Can men and women ever just be friends?

starlit

Can men and women ever just be friends? what is your opinion on this?

SV

Of course they can.
I have several female friends, and no, I haven't caught the ghey!

AnonoBoy

Yes they can.


The bigger question is can women and men every just accept that they can just be friends or do they constantly have to start threads on discussion forums about it? I'm pretty sure the first discussion forum ever on the internet started with discussions on computers and within two hours had devolved into a discussion on this very topic. It was between Al Gore and Steve Jobs I believe.

karlog

Of course they can. Friends with benefits that is;)

danniemcq

snuggles285 wrote: »

Can men and women ever just be friends? what is your opinion on this?

do you think someone is trying to make the moves on ya?

Hasmunch

Yes...........but the guy is usually trying to get into the girls pants, he just won't admit it!

General Zod

Hasmunch wrote: »

Yes...........but the guy is usually trying to get into the girls pants, he just won't admit it!

and the girl wants him in her pants, but doesn't want a relationship or to be tought of as a slapper.

starlit

danniemcq wrote: »

do you think someone is trying to make the moves on ya?

its just a hypothetical question! why?

funkyjebus

sure. it does help if shes ugly though.

Sykk

Of course. They always say the guy can't but everyone knows deep down she wants nothing a good roddin'.

Scarinae

Of course they can! I think it's actually really important to have friends of both sexes, it makes things much more balanced and can give you new perspectives. For this very reason, I think all schools should be mixed - I would have hated being in a single-sex environment, and there's no way that I would inflict it on my (future) children

Kiera

Yes of course. One of my best mates is a bloke.

Nope, I fancy pretty much all the girls i'm friends with and would give all of them the full portion right now..

General Zod

Kiera wrote: »

Yes of course. One of my best mates is a bloke.

if situations were different would ya?

kfallon

Can men, women and hermaphrodites be friends tho.....

And to answer the original question, of course they can!

Scuid Mhór

any girl who says yes is ridiculously silly. any guy who says yes is a rare exception. i have only one girl i know who i'd classify as a friend and neither of us feel any stronger than that for each other.

magicianz

Most of my best friends are girls and a few are beautiful, but I have 0 romantic interest in them! If you can't be just friends with the opposite sex then there's something wrong with you, sorry :eek:

danniemcq

snuggles285 wrote: »

its just a hypothetical question! why?

No reason just thought it was an odd question, usually when its asked people are asking from experience

Kiera

General Zod wrote: »

if situations were different would ya?

Not a hope.

smash

Of course they can... if she's fat or ugly

biko

snuggles285 wrote: »

its just a hypothetical question! why?

Guy never have these questions unless there's some girl that seems to be wanting to move in from the friend zone.
Our hypothetical questions are more along the lines of "Can you put a V12 in a Ford Fiesta?" or "Can you live on just Guinness and oranges?"

magicianz

magicianz wrote: »

Most of my best friends are girls and a few are beautiful, but I have 0 romantic interest in them! If you can't be just friends with the opposite sex then there's something wrong with you, sorry :eek:

Yea but you still would..

RolandIRL

Just Friends....two words a guy never wants to hear :pac:

funk-you

snuggles285 wrote: »

Can men and women ever just be friends? what is your opinion on this?

Whats yours?

Kiera wrote: »

Yes of course. One of my best mates is a bloke.

He wants to knob you. Seriously. No really, he does.

-Funk

Novella

My best friend is a guy, so yup, course they can.

needhelpguy

Only if neither is attracted to the other. That's rarely the case though.

magicianz

Well duh I'm not ghey but Only if they wanted it well apart from my ex who's now a best friend......a sure why not

Honestly though, I don't know if I would. Once you do it once, unless both parties are extremely open and relaxed sexually, then you basically have screwed up the friendship :O

smash

Novella wrote: »

My best friend is a guy, so yup, course they can.

My best friend is a girl, but she's gay so I'd never have a chance anyway!

veryangryman

If

a) Im not attracted to the girl
and
b)
she doesnt bore me and has something to say, contribute to a conversation

Then yes

Otherwise im kinda struggling. I wouldnt hang with a dull guy either.

Brendog

Of course...


although alot of the time they will hook-up once or twice.

The friendship usually ends soon after this...............in my experience :P

kaedan

From my own personal experience, yes it is possible. But very hard.

