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Internet Dating

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  • #32
    paddy0090
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 192 ✭✭paddy0090


    xoxyx wrote: »
    Of course it works, and it's very succesful. What I don't like is how forward it is. "Hi, my name is XXX. I'm tall, dark and handsome, and, of course, I have a GSOH. Would you like to have my babies?"

    When did life become all about meeting a partner; and if the person who put up their profile was so tall, dark, handsome and funny, why haven't they met somebody already?

    Haven't tried it but might consider it. Can't get friends to come out for a few drinks as often seeing as none of them can afford to live in the future anymore or else there stayin' in with the OH. Opportunities aren't as plentiful as they once were, so without being cold or impersonal it gives people a chance to go out and meet someone new.

    I wouldn't be looking for a partner, I'm happy being single for the moment. Sex would be nice though, then see where it goes from there!


  • #33
    CoolHat
    Closed Accounts Posts: 569 ✭✭✭CoolHat


    dating sites are all about what gender you are.

    girl:
    you'll get loads of mails from guys. as to how many mails? .. depends on your looks.

    guy:
    you'll send loads of mails with hardly any replies back.


  • #34
    xoxyx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭xoxyx


    dpe wrote: »
    Well, speaking for myself, my excessive tall dark handsomeness was intimidating for women, so I found online is the best way to break them in to my overall awesomeness. But that's just me.

    Do you have a GSOH though? That's very important.

    :P


  • #35
    Toby Take a Bow
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,732 ✭✭✭Toby Take a Bow


    My friend uses it, and to be honest, she's met a lot of seriously odd people on it. I don't know why she keeps on using it, as she has met far nicer, more normal people the 'traditional' way. Although I guess not as many. But surely she would realise it's about quality, not quantity?

    I have seen her profile, and it's interesting the things she highlights and the things she doesn't include. Some of her 'hobbies' are definitely not things she does on a regular basis at all, and vice-versa.

    I do think the whole internet dating thing smacks of desperation in some people's minds because it's actively seeking out a relationship. I want to be in a relationship if I meet someone great who I get on with and so on. I don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of it, and if you're on the internet looking for dates, that's what you're doing.

    Each to their own, though.


  • #36
    DonkyDonk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 48 ✭DonkyDonk


    I gave it a go for a laugh a few years ago and met a nice girl within a month. We're married now with a baby on the way so I suppose you can say it worked for us!


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  • #37
    dpe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 520 ✭✭✭dpe


    xoxyx wrote: »
    Do you have a GSOH though? That's very important.

    :P

    Of course*








    *may be lies


  • #38
    mconigol
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,583 ✭✭✭mconigol


    xoxyx wrote: »
    Who has the time to go out and socialise and meet a partner? If you don't have the time for that, how are you going to fit in a relationship?

    I like eating fish. I don't have the time to go fishing every time I want some. Just easier to buy it instead.

    The same goes for women. It just easier to.......I've said too much


  • #39
    orourkeda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,916 ✭✭✭✭orourkeda


    fakearms123 wrote: »
    Internet dating is no longer a taboo, there are adverts on tv everyday promoting dating sites like www.match.com and you hear it on the radio on your way to work.

    But has anyone here ever tried it? Has it worked out for you? And for the people who haven't tried it, would you?

    Another late late viewer.


  • #40
    _blank_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 41,926 ✭✭✭✭_blank_


    I met my gf at a BGRH Beers, three and a half years ago, we live together now:)


  • #41
    xoxyx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭xoxyx


    mconigol wrote: »
    I like eating fish. I don't have the time to go fishing every time I want some. Just easier to buy it instead.

    The same goes for women. It just easier to.......I've said too much

    But you can't just go out and buy a woman every time you're hungry y'know... Unless you're very wealthy.


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  • #42
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    I would imagine of the 1% of people getting laid on boards, 99% of that 1% met their freak partner on the internet. Get out and talk to people.


  • #43
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    Des wrote: »
    I met my gf at a BGRH Beers, three and a half years ago, we live together now:)

    lol!!!!


  • #44
    Gunsfortoys
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,080 ✭✭✭Gunsfortoys


    BraziliaNZ wrote: »
    I would imagine of the 1% of people getting laid on boards, 99% of that 1% met their freak partner on the internet. Get out and talk to people.

    For someone who claims they get laid a lot and has such a busy social schedule, you sure use boards a lot


  • #45
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    Gunsfortoys wrote: »
    For someone who claims they get laid a lot and has such a busy social schedule, you sure use boards a lot

    I don't claim that I get laid a lot, but I've done ok over the years! And right now I don't have a very busy social schedule!!! In fact my life is boring as anything right now, but I'm moving away in a week and half.


