Would you stay with your partner if they became disfigured?

Blobby George · 28-04-2011 10:04PM #1

I was watching that great film 'Vanilla Sky' again there recently and it got me thinking. If your partner became badly disfigured as a result of a fire or a car accident for example, would you stay with them?

RichieC · 28-04-2011 10:05PM

I rather be known as the guy with a disfigured girlfriend than the complete and utter cnut.

besides that it's a moral fking duty... not that kids these days know sh*te about that.

Aoifey! · 28-04-2011 10:06PM

Of course.

hondasam · 28-04-2011 10:06PM

if you love someone yes of course you would stay with them.

El Guapo! · 28-04-2011 10:06PM

Blobby George wrote: »

I was watching that great film 'Vanilla Sky'

I'm sorry what?!!!???:eek:

westendgirlie · 28-04-2011 10:06PM

Not if he was a looper like Cameron Diaz' character!!!

Seriously, I love my man, farts and all. And i'd never leave him.......EVER!!!! <guess who sounds like the looper now>

easyeason3 · 28-04-2011 10:07PM

Yes.
I was never one to be shallow enough to go for looks anyway I just happen to be with a man I find physically attractive. His personality is the best part of him though & will always shine through.

EDIT: I was with a lot of men that weren't considered 'good looking' or even average looking for that matter. I always had a laugh with them & that is important.
I was also seeing a guy that is a multi millionare. He was as dull as my piss & was basically looking for a wife. I could have played along & married him, he was very naive so if inclined I could have fooled him. I ditched his ass though. After a few weeks I knew he wasn't my cup of tea.

landsleaving · 28-04-2011 10:07PM

Yes, definitely. I'm not a shallow, vacuous moron.

we'llallhavetea_old · 28-04-2011 10:08PM

well if they didnt change other than physically then yeah i would stay with them.

Sofiztikated · 28-04-2011 10:10PM

Suppose it would matter how disfigured you mean?

Like misshapen finger, it'd be grand.

But if anything happened her bewbs or ass, like a ass cheekbotomy, I'd be so out of there.

Not really. She has enough ass cheek in one to keep me happy. :pac:

If she reads this, I'll be disfigured!

Blobby George · 28-04-2011 10:11PM

we'llallhavetea wrote: »

well if they didnt change other than physically then yeah i would stay with them.

What if they got a serious dose? Think Simon Weston type burns.

jive · 28-04-2011 10:12PM

Yes but if they turned into a bitter shít about what happened then i'd give it a few courtesy weeks and hit the high road. Depending on the extent of the damage I'd give them weeks-months to get over their sourness. After that time period I would then expect them to return to how they were personality wise and if they didn't then I'm not staying with them because I am obligated not to leave someone just because they became disfigured.

DonalK1981 · 28-04-2011 10:16PM

NO ONE No one is going to come out and say ''yea, I'm so shallow and hung up on looks that I would definitely be gone as soon as my partner gets disfigured, be it in a car crash/fire or whatever!''

hondasam · 28-04-2011 10:17PM

DonalK1981 wrote: »

NO ONE No one is going to come out and say ''yea, I'm so shallow and hung up on looks that I would definitely be gone as soon as my partner gets disfigured, be it in a car crash/fire or whatever!''

even if you were married and had children with this person ?

Blisterman · 28-04-2011 10:18PM

Well physical attraction is a very important thing in a relationship. It's what seperates girlfriend and merely a friend. So personally I wouldn't look down on anyone who would leave a partner if they became so disfigured there was no longer any attraction.

Cat Melodeon · 28-04-2011 10:18PM

God yeah. I've a bit of a stump fetish.

admiralofthefleet · 28-04-2011 10:20PM

of course i would, beauty is only skin deep. its the person that matters

pow wow · 28-04-2011 10:21PM

DonalK1981 wrote: »

NO ONE No one is going to come out and say ''yea, I'm so shallow and hung up on looks that I would definitely be gone as soon as my partner gets disfigured, be it in a car crash/fire or whatever!''

*checks poll results*

Ummm....so far 7 out of a possible 27 have

Oranage2 · 28-04-2011 10:21PM

It would depend on whether we had kids and even then it still would be a no!

orourkeda · 28-04-2011 10:22PM

In sickness and in health etc

easyeason3 · 28-04-2011 10:22PM

DonalK1981 wrote: »

NO ONE No one is going to come out and say ''yea, I'm so shallow and hung up on looks that I would definitely be gone as soon as my partner gets disfigured, be it in a car crash/fire or whatever!''

I'd imagine that if you're with that person more than a wet week then it wouldn't even enter your head whether you would stay with them or not.

Relationships break up for loads of reasons. There's nothing to say your other half gets half his/ her face melted off them but you end up breakin gup anyway a few months/ years later due to different reasons.
But to break up with someone for their looks only is ****.

DonalK1981 · 28-04-2011 10:23PM

hondasam wrote: »

even if you were married and had children with this person ?

Read it again, and read it more slowly next time

Biggins · 28-04-2011 10:23PM

The question doesn't even arise.
Simply "yes".

hondasam · 28-04-2011 10:24PM

Blisterman wrote: »

Well physical attraction is a very important thing in a relationship. It's what seperates girlfriend and merely a friend. So personally I wouldn't look down on anyone who would leave a partner if they became so disfigured there was no longer any attraction.

I would not either, it would also depend on how long they were together. there is no point in staying out of pity.

Oranage2 · 28-04-2011 10:25PM

Biggins wrote: »

The question doesn't even arise.
Simply "yes".

Is this because you wife is now on boards

hondasam · 28-04-2011 10:25PM

DonalK1981 wrote: »

Read it again, and read it more slowly next time

I meant to edit. you know what I mean.

RichieC · 28-04-2011 10:25PM

Blisterman wrote: »

Well physical attraction is a very important thing in a relationship. It's what seperates girlfriend and merely a friend. So personally I wouldn't look down on anyone who would leave a partner if they became so disfigured there was no longer any attraction.

Of course you wouldn't, because you would too.

Junkies don't look down on other junkies.

kfallon · 28-04-2011 10:25PM

You fall in love cos of many traits/features of your partner, just because one of them has changed doesn't mean you go looking elsewhere. In fact I would hate my OH's personality to change rather than their appearance!

Madam · 28-04-2011 10:29PM

As long as he did'nt become a blue nose I'd stay with him;)

Sorry, I live in Scotland I had to get that in!

Biggins · 28-04-2011 10:30PM

Oranage2 wrote: »

Is this because you wife is now on boards

Honestly? No.
She knows me too well. I'm old fashioned.
She knows things like trust, loyalty and "in sickness and in health" are the world to me - so I do my best every day to lead by example.
It's just the way I am and was brought up - and I wouldn't change it.

fedor.2. · 28-04-2011 10:33PM

Yes but i would cheat relentlessly

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