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Are you FB friends with your exes?

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  • #32
    seanybiker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,898 ✭✭✭✭seanybiker


    Dont think I have any exes on facebook. Have some one I rode years back and my missus is always taking the piss cos the one years ago is rank.


  • #33
    Tar.Aldarion
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,119 Mod ✭✭✭✭Tar.Aldarion


    Abigayle wrote: »
    I do and I don't agree with this.

    Do - If you don't feel capable of getting beyond it.

    Don't - If you've just realised your diffences are too great, but you've always had the best laughs together.

    Exes shouldn't mean the end of friendship unless the feelings are still there for either party. The reason I say that is because I love being in a strong friendship with a guy before the full on relationship, its too much to give two fingers to.

    Imo, you can never sever a deep friendship, I never have. I hope I've put that across well, I'm still in touch with my exes. No, its not because I think a part of them will always belong to me sexually, its because we've always shared a laugh and theirs a friend that needs me as much as I need them. Sometimes they put your day thats heading down the bowl right back up. I won't appolgise for being friends with an ex for that reason.

    Thats what real friends do imo.
    ok i drunk...unfotunately she was my best friend and the only person i trusted knowing me...that is over...i severed my best friendship and this is twice in a few years, worst years ever.


  • #34
    Tigger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,701 ✭✭✭✭Tigger


    'till my current i've always fb'd my exes


  • #35
    liah
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,750 ✭✭✭liah


    Yup, all of them. They were all serious, long-term relationships. I still talk to each one.

    If any current had a problem with that they'd be out like a shot.


  • #36
    tman
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,339 ✭✭✭✭tman


    Removed one, another one removed me, never bothered adding a load when I left Bebo (ugh!), never even bothered adding a few more in the first place...
    So that leaves 2 who I haven't removed due to having good mutual friends. Never really chat to them, and if I did it would just be innocent banter, so can't see it being an issue for my "other halves"


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  • #37
    Encoder1970
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 117 ✭✭Encoder1970


    Yes
    No


  • #38
    borderlinemeath
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,375 ✭✭✭borderlinemeath


    Red_Marauder wrote: »
    I deleted her from my facebook, and now because her account is public, or because we're friends of friends, I'm not sure, I can still see it.

    So I still check up on her now and again, though I wish I didn't. We only broke up when she went to France and some day I'm gonna see that she's engaged to some sweaty Francois with a beret and a pout and that is gonna be a stinger.

    Just on the old stalking subject, one of my exes that I'm not friends with is always popping up as "add a friend" does this mean they are trying to view my FB?
    They haven't added me as I've never had a request from them and we've only one mutual friend on FB.


  • #39
    SubrbanOblivion
    Closed Accounts Posts: 80 ✭✭SubrbanOblivion


    borderlinemeath wrote: »
    Just on the old stalking subject, one of my exes that I'm not friends with is always popping up as "add a friend" does this mean they are trying to view my FB?
    They haven't added me as I've never had a request from them and we've only one mutual friend on FB.

    No. That way that works is Facebook compares your contacts and suggests people you 'may' know based on your mututal contacts and possibly friends' mutual contacts. It's all rather complicated but has nothing to do with a person's actions, just who you know.


  • #40
    Red_Marauder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,175 ✭✭✭Red_Marauder


    borderlinemeath wrote: »
    Just on the old stalking subject, one of my exes that I'm not friends with is always popping up as "add a friend" does this mean they are trying to view my FB? .
    No, they may be a contact from your email address or else like you said, mutual friends. Don't worry I'm sure you aren't being 'stalked'.


  • #41
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,000 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    Tar.Aldarion wrote: »
    No i removed her recently, weight off.

    Wait - i thought you were a girl ? ....wait laser-beam ???? OMG where's that flirt with thread gone ?!?!!?.....
    minidazzler wrote: »
    Facebook is the single worst thing for relationships since cheating began!

    Look at PI you will see a rake of threads about husbands "emotionally cheating" by talking to exes on FB.
    Major +1. facebook changes the dynamics of relationships and not in a good way. Hence i disabled it.
    Deleted User wrote: »
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7MuwPlOiNQ&eurl=http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055641057&feature=player_embedded

    This says it all really

    genius
    Diabhal Beag wrote: »
    Of course I'm not. Never end a relationship on good terms unfortunately :(
    ditto
    liah wrote: »
    Yup, all of them. They were all serious, long-term relationships. I still talk to each one.

    If any current had a problem with that they'd be out like a shot.

    Ok see this I don't get liah. If you are friends with them and still talk to them. Presumably you would help each other out on occasion with advice/help etc. So if you find a new beau and he doesn't like it, you would discard your ex, who is now your friend - yes ? Why would you cast a friend aside, regardless of your prior history with them, because a new guy is too childish to deal with it ? I've known some girls like this who will ignore their friends in preference for a new guy and it always strieks me as very shortsighted and foolish. And indeed I've been the one cast aside. I can tell you I'd want to hear sincere remorseful apologies before resuming such a friendship if at all. So i'm curious to understand your reasoning if you don't mind to discuss.
    Red_Marauder wrote: »
    No, they may be a contact from your email address or else like you said, mutual friends. Don't worry I'm sure you aren't being 'stalked'.

    She's on stalkbook. of course she is being stalked, by many people.


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  • #42
    geeky
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,380 ✭✭✭geeky


    Emm, well yeah, with the nice ones, though I don't have much interraction with them! And I think so on the latter.


  • #43
    TitoPuente
    Closed Accounts Posts: 549 ✭✭✭TitoPuente


    Still friends with the (recent) ex on Facebook. I ignore her wall posts and don't intend to 'stalk' her until I'm fully over her... at which point I probably won't give a s**t if she's changed her relationship status or not. Simples.


