Are you FB friends with your exes?

Voltex

...so are you? and do your current other halves know?

Tar.Aldarion

No i removed her recently, weight off.

Solvo Slep

Voltex wrote: »

and do your current other halves know?

I only have one other half. Where did you learn maths?

minidazzler

Facebook is the single worst thing for relationships since cheating began!

Look at PI you will see a rake of threads about husbands "emotionally cheating" by talking to exes on FB.

But on another semi-related note, FB cyber is the new phone sex.

But basically if someone add's me on facebook and I actually know them IRL (or from boards), I will add them.

I don't have a GF, and don't want one!

angrystudent

Voltex wrote: »

...so are you? and do your current other halves know?

Your going to have to work harder than that to catch us. She's with you now, your obviously the one she wants. I lost you won, now can you please stop being so paro.

xsiborg

i think the OP means do you have issues with moving on when a relationship breaks down and do you e-stalk them on facebook, and if you do, does the person you're with now realise that they could be next?

Solvo Slep

angrystudent wrote: »

Your going to have to work harder than that to catch us. She's with you now, your obviously the one she wants. I lost you won, now can you please stop being so paro.

Wh...what?

R0ot

Who the **** cares? Honestly.

borderlinemeath

Yep, have a couple of "non serious" exes but the "serious exes" (all 2 of them) nope, not friends on facebook or real life.

My other half knows that they're facebook friends, but most of them are married so it's not a big deal.

Voltex

R0ot wrote: »

Who the **** cares? Honestly.

ehhh.....I do...obviously!

DanGlee

Invited, never accepted! Wanted to see if the fat bitch put any more weight on

jenga-jen

Facebook friends with exes only where it ended amicably OR where we subsequently became friendly over time.

The ones I wouldn't spit on if they were on fire? Eh no....

angrystudent

When I seen fb I presumed it was fu@k buddy

TheGod

angrystudent wrote: »

When I seen fb I presumed it was fu@k buddy

Me too. I'm disappointed.

Are you really as angry as people say?

seanwhite20

no from my own exp it doesnt work!tried to stay friends with an ex on fb and it was a disaster.she was writing petty comments about me on her wall so i had to delete her.

TechnoPool

yer

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7MuwPlOiNQ&eurl=http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055641057&feature=player_embedded

This says it all really

appleb

Deleted User wrote: »

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7MuwPlOiNQ&eurl=http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055641057&feature=player_embedded

This says it all really

Brillant! Couldnt have said it better myself

seanwhite20

Deleted User wrote: »

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7MuwPlOiNQ&eurl=http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055641057&feature=player_embedded

This says it all really

Excellent i think this thread could be closed that covers everything!

bonerm

Yes, we seem to have a habit of running into each other about every 2 years for a bit of "snu-snu". Usually in January-time for some strange reason. Try to keep it going but it usually breaks down after a few months.

(haha, just realised you meant "FaceBook", er I was talking about something entirely different!)

Diabhal Beag

Of course I'm not. Never end a relationship on good terms unfortunately

dylano_k

No not FB....atm we BBB's(best bebo buds)...she's the only person on it as much as me as we are both unemployed

cian1500ww

dylano_k wrote: »

No not FB....atm we BBB's(best bebo buds)...she's the only person on it as much as me as we are both unemployed

People still use Bebo :eek:

Rented Mule

Why would you add an ex, when the entire reason Facebook exists is so that you can stalk them ??

Red_Marauder

I deleted her from my facebook, and now because her account is public, or because we're friends of friends, I'm not sure, I can still see it.

So I still check up on her now and again, though I wish I didn't. We only broke up when she went to France and some day I'm gonna see that she's engaged to some sweaty Francois with a beret and a pout and that is gonna be a stinger.

Abi

Red_Marauder wrote: »

I deleted her from my facebook, and now because her account is public, or because we're friends of friends, I'm not sure, I can still see it.

So I still check up on her now and again, though I wish I didn't. We only broke up when she went to France and some day I'm gonna see that she's engaged to some sweaty Francois with a beret and a pout and that is gonna be a stinger.

For your own sake, stop it. Just do it for yourself. You're only putting your life on hold for something that may not happen, you deserve to be happy.


You made me go all PI in AH

hapenny

no chance, not worth the grief!!

Latchy

Red_Marauder wrote: »

I deleted her from my facebook, and now because her account is public, or because we're friends of friends, I'm not sure, I can still see it.

So I still check up on her now and again, though I wish I didn't. We only broke up when she went to France and some day I'm gonna see that she's engaged to some sweaty Francois with a beret and a pout and that is gonna be a stinger.

Just to endorse what Abie said , dont torture yourself like that .

SubrbanOblivion

Nope, exes should stay firmly in the past where they belong

Abi

SubrbanOblivion wrote: »

Nope, exes should stay firmly in the past where they belong

I do and I don't agree with this.

Do - If you don't feel capable of getting beyond it.

Don't - If you've just realised your diffences are too great, but you've always had the best laughs together.

Exes shouldn't mean the end of friendship unless the feelings are still there for either party. The reason I say that is because I love being in a strong friendship with a guy before the full on relationship, its too much to give two fingers to.

Imo, you can never sever a deep friendship, I never have. I hope I've put that across well, I'm still in touch with my exes. No, its not because I think a part of them will always belong to me sexually, its because we've always shared a laugh and theirs a friend that needs me as much as I need them. Sometimes they put your day thats heading down the bowl right back up. I won't appolgise for being friends with an ex for that reason.

Thats what real friends do imo.

Mr Benevolent

Ignore button, ignore button, I saw it here only a second ago.

seanybiker

Dont think I have any exes on facebook. Have some one I rode years back and my missus is always taking the piss cos the one years ago is rank.

