Would you ever admit another man is attractive?

krudler · 13-01-2010 07:48PM #1

Well? I'm not gay, have no desire to be with another man, but why is seen as so wrong that men cant say another guy is attractive? women can say another woman is beautiful without being labelled a lesbian, but say you thought some celebrity was a good looking guy and your average group of males would instantly call you gay, there's plenty of actors or whoever that I could look at and think "christ thats a good looking man" without feeling threatened in my own sexuality, so lads, are you man enough to say you'd find another man attractive?

MagicMarker · 13-01-2010 07:49PM

Yes.

sam34 · 13-01-2010 07:57PM

i'm a girl, and i've only ever heard one straight man admit he thought another fella was attractive. the guy he was on about is f*cking gorgeous, and my mate said "now, i'm not gay, but if i was..." followed by a wistful sigh

women say it all the time, and i've often heard women have conversations about which female celeb theyd sleep with if they had to pick one- cant imagine lads having that conversation

Dr Galen · 13-01-2010 08:05PM

i have no issue with it and have said it about normal blokes on occasion, not just the actors etc that your talking about.

I'm comfortable in my own sexuality and really don't feel threatened by this sort of thing. Some people (both male and female) just don't notice these things though, so I don't think we could label every guy/girl who doesn't do this necesarily out of touch or phobic.

minidazzler · 13-01-2010 08:14PM

I would and I do. I can see the attraction.

Kaizer Sosa · 13-01-2010 08:16PM

I can definitely appreciate if a man is good looking or not but I'd be wary of expressing it because of that whole "are you gay or what" thing. I'd often phrase things like "He doesn't have problems with the women cos he's a handsome fu*ker". It almost sounds like I'm begrudging his handsomness therefore hopefully not leaving myself open for the gay jibes.

I hear ridiculous things sometimes like girls asking guys is Joe Bloggs "a good looking guy" etc etc and guys replying "I wouldn't know". Of course they know. They just can't admit to it for fear.

m83 · 13-01-2010 08:51PM

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Have you read the charter? Less of the nonsense posting please

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MM

humberklog · 13-01-2010 08:51PM

No problem, I was even giving the young buck Kirk Mccamberly (?) the second look the other night and I'm straight. Very handsome chap.

krudler · 13-01-2010 08:59PM

Kaizer Sosa wrote: »

I can definitely appreciate if a man is good looking or not but I'd be wary of expressing it because of that whole "are you gay or what" thing. I'd often phrase things like "He doesn't have problems with the women cos he's a handsome fu*ker". It almost sounds like I'm begrudging his handsomness therefore hopefully not leaving myself open for the gay jibes.

I hear ridiculous things sometimes like girls asking guys is Joe Bloggs "a good looking guy" etc etc and guys replying "I wouldn't know". Of course they know. They just can't admit to it for fear.

Thats exactly what I mean, "sure i wouldnt know what a good lookin fella is" is something I've heard friends of mine say, its not hard surely?

Monkeybonkers · 13-01-2010 09:10PM

Of course. Probably only if I was asked though or to my friends. I wouldn't go around all the time pointing out handsome fellows willy nilly (as the saying goes)

Wibbs · 13-01-2010 09:34PM

It depends on the guy too. I mean I can tell if a man is good looking if he's an extreme. I think I can tell with everyday men, but from what I gather from women, I really can't. Apparently Ive no taste

. But regardless I wouldnt have any issue saying I think x or y bloke is a handsome man.

BumbleB · 13-01-2010 09:38PM

I mean what the big deal about it ?.Its from an aesthetic point of view, rather than an emotional p.o.v .

Mackman · 14-01-2010 03:14AM

I wouldnt just say it out of the blue. It wouldnt even occur to me to say "he's a handsome chap!", because its not something i notice. but if someone asked me if i thought a guy was handsome, i would give an honest answer

Teferi · 14-01-2010 03:34AM

Yep. Absolutely no problem with it. I can appreciate if a man is attractive and discuss it with my girlfriend, female mates and gay mates. For some reason my straight mates don't regularly discuss attractive males (go figure...) but I wouldn't be afraid to discuss it with them.

Bottle_of_Smoke · 14-01-2010 03:35AM

Can tell most of the time. I think men have evolved to know what's attractive to a woman so they can tell who's competition and who isn't

CDfm · 14-01-2010 06:39AM

I dont see why not, I told a male friend recently that he is good looking as he was nervous about asking someone out. He is.

c - 13 · 14-01-2010 07:06AM

No problem admitting if a man is attractive or not, this has shocked a few female friends when I chimed in with my opinion when they're discussing a celebrity or something.

I dont see any problem with it either, seems to disturb a lot of lads though, as if they think if you admit a lad is handsome you'll immediately feel compelled to try jump his bones.

OldGoat · 14-01-2010 09:24AM

Like the majority here I've no problem pointing out attractive men. I've long since grow out of the schoolyard mentality of 'teh ghay'.
I'm constantly amused at the doubletakes I get for doing it.

Otis Driftwood · 14-01-2010 09:29AM

Same as the rest.Just because you can appreciate that a person is attractive doesnt mean you fancy them.I know alot of attractive women but dont fancy em,pretty much the same difference IMO.

scoopmine · 15-01-2010 09:17PM

Yep not a problem saying she a chap is good looking any1 who goes thats gay is abit childish I think!

