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Can men and women ever just be friends?

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  • #32
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    As long as there is no sexual attraction then of course friends is possible - the problem is finding a member of the opposite sex that has enough qualities to warrant a friendship yet which you don't find attractive. Certainly possible, though I imagine there are more friends harbouring a secret crush than would want to let on. :cool:


  • #33
    kaedan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47 ✭kaedan


    Ickle Magoo wrote: »
    As long as there is no sexual attraction then of course friends is possible - the problem is finding a member of the opposite sex that has enough qualities to warrant a friendship yet which you don't find attractive. Certainly possible, though I imagine there are more friends harbouring a secret crush than would want to let on. :cool:


    I had tried to say something like that but ended up sounding very sexist.

    Well said!


  • #34
    johnmcdnl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,740 ✭✭✭johnmcdnl


    if you went to a mixed school then yes - perfectly easy...

    dunno about all male or all female schools.. i can imagine a lot of sexual tension being withheld which lasts into latter life...


  • #35
    Dravokivich
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    <--- Shoulder avail to cry on here...


  • #36
    Novella
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    Brendog wrote: »
    Of course...


    although alot of the time they will hook-up once or twice.

    The friendship usually ends soon after this...............in my experience :P

    Ah no! I 'hooked up' with my best friend once and now we tend to just bring it up in conversation in a, "Well... that was awkward!" way! :pac: I think it made us closer as friends 'cause we realised how wrong it'd be to be anything else!


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  • #37
    kylith
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    Yes, they can. Most of my friends are men because I really can't stand women. They wreck my head something rotten.


  • #38
    Joan Fontaine
    Closed Accounts Posts: 32 ✭Joan Fontaine


    I think not. I've only ever had 3 real guy friends that I was close to. All ended disastrously. The first professed his undying love for me which was unrequited and the other two it was me who fell for them...


  • #39
    starlit
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    funk-you wrote: »
    Whats yours?



    He wants to knob you. Seriously. No really, he does.

    -Funk

    To be honest in my experience guys Iv tried to be friends with at the beginning act like normal friends then they either act that they want to be more than friends with me and if it doesn’t go their way they ignore me keep their distance and not seem to want to be friendly towards me often when we’d meet there is a sense of sexual tension building up sometimes but hasn’t applied to all men I’ve been friends with. It takes me time to fancy a guy. Some just tease me endlessly thinking they get what they want but they won’t. some guys iv been friends one of which I had a bit of sexual tension with but didn’t play on it cause he was already seeing someone and I didn’t fancy him at all.

    In my opinion guys either want a relationship or they want a no strings attached fun and not want to be friends at all regardless. If they want to be friends with a girl often they wish to be out of the friend zone if they are stuck there they will eventually resent the girl and not want to be friends with her anymore or that they really really want a lot more with her deep down whether it’s a relationship or a fling or a one night stand thing doesn’t matter to them cause all guys care about in the end of the day is sex!
    kfallon wrote: »
    Can men, women and hermaphrodites be friends tho.....:confused:

    And to answer the original question, of course they can!

    whats a hermaphrodite?:confused:


  • #40
    Biggins
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    Yes, some of my best friends are female.


  • #41
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    funk-you wrote: »
    He wants to knob you. Seriously. No really, he does.

    -Funk

    No he doesnt. We've been mates for 25yrs and havent even shared a kiss. We're just mates. End of.


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  • #42
    Joan Fontaine
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    snuggles285 wrote: »



    whats a hermaphrodite?:confused:

    a hermaphrodite is a being (for want of a better word) that is half man, half woman.

    Me thinks it comes from Greek mythology, hermes and aphrodite had a child that was half man, half woman


  • #43
    kfallon
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    snuggles285 wrote: »
    whats a hermaphrodite?:confused:

    Lady Gaga......


  • #44
    General Zod
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    Kiera wrote: »
    No he doesnt. We've been mates for 25yrs and havent even shared a kiss. We're just mates. End of.


