Would you not date or be Friends with anyone cause of their social background?

arsenallegend · 26-04-2010 12:48PM #1

so have you met anyone who's looked down upon you, a friend or A girl/boyfriend because of your accent, background(working class,middle class or upper class) has it effect you in anyway or have you seen it happen.

Sykk · 26-04-2010 12:49PM

Yes, I'd never touch a North sider.

FYI, your topic name is a question.. Then your containing question is the opposite. So people's answers will contradict themselves unless they refer to one of the questions when answering.

Wazdakka · 26-04-2010 12:53PM

Nope.... It all depends on the person not where they are from.
If the person is a thick as sh1t or a complete bitch it doesn't matter if they're from Donnybrook or Darndale.

Having said that... The AJH* accent can be a bit offputting

* Ah Jasus Howaye

nice1franko · 26-04-2010 12:54PM

I've a northside dub accent. It's a huge advantage because it acts as a very effective filter: anyone who "looks down" at me because of it is obviously an idiot and I can save a lot of time and energy by knowing this early on.

Dudess · 26-04-2010 12:57PM

Really couldn't give a **** what a person's background is.

hidinginthebush · 26-04-2010 12:59PM

Sykk wrote: »

Yes, I'd never touch a North sider.

FYI, your topic name is a question.. Then your containing question is the opposite. So people's answers will contradict themselves unless they refer to one of the questions when answering.

are you trying to be funny, or would you actually not go out with someone purely based on the fact that they live north of the river liffey in dublin? either way, i'd like to say [bannable personal abuse].

PCros · 26-04-2010 01:01PM

Probably southsiders because they think they're from West Hollywood and are brought up with everything in life payed for them.

Pittens · 26-04-2010 01:01PM

I dont suspect we will get too many honest answers here. In general mating in Ireland ( and the West in general) is like this:

1) The broad middle class i.e the university educated or post-schooled (e.g. nurses) marry each other. Thats a large pool ( it includes plenty of people with working class, or country accents).
2) The upper middle classes marry each other.
3) The bottom 10% marry each other.

billymitchell · 26-04-2010 01:01PM

After watching "My big fat gypsy wedding" again last night, my answer would have to be a "I obviously dont give a sh*t"

azezil · 26-04-2010 01:01PM

I'm an equal opportunities sex manchine. Giggidy.

arsenallegend · 26-04-2010 01:01PM

Wazdakka wrote: »

Nope.... It all depends on the person not where they are from.
If the person is a thick as sh1t or a complete bitch it doesn't matter if they're from Donnybrook or Darndale.

Having said that... The AJH* accent can be a bit offputting

* Ah Jasus Howaye

I'm from darndale and once people hear that they expect you to be a drug dealer,junkie or your going to beat the hell out of them. When you start up a interesting conversation they looked amazed:rolleyes:

funk-you · 26-04-2010 01:04PM

Sykk wrote: »

Yes, I'd never touch a North sider.

Doubt many of them would want to touch your Mexican ass with that attitude.

Tbh, it doesn't make much of a difference where someone is from. It's nice to experience something from outside your own little bubble of the world whether it be upper, lower sideways whatever.

-Funk

Rabies · 26-04-2010 01:05PM

yes.

I'm shallow.

It does play a big part

we'llallhavetea_old · 26-04-2010 01:05PM

it wouldn't bother me, as long as they're not assholes i don't mind.

alwaysadub · 26-04-2010 01:05PM

it has happened to me. When we moved house, from a normal estate in one part of Dublin, to a very posh estate in another part, no one would talk to us for ages. Most of the kids went to private or fee paying schools,i went to the community school. Bar a couple of neighbours on either side of us, i still know no one from the estate even though i lived there for 13years.

Pittens · 26-04-2010 01:05PM

yep.

no honest answers.

Michaelrsh · 26-04-2010 01:06PM

Don't really like those blacks or Jews too much.

azezil · 26-04-2010 01:06PM

Rabies wrote: »

yes.

I'm shallow.

