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Does anyone else think getting married is just a very bad idea.

  • 17-06-2010 05:48PM
    #1
    SugarHigh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,265 ✭✭✭SugarHigh


    I'm not afraid of commitment or against long term relationships but I just don't see why someone would get married outside of religious reasons.

    It just seems like you are setting yourself up for hassle if you the relationship goes sour while not really adding anything to the relationship if it works out.

    Then there is damage to your bank balance if it goes tits up.
    http://img821.imageshack.us/img821/2460/1276778988090.jpg


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  • #2
    Zombienosh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,911 ✭✭✭Zombienosh


    You could have just said no to my face!
    You didn't have to tell me this way. I hate you


  • #3
    GLaDOS
    Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 23,257 Mod ✭✭✭✭GLaDOS


    An unmarried father has no rights to his children I believe, that's one reason

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



  • #4
    liah
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,750 ✭✭✭liah


    Visa marriage. :cool:

    Otherwise, no point really. It's a nice way to show you love the other person but the consequences are too great if things to belly up. I'd prefer a very long engagement, I reckon!


  • #5
    easyeason3
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,102 ✭✭✭easyeason3


    So would you weigh up a drunken one night stand with the same attitude?
    I'm guessing no because A) you're drunk & B) you're getting your hole. But it could work out just as expensive & headwrecking if the lady you shared body fluids with fell pregnant.

    I like the idea of marriage. The only thing I don't like about it in this country is that my gay friends can't legally get married & be recognised.


  • #6
    TPD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,813 ✭✭✭TPD


    I agree, the potential negatives outweigh the questionable positives.
    ScienceNerd wrote: »
    An unmarried father has no rights to his children I believe, that's one reason

    I believe that in Ireland at least, even a married father has no rights to his children.


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  • #7
    DazMarz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭DazMarz


    Have to say I kinda agree with this... Nobody is sure what the future holds, and should the relationship go tits up, then you (especially if you're a man) are federally fúcked. Women always get the savage settlements in divorces.

    Plus there's all the aggro with kids and all that. Plus after several years of each other's company, you will be getting on each other's tits, so best not to bother, IMO... tho my perspective will most likely change in a few years.


  • #8
    Millicent
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,559 ✭✭✭Millicent


    SugarHigh wrote: »
    I'm not afraid of commitment or against long term relationships but I just don't see why someone would get married outside of religious reasons.

    It just seems like you are setting yourself up for hassle if you the relationship goes sour while not really adding anything to the relationship if it works out.

    Then there is damage to your bank balance if it goes tits up.
    http://img821.imageshack.us/img821/2460/1276778988090.jpg

    Oh my God, the bloody vultures in that link. "Cashing out"? How romantic! :eek:


  • #9
    bronte
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,331 ✭✭✭✭bronte


    There's something extremely unsettling to me about putting a contract on something like Love. Doesn't really make any sense. :confused:

    Edit. Jebus I just read that link! Bloody hell! :eek:


  • #10
    Turtyturd
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,404 ✭✭✭✭Turtyturd


    Yeah it is a bad idea. Much easier to split up with your partner than to divorce your wife.

    About time some of the religious aspacts were removed from the constitution to reflect todays society and all couples married or not, same sex or not were treated equally.


  • #11
    Myrddin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 33,733 ✭✭✭✭Myrddin


    Millicent wrote: »
    Oh my God, the bloody vultures in that link. "Cashing out"? How romantic! :eek:

    Just read it too - what a shower of b@stards!


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  • #12
    Elessar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,260 ✭✭✭Elessar


    I think relationships in general are a bad idea.


  • #13
    dr.bollocko
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 35,948 Mod ✭✭✭✭dr.bollocko


    Much better to try and stay together because you want to and not because of the whole "till death do us part" voodoo. Surely it's meaningless in an increasingly secular society?
    Well.... Lets hope so.


  • #14
    Kenya Most Timer
    Posts: 81,308 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Kenya Most Timer


    I was never one for marriage, but I like the idea.
    Plus there's all the legal stuff too - last thing I'd want to hear after an accident or something is "family only, no girlfriend allowed to see him"
    It just seems very final I guess...


  • #15
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,242 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    SugarHigh wrote: »
    I'm not afraid of commitment or against long term relationships but I just don't see why someone would get married outside of religious reasons.

    It just seems like you are setting yourself up for hassle if you the relationship goes sour while not really adding anything to the relationship if it works out.

    Then there is damage to your bank balance if it goes tits up.
    http://img821.imageshack.us/img821/2460/1276778988090.jpg

    I've heard Jimmy Carr say it best, "What a cúnt!" The lads been taken for a ride by his previous wife and she's intend on bringing the man further hardship by divorcing him and using him as a human mastercard for atleast the next 18 years. To reiterate my point, "What a cúnt!"


  • #16
    The_Kew_Tour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 36,031 ✭✭✭✭The_Kew_Tour


    Yes, you can go on a lot of dam good holidays for the price you pay for wedding day.

