Funerals...

Degag · 06-03-2010 03:28AM #1

Ok, i've often wondered why some people are so facinated with these. Most people i know go to at least one funeral a week, alot of the times to the funeral of those they hardly know. Why? Is it to "show face?" or are they really religious? Or is it just a thing that people do because "it's to be done"?

I don't really know. The person is dead, we should pay respect, to whom? the family? What if we don't know the family? Do the family really care? I say this because i am going to a funeral of a mother of a friend tomorrow.

It just gets to me because i know certain people who go to every funeral around (moreso imo to get the free pints, soup and sandwiches afterwards) and they won't stop going on about it. Not sure if i'm making sense but i'm sure AH will let me know or not.:)

Xavi6 · 06-03-2010 03:32AM

Degag wrote: »

Most people i know go to at least one funeral a week,

Wtf? You're either ancient or hanging around with The Addams Family.

Mike 1972 · 06-03-2010 03:32AM

We had a funerals thread a few weeks back

Degag wrote: »

Most people i know go to at least one funeral a week, alot of the times to the funeral of those they hardly know

You really need to search out new social circles ?

mikom · 06-03-2010 03:33AM

Degag wrote: »

Most people i know go to at least one funeral a week,

You know a lot of politicians.

biko · 06-03-2010 03:34AM

Next level up from Wedding Crashers.

tony1kenobi · 06-03-2010 03:36AM

Stop using funerals as a socializing tool.

ToniTuddle · 06-03-2010 03:36AM

Sometimes you go to show respect to the family if you know the family more than the dead person, other times it's because you liked/knew the poor sod who died.
Doesn't matter to me even if the family don't know me. I knew the person so that's all that matters. It's nice in some way for them to know that their loved one was liked/loved/respected by many people.

I've been to more wakes than funerals though.

Degag · 06-03-2010 03:38AM

Xavi6 wrote: »

Wtf? You're either ancient or hanging around with The Addams Family.

Mike 1972 wrote: »

We had a funerals thread a few weeks back

You really need to search out new social circles ?

mikom wrote: »

You know a lot of politicians.

Lol, no! On average though it seems that there is always a funeral to go to. In my area, everyone knows everyone else, and hence if a mother or sister or grandfather dies, the funeral has to be attended regardless if they ever made eye contact in their lives before....

pagancornflake · 06-03-2010 03:38AM

Degag wrote: »

Most people i know go to at least one funeral a week, alot of the times to the funeral of those they hardly know.

Did you happen to meet them at the funeral of someone you didn't know?I think you did...

certain people who go to every funeral around (moreso imo to get the free pints, soup and sandwiches afterwards)

you seem to know alot about the benefits to doing so.

Degag · 06-03-2010 03:41AM

pagancornflake wrote: »

Did you happen to meet them at the funeral of someone you didn't know?I think you did...

you seem to know alot about the benefits to doing so.

Work in a pub which often host funeral parties, so i know what goes on.

pagancornflake · 06-03-2010 03:43AM

Degag wrote: »

Work in a pub which often host funeral parties, so i know what goes on.

Well they if seem like alot of fun, is that not reason enough? You should try getting into it

Degag · 06-03-2010 03:46AM

pagancornflake wrote: »

Well they if seem like alot of fun, is that not reason enough? You should try getting into it

Who said they were fun? Funerals by distinction should be the polar opposite of fun.

ToniTuddle · 06-03-2010 03:47AM

I used to help out at loads of wakes when I was younger.
Making the sandwiches, putting out biscuits, going around with the tea.
Was like a full time job at one point!!

I remember when alot of households use to leave plates of cigarettes out for folks beside the biscuits!! Ha

Drop like flies in Donegal :eek:

pagancornflake · 06-03-2010 03:49AM

Degag wrote: »

Who said they were fun? Funerals by distinction should be the polar opposite of fun.

to get the free pints, soup and sandwiches afterwards

That sounds fun to me

Degag · 06-03-2010 03:55AM

pagancornflake wrote: »

That sounds fun to me

Fair play to you, some people are easily satisfied:rolleyes:

Sharpshooter · 06-03-2010 04:00AM

I hate them!!

The trouble is there is one I'm going to have to attend.

pagancornflake · 06-03-2010 04:00AM

Degag wrote: »

Fair play to you, some people are easily satisfied:rolleyes:

Such as the elderly who want only nourishment and company before they themselves die and need to put bums in church seats.

Degag · 06-03-2010 04:04AM

pagancornflake wrote: »

Such as the elderly who want only nourishment and company before they themselves die and need to put bums in church seats.

Troll much?

ToniTuddle · 06-03-2010 04:06AM

One thing I really don't like about them is the whole shaking of hands.

Was at a funeral recently and had seen most of the family at the wake the night before and shook hands(mark of respect or I don't know it's just the done thing).
Coffin is being taken out of the hearse outside the church and my Mother is saying go on go up and shake the daughter hand you missed her at the wake!!

I don't think so woman!!! They are bringing her father out of the bloody hearse I aint going to walk up and shake hands with her right now!!!

To the older generation it's a major deal to shake hands at them.
The common question when you hear someone dies....

"Is that a wake on ya"

pagancornflake · 06-03-2010 04:07AM

Degag wrote: »

Troll much?

Nope. You?

Degag · 06-03-2010 04:13AM

ToniTuddle wrote: »

One thing I really don't like about them is the whole shaking of hands.

