Woman loses house and children to husband!

caseyann · 01-03-2010 11:20AM #1

I heard something from a lady i know tis morning and it is disgraceful.
This woman has three children married like 15 years.Children between ages of 6 and 11.Her husband became abusive and was cheating on her.She asked for a divorce,First he wouldn't give it to her and wouldn't leave the home.Through all of this he wouldn't help with food or bills.She was scrimping and scraping even though he was in the house.
So it went to court for divorce.And the courts awarded him the house and the children and ordered her to leave making her homeless:eek: Then to make things worse.The Judge only gave her an hour a week to see her children :eek: She is devastated

She is living luckily with a friend who put her up.Through the stress and upset of it all she lost her job:( What is the world coming to.

Cookie_Monster · 01-03-2010 11:22AM

if it was the other way around though you (& everyone else) wouldn't bat an eyelid

m@cc@ · 01-03-2010 11:23AM

caseyann wrote: »

I heard something from a lady i know tis morning and it is disgraceful.
This woman has three children married like 15 years.Children between ages of 6 and 11.Her husband became abusive and was cheating on her.She asked for a divorce,First he wouldn't give it to her and wouldn't leave the home.Through all of this he wouldn't help with food or bills.She was scrimping and scraping even though he was in the house.
So it went to court for divorce.And the courts awarded him the house and the children and ordered her to leave making her homeless:eek: Then to make things worse.The Judge only gave her an hour a week to see her children :eek: She is devastated She is living luckily with a friend who put her up.Through the stress and upset of it all she lost her job:( What is the world coming to.

Methinks theres more to the story than this lady is letting on. Don't worry yourself about it.

brianthebard · 01-03-2010 11:23AM

Link? This doesn't happen in Ireland even if the father is clearly the better parent to keep the children, so I find this exceedingly unlikely.

pickarooney · 01-03-2010 11:25AM

That's got to be the world's worst lawyer if (s)he could lose a case like that in Ireland. I, for one, refuse to believe any of this at face value.

caseyann · 01-03-2010 11:26AM

pickarooney wrote: »

That's got to be the world's worst lawyer if (s)he could lose a case like that in Ireland. I, for one, refuse to believe any of this at face value.

She didnt have one,couldnt afford it and legal aid was a years waiting list.

01-03-2010 11:26AM

brianthebard wrote: »

Link? This doesn't happen in Ireland even if the father is clearly the better parent to keep the children, so I find this exceedingly unlikely.

A friend of mine kept the house and kids when he divorced the wife! It does happen, just not very often.

caseyann · 01-03-2010 11:27AM

brianthebard wrote: »

Link? This doesn't happen in Ireland even if the father is clearly the better parent to keep the children, so I find this exceedingly unlikely.

There is no link its true story from someone i know

Lovely quiet girl to.

seamus · 01-03-2010 11:27AM

What we're probably missing here is her alcoholism and gambling problem which is why the husband refused to give her any money for food, etc.

Without a link, this hearsay is useless.

brianthebard · 01-03-2010 11:29AM

caseyann wrote: »

There is no link its true story from someone i know Lovely quiet girl to.

I don't believe any of it for a second.

pickarooney · 01-03-2010 11:30AM

caseyann wrote: »

She didnt have one,couldnt afford it and legal aid was a years waiting list.

Hang on... she started legal proceedings without a lawyer and without waiting until she could get a free one? Swing and a miss. I still doubt the story is in any way true.

DonJose · 01-03-2010 11:30AM

Look at it from the mans point of view, "The sex is the same but the dishes are piling up."

bonerm · 01-03-2010 11:31AM

caseyann wrote: »

I heard something from a lady i know tis morning

Nothing like a bit of unbiased news.

m@cc@ · 01-03-2010 11:32AM

caseyann wrote: »

I heard something from a lady i know tis morning and it is disgraceful.
This woman has three children married like 15 years.Children between ages of 6 and 11.Her husband became abusive and was cheating on her.She asked for a divorce,First he wouldn't give it to her and wouldn't leave the home.Through all of this he wouldn't help with food or bills.She was scrimping and scraping even though he was in the house.
So it went to court for divorce.And the courts awarded him the house and the children and ordered her to leave making her homeless:eek: Then to make things worse.The Judge only gave her an hour a week to see her children :eek: She is devastated She is living luckily with a friend who put her up.Through the stress and upset of it all she lost her job:( What is the world coming to.

Wait I know...........is it?

http://ctrlshiftrtn.files.wordpress.com/2009/08/kerrykatona_468x385.jpg

caseyann · 01-03-2010 11:32AM

m@cc@ wrote: »

Methinks theres more to the story than this lady is letting on. Don't worry yourself about it.

Trust me there is not i know him he is a complete bastard,he made her life hell for last 4 years.She paid half of that house and she now has nothing.:(

kodute · 01-03-2010 11:32AM

Fictional story is fictional :pac:

Biggins · 01-03-2010 11:32AM

Unless a link and/or more accurate detail, I'll take this "tale" as pure useless gossip.