Tar.Aldarion

Abigayle wrote: »

I do and I don't agree with this.

Do - If you don't feel capable of getting beyond it.

Don't - If you've just realised your diffences are too great, but you've always had the best laughs together.

Exes shouldn't mean the end of friendship unless the feelings are still there for either party. The reason I say that is because I love being in a strong friendship with a guy before the full on relationship, its too much to give two fingers to.

Imo, you can never sever a deep friendship, I never have. I hope I've put that across well, I'm still in touch with my exes. No, its not because I think a part of them will always belong to me sexually, its because we've always shared a laugh and theirs a friend that needs me as much as I need them. Sometimes they put your day thats heading down the bowl right back up. I won't appolgise for being friends with an ex for that reason.

Thats what real friends do imo.

ok i drunk...unfotunately she was my best friend and the only person i trusted knowing me...that is over...i severed my best friendship and this is twice in a few years, worst years ever.

Tigger

'till my current i've always fb'd my exes

liah

Yup, all of them. They were all serious, long-term relationships. I still talk to each one.

If any current had a problem with that they'd be out like a shot.

tman

Removed one, another one removed me, never bothered adding a load when I left Bebo (ugh!), never even bothered adding a few more in the first place...
So that leaves 2 who I haven't removed due to having good mutual friends. Never really chat to them, and if I did it would just be innocent banter, so can't see it being an issue for my "other halves"

Encoder1970

Yes
No

borderlinemeath

Red_Marauder wrote: »

I deleted her from my facebook, and now because her account is public, or because we're friends of friends, I'm not sure, I can still see it.

So I still check up on her now and again, though I wish I didn't. We only broke up when she went to France and some day I'm gonna see that she's engaged to some sweaty Francois with a beret and a pout and that is gonna be a stinger.

Just on the old stalking subject, one of my exes that I'm not friends with is always popping up as "add a friend" does this mean they are trying to view my FB?
They haven't added me as I've never had a request from them and we've only one mutual friend on FB.

SubrbanOblivion

borderlinemeath wrote: »

Just on the old stalking subject, one of my exes that I'm not friends with is always popping up as "add a friend" does this mean they are trying to view my FB?
They haven't added me as I've never had a request from them and we've only one mutual friend on FB.

No. That way that works is Facebook compares your contacts and suggests people you 'may' know based on your mututal contacts and possibly friends' mutual contacts. It's all rather complicated but has nothing to do with a person's actions, just who you know.

Red_Marauder

borderlinemeath wrote: »

Just on the old stalking subject, one of my exes that I'm not friends with is always popping up as "add a friend" does this mean they are trying to view my FB? .

No, they may be a contact from your email address or else like you said, mutual friends. Don't worry I'm sure you aren't being 'stalked'.

opinion guy

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

No i removed her recently, weight off.

Wait - i thought you were a girl ? ....wait laser-beam ???? OMG where's that flirt with thread gone ?!?!!?.....

minidazzler wrote: »

Facebook is the single worst thing for relationships since cheating began!

Look at PI you will see a rake of threads about husbands "emotionally cheating" by talking to exes on FB.

Major +1. facebook changes the dynamics of relationships and not in a good way. Hence i disabled it.

Deleted User wrote: »

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7MuwPlOiNQ&eurl=http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055641057&feature=player_embedded

This says it all really

genius

Diabhal Beag wrote: »

Of course I'm not. Never end a relationship on good terms unfortunately

ditto

liah wrote: »

Yup, all of them. They were all serious, long-term relationships. I still talk to each one.

If any current had a problem with that they'd be out like a shot.

Ok see this I don't get liah. If you are friends with them and still talk to them. Presumably you would help each other out on occasion with advice/help etc. So if you find a new beau and he doesn't like it, you would discard your ex, who is now your friend - yes ? Why would you cast a friend aside, regardless of your prior history with them, because a new guy is too childish to deal with it ? I've known some girls like this who will ignore their friends in preference for a new guy and it always strieks me as very shortsighted and foolish. And indeed I've been the one cast aside. I can tell you I'd want to hear sincere remorseful apologies before resuming such a friendship if at all. So i'm curious to understand your reasoning if you don't mind to discuss.

Red_Marauder wrote: »

No, they may be a contact from your email address or else like you said, mutual friends. Don't worry I'm sure you aren't being 'stalked'.

She's on stalkbook. of course she is being stalked, by many people.

geeky

Emm, well yeah, with the nice ones, though I don't have much interraction with them! And I think so on the latter.

TitoPuente

Still friends with the (recent) ex on Facebook. I ignore her wall posts and don't intend to 'stalk' her until I'm fully over her... at which point I probably won't give a s**t if she's changed her relationship status or not. Simples.

borderlinemeath

Red_Marauder wrote: »

No, they may be a contact from your email address or else like you said, mutual friends. Don't worry I'm sure you aren't being 'stalked'.

No, he's not in my email a/c and the one mutual friend we have is fairly inactive.
I always see the same people pop up to add so it's often been a wonder.

copacetic

Jeeez, I though FB stood for something really different. bit of a let down.

kryogen

some yes others hells no!

Tar.Aldarion

opinion guy wrote: »

Wait - i thought you were a girl ? ....wait laser-beam ???? OMG where's that flirt with thread gone ?!?!!?.....

See sig for lesbian action :pac:

Dudess

Yep - not all though, obviously.

Tar.Aldarion

Dudess wrote: »

Yep - not all though, obviously.

Facebook have a friend limit? :pac:

Dudess

Are you calling me a slag? :pac:

J.S. Pill

yeah, why wouldn't I be?