. I hope you and your guy are very happy!!! 0 -
Me too - I laughed my heart out last with my boyfriend, who I first met in a bar. But if I'd met him on the internet it wouldn't make him any less special to me.
It doesn't matter where you meet your friends - what matters is that you meet them. All I'm saying is that people shouldn't use the internet as a replacement for real life.
Best of luck to you ibarelycare. I hope you and your guy are very happy!!!
Thanks BUT I still think you're missing the point! Me and a few other people in this thread have already said that we're not replacing our real lives with the internet. I spend a lot of time online, I've made a lot of friends through boards and other sites but I still go out nearly every weekend, I still SEE friends in person a few times a week, I still am a social person. The internet and "real life" can work in tandem very easily!0 -
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ibarelycare wrote: »Last time I laughed my heart out was with my boyfriend...who I met on the internet
Me too 0 -
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