  • #46
    Gunsfortoys
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,080 ✭✭✭Gunsfortoys


    BraziliaNZ wrote: »
    I don't claim that I get laid a lot, but I've done ok over the years! And right now I don't have a very busy social schedule!!! In fact my life is boring as anything right now, but I'm moving away in a week and half.

    Cool story bro!


  • #47
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    Gunsfortoys wrote: »
    Cool story bro!

    k


  • #48
    southsiderosie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,560 ✭✭✭southsiderosie


    xoxyx wrote: »
    Of course it works, and it's very succesful. What I don't like is how forward it is. "Hi, my name is XXX. I'm tall, dark and handsome, and, of course, I have a GSOH. Would you like to have my babies?"

    When did life become all about meeting a partner; and if the person who put up their profile was so tall, dark, handsome and funny, why haven't they met somebody already?

    I think for folks in their 30s it can be really hard to meet people, especially as more and more of your friends settle down. Also, for people who have to move a lot for work, without an established social circle - again - it's hard to get out and meet people. That said, there is definitely a disproportionate number of socially awkward, newly divorced and bitter/extra horny, and flat out odd people on dating websites.

    As for being 'forward', I would argue that part of the problem in Ireland is that people are not forward enough...until they are about 10 pints deep, and by that point most people aren't quite as charming as they think they are. :p


  • #49
    xoxyx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭xoxyx


    Totally agree with you southsiderosie. All I know is that I would respect somebody much more if they approached me and started up a conversation rather than taking the easy option of internet dating. For that reason, I wouldn't have much time for somebody who had to resort to what is essentially A/S/L for grown-ups.


  • #50
    Chorcai
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,283 ✭✭✭Chorcai


    Nearly 12yrs ago I met my other half by using the internet (no not mail order !). Just saying that sometimes it works.


  • #51
    pablomakaveli
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,752 ✭✭✭pablomakaveli


    xoxyx wrote: »
    Totally agree with you southsiderosie. All I know is that I would respect somebody much more if they approached me and started up a conversation rather than taking the easy option of internet dating. For that reason, I wouldn't have much time for somebody who had to resort to what is essentially A/S/L for grown-ups.

    You seem to be a bit high and mighty over the whole thing.

    Maybe some people would just like to try an alternative to going to pubs and clubs,getting ****faced and mauling onto the nearest person of the opposite (or same) gender which seems to be the only acceptable way to meet someone in this country for some reason.


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  • #52
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    pablomakaveli wrote: »
    getting ****faced and mauling onto the nearest person of the opposite (or same) gender which seems to be the only acceptable way to meet someone in this country for some reason.

    I think you're doing it wrong! Maybe you should stick to the internet dating ;)


  • #53
    ibarelycare
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 58,456 ✭✭✭✭ibarelycare


    Des wrote: »
    I met my gf at a BGRH Beers, three and a half years ago, we live together now:)


    Scary. Were you too polite to ask her to leave?


  • #54
    pablomakaveli
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,752 ✭✭✭pablomakaveli


    BraziliaNZ wrote: »
    I think you're doing it wrong! Maybe you should stick to the internet dating ;)

    Thats funny because i know loads of couples who have met the way i described above.


  • #55
    xoxyx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭xoxyx


    pablomakaveli wrote: »
    You seem to be a bit high and mighty over the whole thing.

    Maybe some people would just like to try an alternative to going to pubs and clubs,getting ****faced and mauling onto the nearest person of the opposite (or same) gender which seems to be the only acceptable way to meet someone in this country for some reason.

    That's one way to put it! :P I don't pretend to speak for everybody - I'm just putting my point of view out there. And I know that it's hard, sometimes, to pull yourself up and go to talk to somebody that you like the look of. But, you're supposed to take chances. (And you don't have to be shitfaced btw.)

    Where's the nerve in sitting behind a computer, making yourself a profile, and hoping that somebody out there will click on 'yes'.

    Like I said, I'd respect somebody more if they came over to talk to me. I don't think that means I'm high and mighty?


  • #56
    southsiderosie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,560 ✭✭✭southsiderosie


    xoxyx wrote: »
    Totally agree with you southsiderosie. All I know is that I would respect somebody much more if they approached me and started up a conversation rather than taking the easy option of internet dating. For that reason, I wouldn't have much time for somebody who had to resort to what is essentially A/S/L for grown-ups.

