Internet Dating

fakearms123

Internet dating is no longer a taboo, there are adverts on tv everyday promoting dating sites like www.match.com and you hear it on the radio on your way to work.

But has anyone here ever tried it? Has it worked out for you? And for the people who haven't tried it, would you?

Sykk

How much are match.com paying in commision?

Oh yes, I'm onto you.

super_furry

Internet dating - the odds are good, but the goods are odd.

Guill

Tried it once, got barred from Bebo then, heafty sentance in the Joy too.

biko

fakearms123 wrote: »

But has anyone here ever tried it? Has it worked out for you? And for the people who haven't tried it, would you?

How about you start the sharing and why you want this information, might make others open up.

Guill

biko wrote: »

How about you start the sharing and why you want this information, might make others open up.

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Really?

dpe

I think the Irish are still quite sniffy about it, that's why you have all those silly coy names like "maybefriends". Everyone uses online dating sites in the UK.

jester77

It's looks like a good way for the socially awkward to meet people, haven't tried it but wouldn't dismiss it.

Homer

I met a girl from an internet dating site last night, who's profile headline had been
"Wanting to meet my partner in crime".

Apparently me being the rapist, her being the victim, wasn't the crime she had in mind??

FatherLen

yeah buts its kinda ghey

xoxyx

I know this is unfair, but I would totally judge a guy who uses internet dating. It sounds fun - just like speed-dating (I love the concept of speed dating!) - but there's something about it that would turn me off a person using it.

Dating is supposed to be all about the fun, and maybe something will come of it. Using dating sites just seems like desperation.

fakearms123

biko wrote: »

How about you start the sharing and why you want this information, might make others open up.

Haha just realised it sounded like I was promoting match.com but luckily I am not, I do in fact feel I should cash something for plugging their website.

The reason I ask about internet dating is because is it a more modern way of getting in touch with the opposite sex or is it just a lazy option for people who just want to type into the search engine "likes popcorn, jungle jims and pajamas" and then you have a fliter of women who like popcorn, jungle jims and pajamas.

Does it save the more modern, busy, career-comes-first type of people who live in this world now and that the old fashioned going up to a girl or guy in a social setting and asking them about their interest doesn't work anymore, are we passed that in our fast paced technological world?

Chris P. Bacon

FatherLen wrote: »

yeah buts its kinda ghey

You mean Grindr?

Uriel.

FatherLen wrote: »

yeah buts its kinda ghey

How?

Maybe a dating website for gay people is gay.. but.... eh, never mind...

giant_midget

freaks...people from the internet are freaks...:pac:

dpe

xoxyx wrote: »

I know this is unfair, but I would totally judge a guy who uses internet dating. It sounds fun - just like speed-dating (I love the concept of speed dating!) - but there's something about it that would turn me off a person using it.

Dating is supposed to be all about the fun, and maybe something will come of it. Using dating sites just seems like desperation.

This is what I'm talking about Irish people being sniffy about it. In the UK and US, the attitude is its less random than the pub and from a woman's POV they can screen out the weirdos in advance more easily. for most people its not a matter of desperation, its a matter of who has the time? Better to do the leg work online. Have to say most of my exeriences of online dating (even on the occasions when things didn't go anywhere) were quite good, and in one case life-changingly good.

mgmt

Came across my old housemate's profile on a dating website. I pity the guy who went on a date with her. She was MASSIVE. Severely overweight. She didn't mention this on her profile. She also didn;t mention her real hobbies was to constantly cry and to order takeaway pizzas every night.

FatherLen

Uriel. wrote: »

How?

Maybe a dating website for gay people is gay.. but.... eh, never mind...

ok it is not gay in the homosexual sense of the word. it is gay in the sense that missing the bus is gay or how using an internet dating site is gay....

xoxyx

dpe wrote: »

This is what I'm talking about Irish people being sniffy about it. In the UK and US, the attitude is its less random than the pub and from a woman's POV they can screen out the weirdos in advance more easily. for most people its not a matter of desperation, its a matter of who has the time? Better to do the leg work online. Have to say most of my exeriences of online dating (even on the occasions when things didn't go anywhere) were quite good, and in one case life-changingly good.

Who has the time to go out and socialise and meet a partner? If you don't have the time for that, how are you going to fit in a relationship?

Alter-Ego

Uriel. wrote: »

How?

Maybe a dating website for gay people is gay.. but.... eh, never mind...

Ghey, not Gay. Gaaaaaawwwwwwd!!

dpe

xoxyx wrote: »

Who has the time to go out and socialise and meet a partner? If you don't have the time for that, how are you going to fit in a relationship?

