Couples reading each other's texts

landsleaving · 04-05-2011 09:23PM

lamai wrote: »

why don't you kick her in the box?

Because she'd get a penalty.

sashafierce · 04-05-2011 09:23PM

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ibarelycare · 04-05-2011 09:37PM

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Why do you do it though? What are you being nosy about? I really just can't get a grasp on what the reason for this would be other than making sure neither of you is up to anything they shouldn't be

cosanostra · 04-05-2011 09:49PM

sashafierce wrote: »

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What if his friend text him something private that was none of your business?

deathrider · 04-05-2011 09:49PM

Sofiztikated wrote: »

Damn straight. Nothing a quick punch to the ovaries didn't sort out.

I in no way condone/commit spousal abuse. But it's AH, I'm trying to be funny, in a non funny way.

Right in the baby maker!

redz11 · 04-05-2011 09:52PM

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It concerns the person who sent the text to you and not to your boyfriend. It was meant to be read by you ... not by him. Your friends are not necessarily as close to your boyfriend as they are to you; they may not necessarily be comfortable with him reading texts that they send to you. (And the same is of course true for your boyfriend's friends, who send texts to him without expecting that you will also be reading them.)

Beau · 04-05-2011 10:13PM

Girlfriend read my texts the other night, it lead to a misunderstanding. I got and responded to a text from a female work friend she wouldn't know much about, the texts were completely innocent but her imagination started to run wild and tears and an argument in sued.

I don't know how to feel about it, shes apologised and we are fine now but I'm just a little weirded out as to why she would do it? We've been going out over 4 years and (I think!) are going really well! I guess I don't really mind but it seems like a very insecure thing to do and shows a lack of trust. Disappointing and annoying.

jos28 · 04-05-2011 10:25PM

I would be seriously p1ssed off if someone read my texts. It's a complete invasion of privacy. To me it would be like someone opening my post or reading my diary.

ibarelycare · 04-05-2011 10:29PM

Beau wrote: »

Girlfriend read my texts the other night, it lead to a misunderstanding. I got and responded to a text from a female work friend she wouldn't know much about, the texts were completely innocent but her imagination started to run wild and tears and an argument in sued.

I don't know how to feel about it, shes apologised and we are fine now but I'm just a little weirded out as to why she would do it? We've been going out over 4 years and (I think!) are going really well! I guess I don't really mind but it seems like a very insecure thing to do and shows a lack of trust. Disappointing and annoying.

Are there any other trust issues in your relationship? Women can be crazy at time though, just remember that :pac: (this is coming from a woman!)

Did she read your texts behind your back or was it a case of her reading them over your shoulder or something?

NomdePlume · 04-05-2011 10:30PM

jos28 wrote: »

I would be seriously p1ssed off if someone read my texts. It's a complete invasion of privacy. To me it would be like someone opening my post or reading my diary.

There are probably couples who open and read each other's post. They then text the contents of the letters to their partner, whose bit-on-the-side reads said text.

Laura_lolly87 · 04-05-2011 10:32PM

ibarelycare wrote: »

I'd never do it to anyone either. I think if that starts happening in a relationship it's the beginning of the end. I know of some girls (no guys, but that doesn't mean they don't do it either) who constantly check their bf's phones, emails and Facebook behind their back and they thing this is absolutely fine because there should be no secrets between couples :rolleyes:

But when they find something they don't like then it's a whole different story

niallers1 · 04-05-2011 10:37PM

If your partner reads your texts then this is a serious wake up call to get the hell out of that relationship..

It's shows a total lack of trust,suspicion,insecurity and is almost certain to be a bunny boiler.. .....

The thought would not even enter my head to read somebody elses texts..

jokettle · 04-05-2011 10:39PM

Reading each others texts isn't a big deal to me, as neither myself nor my boyfriend (I think) really say anything of note in texts. Emails are completely different, though; I would never tolerate him reading my emails. Once or twice he's left himself logged into his gmail on my computer, I just log him out as soon as I realise. A huge amount of personal information is in my emails, I'm sure it's the same with most people, and that needs to be respected with the privacy it deserves.

sashafierce · 04-05-2011 10:46PM

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ibarelycare · 04-05-2011 10:49PM

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Your friends' or family's business isn't his business though. What if someone text you something very private that they didn't want anyone else to know? If I knew one of my friend's boyfriends was reading personal texts I sent to them, I'd be really pissed off.

redz11 · 04-05-2011 10:51PM

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Yeah but are your friends and his friends aware of this?

As in, are they happy for their business to be available to both of ye? Would you be happy to announce to all of your friends and to all of his friends that anything send by mail or text to either of you, is read by both of you? Honestly?

Beau · 04-05-2011 10:57PM

ibarelycare wrote: »

Are there any other trust issues in your relationship?

Did she read your texts behind your back or was it a case of her reading them over your shoulder or something?

