Desperate? Single Women Over 30?

starbelgrade · 17-05-2010 01:07AM #1

My missus brought this issue to my attention - she has a lot of single female friends & colleagues, who around the age of 30, seem to get slightly desperate when they can't seem to pin a guy down into a long term relationship.

A lot of them feel like they should be married, many feel like they should be both married & having kids. Maybe it's a body clock thing, maybe it's the thought of being "left on the shelf", but there seems to be a certain desperation about it that I don't see in any of my male friends or colleagues who are single.

Anyone else got any experience of this? Like I said, it's not something I know a great deal about.

I Was VB · 17-05-2010 01:10AM

Let them eat cake, apparently its better than sex at that age.

L.Jenkins · 17-05-2010 01:10AM

I've met alot of women who were 30+ Desperate maybe, horny as hell, Defo. If they want to pin me down I have no problems with that, pm me a few emails.

segaBOY · 17-05-2010 01:11AM

Their desperation drives guys away if anything.

Gunsfortoys · 17-05-2010 01:11AM

Pics or GTFO

epgc3fyqirnbsx · 17-05-2010 01:12AM

Talked to a fella who said he did ok in his 20's with girls (he was always happy being single and is a nice fella) but when he went into his thirties he was fighting them off.
Said its not as cool as it sounds, every time he went out someone was trying to hook him up with so and so and when he did go with a girl for a night, which was all he wanted and was clear about, he end up getting a LOT more than he bargained for.

He actually said that while he wants to be single, he'd nearly get a girlfriend jsut because being a single bachelor was kind of stressfull and seriously affecting a good night out

starbelgrade · 17-05-2010 01:15AM

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

Pics or GTFO

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Millicent · 17-05-2010 01:15AM

There is a social standard that says that all women should be married and that's probably what is prompting these women to act desperate. The pressure to not be left on the shelf is intense.

I never ever want to get married and the amount of times I've gotten the third degree on this is shocking. Still, despite knowing my views, I occasionally have friends and family ask when my boyfriend is going to give me a ring or do the decent thing. And I'm 26. People have no problems in asking which is probably why women at 30 start to get anxious. Same goes for babies. It's nuts how people deem it appropriate to question you on your reproductive inclinations.

segaBOY · 17-05-2010 01:16AM

August Zealous Hurricane wrote: »

Talked to a fella who said he did ok in his 20's with girls (he was always happy being single and is a nice fella) but when he went into his thirties he was fighting them off.
Said its not as cool as it sounds, every time he went out someone was trying to hook him up with so and so and when he did go with a girl for a night, which was all he wanted and was clear about, he end up getting a LOT more than he bargained for.

He actually said that while he wants to be single, he'd nearly get a girlfriend jsut because being a single bachelor was kind of stressfull and seriously affecting a good night out

Have heard similar stories. I find some girls in their late 20s can be the same.
I know a few who come out with comments like:

"had a dream last night, I went to a club, met and fell absoutely in love with a guy and married the next day"

riiiiiighhht

and

"God, arranged marriages might be the way to go at this stage"

ok there.

Rented Mule · 17-05-2010 01:16AM

segaBOY wrote: »

Their desperation drives guys away if anything.

Actually it the smell of desperation that scares men away the most.

L.Jenkins · 17-05-2010 01:17AM

Im single again for the last few weeks again and 25. In all honesty, at this moment in life, being attached is a bigger pain in the hole, but there's something I love about a woman in her 30s. I'd gladly take on a woman in her 30s, theres alot of advantages to it :P

Millicent · 17-05-2010 01:17AM

I Was VB wrote: »

Let them eat cake, apparently its better than sex at that age.

Actually, that's more true for men- women start to hit their sexual peaks from their 30's and have the best sex in their forties apparently. For lads it's something like 18! :P

Want some cake?

alwaysadub · 17-05-2010 01:18AM

:eek:
That's so freakey-i'm literally just after watching my sisters wedding video from 10years ago and one of my uncles made some smart comment to me, on video, bout how i should get the finger out and settle down.

10years later,i'm still no closer. :pac:

I'm 30 and single, but i'm not just going to grab the 1st bloke who i like(or who likes me) and beg him to marry me before i'm too old. A lot of the girls in my family have married and had families well into their 30's and they're all doing alright.

When,and if, the right man comes along, i just want things to progress at their own pace and not be rushing into either kids or marriage so i can breath a sigh of relief that i'm married at a 'respectable' age

L.Jenkins · 17-05-2010 01:18AM

Rented Mule wrote: »

Actually it the smell of desperation that scares men away the most.

I would have thought that there desperation would have made them easier to pull. Some women of that age can be hard enough to pull given the fact that they might have far higher standards than someone of there 20s

Gunsfortoys · 17-05-2010 01:20AM

alwaysadub wrote: »

:eek:
That's so freakey-i'm literally just after watching my sisters wedding video from 10years ago and one of my uncles made some smart comment to me, on video, bout how i should get the finger out and settle down.

10years later,i'm still no closer. :pac:

I'm 30 and single, but i'm not just going to grab the 1st bloke who i like(or who likes me) and beg him to marry me before i'm too old. A lot of the girls in my family have married and had families well into their 30's and they're all doing alright.

When,and if, the right man comes along, i just want things to progress at their own pace and not be rushing into either kids or marriage so i can breath a sigh of relief that i'm married at a 'respectable' age

I smell desperation...

GLaDOS · 17-05-2010 01:20AM

Stupid non desperate 20 year old women....

Tail Wagger · 17-05-2010 01:21AM

Well in my line of work I have the privilege of visiting peoples homes all the time. I can assure you also that there are lots of them in the 30s + and very yummy indeed, but I have yet to see any desperate in that sense... a lot more nays, than yeas Id'e imagine...

starbelgrade · 17-05-2010 01:21AM

alwaysadub wrote: »

:eek:
That's so freakey-i'm literally just after watching my sisters wedding video from 10years ago and one of my uncles made some smart comment to me, on video, bout how i should get the finger out

In fairness, there's a time & a place for everything.

L.Jenkins · 17-05-2010 01:21AM

alwaysadub wrote: »

:eek:
That's so freakey-i'm literally just after watching my sisters wedding video from 10years ago and one of my uncles made some smart comment to me, on video, bout how i should get the finger out and settle down.

10years later,i'm still no closer. :pac:

I'm 30 and single, but i'm not just going to grab the 1st bloke who i like(or who likes me) and beg him to marry me before i'm too old. A lot of the girls in my family have married and had families well into their 30's and they're all doing alright.

When,and if, the right man comes along, i just want things to progress at their own pace and not be rushing into either kids or marriage so i can breath a sigh of relief that i'm married at a 'respectable' age

Trust me, you'll live long enough and your still young even at 30 so have a shít load more craic before you do get hitched. I know a woman of 40 odd with a child and she regrets getting married ever so slightly but thats her.

Einhard · 17-05-2010 01:21AM

I Was VB wrote: »

Let them eat cake, apparently its better than sex at that age.

Hmmm, I think that may be why some of them don't have boyfriends in the first place!

:pac:

southsiderosie · 17-05-2010 01:22AM

Millicent wrote: »

Actually, that's more true for men- women start to hit their sexual peaks from their 30's and have the best sex in their forties apparently. For lads it's something like 18! :P

Want some cake?

When I was in my 20s the ladies I used to work with told me this - they all said their hormones went into overdrive when they hit 30, but they guys were all slowing down. I still remember a woman in her late 30s talking about a date with someone in his early 40s and sneering, "and he actually wanted to cuddle".

I was amused...and then I hit 30. They were right. Yowza.

That said, I'm not really feeling the pressure to be a wife and/or breeder at this point.

alwaysadub · 17-05-2010 01:23AM

starbelgrade wrote: »

In fairness, there's a time & a place for everything.

Damn,i knew i should've worded that differently :pac:

alwaysadub · 17-05-2010 01:25AM

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

I smell desperation...

Bahaha, i've been called many things lately, desperate to settle down is definitely not one of them,believe me.

L.Jenkins · 17-05-2010 01:25AM

southsiderosie wrote: »

I was amused...and then I hit 30. They were right. Yowza.

That said, I'm not really feeling the pressure to be a wife and/or breeder at this point.

Your body does that to encourage you to have kids before you lose the ability in around your 50s/60s.

epgc3fyqirnbsx · 17-05-2010 01:26AM

southsiderosie wrote: »

When I was in my 20s the ladies I used to work with told me this - they all said their hormones went into overdrive when they hit 30, but they guys were all slowing down. I still remember a woman in her late 30s talking about a date with someone in his early 40s and sneering, "and he actually wanted to cuddle".

I was amused...and then I hit 30. They were right. Yowza.

That said, I'm not really feeling the pressure to be a wife and/or breeder at this point.

yeah yeah yeah, but you said your hormones were in overdrive right?
How does this make you feel? What do you tink about?
I want to know purely for the purposes of this thread

Gunsfortoys · 17-05-2010 01:26AM

alwaysadub wrote: »

Bahaha, i've been called many things lately, desperate to settle down is definitely not one of them,believe me.

I was jokin....but hey it is the internet.

segaBOY · 17-05-2010 01:27AM

alwaysadub wrote: »

Bahaha, i've been called many things lately, desperate to settle down is definitely not one of them,believe me.

C'mere I see you travel from Galway to Dublin a lot, if you ever want to settle down and start a nice family somewhere in the midlands just give me a PM.

*I forgot how good it feels to be a creep

southsiderosie · 17-05-2010 01:28AM

djhunter30 wrote: »

Your body does that to encourage you to have kids before you lose the ability in around your 50s/60s.

From what I've been told, there is a steep decline in fertility at 35. So, yeah, this is my body warning me to hurry up. Unfortunately there is no room in my life for anything that can't clean up its own poo, so that means no dogs or babies.

rossie1977 · 17-05-2010 01:29AM

horny desperate single women in their 30s you say :eek:

every girl i know is married by 30

southsiderosie · 17-05-2010 01:30AM

August Zealous Hurricane wrote: »

yeah yeah yeah, but you said your hormones were in overdrive right?
How does this make you feel? What do you tink about?
I want to know purely for the purposes of this thread

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L.Jenkins · 17-05-2010 01:31AM

southsiderosie wrote: »

From what I've been told, there is a steep decline in fertility at 35. So, yeah, this is my body warning me to hurry up. Unfortunately there is no room in my life for anything that can't clean up its own poo, so that means no dogs or babies.

I wouldnt worry too much about that. With improving health women are capable of having kids much older so no rush! Im 25, so Im definately in no rush what so ever.

Desperate? Single Women Over 30?

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