Fathers rights in this country are an EXTREME joke so even IF this story was true - there would have to be some EXTREME circumstances as to why such a thing would happen!

IF true - there is more to this "tale" than is being told.

bonerm · 01-03-2010 11:33AM

m@cc@ wrote: »

Wait I know...........is it?

http://ctrlshiftrtn.files.wordpress.com/2009/08/kerrykatona_468x385.jpg

Yeah but remember when she used to be hot? No, me either.

caseyann · 01-03-2010 11:33AM

pickarooney wrote: »

Hang on... she started legal proceedings without a lawyer and without waiting until she could get a free one? Swing and a miss. I still doubt the story is in any way true.

Trust me they got a court date brought her in and she hadn't got a lawyer and the judge let it go ahead.

biko · 01-03-2010 11:34AM

Sorry for your friend if this is true OP but right now it just sounds too far fetched. The court usually has more facts than us.

Nodin · 01-03-2010 11:34AM

caseyann wrote:

(............;).

Somebody told you something? Fascinating.

Is this like the whole 'Russian Mafia' thing?

caseyann · 01-03-2010 11:34AM

Biggins wrote: »

Unless a link and/or more accurate detail, I'll take this "tale" as pure useless gossip.

Fathers rights in this country are an EXTREME joke so even IF this story was true - there would have to be some EXTREME circumstances as to why such a thing would happen!

IF true - there is more to this "tale" than is being told.

They said because she hadnt got money.

This isnt even about the house its about the kids.They took her kids from her and have only given her access an hour a week.If this was a man who got only that amount of access to his kids i would be saying same thing.

pickarooney · 01-03-2010 11:34AM

caseyann wrote: »

Trust me there is not i know him he is a complete bastard,he made her life hell for last 4 years.She paid half of that house and she now has nothing.:(

Joe Duffy... although I doubt even he would swallow this mess of half-truths.

seanybiker · 01-03-2010 11:35AM

well if she could keep her man happy at home then he wouldnt have to go somewhere else, *clicks fingers* you know its true girlfriend.

"jerry, jerry, jerry "

TheZohanS · 01-03-2010 11:35AM

Was her husband a black taxi driver by any chance? :rolleyes:

Nodin · 01-03-2010 11:36AM

caseyann wrote: »

Trust me (......).

And why wouldn't we trust a multi-linguist such as yourself. Sure aren't you as good as the News at one.

Mr. Presentable · 01-03-2010 11:36AM

caseyann wrote: »

I heard something from a lady i know tis morning and it is disgraceful.
This woman has three children married like 15 years.Children between ages of 6 and 11.Her husband became abusive and was cheating on her.She asked for a divorce,First he wouldn't give it to her and wouldn't leave the home.Through all of this he wouldn't help with food or bills.She was scrimping and scraping even though he was in the house.
So it went to court for divorce.And the courts awarded him the house and the children and ordered her to leave making her homeless:eek: Then to make things worse.The Judge only gave her an hour a week to see her children :eek: She is devastated She is living luckily with a friend who put her up.Through the stress and upset of it all she lost her job:( What is the world coming to.

She must be a right baxtard for the house and kids to be given to a man. Or has she had a gender change operation? That'd explain it.

kodute · 01-03-2010 11:37AM

pickarooney wrote: »

Joe Duffy... although I doubt even he would swallow this mess of half-truths.

If that fails Gerry Ryan always loves a good 'men are b*stards' story without letting facts get in the way.

Tordelback · 01-03-2010 11:38AM

caseyann wrote: »

She didnt have one,couldnt afford it and legal aid was a years waiting list.

It seems incredible to me that a judge in what I assume was the Circuit Court would not have adjourned the case until a mother who was obviously incompetent to represent herself (she lost her kids - in Ireland) was able to secure either a solicitor or legal aid. I understand all too well the 'absolutely no money' situation, but when your kids and your home are on the line you need to get help. I'd really worry about the mental competence of someone who would ask for a divorce without taking some legal advice and getting her ducks in a line - this wasn't done to her.

This of course is taking the story at face value, and assuming that the woman isn't a closet monster and the judge unusually perceptive, but that's only fair.

Nodin · 01-03-2010 11:38AM

caseyann wrote: »

They said because she hadnt got money.

And they didn't make an order for maintenance against the husband?

Biggins · 01-03-2010 11:40AM

caseyann wrote: »

They said because she hadnt got money.

Please! We are a social welfare state - and before the debate goes down that route also - there has to be more to this story than is being told!

Q. Where is the girls parents on this matter,
Q. Why are they not helping?
Q. Husband/Partner - maintenance?
Q. Who side is this version of events coming from? (A friends side? Biased? Friends of the woman involved conveniently leaving out certain details not advantageous to a possible fuller story?)
Q. What mother would be so stupid as to not fight for her children by every means possible? And that includes allowing a state free appointed solicitor?

Woman loses house and children to husband!

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