Would you pay money to attend a wedding?

whiteonion · 20-02-2011 03:27PM #1

I notice that people are willing to fork out €150 to attend someones wedding. I certainly would not pay a single cent to attend a wedding. On the other hand I haven't been invited to a single wedding during the course of my adult life.

Why are you willing to pay money to attend a wedding? If they can't afford an expensive cermony they could just go to the courthouse and have a wedding that way.

The weddings I have been to I had to go with my family as a child and I certainly think that not one single wedding has been worth €150 to attend.

mikemac · 20-02-2011 03:30PM

Nobody is demanding you give a cash gift

Get something thoughtful or tasteful, maybe a crystal clock for the mantlepiece.
The couple will look at that and remember it was whiteonion gave it

Cash gifts are forgotton.

Thought that counts

I've never given cash as a present, cash is the easy option. Put some thought into the gift

krudler · 20-02-2011 03:31PM

feelingstressed wrote: »

Nobody is demanding you give a cash gift

Get something thoughtful or tasteful, maybe a crystal clock for the mantlepiece.
The couple will look at the vouchers they got for returning the gift and remember whiteonion provided funds towards a new tv.

Cash gifts are forgotton.

Thought that counts
I've never given cash as a present

fyp :pac:

I'd say a lot of newly married couples would prefer the cash, its a reason people invite a lot of people to their weddings, to recoup expense (this is from someone I know who's doing just that btw)

mikemac · 20-02-2011 03:33PM

The lovely couple won't be getting receipts to return.

But if I see my gift up on adverts.ie or donedeal, why I oughta :mad:

Badgermonkey · 20-02-2011 03:34PM

feelingstressed wrote: »

Get something thoughtful or tasteful or maybe a crystal clock for the mantlepiece.

FYP.

smokie2008 · 20-02-2011 03:34PM

I think it would be a great idea to pay to go to a wedding, its always someone very close to you and if it was someone close to me I'd much rather me and her pay for our dinner ourselves rather than leave a couple of newlyweds with a 20-30K dept like most young people end up with after getting married.

Dudess · 20-02-2011 03:37PM

whiteonion wrote: »

I certainly would not pay a single cent to attend a wedding. On the other hand I haven't been invited to a single wedding during the course of my adult life.

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People give wedding gifts to people they care about - it's a nice gesture. If you are invited to the wedding of a friend or relative and you accept and don't give them a single cent (and no, you don't have to give them €150 or buy them something valued at that amount of money, but to give them nothing???) you have no manners. Worse again if they let you bring a guest (which no marrying couple should feel obliged to do unless the primary guest knows nobody else there).

3ndahalfof6 · 20-02-2011 03:38PM

id pay to go to one of those big fat Gypsy weddings, they look like great crack.

Micky Dolenz · 20-02-2011 03:38PM

whiteonion wrote: »

I notice that people are willing to fork out €150 to attend someones wedding. I certainly would not pay a single cent to attend a wedding. On the other hand I haven't been invited to a single wedding during the course of my adult life.

Do you ever wonder why you have no friends?

Sunnyisland · 20-02-2011 03:40PM

I wouldn't pay to go to a wedding, I go to weddings only after being invited, and of course a gift or present is always given.To help the newly married couple on there way :-)

krudler · 20-02-2011 03:40PM

feelingstressed wrote: »

The lovely couple won't be getting receipts to return.

But if I see my gift up on adverts.ie or donedeal, why I oughta :mad:

what if they dont like/want it? or would rather something practical?

Dudess · 20-02-2011 03:40PM

3ndahalfof6 wrote: »

id pay to go to one of those big fat Gypsy weddings, they look like great crack.

Yes, there are many cracks on display all right - they like their thongs, those gals. :pac:

NeedaNewName · 20-02-2011 03:44PM

I hate being invited to weddings

whiteonion · 20-02-2011 03:47PM

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Do you ever wonder why you have no friends?

NO, don't need any.

bswan · 20-02-2011 03:47PM

OP dont be so tight

Micky Dolenz · 20-02-2011 03:48PM

whiteonion wrote: »

NO, don't need any.

