taking a girl to a wedding?

BackfromtheNed wrote: »

Would never take a girl to a wedding unless we were either together a couple of months or if she knew some of the people going,otherwise you are left baby sitting for the night,screw that.

Besides,why would you bring an apple to an orchard?

Babysitting her? Eh yes because us girls are too scared to talk to anyone... please don't leave me backfromfromthened there are strangers here! :rolleyes:

Don't listen to the crap, I've gone to weddings with just friends and boyfriends I haven't been with that long and we had great craic. Yes people will assume your together but what of it you know your just friends. Bring her along if you think you'll have a bit of craic with her.

leahyl wrote: »

Yes well it's actually not that i'm going to a wedding with someone - rather that i found out recently that a guy i like (and have like for some time) has a girlfriend for a few months and recently brought her to a wedding with him which has me panicking of course thinking my chance is gone.....he's my brothers friend btw. So that's why i'm asking all these questions about taking girls to weddings lol!:)

Ahhh lol, well if they are going out there isn't much you can do. :-/
They went as a couple but that doesn't mean they are going to go get married!

leahyl wrote: »

I know - i'm pretty devastated though cos was at a wedding that he was at about a year and a half ago and we got on really well but nothing came of it....maybe because my brothers other friend was coming onto me and he didn't want to make a move. Have another wedding in June now that he will be at and just hoping that he still won't be with her!

Ah girl you should have gone for it then. Hmm we need to come up with a plan...!

leahyl wrote: »

LOL you sound like my friend!
At the wedding i actually thought he may have liked me esp when he said, casually, "you should come out with us some night" (as in him and my brother and friends) or maybe he was just being nice. And then he bought me a drink even though i said i was ok (i should have just said yes thanks!). Oh i don't know i'm overanalysing methinks:) Driving me nuts though - the thought of him with someone else:mad: Never thought i'd react like this!!

Lol your friend is a genius, great minds think alike!

Well all you can do is wait and see unfortunately, maybe because your his friends sister he didn't make a move. Don't boys have that silly don't touch my sister rule or something like that?!

leahyl wrote: »

Yes i know - stupid rule! I'd find it awkward too tbh! My brother is completely oblivious - has no idea i like his friend! And i've liked him for a LOOOONG time! My mum was saying mayb i should just tell my brother but i can't imagine how he would react

Is it still really taboo - dating your friends sister??!

My mum says that plenty of guys have married their friends sisters!!

Well that's how my parents met, and other couples I know. I would say it to your brother though, maybe not yet but if anything were to happen or could happen I think he would be happier if you approached him and told him than just finding out.

I have a sister (20) and some of my mates joke about her, joking is fine doesn't bother me I tell them I'd kill them etc but if any of them wanted to genuinely ask her out I wouldn'y mind I would prefer if they just said listen I really like her and I'm going to ask her out.

BackfromtheNed wrote: »

Ive seen it and been there.Bring someone to a wedding that doesnt know anyone else there then I would feel obliged to spend most of the night with her,particularly if you are a couple.

Someone brings you to say a family wedding would you want your "date" to leave you off for the night?

Maybe you would be an awful lot of people wouldnt,I know if I was in that situation I wouldnt appreciate it,as far as Im concerned its bad manners.

Of course I wouldn't want him to leave me for the night no, but it doesn't mean he would have to be stuck with me for the night either.

If the girl doesn't have the confidence to speak to people around her then yes that will make things awkward and I can understand why you would feel obliged but surely before you ask the girl to come you would know this about her. It would be bad manners to feic off for the night on her yes, but it would be bad manners imo for her to expect you not to mingle with family and friends also.

BackfromtheNed wrote: »

If they are just mates that are going for the sake of going and didnt know any of the other attendees why would you bother?

You don't have to be dating someone to know what they are like. I have plenty of male mates that I get on well with and if they had a +1 and noone to go why wouldn't they ask a female friend to go!

I'll agree to disagree!