It does play a big part

But why? You're a complete nack! :pac:

Marty McFly · 26-04-2010 01:08PM

It makes no differance to me were your from or what your social backround is. If theyve got a good personallity why should it matter.

Although being from clondalkin sometimes you can get a certain look when you tell people followed by "oh i see".

Des Carter · 26-04-2010 01:09PM

Everyone here saying it doesnt matter is full of sh!t. Of course it matters wheather you want to admit it or not. Honestly everyone has their prejudices and thats just the way it is

unless ur just looking for a shag (in which case it doesnt really matter).

Dudess · 26-04-2010 01:10PM

Pittens wrote: »

yep.

no honest answers.

To reiterate so: I really and truly could not give a **** what someone's background is. You're not right just because you assume you are.

Lux23 · 26-04-2010 01:12PM

I once went out with someone who considered himself upper class. He once said to me I like having you around because I have no other other friends who went to an inner city school. Which I found hilarious as I went to school in Swords but he thought that made me a hardcase. I have a very neutral accent too so when I tell people I am from the Northside and grew up in a council house they are always surprised. Well some people, some wouldn't bat an eyelid.

Dudess · 26-04-2010 01:12PM

Des Carter wrote: »

Everyone here saying it doesnt matter is full of sh!t. Of course it matters wheather you want to admit it or not.

Really, really doesn't to me - just because it matters to you doesn't mean everyone else is the same as you.

Sykk · 26-04-2010 01:12PM

hidinginthebush wrote: »

[bannable personal abuse].

Hardly.. A question was asked - I answered it. Hate the game, not the player!

dlofnep · 26-04-2010 01:15PM

No, never. My life would be dull if I had to listen to the same viewpoints, or accents or people everyday. We need variety, and anyone who looks down on someone because of their class - has no class.

In saying that - I do like my friends to have a bit of self-respect for themselves. It doesn't matter where they are from - so long as they don't act the muppet.

dlofnep · 26-04-2010 01:16PM

Des Carter wrote: »

Everyone here saying it doesnt matter is full of sh!t. Of course it matters wheather you want to admit it or not. Honestly everyone has their prejudices and thats just the way it is

Don't use your life experiences as the basis for everyone else's. It doesn't matter to me.

arsenallegend · 26-04-2010 01:19PM

I always felt my background went agaisn't me with a lot of women and i was once told that "i don't date northsiders" by some posh girl:eek:. least she was honest i suppose

Rabies · 26-04-2010 01:20PM

azezil wrote: »

But why? You're a complete nack! :pac:

thats why me and you can't work Az

you social background is too upper class..

Pittens · 26-04-2010 01:20PM

I really and truly could not give a **** what someone's background is. You're not right just because you assume you are.

I have lived in Cork. There is a Large Red Wall dividing the Northside from the Southside.
I worked in the Northside. Lived in Bishopstown. The bpoad "middle classes" ( i.e. office workers etc) dated. But the line remains.

I can tell the different accents apart. They are, in fact, radically different. Particuarly Knocknaheeny vs Douglas. As in Dublin.

As in Dublin I have never heard, nor do I ever expect to hear, two people holding hands with those divergent accents. It would be like FoxRock and Inner City.

Anybody can say anything. I dont have to believe it.

ChocolateSauce · 26-04-2010 01:20PM

It's not that I wouldn't, it's that I couldn't.

For example, I couldn't date a person who was religious, because an essential trait that date-able persons must have is a critical mind, something all religious people lack. It isn't a decision I have made, it's a fact about who I am.

And so on. Class has nothing to do with anything.

Des Carter · 26-04-2010 01:21PM

Dudess wrote: »

Really, really doesn't to me - just because it matters to you doesn't mean everyone else is the same as you.

Im not saying it matters to me Im saying everyone has some kind of prejudice towards some race, social background etc and to say that you see everyone in the exact same light is simply untrue - wheather its a traveller, a muslim on a plain or neo-nazis everyone looks down on other people to some extent even if they dont admit it or even mean to

Would you not date or be Friends with anyone cause of their social background?

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