    EVENFLOW



  • #17
    SugarHigh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,265 ✭✭✭SugarHigh


    bluewolf wrote: »
    I was never one for marriage, but I like the idea.
    Plus there's all the legal stuff too - last thing I'd want to hear after an accident or something is "family only, no girlfriend allowed to see him"
    It just seems very final I guess...
    That doesn't make me want to get married it just makes me want that to change*




    *not enough to actually do anything though:pac:


  • #18
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,242 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    adrian280582 wrote: »
    Yes, you can go on a lot of dam good holidays for the price you pay for wedding day.

    Try a deposit for a house and a new car.


  • #19
    bonerm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,594 ✭✭✭bonerm


    Pre-nup's for all tbh.

    BTW sorry but anyone who uses the phrase "we're pregnant" is a pretentious idiot imho.


  • #20
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,242 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    bonerm wrote: »
    Pre-nup's for all tbh.

    Would you believe they don't stand for much in this Country or the UK. Your OH is still entitled to half and maintance regardless.


  • #21
    The_Kew_Tour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 36,031 ✭✭✭✭The_Kew_Tour


    djhunter30 wrote: »
    Try a deposit for a house and a new car.


    well depends if you have bought the house during the boom or clever enough to buy house when prices are gone down so much over last few years.

    EVENFLOW



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  • #22
    ddef
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 426 ✭✭ddef


    SugarHigh wrote: »
    I'm not afraid of commitment or against long term relationships but I just don't see why someone would get married outside of religious reasons.

    It just seems like you are setting yourself up for hassle if you the relationship goes sour while not really adding anything to the relationship if it works out.

    Then there is damage to your bank balance if it goes tits up.
    http://img821.imageshack.us/img821/2460/1276778988090.jpg

    I didn't know Barney F*cking Stinson had a boards account!


  • #23
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,242 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    Ya I'm saying if you waited until now, instead of a wedding, you can have a deposit for a nice 4 bed and a not too shabby mid-range car like a 3 series BMW or what ever else strikes your fancy.


  • #24
    A Primal Nut
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭A Primal Nut


    Alimony is the most rediculous law in history. Women want to be independant, me hole!

    There are no benefits for a man to get married. Its like a man's concession to his girlfriend.


  • #25
    inmyday
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 731 ✭✭✭inmyday


    family law in ireland is very hard to understand.

    when a loving relationship ends, its hard enough, but you have to worry
    about money.

    marriage scares me!


  • #26
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,242 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    A Primal Nut wrote: »
    Alimony is the most rediculous law in history. Women want to be independant, me hole!

    There are no benefits for a man to get married. Its like a man's concession to his girlfriend.

    Question so: If a couple divorce and by some miracle, the male gains the children, does she pay child support? Or is this another double standard we must abide by?


  • #27
    minidazzler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,650 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    liah wrote: »
    Visa marriage. :cool:

    Otherwise, no point really. It's a nice way to show you love the other person but the consequences are too great if things to belly up. I'd prefer a very long engagement, I reckon!

    Ah, so that's how you are living here without being kicked out yet! :D

    The only part f marriage that appeals to me is a massive party with Open Bar. None of the rest of it seems fun really.


  • #28
    Prof.Badass
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,931 ✭✭✭Prof.Badass


    I hope to someday raise children with a woman with whom i am in a long-term monogamous relationship. I don't think any other system for raising childrren is as fair/workeable on all parties involved.

    This doesn't neccesarily mean marraige, although i do plan to get married for the reason sciencenerd mentioned (i can't see ireland achieving gender equality anytime soon :().

    Under an ideal scenario i'd actually welcome the abolishment of marraige (well state recognition of it anyway), however, it's still nice to have a ceremony to show your intent to stay together and have children.


  • #29
    Coriolanus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,879 ✭✭✭Coriolanus


    SugarHigh wrote: »
    I'm not afraid of commitment or against long term relationships but I just don't see why someone would get married outside of religious reasons.

    It just seems like you are setting yourself up for hassle if you the relationship goes sour while not really adding anything to the relationship if it works out.

    Then there is damage to your bank balance if it goes tits up.
    http://img821.imageshack.us/img821/2460/1276778988090.jpg
    They're bringing in common law marriage soon enough. If you're living with someone for three + years, the dependent will have a claim on the future earnings of the other half after the relationship breaks up.


  • #30
    SarahBM
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,906 ✭✭✭SarahBM


    I dont believe in marriage. you don't need to spend 20 or 30 grand on a massive piss up and a piece of paper to show how much you love someone.
    If you love some one and they love you, you shouldn't have to prove it, they should just know.
    the laws in Ireland are very unfair. 40 years ago a woman could not collect her child benfit, no its the complete opposite, men have hardly any rights when it comes to their kids. Very bias and unfair system. marriage complicates it further IMO.

    If you want to get married, fine. but if you don't, don't feel pressured by family or friends or your church.

    I just don't understand why you would bother. so much money stress and hassle. not to mention that the stress and pressure (emotional and financial) could damage your relationship.


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  • #31
    Kenya Most Timer
    Posts: 81,308 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Kenya Most Timer


    SarahBM wrote: »
    I dont believe in marriage. you don't need to spend 20 or 30 grand on a massive piss up and a piece of paper to show how much you love someone.

    That means you don't believe in big weddings. Weddings != marriage.


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