Who hates weddings??

matrim · 10-02-2011 05:38PM

I generally have a good time at weddings because in the end it's the mostly people that make a good wedding, so if you're there with people you get on with you'll enjoy it.

However I'm not a fan of the whole waiting around, average dinner, speeches, first dance, cheesy music that you get at most Irish weddings. To me alot of that stuff is just something you've to put up with at them because if that's what the couple want then each to their own and I'll try to enjoy it for their sake.

AnonoBoy · 10-02-2011 05:41PM

KeithM89 wrote: »

Nothing worse than being forced to dance with a drunk relative...

I can think of a few worse things a drunk relative could force you to do.

jimthemental · 10-02-2011 05:47PM

I hate the entire wedding situation until the meal is over and you can have a bucketload of beer. When you just get invited to the afters it's way better. Just turn up around 8 or 9 and prop yourself up at the bar with a few friends and have the craic before you slowly go wrong.

th3 s1aught3r · 10-02-2011 05:55PM

Cerocco wrote: »

Today yet another invite came through the letter box. This one is in Scotland :mad: I hate weddings, boring, cr@p filled, waste of a day. Anyone else feel the same about them. More importantly how do I get out of going without offending the person. They have been banging on about it for months and how great it is that i'm gonna go :mad::mad:

Almost every wedding I have ever been to is almost identical. Its like people are just going through the ritual for the sake of it. Church, Hotel, Dinner, Drunk

One frind of mine got married on a beach in Corfu. Just 12 people at it , that was the best wedding I was ever at

LambsEye · 10-02-2011 06:00PM

I love weddings. As in, they melt my heart. I literally could not love them any more if I tried. I mist up at the THOUGHT of weddings.

I've even found myself getting a little teary at "My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding"

I have about 7 different scenarios for what I want my wedding to be like. In America, there's a WHOLE channel dedicated to weddings. And it's awesome.

AnonoBoy · 10-02-2011 06:05PM

LambsEye wrote: »

I love weddings. As in, they melt my heart. I literally could not love them any more if I tried. I mist up at the THOUGHT of weddings.

I've even found myself getting a little teary at "My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding"

I have about 7 different scenarios for what I want my wedding to be like. In America, there's a WHOLE channel dedicated to weddings. And it's awesome.

What medication do you normally take?

Perhaps they need to lower the dosage?

martic · 10-02-2011 06:06PM

LambsEye wrote: »

I love weddings. As in, they melt my heart. I literally could not love them any more if I tried. I mist up at the THOUGHT of weddings.

I've even found myself getting a little teary at "My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding"

I have about 7 different scenarios for what I want my wedding to be like. In America, there's a WHOLE channel dedicated to weddings. And it's awesome.

Have to admit I got a bit teary eyed myself from breaking my balls laughing

LambsEye · 10-02-2011 06:07PM

AnonoBoy wrote: »

What medication do you normally take?

Perhaps they need to lower the dosage?

Oi. In everything else in life I am a cold fortress of reserve and hardness but weddings......something about weddings man.

LambsEye · 10-02-2011 06:07PM

martic wrote: »

Have to admit I got a bit teary eyed myself from breaking my balls laughing

When they're dancing with their dads and such. Sniff.

stovelid · 10-02-2011 06:15PM

jester77 wrote: »

Irish weddings are truly awful and very unoriginal. Church, stand around, beef or salmon, witty and mostly unfunny dragged out speeches, clear an area for the dance floor, awful band, rinse and repeat. No originality and no real input from the couple getting married. Plus they are stupid over the top expensive.

Apart from the US (all over by midnight), any wedding outside of Ireland I've been to was original and enjoyable and you could tell that the couple put their own look, feel and style into it. Makes for a more memorable and enjoyable day out.

Good gap year in Bolivia?

Poor Craythur · 10-02-2011 06:17PM

I DO admit they're a great place to score. I was a bridesmaid at my friend's wedding two years ago and took it upon myself to be the disgraceful bridesmaid.

Take note, men. Weddings do things to usually well-adjusted single girls that make them slightly vulnerable and susceptible to flirting and bad chat-up lines.