Was at a funeral recently and had seen most of the family at the wake the night before and shook hands(mark of respect or I don't know it's just the done thing).
Coffin is being taken out of the hearse outside the church and my Mother is saying go on go up and shake the daughter hand you missed her at the wake!!

I don't think so woman!!! They are bringing her father out of the bloody hearse I aint going to walk up and shake hands with her right now!!!

To the older generation it's a major deal to shake hands at them.
The common question when you hear someone dies....

"Is that a wake on ya"

I remember when my uncle died a few years back and i had to carry the coffin, first time i ever had to do it. I remember just when we had it lifted, i looked down and saw that my shoelace was untied. I was petrified all the way from the funeral home to the hearse that i'd trip and the coffin would fall and burst open:eek: Think i actually had nightmares for a while.

pagancornflake · 06-03-2010 04:15AM

Degag wrote: »

I remember when my uncle died a few years back and i had to carry the coffin, first time i ever had to do it. I remember just when we had it lifted, i looked down and saw that my shoelace was untied. I was petrified all the way from the funeral home to the hearse that i'd trip and the coffin would fall and burst open:eek: Think i actually had nightmares for a while.

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Sharpshooter · 06-03-2010 04:18AM

ToniTuddle wrote: »

One thing I really don't like about them is the whole shaking of hands.

Huge blow up in my dads house over this.

I had held it together for a week, mam died on Easter Saturday and there was a hold up of a week for reasons re doctor being on hols and the weekend that was in it.

Bank holiday Monday ect.

Anyway, when the mass was over I got up and walked to the back of the church, ( more ran if I'm being honest ) to avoid those well meaning people that wanted to shake my hand.

Holding it together for my dad was hard, and I knew I would lose it when all these people came to commiserate.

Dunno, I just thought seeing his daughter break down would have broken his heart again.

/serious post over for another year

ToniTuddle · 06-03-2010 04:19AM

Degag wrote: »

I remember when my uncle died a few years back and i had to carry the coffin, first time i ever had to do it. I remember just when we had it lifted, i looked down and saw that my shoelace was untied. I was petrified all the way from the funeral home to the hearse that i'd trip and the coffin would fall and burst open:eek: Think i actually had nightmares for a while.

Don't chat!!!

My mother informed me few weeks ago that my aunt(who is dying) wants me and all her daughters to carry her coffin :eek:
It's nice to know she thinks so much of me to ask such a thing and want me to play a major part in her funeral and it must be weird/hard for her plan it all.....but I've no idea what to do or say! I mean how can you say no to a dying person?

It's not common for girls to carry the coffin...don't think I've ever even seen a funeral with it. But she likes to make a statement bless her!
That is my nightmare as girls don't have the best upperbody strength and I have images of the coffin falling.
Oh holy GOD but you would die of shame if you dropped the coffin!!

ToniTuddle · 06-03-2010 04:25AM

Sharpshooter wrote: »

I had held it together for a week, mam died on Easter Saturday and there was a hold up of a week for reasons re doctor being on hols and the weekend that was in it.

Dunno, I just thought seeing his daughter break down would have broken his heart again.

/serious post over for another year

Sorry to hear about your Mum, can't even imagine what that must be like.:(
With that girl who my Mother wanted me to go shake hands with...well she hates me and I don't like her either(LONG story). She knows I was at funeral and all and she would have heard I was at wake so in my eyes that was enough.

Young ones don't really do the whole shaking hands thing. Plus alot of the time you don't know who exactly to shake hands with...which at the time can provide a bit of comic relief to the family when folks get flustered.

Degag · 06-03-2010 04:28AM

ToniTuddle wrote: »

Don't chat!!!

My mother informed me few weeks ago that my aunt(who is dying) wants me and all her daughters to carry her coffin :eek:
It's nice to know she thinks so much of me to ask such a thing and want me to play a major part in her funeral and it must be weird/hard for her plan it all.....but I've no idea what to do or say! I mean how can you say no to a dying person?

It's not common for girls to carry the coffin...don't think I've ever even seen a funeral with it. But she likes to make a statement bless her!
That is my nightmare as girls don't have the best upperbody strength and I have images of the coffin falling.
Oh holy GOD but you would die of shame if you dropped the coffin!!

Sorry to hear that. Ye should be ok really because there is wlways one or two guys to help ye put the coffin on ye're shoulders. Only hassle is if ye have to go up and down steps.... can be a killer on the shoulders!

Ruu_Old · 06-03-2010 04:32AM

I had to go to funeral, my last girlfriend. You see, she died...from exhaustion!

Sharpshooter · 06-03-2010 04:32AM

ToniTuddle wrote: »

Oh holy GOD but you would die of shame if you dropped the coffin!!

Especially if it was your coffin that caused it.:eek:

/cough..

/over previous serious post now ta.:D

Super-Rush · 06-03-2010 04:47AM

Ruu wrote: »

I had to go to funeral, my last girlfriend. You see, she died...from exhaustion!

You sir are my hero for today.:pac::pac::pac:

Xavi6 · 06-03-2010 05:23AM

Ruu wrote: »

I had to go to funeral, my last girlfriend. You see, she died...from exhaustion!

Quoted for the sheer epicness of it all

m@cc@ · 06-03-2010 05:39AM

Degag wrote: »

Most people i know go to at least one funeral a week, alot of the times to the funeral of those they hardly know.

Are you a priest?

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