I'll be your friend if you want and I promise I won't invite you to any weddings.

krudler · 20-02-2011 03:50PM

Dudess wrote: »

Yes, there are many cracks on display all right - they like their thongs, those gals. :pac:

prob just as many cracks on display from the guys too. It'd be like walking into Willy Wonkas factory with all the orange faces.

AnonoBoy · 20-02-2011 03:52PM

I sold raffle tickets at my wedding instead of accepting gifts. There was a raffle at the end of the night and we were giving away a car. So everyone felt they were in with a chance

What the guests didn't know though was that me and the missus had fixed the raffle so we were guaranteed the car. I pulled out number '11' and called it out. The feckin' wife took ages to come up and collect the prize, she'd been looking at the ticket upsidedown.

Warper · 20-02-2011 04:02PM

feelingstressed wrote: »

Nobody is demanding you give a cash gift

Get something thoughtful or tasteful, maybe a crystal clock for the mantlepiece.
The couple will look at that and remember it was whiteonion gave it

Cash gifts are forgotton.

Thought that counts
I've never given cash as a present, cash is the easy option. Put some thought into the gift

Totally wrong here, unless the couple is loaded, cash is the best gift. Weddings cost a fortune and the last thing a young couple need is debt to start off the marriage. €200 for a couple or €100 for a single is standard. Who wants a clock or something for the kitchen when they would probably have them already. You could get them vouchers or something but dont turn up with a clock.

whiteonion · 20-02-2011 04:04PM

Warper wrote: »

Totally wrong here, unless the couple is loaded, cash is the best gift. Weddings cost a fortune and the last thing a young couple need is debt to start off the marriage. €200 for a couple or €100 for a single is standard. Who wants a clock or something for the kitchen when they would probably have them already. You could get them vouchers or something but dont turn up with a clock.

So they are inviting the guests just to recieve cash to pay for the wedding?
That sounds very stingy, if they cannot afford to host a wedding they should not host a wedding. Simple as that.

Pauleta · 20-02-2011 04:05PM

I wouldnt pay money for my own wedding let alone somebody else's. I will pay money for me to look good at somebodies wedding though.

3ndahalfof6 · 20-02-2011 04:16PM

whiteonion wrote: »

So they are inviting the guests just to recieve cash to pay for the wedding?
That sounds very stingy, if they cannot afford to host a wedding they should not host a wedding. Simple as that.

its the done thing, Irish weddings are like the mafioso weddings,

long lines of people with envelopes shuffling towards the bride and groom.

they remind me of dole cues.

bonerm · 20-02-2011 04:20PM

I'd pay a nominal fee to be excused from attending.

Captain_Generic · 20-02-2011 04:31PM

Civil wedding, outdoor venue, close friends and family. Only way to go

bandit197 · 20-02-2011 04:36PM

whiteonion wrote: »

I notice that people are willing to fork out €150 to attend someones wedding. I certainly would not pay a single cent to attend a wedding. On the other hand I haven't been invited to a single wedding during the course of my adult life.

I'm not surprised to be honest. I wouldn't invite ya either

A wedding gift is not an entrance fee, its a gesture to help the new couple start off their new life together. Most people understand this.

AskMyChocolate · 20-02-2011 04:49PM

feelingstressed wrote: »

Nobody is demanding you give a cash gift

Get something thoughtful or tasteful, maybe a crystal clock for the mantlepiece.
The couple will look at that and remember it was whiteonion gave it

Cash gifts are forgotton.

Thought that counts
I've never given cash as a present, cash is the easy option. Put some thought into the gift

A couple of tickets for a Crystal Swing concert would be less expensive, just as acceptable to most couples, more tasteful, and less painful when you get them back between the eyes.

Tomebagel · 20-02-2011 05:46PM

Why should the people gettin married pay for you to attend theyre wedding by givin you a free 3 course meal,free drinks,and being there in the first place?

livinginkorea · 20-02-2011 05:52PM

In Korea some westerns have been paid to go to a Korean wedding of somebody they don't know. It's all the craze to show you 'know' some foreign people and get some photos taken. Around 30-40 euros I have heard for the hour (Korean weddings basically last an hour, including the grub).