In a world where nobody got married

Mike 1972 · 12-03-2011 11:39AM

amacca wrote: »

still there must be some underlying reasons that most cultures had something akin to marriage (albeit to more than one partner and one gender in some cases) - maybe these reasons are not as relevant now but it seems to have been almost universally desirable to have some sort of a formal arrangement and it seems it still is (cant all be due to blindly following tradition can it?).

Most cultures have/had some form of religious belief yet many agree this is not always a good thing and some maintain it never is.

hondasam · 12-03-2011 11:41AM

Deleted User wrote: »

Thread had potential and it was interesting question. The collective stupidity of After Hours ruined it though.

At least we are stupid together including the OP.

I still don't understand the question.

flowerchild · 12-03-2011 11:51AM

Maybe if you strip it back to a culture where marriage is not expected, and there is no pressure, actual or implied, to tie the knot, the question could be 'would you choose to get married'.

My answer is yes. I got married to my best friend in a 2 minute ceremony at my mother's home in front of our friends and family. I did it because I chose to, not because anybody expected to, and it was/is a beautiful thing.

Alter-Ego · 12-03-2011 12:02PM

Without marriage, how would mental women trap men in sexless relationships?

Sacred_git · 12-03-2011 12:03PM

Sir Gallagher wrote: »

Surely the concept of marriage wouldn't exist in a world where people don't marry.

it would - Michael O'Leary is wonderful at creating new concepts!;)

philologos · 12-03-2011 12:48PM

Ban Ki Moon wrote: »

I think its funny that some cant even fathom the idea. Some people think they must marry another person.

It mightn't have occurred to you, but a lot of people see value in marriage as a social binding between two people, indeed between two families, and in joining two people who love and are committed to eachother together and to give them a secure basis for starting a family. Having a ceremony to agreeing to commit is productive.

As to whether or not the expense of marriages is deterring people. I'd say so, but then again I'd be of the mind that perhaps marriages shouldn't be based on how much you spend on the function but on the idea itself.

12-03-2011 12:59PM

hondasam wrote: »

At least we are stupid together including the OP.

I still don't understand the question.

I think it's pretty obvious that the question is looking at the tradition of marriage and how it's a step nearly all of take because of that. Would we choose to do it if it wasn't the done thing?

At that level, it makes sense and was worthy of a discussion.. The exact literal wording of the question is irrelevant.

whydoibother? · 12-03-2011 01:13PM

I wouldn't. I'm not even sure that in this world where nearly everyone gets married, I'd want to get married ... well it's more weddings that I have an aversion to really. I'd be open to eloping!

Capt'n Midnight · 12-03-2011 02:20PM

Perhaps someone from Limerick could cast some light on the question ?

Cybertron85 · 12-03-2011 03:36PM

Deleted User wrote: »

In a world where nobody got married, one man, tired with societies angst and problems with people's attitude towards marriage, does the unthinkable......

AND PROPOSES!!!

Matthew McConaughey & Jennifer Aniston star in ..The Proposal

bc dub · 12-03-2011 04:53PM

marriage is an invention, almost as crazy as monogamy

EverEvolving · 12-03-2011 05:04PM

Alter-Ego wrote: »

Without marriage, how would mental women trap men in sexless relationships?

Never seen the film Misery?

Dudess · 12-03-2011 07:27PM

Ban Ki Moon wrote: »

I think its funny that some cant even fathom the idea. Some people think they must marry another person.

No, people were understandably confused - they thought you meant in your opening post a world where marriage doesn't exist so the choice would not be there.

Your abruptness towards people for merely (and justifiably) misunderstanding you leads me to suspect that your problem with marriage is that you're freaked about being single and feel left out because your friends are starting to get married. Sorry if I'm wrong but that seems to be usually the case for people who get really tetchy about the concepts of marriage/having children (as opposed to merely not being into the idea of either).
If marriage existed but it was something hardly anyone bothered with, well then lots of people here probably wouldn't get married... seeing as hardly anyone would bother with it. I don't know whether that means they're being sheeple though, people will still always settle down with long-term partners. If hardly anyone married, then marrying would be going against the grain wouldn't it?

Yeah there are probably some people who just get married because it's the thing to do, but most of the time it's two people who want to have a family together.
I personally don't see a point of marriage if the couple don't plan to have children (for the father's rights essentially).

12-03-2011 07:29PM

Dudess wrote: »

I personally don't see a point of marriage if the couple don't plan to have children (for the father's rights essentially).

Legal/visitation

I think it's iguana who always tells her ICU marriage story
whomever it was, it's stuck with me

--LOS-- · 12-03-2011 07:30PM

sounds like a world of unemployed comedians

Dudess · 12-03-2011 07:35PM

"My partner's mother" (in a north-west of England accent) doesn't have the same ring to it as "My mother-in-law" as the opener to a joke... :pac:

In a world where nobody got married

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