Most people don't have the time/can't afford to go out every night (and as you get older you start going to the same places and see the same faces more and more), but they can access an online dating site any time. If it didn't work, people wouldn't do it, and 1 in 6 of all US marriages wouldn't be facilitated by it.

What can I say? It works and millions of people are using it.

stupidusername

Well i'm going to go ahead and say i've tried it.i am socially awkward and dont have a whole lot of with which to go out,and they're all men,so I guess that's why I gave it a go.didn't find it much use to me though.but dont mean to put anyone off it!

--LOS--

I wouldnt have any problem using it if I was single and actually looking to meet someone

fakearms123

stupidusername wrote: »

Well i'm going to go ahead and say i've tried it.i am socially awkward and dont have a whole lot of with which to go out,and they're all men,so I guess that's why I gave it a go.didn't find it much use to me though.but dont mean to put anyone off it!

did you organise a date with anyone? Did it serve its purpose as being internet dating?

Liam Byrne

dpe wrote: »

....from a woman's POV they can screen out the weirdos in advance more easily.

And I'm still waiting for them to provide that facility for us guys!

Chris P. Bacon

FatherLen wrote: »

ok it is not gay in the homosexual sense of the word. it is gay in the sense that missing the bus is gay or how using an internet dating site is gay....

Missing the bus is gay

Back in my day, gay used to mean happy,we all had a gay old-time in the summer when all this was fields.

stupidusername

fakearms123 wrote: »

did you organise a date with anyone? Did it serve its purpose as being internet dating?

Yep I did.had three or four.

xoxyx

dpe wrote: »

Most people don't have the time/can't afford to go out every night (and as you get older you start going to the same places and see the same faces more and more), but they can access an online dating site any time. If it didn't work, people wouldn't do it, and 1 in 6 of all US marriages wouldn't be facilitated by it.

What can I say? It works and millions of people are using it.

Of course it works, and it's very succesful. What I don't like is how forward it is. "Hi, my name is XXX. I'm tall, dark and handsome, and, of course, I have a GSOH. Would you like to have my babies?"

When did life become all about meeting a partner; and if the person who put up their profile was so tall, dark, handsome and funny, why haven't they met somebody already?

Praetorian Saighdiuir

I use a fantastic site, its free, plenty of chicks and you can learn a lot about people without even speaking to them...


Bebo, I think its called.......anyway...im sitebanned there now.

stupidusername

xoxyx wrote: »

Of course it works, and it's very succesful. What I don't like is how forward it is. "Hi, my name is XXX. I'm tall, dark and handsome, and, of course, I have a GSOH. Would you like to have my babies?"

When did life become all about meeting a partner; and if the person who put up their profile was so tall, dark, handsome and funny, why haven't they met somebody already?

Well you could say the same for anybody that's single really,not just specific to dating sites.people are different.

dpe

xoxyx wrote: »

Of course it works, and it's very succesful. What I don't like is how forward it is. "Hi, my name is XXX. I'm tall, dark and handsome, and, of course, I have a GSOH. Would you like to have my babies?"

When did life become all about meeting a partner; and if the person who put up their profile was so tall, dark, handsome and funny, why haven't they met somebody already?

Well, speaking for myself, my excessive tall dark handsomeness was intimidating for women, so I found online is the best way to break them in to my overall awesomeness. But that's just me.

paddy0090

xoxyx wrote: »

Of course it works, and it's very succesful. What I don't like is how forward it is. "Hi, my name is XXX. I'm tall, dark and handsome, and, of course, I have a GSOH. Would you like to have my babies?"

When did life become all about meeting a partner; and if the person who put up their profile was so tall, dark, handsome and funny, why haven't they met somebody already?

Haven't tried it but might consider it. Can't get friends to come out for a few drinks as often seeing as none of them can afford to live in the future anymore or else there stayin' in with the OH. Opportunities aren't as plentiful as they once were, so without being cold or impersonal it gives people a chance to go out and meet someone new.

I wouldn't be looking for a partner, I'm happy being single for the moment. Sex would be nice though, then see where it goes from there!

CoolHat

dating sites are all about what gender you are.

girl:
you'll get loads of mails from guys. as to how many mails? .. depends on your looks.

guy:
you'll send loads of mails with hardly any replies back.

xoxyx

dpe wrote: »

Well, speaking for myself, my excessive tall dark handsomeness was intimidating for women, so I found online is the best way to break them in to my overall awesomeness. But that's just me.

Do you have a GSOH though? That's very important.