Ickle Magoo

As long as there is no sexual attraction then of course friends is possible - the problem is finding a member of the opposite sex that has enough qualities to warrant a friendship yet which you don't find attractive. Certainly possible, though I imagine there are more friends harbouring a secret crush than would want to let on. :cool:

kaedan

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

As long as there is no sexual attraction then of course friends is possible - the problem is finding a member of the opposite sex that has enough qualities to warrant a friendship yet which you don't find attractive. Certainly possible, though I imagine there are more friends harbouring a secret crush than would want to let on. :cool:

I had tried to say something like that but ended up sounding very sexist.

Well said!

johnmcdnl

if you went to a mixed school then yes - perfectly easy...

dunno about all male or all female schools.. i can imagine a lot of sexual tension being withheld which lasts into latter life...

Dravokivich

<--- Shoulder avail to cry on here...

Novella

Brendog wrote: »

Of course...


although alot of the time they will hook-up once or twice.

The friendship usually ends soon after this...............in my experience :P

Ah no! I 'hooked up' with my best friend once and now we tend to just bring it up in conversation in a, "Well... that was awkward!" way! :pac: I think it made us closer as friends 'cause we realised how wrong it'd be to be anything else!

kylith

Yes, they can. Most of my friends are men because I really can't stand women. They wreck my head something rotten.

Joan Fontaine

I think not. I've only ever had 3 real guy friends that I was close to. All ended disastrously. The first professed his undying love for me which was unrequited and the other two it was me who fell for them...

starlit

funk-you wrote: »

Whats yours?



He wants to knob you. Seriously. No really, he does.

-Funk

To be honest in my experience guys Iv tried to be friends with at the beginning act like normal friends then they either act that they want to be more than friends with me and if it doesn’t go their way they ignore me keep their distance and not seem to want to be friendly towards me often when we’d meet there is a sense of sexual tension building up sometimes but hasn’t applied to all men I’ve been friends with. It takes me time to fancy a guy. Some just tease me endlessly thinking they get what they want but they won’t. some guys iv been friends one of which I had a bit of sexual tension with but didn’t play on it cause he was already seeing someone and I didn’t fancy him at all.

In my opinion guys either want a relationship or they want a no strings attached fun and not want to be friends at all regardless. If they want to be friends with a girl often they wish to be out of the friend zone if they are stuck there they will eventually resent the girl and not want to be friends with her anymore or that they really really want a lot more with her deep down whether it’s a relationship or a fling or a one night stand thing doesn’t matter to them cause all guys care about in the end of the day is sex!

kfallon wrote: »

Can men, women and hermaphrodites be friends tho.....

And to answer the original question, of course they can!

whats a hermaphrodite?

Biggins

Yes, some of my best friends are female.

Kiera

funk-you wrote: »

He wants to knob you. Seriously. No really, he does.

-Funk

No he doesnt. We've been mates for 25yrs and havent even shared a kiss. We're just mates. End of.

Joan Fontaine

snuggles285 wrote: »

whats a hermaphrodite?

a hermaphrodite is a being (for want of a better word) that is half man, half woman.

Me thinks it comes from Greek mythology, hermes and aphrodite had a child that was half man, half woman

kfallon

snuggles285 wrote: »

whats a hermaphrodite?

Lady Gaga......

General Zod

Kiera wrote: »

No he doesnt. We've been mates for 25yrs and havent even shared a kiss. We're just mates. End of.

He would. Maybe he doesn't "fancy" ya, but he would. It's men. it's what we're like.

STBR

Joan Fontaine wrote: »

a hermaphrodite is a being (for want of a better word) that is half man, half woman.

A person?

Cuddlesworth

biko wrote: »

"Can you live on just Guinness and oranges?"

You can if you throw some tuc crackers into the mix.

STBR

Yes they can definitely 100%.

Banned Account

Kiera wrote: »

No he doesnt. We've been mates for 25yrs and havent even shared a kiss. We're just mates. End of.

Your friend has the ghey.

My biggest regret in college is actually being friends with any girl who said 'just friends'. If I could, i'd go back and tell them to fuk off.

clived2

have ye every watched a real rom-com........no homo

Bolag_the_2nd

of course they can. my oldest friend is a male, and yes we have and yes we will again, hasnt affected the friendhip tbo, we're adults. :cool: