Would you not date or be Friends with anyone cause of their social background?

Sanjuro wrote: »

I'm willing to bet that that scenario has never actually happened.

Oh I overheard a girl in UCC expressing amazement that there were students from Ballyvolane (a middle-class suburb but on the northside) attending there.
You'd be surprised at how much stupidity there is out there when it comes to this issue.

I draw the line at people who think an 'estate' is a housing development.

why does it always end up all about Dublin, some of us live on the rest of the island!, and where does it say Dublin in the Question?

Oh no sorry, just speaking about my own experiences.

I'm dating someone from the northside of Dublin, and I'm from the southside, and one of the wealthier parts of it too. Her family are probably better off than mine though, so go figure

Oh I overheard a girl in UCC expressing amazement that there were students from Ballyvolane (a middle-class suburb but on the northside) attending there.

My husband comes from a much poorer background - out in the sticks so he didn't grow up in a council estate, but he grew up in a house built for them by the council.

In my original post here I said that the broad middle classes tended to date each other, the middle 80%. Thats a large pool and that is what we are seeing here, except for the first post where a rich northsider is dating a rich southsider. The whole north and southside thing is a first level approximation ( there are rich and poor on both sides); what happens is that the rich date the rich, the middle group dates each other and the bottom 10% dates itself.

I am from a culchie village. I left at 18 and have dated from a doctor to a an office manager who had secondary school only but was broadly middle income( and students, obviously, when a student). Also different ethnic groups.

However I would not date a Shameless type chav, a drug user ( lifestyle, not class, in that case), nor would most upper middle class Dubliners or Corkonians date me. The doctor was a culchie. In the UK I would have a better chance.

Heres story: Girl walks over to me in a Dublin pub - well just outside - and talks. Seems interested. Gets around to asking where I am from ( not what I do) and then loses interest. Immediately.

And look - go to the richer suburbs. Everybody sounds the same. That means they married the same people. Then go to the poorest suburbs and inner city. Again: Everybody sounds the same.

Then go to middle income ( note: not "Middle Class" in the sense of posh) burbs, and appartments _ I mean Tyrrelstown etc.. Culchies, middle income dubliners with neutralish accents, foreigners, Donegalians, Norn Iron, Kerrymen. All, talking, hanging, and f*cking. That's my class. The protestors are probably upper middle class.

I would date about 90% of the female population. But not all. I mean by class (prior to knowing their lifestyle or income). So I am prejudical against 10%.


Some people protesth too much methinks. Could it be that the people who say they would date anybody don't? Are , in fact, upper middle to rich themselves?

Saying stuff is easy. The clear evidence of Dublins ( and Ireland's) class structure is in the accents in the different areas. If we all married equally every area would have all the accents.

EDIT: Something just occurred to me. I work in London in an Office where the temps are either New Zealanders, or Australian. I can tell the difference, but then it is thousand of miles. However we now have two New Zealanders. They sound the same. Not to us, the them as well. One comes from the North Island, one from the South Irland. That's hundreds of miles difference. They asked each other where they were from

The idea of someone from Douglas having to ask what part of the city the guy from Knocknaheney is from is laughable.

Get that. Irish class accents are wider spaced across 2 miles than New Zealand accents across hundreds of miles.

It;s all provincial claptrap, of course, but it is what it is.