:P

Toby Take a Bow

My friend uses it, and to be honest, she's met a lot of seriously odd people on it. I don't know why she keeps on using it, as she has met far nicer, more normal people the 'traditional' way. Although I guess not as many. But surely she would realise it's about quality, not quantity?

I have seen her profile, and it's interesting the things she highlights and the things she doesn't include. Some of her 'hobbies' are definitely not things she does on a regular basis at all, and vice-versa.

I do think the whole internet dating thing smacks of desperation in some people's minds because it's actively seeking out a relationship. I want to be in a relationship if I meet someone great who I get on with and so on. I don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of it, and if you're on the internet looking for dates, that's what you're doing.

Each to their own, though.

DonkyDonk

I gave it a go for a laugh a few years ago and met a nice girl within a month. We're married now with a baby on the way so I suppose you can say it worked for us!

dpe

xoxyx wrote: »

Do you have a GSOH though? That's very important.

:P

Of course*








*may be lies

mconigol

xoxyx wrote: »

Who has the time to go out and socialise and meet a partner? If you don't have the time for that, how are you going to fit in a relationship?

I like eating fish. I don't have the time to go fishing every time I want some. Just easier to buy it instead.

The same goes for women. It just easier to.......I've said too much

orourkeda

fakearms123 wrote: »

Internet dating is no longer a taboo, there are adverts on tv everyday promoting dating sites like www.match.com and you hear it on the radio on your way to work.

But has anyone here ever tried it? Has it worked out for you? And for the people who haven't tried it, would you?

Another late late viewer.

_blank_

I met my gf at a BGRH Beers, three and a half years ago, we live together now:)

xoxyx

mconigol wrote: »

I like eating fish. I don't have the time to go fishing every time I want some. Just easier to buy it instead.

The same goes for women. It just easier to.......I've said too much

But you can't just go out and buy a woman every time you're hungry y'know... Unless you're very wealthy.

BraziliaNZ

I would imagine of the 1% of people getting laid on boards, 99% of that 1% met their freak partner on the internet. Get out and talk to people.

BraziliaNZ

Des wrote: »

I met my gf at a BGRH Beers, three and a half years ago, we live together now:)

lol!!!!

Gunsfortoys

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

I would imagine of the 1% of people getting laid on boards, 99% of that 1% met their freak partner on the internet. Get out and talk to people.

For someone who claims they get laid a lot and has such a busy social schedule, you sure use boards a lot

BraziliaNZ

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

For someone who claims they get laid a lot and has such a busy social schedule, you sure use boards a lot

I don't claim that I get laid a lot, but I've done ok over the years! And right now I don't have a very busy social schedule!!! In fact my life is boring as anything right now, but I'm moving away in a week and half.

Gunsfortoys

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

I don't claim that I get laid a lot, but I've done ok over the years! And right now I don't have a very busy social schedule!!! In fact my life is boring as anything right now, but I'm moving away in a week and half.

Cool story bro!

BraziliaNZ

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

Cool story bro!

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southsiderosie

xoxyx wrote: »

Of course it works, and it's very succesful. What I don't like is how forward it is. "Hi, my name is XXX. I'm tall, dark and handsome, and, of course, I have a GSOH. Would you like to have my babies?"

When did life become all about meeting a partner; and if the person who put up their profile was so tall, dark, handsome and funny, why haven't they met somebody already?

I think for folks in their 30s it can be really hard to meet people, especially as more and more of your friends settle down. Also, for people who have to move a lot for work, without an established social circle - again - it's hard to get out and meet people. That said, there is definitely a disproportionate number of socially awkward, newly divorced and bitter/extra horny, and flat out odd people on dating websites.

As for being 'forward', I would argue that part of the problem in Ireland is that people are not forward enough...until they are about 10 pints deep, and by that point most people aren't quite as charming as they think they are.

xoxyx

Totally agree with you southsiderosie. All I know is that I would respect somebody much more if they approached me and started up a conversation rather than taking the easy option of internet dating. For that reason, I wouldn't have much time for somebody who had to resort to what is essentially A/S/L for grown-ups.

Chorcai

Nearly 12yrs ago I met my other half by using the internet (no not mail order !). Just saying that sometimes it works.

pablomakaveli

xoxyx wrote: »

Totally agree with you southsiderosie. All I know is that I would respect somebody much more if they approached me and started up a conversation rather than taking the easy option of internet dating. For that reason, I wouldn't have much time for somebody who had to resort to what is essentially A/S/L for grown-ups.

You seem to be a bit high and mighty over the whole thing.

Maybe some people would just like to try an alternative to going to pubs and clubs,getting ****faced and mauling onto the nearest person of the opposite (or same) gender which seems to be the only acceptable way to meet someone in this country for some reason.