    Have you actually tried online dating? It isn't just A/S/L. If you actually want people to respond to you, you have to put a bit of thought and effort into it.

    As for 'had to resort', well what are people who are out of school and working full time supposed to do? As others have said, the bar scene can get tiresome and can be a closed world unto itself. If you are in your 30s and still single, and going to the pub every weekend clearly isn't working (especially since everyone is broke these days), then what else are you supposed to do?


  • #57
    xoxyx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭xoxyx


    southsiderosie wrote: »
    Have you actually tried online dating? It isn't just A/S/L. If you actually want people to respond to you, you have to put a bit of thought and effort into it.

    As for 'had to resort', well what are people who are out of school and working full time supposed to do? As others have said, the bar scene can get tiresome and can be a closed world unto itself. If you are in your 30s and still single, and going to the pub every weekend clearly isn't working (especially since everyone is broke these days), then what else are you supposed to do?

    I work full time. I'm also studying full time. Life is busy for a lot of people.

    So, ask out somebody from work? Get chatting to somebody on the street? Supermarket? Spar??? It's this close-minded attitude that gets me. Oh dear - nobody's fallen onto my lap yet - I better get onto the internet. FFS - live a little and meet people in real life without having to resort to virtual interactions.

    Not saying that it's not an option. But there's no need to run to it straight away.


  • #58
    paddy0090
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 192 ✭✭paddy0090


    Totally agree with you southsiderosie. All I know is that I would respect somebody much more if they approached me and started up a conversation rather than taking the easy option of internet dating. For that reason, I wouldn't have much time for somebody who had to resort to what is essentially A/S/L for grown-ups.

    What's A/S/L please?

    This seems a bit sniffy. I think the OP's right. I wouldn't find it easy, it seems weird and must be awkward as when you meet them. as you say I'd rather strike up a conversation with someone I can see face to face, but for alot of people its lifestyle.


  • #59
    pablomakaveli
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,752 ✭✭✭pablomakaveli


    xoxyx wrote: »
    That's one way to put it! :P I don't pretend to speak for everybody - I'm just putting my point of view out there. And I know that it's hard, sometimes, to pull yourself up and go to talk to somebody that you like the look of. But, you're supposed to take chances. (And you don't have to be shitfaced btw.)

    Where's the nerve in sitting behind a computer, making yourself a profile, and hoping that somebody out there will click on 'yes'.

    Like I said, I'd respect somebody more if they came over to talk to me. I don't think that means I'm high and mighty?

    Well i tried it and met a nice girl who i'd have never of met if i didnt try it. You're still taking a chance when you try internet dating.

    You seem to think its cowardly when it isnt. When you send someone a message on a site your putting yourself out there to be possibly rejected just like if you approached a girl in a pub.


  • #60
    pablomakaveli
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,752 ✭✭✭pablomakaveli


    xoxyx wrote: »
    I work full time. I'm also studying full time. Life is busy for a lot of people.

    So, ask out somebody from work? Get chatting to somebody on the street? Supermarket? Spar??? It's this close-minded attitude that gets me. Oh dear - nobody's fallen onto my lap yet - I better get onto the internet. FFS - live a little and meet people in real life without having to resort to virtual interactions.

    Not saying that it's not an option. But there's no need to run to it straight away.

    You seem to view it as a last resort when i think a lot of people use it as an additional method of meeting talking to people they may not otherwise meet. This is how i viewed it when i decided to try it out.


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  • #61
    ibarelycare
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 58,456 ✭✭✭✭ibarelycare


    xoxyx wrote: »
    I work full time. I'm also studying full time. Life is busy for a lot of people.

    So, ask out somebody from work? Get chatting to somebody on the street? Supermarket? Spar??? It's this close-minded attitude that gets me. Oh dear - nobody's fallen onto my lap yet - I better get onto the internet. FFS - live a little and meet people in real life without having to resort to virtual interactions.

    Not saying that it's not an option. But there's no need to run to it straight away.


    Eh realistically, how many people get asked out in the supermarket? Seriously? Irish people aren't forward enough for this unfortunately.

    Internet dating is actually fun. It's how I met my boyfriend actually. I met a few weirdos from it but also some great friends. I have a very healthy social life, am capable of meeting guys on nights out but I actually find it easier to get to know someone by chatting online for a while first. If they turn out being weirdos when we meet up, then so be it. I've met more "weirdos" in pubs and nightclubs than I have online.

    So have you never hooked up with anyone from the internet? :cool:


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