  • #44
    borderlinemeath
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,375 ✭✭✭borderlinemeath


    Red_Marauder wrote: »
    No, they may be a contact from your email address or else like you said, mutual friends. Don't worry I'm sure you aren't being 'stalked'.

    No, he's not in my email a/c and the one mutual friend we have is fairly inactive.
    I always see the same people pop up to add so it's often been a wonder.


  • #45
    copacetic
    Subscribers Posts: 17,215 ✭✭✭✭copacetic


    Jeeez, I though FB stood for something really different. bit of a let down.


  • #46
    kryogen
    Closed Accounts Posts: 25,953 ✭✭✭✭kryogen


    some yes others hells no!


  • #47
    Tar.Aldarion
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,119 Mod ✭✭✭✭Tar.Aldarion


    opinion guy wrote: »
    Wait - i thought you were a girl ? ....wait laser-beam ???? OMG where's that flirt with thread gone ?!?!!?.....

    See sig for lesbian action :pac:


  • #48
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Yep - not all though, obviously.


  • #49
    Tar.Aldarion
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,119 Mod ✭✭✭✭Tar.Aldarion


    Dudess wrote: »
    Yep - not all though, obviously.

    Facebook have a friend limit? :pac:


  • #50
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Are you calling me a slag? :pac:


  • #51
    J.S. Pill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,149 ✭✭✭J.S. Pill


    yeah, why wouldn't I be?


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  • #52
    Tar.Aldarion
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,119 Mod ✭✭✭✭Tar.Aldarion


    Dudess wrote: »
    Are you calling me a slag? :pac:

    innit! Thought it was quite the ice burn! :)


  • #53
    xoxyx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,811 ✭✭✭xoxyx


    opinion guy wrote: »

    Ok see this I don't get liah. If you are friends with them and still talk to them. Presumably you would help each other out on occasion with advice/help etc. So if you find a new beau and he doesn't like it, you would discard your ex, who is now your friend - yes ? Why would you cast a friend aside, regardless of your prior history with them, because a new guy is too childish to deal with it ? I've known some girls like this who will ignore their friends in preference for a new guy and it always strieks me as very shortsighted and foolish. And indeed I've been the one cast aside. I can tell you I'd want to hear sincere remorseful apologies before resuming such a friendship if at all. So i'm curious to understand your reasoning if you don't mind to discuss.

    I think she's saying that the boyfriend would be out of the picture, not her fb friend.


  • #54
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    I've just deleted my ex as a friend on Facebook. I don't know how anybody can get over their ex when they go on to their profile and see who they've been talking to.

    All contact has to be removed imo.


  • #55
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,000 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    Tar.Aldarion wrote: »
    See sig for lesbian action :pac:

    Marry me ? We can avail of tax benefits and i'm cool with you having your girly lovers so long as i can watch/join in ?!?!?! :D;):p


  • #56
    MrsKitka
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16 ✭MrsKitka


    Let me see...

    I have a few ex-lovers and one ex-boyfriend on FB. I get along with all of them. Some are married. Some have kids.

    Am studiously avoiding friend request from another ex (Mr. "Mothball Underwear") because I don't want to know or hear about him. Yuck.

    I'm more concerned with ex-co-workers or school buddies than ex-partners. Who the hell wants someone you knew from high school knowing what you're up to? How about your ex-boss?


  • #57
    Queen-Mise
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,461 ✭✭✭Queen-Mise


    Not a problem for me only had a few long term relationships. And the two of them died, one in a hit-and-run and the other commited suicide a long time ago. My current relationship im in 11 years.

    What was upsetting recently was I got in touch with the brother of one of them on facebook. I heard the details of event around his suicide. Brought up memories of a long time ago.


  • #58
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,000 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    MrsKitka wrote: »
    Let me see...

    I have a few ex-lovers and one ex-boyfriend on FB. I get along with all of them. Some are married. Some have kids.

    Am studiously avoiding friend request from another ex (Mr. "Mothball Underwear") because I don't want to know or hear about him. Yuck.

    I'm more concerned with ex-co-workers or school buddies than ex-partners. Who the hell wants someone you knew from high school knowing what you're up to? How about your ex-boss?
    +1 Yeah I would hate to have my exboss on there
    Queen-Mise wrote: »
    Not a problem for me only had a few long term relationships. And the two of them died, one in a hit-and-run and the other commited suicide a long time ago. My current relationship im in 11 years.

    What was upsetting recently was I got in touch with the brother of one of them on facebook. I heard the details of event around his suicide. Brought up memories of a long time ago.

    God-damn that heavy. Sorrry to hear that


  • #59
    cornbb
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,790 ✭✭✭cornbb


    Yes I am, but why is it worth even asking about.

    A song about some extinct website but I guess the same would go for FB
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jf5Lys19eJY


  • #60
    jenga-jen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 351 ✭✭jenga-jen


    MrsKitka wrote: »
    Mr. "Mothball Underwear"

    Can't imagine why you didn't keep him... :p

    Yeh I really don't think it'd healthy checking up the whole time on the ex, it only makes you hang on to that connection even if you're moving on in this 'real world' I've heard so much about.

    Plus you've the whole psycho sh1t of exes making comments/deliberately posting stuff so you'll see :rolleyes:

    Unless a lot of time has passed and/or you've both come around to being friends then it's run.....run away!!


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  • #61
    toffeearmy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10 ✭toffeearmy


    I don't have ex's just people who have faded away who were in my life for some reason or another , i don't have them on facebook either you cant go forward by living in the past ;)


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