Intervene in a domestic.

ANXIOUS · 03-07-2010 02:02AM #1

Has anyone here intervened in a domestic?

I was walking through dublin city tonight and i seen this chap screaming the face off this women. They were across the road so i stopped to make sure the chap wasnt going to hit her or anything. To make a long story short after his outburst they got on like a house on fire, so i jumped into a taxi.

The reason i am posting this is because it got me thinking, would i have intervened?

The last time this happened to me i was around 16, sitting on a bench at the intersection of griffth ave. and the swords road with a group of friends male and female. So a taxi pulls up just past the bus stop at home farm fc, and this big chap and women get out of a taxi. Straight away the chap starts punching the face off the women, the taxi drives off like nothing happened.

Anyone who knows the area knows we are about 20feet from a gardai station, so a split second decision later my friend and i start running towards the couple. In the mean time the girls run in to get the garda station. So 30secs later me and my friend get to the couple and give the chap a kick because he was still on top of the women on the floor so he goes flying (He was hammered)

The gardai arrive 1min after us, and start giving the chap a kicking. The women springs to his defense. Starts saying leave him leave him its between me and him. Cue he gets arrested walked back to the station with the women all along saying that he did nothing wrong.

So basically that is a long winded story, just trying to see if people would get involved.

tommyboy2222 · 03-07-2010 02:09AM

The reason i am posting this is because it got me thinking, would i have intervened?

Eh the answer is no.

No you didn't.

El Weirdo · 03-07-2010 02:10AM

tl;dr

03-07-2010 02:11AM

The thing about intervening in domestics is that they both turn on you. No matter who the victim is they'l turn it round on you. Just like little tornado's of frustration.

ddef · 03-07-2010 02:11AM

What was the b!tch doing outside the kitchen?

ANXIOUS · 03-07-2010 02:12AM

tommyboy2222 wrote: »

Eh the answer is no.

No you didn't.

I didnt need to, he screamed at her. Ten seconds later they are best of friends.

ANXIOUS · 03-07-2010 02:13AM

El Weirdo wrote: »

tl;dr

What does that mean?

03-07-2010 02:13AM

ANXIOUS wrote: »

What does that mean?

Too long didn't read.

ANXIOUS · 03-07-2010 02:15AM

Deleted User wrote: »

Too long didn't read.

Ah thanks for clearing that up for me, the thread is basically would you get involved in a fight between a couple?

Elliemental · 03-07-2010 02:21AM

I would phone the police, if someone was being physically harmed. I'd do that under any circumstances. But, if its' just a couple having a tiff; then I would leave them be. Couples can row viciously, and not strike one another.

Einhard · 03-07-2010 02:22AM

I'd like to think I would. And probably would it I were with a group. But I've read about too many people stabbed or kicked to death after intervening. I'd call the cops and let them know about it. Although maybe in the heat of the moment I'd grow a pair and rush over. Hard to tell really.

we'llallhavetea_old · 03-07-2010 02:23AM

well obviously if i knew the couple, yes.

don't think i would otherwise, i'd go get help... or video it for youtube loike. :pac:

El Horseboxo · 03-07-2010 02:46AM

ANXIOUS wrote: »

So basically that is a long winded story

Well you're not wrong about that anyways.

pajodublin · 03-07-2010 02:49AM

have done and never again (well depending on circumstances i suppose)
was about 19 and i see these 2 arguing
fella gives the girl a punch sends her flying
so i go over a give him a punch (I'm far from being a hard man trust me) and grab his neck from behind holding one of his arms.
Next thing i know she is behind me tearing the face off me.
F*CK THAT!!!
Tripped him up and ran

ANXIOUS · 03-07-2010 02:49AM

El Horseboxo wrote: »

Well you're not wrong about that anyways.

I do try and be honest to my readers

starbelgrade · 03-07-2010 03:05AM

Rule No.37 in the Star Belgrade Rulebook; Never interfere in a boy/ girl fight.

K-9 · 03-07-2010 03:10AM

pajodublin wrote: »

have done and never again (well depending on circumstances i suppose)
was about 19 and i see these 2 arguing
fella gives the girl a punch sends her flying
so i go over a give him a punch (I'm far from being a hard man trust me) and grab his neck from behind holding one of his arms.
Next thing i know she is behind me tearing the face off me.
F*CK THAT!!!
Tripped him up and ran

Similar experience.

Oh_Noes · 03-07-2010 03:13AM

What happened to you sounds like John and Mary that run the shop in Craggy Island. They were both a bit embarrassed that someone saw it so they suddenly put on their best behaviour happy face. They were probably strangling each other as soon as you got back in the taxi.

starbelgrade · 03-07-2010 03:19AM

I was outside a club one night where a domestic broke out. It then escalted as one of my mates intervened... and I mean really escalated.. the girls & lads from both sets of friends all starting laying into each other.

