Sex before Marriage

starlit · 02-08-2010 05:16PM #1

What is your opinion on this? Do you think its a good thing or a bad thing?
I'm all for it but under certain circumstances....Best to have some kind of compatibility with a partner in that aspect and be in some kind of relationship. So would like to get your own take on this probably drawn out topic that has overshadowed our somewherewhat prudish country!?

Yakult · 02-08-2010 05:19PM

You gotta have a test drive before ya buy!

Ruu_Old · 02-08-2010 05:19PM

Go to confession with those impure thoughts! :mad:

alwaysadub · 02-08-2010 05:20PM

Wouldn't fancy it myself to be honest. You can be totally incompatible with someone in bed. Wouldn't like to wait till my wedding night to find that out.
Sex isn't the be all and end all, but it would be a big part of it.

Sinfonia · 02-08-2010 05:20PM

Ridiculous and arcane.

Edit: Waiting until marriage, that is.

AskMyChocolate · 02-08-2010 05:21PM

I'm never having sex if it leads down that road.

cute_cow · 02-08-2010 05:22PM

fecking hell, have been with bf for 8 years, no way I was until i get married! Wud still be waiting.
i agree with R_H_C_P try before you sign your life away! (not a big beleiver in marriage either).

Brendog · 02-08-2010 05:23PM

you say it as if theres any sex AFTER marriage

Max Power1 · 02-08-2010 05:24PM

sex before marriage - yes.

As there is no sex after marriage and i didnt want to die a virgin

Dudess · 02-08-2010 05:25PM

There's no benefit whatsoever to waiting until marriage. The only valid reason I can think of is religious grounds.

El Horseboxo · 02-08-2010 05:27PM

I'd be riding every night if i could. Same girl, different girl, whatever. Some people put sex on too high a pedestal.

Hogzy · 02-08-2010 05:30PM

No sex before marriage is a theory that was designed in a culture where people got married at 18.

Not in todays world. Ya havnt lived till you've had an STD

ctrl-alt-delete · 02-08-2010 05:31PM

El Horseboxo wrote: »

I'd be riding every night if i could. Same girl, different girl, whatever. Some people put sex on too high a pedestal.

And thats why low lifes like me don't get it

Dudess · 02-08-2010 05:32PM

El Horseboxo wrote: »

I'd be riding every night if i could. Same girl, different girl, whatever. Some people put sex on too high a pedestal.

At the same time though, some people prefer it only with someone they really care about and wouldn't be into casual sex - I don't think that's putting it on a pedestal, just personal preference.

Hazys · 02-08-2010 05:32PM

I'm shocked that this is a serious question in modern Ireland.

starlit · 02-08-2010 05:33PM

Sinfonia wrote: »

Ridiculous and arcane.

Edit: Waiting until marriage, that is.

I was seriously considering waiting till marriage but I knew that would be impossible! There are very few men out there that would more girls though are likely to wait till then. I am happy to wait but not till marriage though! You might get very unhappy if the sex after marraige isn't what its cracked up to be! fair enough to believe in the santimony of marriage and wait to have sex then but there is such a thing as keeping yourself happy though whatever your decision! Best to have tried and not have tried at all! Sex is a need like food, drink, clothes, shelter etc Sex is part of a person whether they engage in it or not! I do have my reservations having kids outside wedlock I'd rather see it happening to those in there 20s or older than to happen to those in their teens as its the toughest job anyone would have to do is rearing children! Contraception is all you need!
Sex is suppose to be enjoyable not a scarifice!

Dudess · 02-08-2010 05:34PM

snuggles285 wrote: »

our somewhat prudish country

I don't think that's the case anymore.

thetonynator · 02-08-2010 05:35PM

Dudess wrote: »

There's no benefit whatsoever to waiting until marriage. The only valid reason I can think of is religious grounds.

Thats a valid reason??

Mike 1972 · 02-08-2010 05:35PM

I thought people only got married when they started getting bored having sex ?

(with each other)

Hogzy wrote: »

No sex before marriage is a theory that was designed in a culture where people got married at 18.

18 ??? TBH in those days one was almost considered to be on the shelf by that age. (Of course over life expectancy was lower too)

mojesius · 02-08-2010 05:36PM

Don't really plan on getting married - unless a lot of booze, gambling chips and an Elvis impersonator are involved.

The Big Red Button · 02-08-2010 05:36PM

snuggles285 wrote: »

What is your opinion on this? Do you think its a good thing or a bad thing?
I'm all for it but under certain circumstances....Best to have some kind of compatibility with a partner in that aspect and be in some kind of relationship. So would like to get your own take on this probably drawn out topic that has overshadowed our somewherewhat prudish country!?

This might have been an interesting debate around 30-40 years ago, when there was a bit of taboo around the issue of sex before marriage. But I can't imagine there are enough on the "no" side - particularly in AH - to make it a topic worth even discussing in this day and age.

For the record, I'm on the "hell yeah" side, but then again marriage isn't all that important to me anyways.

KTRIC · 02-08-2010 05:36PM

You're all going to hell !!! :rolleyes:

Dudess · 02-08-2010 05:36PM

thetonynator wrote: »

Thats a valid reason??

Maybe not to you or I, but to the person who is e.g. a devout christian it is.

starlit · 02-08-2010 05:39PM

Dudess wrote: »

I don't think that's the case anymore.

ah maybe your right there! but ireland is kinda prudish in comparison to other countries like holland, england, some european countries. What I love about holland is that the culture and people are so open minded in comparision to some irish folk! obviously people don't believe in sex before marriage due to religious reasons which is not really much a of a valid reason unless you are fridgit or you are in the holy order! I am utterly surprised that priests and nuns cannot marry in this day in age!

orourkeda · 02-08-2010 05:39PM

You cant bait a biha pussy

Max Power1 · 02-08-2010 05:41PM

orourkeda wrote: »

You cant bait a biha pussy

oh wow - a fish joke!

epgc3fyqirnbsx · 02-08-2010 05:42PM

Anyways it's not sex before marriage if you don't plan on getting married

gbee · 02-08-2010 05:43PM

A point touched earlier is one I tend to agree with.

The age girls get married today is frankly ridiculous. Keeping sex for marriage is not necessarily a bad thing, but as mentioned already, girls would be married quite young, 17/18 years of age not being uncommon.

Today the girl is over thirty but has three children and been with BF for 12 or more years already. A lifetime already and only a sanctimonious difference ~ might as well have had your Cinderella Wedding, when you were young and beautiful.

As for marriage break up, all circumstances have their share breakups, but the instants of those long term relationships with families getting married at a mature age have a high failure rate soon thereafter.

If you've been with the guy for more than a year, it's time to get married and enjoy the adventure. If you've had several children already, and been with your BF over ten years ~ DON'T waste time and money, stay living together.

Mike 1972 · 02-08-2010 05:44PM

Perhaps in the days before reliable contraception there may have been some half arsed logic behind premarital chastity although history seems to suggest It wasnt widely practised even then.

In most societies prostitution seems to have been pretty rampant too.

thetonynator · 02-08-2010 05:48PM

Valentin Obedient Goose-step wrote: »

Anyways it's not sex before marriage of you don't plan on getting married

The fact that that pist has been thanked by someone called ''cheap thrills'' makes it quite a bit funnier. :pac:

El Horseboxo · 02-08-2010 05:49PM

Dudess wrote: »

At the same time though, some people prefer it only with someone they really care about and wouldn't be into casual sex - I don't think that's putting it on a pedestal, just personal preference.

The some people i'm talking about are the types who would call me a man whore over a one night stand. Or a girl a slut. It's more than just personal preference when you become vocal about it.

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