My favourite kind of speech is the heartfelt, short, not trying to be funny kind. My friend's hubby said to her at their wedding "Firstly, I love you. Secondly, thank you everyone for coming" and that was it. Loved it.

LambsEye · 10-02-2011 06:20PM

Poor Craythur wrote: »

I DO admit they're a great place to score. I was a bridesmaid at my friend's wedding two years ago and took it upon myself to be the disgraceful bridesmaid.

Take note, men. Weddings do things to usually well-adjusted single girls that make them slightly vulnerable and susceptible to flirting and bad chat-up lines.

Yup. Blast our easily deceived ovaries, making us weak and susceptible to preying ugos.

Mint Sauce · 10-02-2011 06:22PM

gonedrinking wrote: »

Last 2 weddings I went to there was no fight! Fcukin rip off!

I do agree with the consensus though, weddings are dreary, mind numbingly boring affairs. Lots of standing around doing nothing for most people. Standing around for about an hour outside the chapel while everyone files out and shakes the hand of the bride and groom. Then about another hour of standing about doing nothing while the bride and groom have their pictures taken. The tedious, drawn out speeches, usually copied from the internet. All the clapping you have to do, its every 3 seconds ffs. The food is usually crap. Things start to pick up briefly when the drink starts flowing, but then the night goes on too long. And you have to stay and keep drinking, leaving a wedding early is apparently an unforgivable offense. So you drink to about 6am, and spend the next 12 hours throwing up and wishing you were dead.

Wouldn't totally say that. Last two weddings, let me think

Last two, yes we did have to hang around to shake hands, fair enough

During the pictures. Last one we were all in a village pub drinking the nicest guinness ever, being entertained by trad muscians. One before, we were all in the hotel bar.

Meal and speeches. Last one, beautiful food, as good as any fine restrarant, speeches, short and to the point. One before, better than your average wedding fare, speeches again, to the point.

Drinking till all hours. Last one one in a country house, only people staying there was the bride and groom and their family. The rest of us were loaded on to a bus at 2.30 back to our hotels. One before, bar closed at 2, residents bar at 4.

Next wedding i'm going to is going to be quite a similar set up to the last, bar the villlage pub. Whole thing is taking place in a specialised wedding venue, including the ceronomy, even the bride and groom has to be out of the place by 3am.

I think more people are moving away from the type of wedding you describe, people are bored of them and want to do some thing different. Probably of the last 1/2 dozen i've been to, only 2 or so were like that.

LambsEye · 10-02-2011 06:25PM

irish-stew wrote: »

Wouldn't totally say that. Last two weddings, let me think

Drinking till all hours. Last one one in a country house, only people staying there was the bride and groom and their family. The rest of us were loaded on to a bus at 2.30 back to our hotels. One before, bar closed at 2, residents bar at 4.

Actually sounds very like my mam's wedding. Which was fantastic.

yes the slut got married twice.

Mint Sauce · 10-02-2011 06:26PM

Poor Craythur wrote: »

I DO admit they're a great place to score. I was a bridesmaid at my friend's wedding two years ago and took it upon myself to be the disgraceful bridesmaid.

Take note, men. Weddings do things to usually well-adjusted single girls that make them slightly vulnerable and susceptible to flirting and bad chat-up lines.

My favourite kind of speech is the heartfelt, short, not trying to be funny kind. My friend's hubby said to her at their wedding "Firstly, I love you. Secondly, thank you everyone for coming" and that was it. Loved it.

Could have well contributed to my previous sucess at weddings.

Of course my sharp suit and funky dancing may have helped as well.

Poor Craythur · 10-02-2011 06:34PM

irish-stew wrote: »

I think more people are moving away from the type of wedding you describe, people are bored of them and want to do some thing different. Probably of the last 1/2 dozen i've been to, only 2 or so were like that.

Dear gawd, let's hope so.

My parents hate weddings because they don't drink, and Irish weddings are all about the sauce.

irish-stew wrote: »

Could have well contributed to my previous sucess at weddings.

Of course my sharp suit and funky dancing may have helped as well.

Yes, it was the funky dancing wot dun it.

STIG83 · 10-02-2011 08:51PM

galah wrote: »

went to 7 (seven) weddings last year. getting slightly sick of them now - plus they're ALL the same - just too formulaic, unfortunately.