The_Kew_Tour · 15-01-2010 09:26PM

I have no problem with saying that another bloke is good looking one bit.

Lucky for me my mates are open enough about it too. Yes soemtimes we might say few joke remarks about "I bet you do with a

" but its all good nature and no offensive is taken as we know that in all our minds must guys we say are attractive must my mates agree.

I have even said it too few my mates and one or two have mentioned it back.

I think slowly it is becoming acceptable. it should never have to be issue in first place but thats strange world we live in.

DazMarz · 16-01-2010 03:49AM

Mystik Monkey wrote: »

i have no issue with it and have said it about normal blokes on occasion, not just the actors etc that your talking about.

I'm comfortable in my own sexuality and really don't feel threatened by this sort of thing. Some people (both male and female) just don't notice these things though, so I don't think we could label every guy/girl who doesn't do this necesarily out of touch or phobic.

Yep, same here. I've no problem saying whether I think a certain bloke is good looking.

Even if this leads to shouts of ''Whoooooaaa, ya big queer/quare ya!'':mad:

This shout would also come from a bunch of lads that I hang out with, who when they are on drunken nights out cannot seem to help but deeply kiss and hug each other. I have never partaken of this, and don't intend to either!!!:D

Johnny Utah · 17-01-2010 10:12PM

Tbh, I'd only class a tiny percentage of people (either men or women) as 'good-looking'. Even a lot of actors/celebrities wouldn't be considered good looking imo.

LD 50 · 17-01-2010 11:04PM

Used to do it the whole time around when 300 came out. Now, I'm not gay(just to clarify) but they were some perfectly formed man abs.
Don't do it as much these days. I think its fairly normal for someone who's comfortable with the people they're with to say it, and comfortable with themselves sexually.

grenache · 18-01-2010 02:04AM

i have no issue whatsoever with admitting that another man is good-looking. I've done it before in front of male friends/work colleagues and if they come out with something retarded like ''that's so gay'', i just say no its just a guy who's comfortable in his own sexuality, unlike others who are obviously insecure.

gamblitis · 18-01-2010 06:15AM

grenache wrote: »

I've done it before in front of male friends/work colleagues and if they come out with something retarded like ''that's so gay'',

That is so childish! Its been suggested and tested that "homophobes" actually show a higher arousal reaction than open minded people who do not judge people by their sexual orientation when shown images of homosexual porn. I think they are trying to hide something. :P

i just say no its just a guy who's comfortable in his own sexuality, unlike others who are obviously insecure.

This I completely agree with.

I digress, back on topic. Yes if they guy is good looking I would def complement him on it. I do very often in fact as I seem to have found myself surrounded by a lot of good looking male friends! Pity it didn't rub off. :pac:

It shows maturity, open mindedness and comfort with ones sexuality to be able to say such things. And everyone loves being complemented. I think we should do it more often.

You're all cracking!

OldGoat · 18-01-2010 09:31AM

gamblitis wrote: »

Its been suggested and tested that "homophobes" actually show a higher arousal reaction than open minded people who do not judge people by their sexual orientation when shown images of homosexual porn.

I've heard this type of thing being bandied about for as long as I can remember - If you protest against homosexuality you must be Gay. Balderdash and hogwash as far as I'm concerned.
If anyone does have access or a link to a study of where this has been tested I'd be really interested.
Kinda back on thread but the other side of the coin, does anyone get a tad uneasy when a bloke complements you on how you look?

gamblitis · 18-01-2010 04:25PM

OldGoat wrote: »

I've heard this type of thing being bandied about for as long as I can remember - If you protest against homosexuality you must be Gay. Balderdash and hogwash as far as I'm concerned.
If anyone does have access or a link to a study of where this has been tested I'd be really interested.

Just did a little browsing there and found this video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cy-7AoxFEJA

Seems to suggest it's a little more than hogwash. Worth looking into. Wouldn't mind finding more info on it.

OldGoat wrote: »

Kinda back on thread but the other side of the coin, does anyone get a tad uneasy when a bloke complements you on how you look?

I'm open to compliments from anyone. I would have been a little uneasy in my early teen years but I've grown up and my maturity levels have shot through the roof!

Columbia · 18-01-2010 04:29PM

No problem with it. My girlfriend and I have very different tastes in guys

cowzerp · 18-01-2010 04:29PM

If i was asked did i think a lad was good looking and he was i'd say yes, if he was'nt i would'nt-Does not make a man gay!!!

Funny that people might think it does..

Dr Galen · 18-01-2010 07:16PM

OldGoat wrote: »

Kinda back on thread but the other side of the coin, does anyone get a tad uneasy when a bloke complements you on how you look?

absolutely not.

I've several gay men as mates, and have been in many a "gay-bar" in my time. I've had men chat me up (unsuccessfully - sorry lads

) and been compliemented by either my mates, or their mates etc etc. I nearly find it a higher form of compliment than one from a lady. I'm not sure why I think like that though, maybe its because I've seen/hung out with a group of gay men who could at times be very bitchy, and who I know are picky so and so's

From a straight mate point of view, I have one mate, who has more than average man interest in fashion, looking good etc. He'll often pass comment on things. Mainly items of clothing etc.

Either way, I'll take compliments from anyone! More the merrier!

Would you ever admit another man is attractive?

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