No not anymore (as in not since the beginning of our relationship 4 years ago!). She read them while I went to the bathroom.

Lcronin2011 · 04-05-2011 11:00PM

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If thats what you like to do then thats what you like to do? Maybe not everyone understands why but i am not here to judge! If that works for your relationship then thats cool! I dont understand why everyone is getting bad at sashafierce! It's not your relationship its hers, what works for them may not work for you in a relationship, hense why ye are not going out with her! Why not just but out and let the girl have an opinion instead of hounding her saying its weird and ye cant understand it? If it was weird then she wouldn't be with her bf!! He clearly doesnt care, so why should ye!!!!!!!!!!!

Sofiztikated · 04-05-2011 11:05PM

Lcronin2011 wrote: »

If thats what you like to do then thats what you like to do? Maybe not everyone understands why but i am not here to judge! If that works for your relationship then thats cool! I dont understand why everyone is getting bad at sashafierce! It's not your relationship its hers, what works for them may not work for you in a relationship, hense why ye are not going out with her! Why not just but out and let the girl have an opinion instead of hounding her saying its weird and ye cant understand it? If it was weird then she wouldn't be with her bf!! He clearly doesnt care, so why should ye!!!!!!!!!!!

Exclamation mark!1!!11!!!!!oneone!!1!

It's a discussion. We're trying to point out that, while her boyfriend might not mind (I say might, as I have my doubts that he has an option), the people texting him might have an issue with someone reading the text that was destined for him.

veryangryman · 04-05-2011 11:08PM

NomdePlume wrote: »

What's the general feeling on this?

Lately a friend of mine mentioned to me that she and her fiance read each other's texts "all the time", not for a snoop but in front of each other. "Oh you just got a text from so-and-so, it says..." sort of thing.

This weirded me out a bit, and I'm now curious as to how common it is for couples to access each other's messages, and whether I am weird for feeling weirded out.

What kind of a plum uses the phrase "weirded out"

NomdePlume · 04-05-2011 11:12PM

veryangryman wrote: »

What kind of a plume uses the phrase "weirded out"

fyp

Lcronin2011 · 04-05-2011 11:14PM

Sofiztikated wrote: »

Exclamation mark!1!!11!!!!!oneone!!1!

It's a discussion. We're trying to point out that, while her boyfriend might not mind (I say might, as I have my doubts that he has an option), the people texting him might have an issue with someone reading the text that was destined for him.

Why are u doubting when you don't even know the relationship? And yes i agree that people may have an issue with that, i would if it was one my friends! Thats why i wouldnt ever send anything really personal in a text, thats what meeting up is for!! And if a friend did send something really important to me and i was worried someone might read it, i would delete the message straight away!! Yes it is a discussion, seems more like an intergation at times by the way some ppl carry on!

sashafierce · 04-05-2011 11:24PM

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Gunslinger92 · 04-05-2011 11:25PM

I've had my boyf change my facebook password as my exams are coming up and I really need to study, so I thought declining myself access to Facebook would be a good idea.

He wont go near any of my mails or frape me or anything, not at all.

I told a friend this, and the first thing she said was "He is going to read everything, just letting you know"
:rolleyes:

Pissed me off big time, I kept quiet though. She hates his guts though, so I guess that'd explain it..

Lcronin2011 · 04-05-2011 11:27PM

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Ya thats exactly the point i was putting across, you are hardly guna leave your phone sitting there with loads of important messages if you know there is the possibilty someone may look at it! I what was originally said has been taken out of context and it was clearly not what you meant in the first place!

ibarelycare · 04-05-2011 11:34PM

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Fair enough if you guys do it like that, I just don't see how it would be entertaining for someone to read random chit chat between two other people!

sheesh · 04-05-2011 11:38PM

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and thats ok is it?

sashafierce · 04-05-2011 11:51PM

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ibarelycare · 04-05-2011 11:56PM

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Boards is somewhere where you can read many people's opinions on things and you can interject with your own. A text conversation between two people is completely different. But anyway, getting a bit sidetracked here on the actual topic!

u_c_thesecond · 05-05-2011 12:20AM

NomdePlume wrote: »

What's the general feeling on this?

Lately a friend of mine mentioned to me that she and her fiance read each other's texts "all the time", not for a snoop but in front of each other. "Oh you just got a text from so-and-so, it says..." sort of thing.

This weirded me out a bit, and I'm now curious as to how common it is for couples to access each other's messages, and whether I am weird for feeling weirded out.

I dont mind it but my fella hates it. If he gets a text and hes upstairs he will yell down to me for his phone, if i say will i read it out to you he says "No" And if i get a text and yell to him to read it he refuses and brings the phone up to me.

He says he has no business looking at my phone even with my permission and that there has to be some level of privacy in a relationship. I couldnt care less either way but hes alays been like that since the day i met him.

Couples reading each other's texts

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