It's always church, followed by at least 4 hours of standing around drinking so you end up at the dinner table half-p*ssed, it's always salmon or beef (with only minor variations), speeches are always too long und usually not that entertaining, cake cutting, band, sandwiches, DJ, national anthem, over.

The weddings that stand out are usually either abroad, or where the venue is not a soulless hotel on the outskirts of a scenic coastal resort...

Seven in one year?! :eek: thats alot!!
You must be well overdosed on them now!!

squeakyduck · 10-02-2011 09:00PM

Love weddings....
Reason to get dressed up and dolled up to the nines
Free 4 course meal (and maybe a free bar)
Getting to stay in a nice hotel!

Poor Craythur · 10-02-2011 09:02PM

squeakyduck wrote: »

Love weddings....
Reason to get dressed up and dolled up to the nines
Free 4 course meal (and maybe a free bar)
Getting to stay in a nice hotel!

It's not really free, weddings are bloody expensive for guests.

Aishae · 10-02-2011 09:02PM

went to one abroad that was soooo boring. and i was the bloody bridesmaid!
generally i like them. theres not many i go to anyhoo. my fave was the one i went to last year - my cousins in wicklow.
im really not down with the money people spend on these things though. its crazy starting off your married life in debt - for one feckin' day.
i like them - but all the more so if theyre different. id have a blast at a beach party wedding with a BBQ!

i gave a pressie once that cost 10 euro. but actually that should be ten euro to make. it was a personal thing for the couple. cant be doing with the expected gift prices. i didnt set out only intending to spend that, but the perfect gift turned out to cost that.

Mint Sauce · 10-02-2011 09:06PM

squeakyduck wrote: »

Love weddings....
Reason to get dressed up and dolled up to the nines
Free 4 course meal (and maybe a free bar)
Getting to stay in a nice hotel!

Not nessesarly, all the cards with €50 to €100 enclosed usally pays for that.

Pay the same again then for the room.

AckwelFoley · 10-02-2011 09:06PM

I like weddings.

Its nice to be social and meet people, granted the question was asked to a bunch of introverted Internet geeks so im not surprised by the reactions

STIG83 · 10-02-2011 09:11PM

The drinking sessions are always good, at my sisters wedding a few years back it was a great laugh, i ended up hooking up with one of her friends :cool:

marywary · 10-02-2011 09:12PM

You mention €50-€100 in cards. We usually get invited to one or two weddings per year and €250 would be considered a reasonable gift! We've asked around and most people give about the same as us.

Poor Craythur · 10-02-2011 09:14PM

Aishae wrote: »

cant be doing with the expected gift prices.

Agreed. But in Britain, it's considered highly rude not to give an expensive gift. You're expected give a gift that matches the cost of you being there to the couple. :eek: Wedding lists are standard there, whereas here I think they're a bit frowned upon.

Poor Craythur · 10-02-2011 09:16PM

One of my close friends went to a wedding last year where the son of the groom (a widower who was remarrying) went around with a clipboard at the reception with a list of the wedding guests checking that they had given a gift. :eek:

Poor Craythur · 10-02-2011 09:17PM

marywary wrote: »

You mention €50-€100 in cards. We usually get invited to one or two weddings per year and €250 would be considered a reasonable gift! We've asked around and most people give about the same as us.

That's a crazy amount to give, except maybe for immediate family. I gave my friend E70 at her wedding. It was what I could afford.

AckwelFoley · 10-02-2011 09:17PM

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Agreed. But in Britain, it's considered highly rude not to give an expensive gift. You're expected give a gift that matches the cost of you being there to the couple. :eek: Wedding lists are standard there, whereas here I think they're a bit frowned upon.

While practical i think wedding lists are a very impolite idea - equally as are "cash only" requests

AckwelFoley · 10-02-2011 09:18PM

Poor Craythur wrote: »

One of my close friends went to a wedding last year where the son of the groom (a widower who was remarrying) went around with a clipboard at the reception with a list of the wedding guests checking that they had given a gift. :eek:

His first wife is not dead.

Shes hiding

STIG83 · 10-02-2011 09:21PM

snyper wrote: »

His first wife is not dead.

Shes hiding

I never heard of that til now!! :eek:

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