    He would. Maybe he doesn't "fancy" ya, but he would. It's men. it's what we're like.


  • #45
    STBR
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 442 ✭✭STBR


    Joan Fontaine wrote: »
    a hermaphrodite is a being (for want of a better word) that is half man, half woman.

    A person?


  • #46
    Cuddlesworth
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,030 ✭✭✭✭Cuddlesworth


    biko wrote: »
    "Can you live on just Guinness and oranges?"

    You can if you throw some tuc crackers into the mix.


  • #47
    STBR
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    Yes they can definitely 100%.


  • #48
    Banned Account
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    Kiera wrote: »
    No he doesnt. We've been mates for 25yrs and havent even shared a kiss. We're just mates. End of.

    Your friend has the ghey.


  • #49
    [Deleted User]
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    My biggest regret in college is actually being friends with any girl who said 'just friends'. If I could, i'd go back and tell them to fuk off.


  • #50
    clived2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 546 ✭✭✭clived2


    have ye every watched a real rom-com........no homo



  • #51
    Bolag_the_2nd
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    of course they can. my oldest friend is a male, and yes we have and yes we will again, hasnt affected the friendhip tbo, we're adults. :cool:


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  • #52
    Kiera
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    Fitzcaraldo wrote: »
    Your friend has the ghey.

    Nope he defo doesnt. We're just mates and thats that. I see him as a girl. Would get dressed in front of him no problem and he'd be the same. There's just nothing there but friendship. We've been friends since we were 5.


  • #53
    STBR
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 442 ✭✭STBR


    Bolag_the_2nd wrote: »
    of course they can. my oldest friend is a male, and yes we have and yes we will again, hasnt affected the friendhip tbo, we're adults. :cool:

    EXACTLY :D

    Why does everyone think it destroys a friendship?

    Makes it closer if anything :)

    But I suppose it depends on the friendship.


  • #54
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    Bolag_the_2nd wrote: »
    of course they can. my oldest friend is a male, and yes we have and yes we will again, hasnt affected the friendhip tbo, we're adults. :cool:

    I dont mean to pick on you bolag, but yours was the last post that said something like this.

    If you get along and have sex and will, isnt that that relationship a little more than friendship?

    I think once you throw sex into the mix its not really just a friendship anymore there is something else there.


    1. You can get all along.
    2. You have sexual chemistry (surely if you have sex and will again there must be)

    Those seem to me to be the two main elements most people seek in a relationship.


  • #55
    kfallon
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    Kiera wrote: »
    Nope he defo doesnt. We're just mates and thats that. I see him as a girl. Would get dressed in front of him no problem and he'd be the same. There's just nothing there but friendship. We've been friends since we were 5.

    If he strikes a horn when ye get dressed in front of him he's defo in it for more than just friendship!!!


  • #56
    GavRedKing
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    Yes, yes they can.

    In fact I have friends that I fancied before I got to know them betetr and the interest faded and Ive had friends were the interest increased, its a mixed bag but as an adult i dont see naything wrong with having female friends, it doesnt mean I want to get it on with all of them.


  • #57
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    Kiera wrote: »
    Nope he defo doesnt. We're just mates and thats that. I see him as a girl. Would get dressed in front of him no problem and he'd be the same. There's just nothing there but friendship. We've been friends since we were 5.


    Nah, that's cool, I get what you're saying to be honest.






















    *cough* ghey *cough*


  • #58
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    Fitzcaraldo wrote: »
    Nah, that's cool, I get what you're saying to be honest.

    *cough* ghey *cough*

    Guess it takes one to know one? :p


  • #59
    Banned Account
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    Kiera wrote: »
    Guess it takes one to know one? :p

    I wouldn't know love - I was only pretending to cough;)


  • #60
    bonerm
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    I would say they can if there was an abundance of common interests there. However (personally) I find that is never the case.


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  • #61
    Parsley
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    in my experience no, because most of my reasonably attractive close female friends i've ended up scoring with at some stage or another... strictly just friends with the ugly ones though :pac:


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