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Should I keep going out with a genuinely nice guy that i'm unsure about?

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  • #32
    Wompa1
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    astory wrote: »
    If you're referring to my post... I'm not with those guys who messed me around anymore. I dumped them.

    I've no intention of ever doing that with new lovely guy.

    But then are you not just settling?


  • #33
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    Wompa1 wrote: »
    But then are you not just settling?

    Where is that coming from?

    Op, in my group of girlfriends, there are some who are adamant that, for them, unless the lightening strikes when they meet a guy it won't work for them. I am not like that as guys tend to grow on me and from experience those I have mEt where there was a huge initial lightening strike didn't seem to last.

    Other posters she did say she fancies him but he is not her normal type... Op I have always gone for the same type so I know where you are coming from.

    I guess you need to figure if you are the kind of person who thinks this guy can grow on you or not.... No one here can tell you that. Good luck :)


  • #34
    LegacyUser
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    Wompa1 wrote: »
    But then are you not just settling?

    My God no, its more than I ever could have hoped for.

    My point was that its not as intense as some other relationships which were full of extreme highs and lows and burned out very quickly.
    Its a slow burner and he's ten times the man any of the rest of them were.

    It sounds like in your case, she just wasnt the right girl for you. simple as that.


  • #35
    Micky 32
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    solovely wrote: »
    How on earth do the above posts justify what you have just said?? No logical flow whatsoever?! :confused:

    So a girl is looking for some sort of connection or magnetism with a guy, and you read that as justification to be a bastard to all women?? :confused::confused::confused:

    I don't know, i think Wompa could be on to something. I know a guy who hit his girlfriend when they first got together, he won't work and sponges off the state. They got married. She got pregnant. 2 weeks before she gave birth she caught him sh***ing her mother in the next room. They are still together and she worships the ground he walks on :rolleyes:


  • #36
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    Micky 32 wrote: »
    I don't know, i think Wompa could be on to something. I know a guy who hit his girlfriend when they first got together, he won't work and sponges off the state. They got married. She got pregnant. 2 weeks before she gave birth she caught him sh***ing her mother in the next room. They are still together and she worships the ground he walks on :rolleyes:

    Yeah of course sure all women love to share a man with their mothers. That girl has scary low self esteem so please dont put other women ( with a brain) in her bracket


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  • #37
    HugoDrax
    Closed Accounts Posts: 139 ✭✭HugoDrax


    Sounds like this guy is just nervous and shy and he is trying to be too nice because like most guys he thinks that's how to keep a girl interested.

    Girls want guys to just be themselves and you are no exception.
    You need to tell him you think he is putting on an act and tell him to be himself.

    If he is not able to be his ordinary self - he is complimenting you too much and giving you gifts perhaps to cling on to you? - then maybe you should tell him it's not working out?


  • #38
    Micky 32
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    I am a friend wrote: »
    Yeah of course sure all women love to share a man with their mothers. That girl has scary low self esteem so please dont put other women ( with a brain) in her bracket

    Well to me it would seem that not many women in this country have brains then. ;). They guy in question will always have more chance getting a girlfriend than a nice decent guy. I used to be friends with him and he had women at his feet with his false b*****t charm :rolleyes:


  • #39
    inexperienced
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 76 ✭✭inexperienced


    hiya, op, according to wht you wrote, i think you do like him romantically. as another poster said, you might just want him to be himself rather than pleasing u just to get u.

    you can tell him that you appreciate how well he treat you, but would like him to be himself so you can know hime better.

    give him n urself a chance, but if the fellings of 'missing something' is sitll there after you have known him more, maybe it's better to part. meanwhile, think less, enjoy.


  • #40
    I am a friend
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    Micky 32 wrote: »
    Well to me it would seem that not many women in this country have brains then. ;). They guy in question will always have more chance getting a girlfriend than a nice decent guy. I used to be friends with him and he had women at his feet with his false b*****t charm :rolleyes:

    Rubbish. He may have a girl hanging out of him but I would prefer to be single for life than have such a low quality relationship


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