I obeyed Rule No 38; "Never get involved in a fight unless you have to" & just stood back & watched, with equal levels of amusement & bemusement.

After a few minutes, I felt a dig in my back & obeyed Rule No 39; "If someone hits you, deck them, so they won't hit you again". So I swung around, fist at full force and, THWACK... hit a right hook to the chin of.... a bird. Floored her.

I had broken Rule No 25; "Never hit a woman", but in my defense, how was I to know.

The story is true, but slightly embelished by the rules references as I've just been watching Zombieland.

we'llallhavetea_old · 03-07-2010 03:30AM

starbelgrade wrote: »

I was outside a club one night where a domestic broke out. It then escalted as one of my mates intervened... and I mean really escalated.. the girls & lads from both sets of friends all starting laying into each other.

I obeyed Rule No 38; "Never get involved in a fight unless you have to" & just stood back & watched, with equal levels of amusement & bemusement.

After a few minutes, I felt a dig in my back & obeyed Rule No 39; "If someone hits you, deck them, so they won't hit you again". So I swung around, fist at full force and, THWACK... hit a right hook to the chin of.... a bird. Floored her.

I had broken Rule No 25; "Never hit a woman", but in my defense, how was I to know.

The story is true, but slightly embelished by the rules references as I've just been watching Zombieland.

jesus.. i laughed..

was she a big bertie? what happened then? did you leg it or help her up?

msg11 · 03-07-2010 03:32AM

Your Job

starbelgrade · 03-07-2010 03:43AM

we'llallhavetea wrote: »

jesus.. i laughed..

was she a big bertie? what happened then? did you leg it or help her up?

Nah - she was normal size... even a bit on the petite side. I tried to help her up, but she - & her friend who ran over to pick her up - were screaming at me about "How could you hit a girl?" etc.

Then I walked off.

5starpool · 03-07-2010 03:45AM

El Weirdo wrote: »

tl;dr

You should try and acquire an attention span somewhere. Life doesn't consist of only 160 characters.

we'llallhavetea_old · 03-07-2010 03:47AM

starbelgrade wrote: »

Nah - she was normal size... even a bit on the petite side. I tried to help her up, but she - & her friend who ran over to pick her up - were screaming at me about "How could you hit a girl?" etc.

Then I walked off.

you're a battered wifes dream. sure, you'd knock the sh!t outta them, but you'd try to help them up afterwards :pac:

starbelgrade · 03-07-2010 03:50AM

we'llallhavetea wrote: »

you're a battered wifes dream. sure, you'd knock the sh!t outta them, but you'd try to help them up afterwards :pac:

I'm a gentleman. I'd also make them a cup of tea & tell them that it wasn't all their fault. Mostly, but not all.

we'llallhavetea_old · 03-07-2010 03:55AM

starbelgrade wrote: »

I'm a gentleman. I'd also make them a cup of tea & tell them that it wasn't all their fault. Mostly, but not all.

oh a few white lies to keep them sweet

Pdfile · 03-07-2010 05:12AM

this always happens when im around for some reason though tbh... you'd be surprised not only by:

1) the amoutn of Wannabe hardy men that try it on with women...

2) how many one punch knock-outs ive handed these cowards

3) how many phone numbers and sexual offers ive received as of no 2).

ahh, lifes sweet when it wants to be

LeifErikson · 03-07-2010 08:28AM

Pdfile wrote: »

this always happens when im around for some reason though tbh... you'd be surprised not only by:

1) the amoutn of Wannabe hardy men that try it on with women...

2) how many one punch knock-outs ive handed these cowards

3) how many phone numbers and sexual offers ive received as of no 2).

ahh, lifes sweet when it wants to be

Rofl

ANXIOUS · 03-07-2010 09:51AM

It seems a very mixed response, from helping to not helping we even had starbelgrade hit a women. How lucky are you that I didn't see that

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I think from now on firstly I'll call the gardai and try not get involved if I don't have to. Too many stories of it back firing.

Has anyone other stories or situations?

akamossy · 03-07-2010 10:23AM

I would just call the Gardai if it got physical on either part but if they are just having a screaming match then no I wouldn't. Our neighbours are always at it, shouting at each other outside the house for all the world to see, gets a bit irritating after a while

ANXIOUS · 03-07-2010 10:30AM

akamossy wrote: »

I would just call the Gardai if it got physical on either part but if they are just having a screaming match then no I wouldn't. Our neighbours are always at it, shouting at each other outside the house for all the world to see, gets a bit irritating after a while

I always wondered, why people choose to make their private business public knowledge. Also why do women/men stay in abusive relationships?

Intervene in a domestic.

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