Lads view on texting a girl

LegacyUser · 23-12-2009 09:41PM #1

Hi Lads,
Have a quick question for you about lads view on the rules of texting/dating!!!

Met a fab guy at the weekend, we appeared to completely hit it off (all quiet intense), he asked me to catch up with him this week to which I said I would. So we swapped numbers and he said that he'd text. Had a the most fab snog and said good night!

So next morning, true to his word he text, swapped a few texts, had a laugh and a bit of banter. On Sunday again we swapped a few texts ( I intiated initial conversation).

So the thing is.....i haven't heard from him since, I don't want to appear childish, but I don't want to text him again, for fear that he's not interested and take I make myself look like a fool.

Am thinking, that if was as interested as he appeared at the weekend, he would text again? What ye think!!?? I now its only Wednesday but how long would you wait to tet a girl again if interested?

OldGoat · 23-12-2009 10:15PM

It's Christmas. He's busy. Text him. Wish him a happy christmas. He'll either get back to you or he won't.

P.C. · 23-12-2009 11:27PM

OldGoat wrote: »

It's Christmas. He's busy. Text him. Wish him a happy christmas. He'll either get back to you or he won't.

Good advice there - just send him a text to say you hope he has a great Christmas, that kind of thing.

I am dreadfull at replying to text messages.
If I get a text while I am at work, I will read it, and then think to myself - 'I will reply to that later' - a week later I will still be thinking the same thing.

Dr Galen · 24-12-2009 12:19AM

text him!!!!!!!!

omb0wyn5ehpij9 · 24-12-2009 12:25AM

Just text the guy, if he doesn't reply, so what! No skin off your nose! It's only a text, you have nothing to lose!

D.R cowboy · 24-12-2009 04:13AM

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He will text you on christmas day trust me

Fajitas! · 24-12-2009 05:34AM

Do the whole wishing a happy festive whatever thing. When things die down, see what happens. Don't think too much about it, it'll do either of you no good.

LegacyUser · 24-12-2009 05:43AM

Thanks lads, but seriosusly do I not make myself look like a bit of a pathethic fool? or am I just paranoid? He knows people I know, so I'm afraid of looking like a fool? Yee lads are hard to figure out!!!

lee_ · 24-12-2009 06:33AM

Theres no harm in sending him a text, but If he really really likes you hell text either way.
He might be playing silly games or could have lost his phone.
If you really think he likes you wait a week and see what happens.
Its silly and ridiculous the games that boys and girls play..

CDfm · 24-12-2009 09:17AM

Call him to wish him a happy christmas and ask him what he is doing for xmas.Text swapping goes nowhere.

Snowie · 24-12-2009 11:57AM

dont build your self up for dissapointment. first of yeah every one wants to meet some one but there's wanting it to much, and being able to cool of... in words.

It could be that yeah he does like you and is playing cool,
He could be really busy.

either way all good.

Wish him a happy christmas :cool:

cocoa · 24-12-2009 01:40PM

If you want to text him, text him. Playing mind games and trying to second guess what someone else is thinking based on ridiculously insubstantial evidence will only make grief for both of you. There are a buh-zillion (somewhere between ten squillion and a frillion) reasons why he might not text, one of which is he's just not interested, but to assume that's the reason is to ignore all the other possible ones!

In particular, wouldn't it be tragic if you were both trying to gauge the others interest by waiting to see when they texted? You'd both be wrong, and you'd both lose out as a result. Just text him, at the very least you'll then know where you stand instead of guessing

fullback4glin · 24-12-2009 01:50PM

I def think you should wait till christmas day to text him and just wish him merry xmas like the posters said above, chances are he won't be as busy then (if thats the reason)

G-Money · 24-12-2009 02:38PM

If I'm into a girl, I love it when she texts me. Usually because I want to text her and I feel like I have to hold back otherwise I'll be coming on too strong or something.

Plus if I'm into her and she initiates contact with me it makes me feel good and makes me feel like she's interested.

targus · 24-12-2009 03:31PM

just text him something like"thought I'd get in first and wish tou a happy xmas"..i wouldnt wait til tomorrow...you'll know then whether he's interested..good luck.

The-Game · 24-12-2009 08:54PM

grandmaster hit it right there, from OPs original post on the first encounter he definitely sounds interested so OP i highly doubt youd be making a fool of yourself if you text him. Just watch that if he doesnt reply you dont bombard him with tons of texts in the meantime!

chrisr001 · 24-12-2009 08:59PM

get over him and live your life, that's what I say,
but I'm only joking,
gotta make your own mind up unfortunately,
you have to kiss thousands of frogs before you find a prince!

24-12-2009 09:35PM

Your never too busy to text someone you really like.

chrisr001 · 24-12-2009 09:40PM

text away,
if he turns out to be a decent bloke, you'll find out.
If you're afraid he might be a gob****e, don't be!
better to know for sure.

mrDerek · 24-12-2009 10:52PM

mix it up a lil send him a pic of the goodies

that might catch his attention

rizzee · 25-12-2009 01:04AM

girl-arse - feck

Snowie · 25-12-2009 03:06AM

Moonbaby wrote: »

Your never too busy to text someone you really like.

I'd like to agree with this but im crap at multi tasking

speedboatchase · 25-12-2009 03:59AM

I love how girls think we're difficult to figure out - if he texts you back, he wants to have sex with you, if he doesn't, he doesn't. Simple

robbie_998 · 25-12-2009 04:01AM

usually "what kind of underwear are you wearing ?" will do the trick

even for a bloke !

speedboatchase · 25-12-2009 04:07AM

Or just end every sentence with "in my pants" - that would do it for me. "Ya I've a degree in Arts - in my pants". F*** YEAH

LegacyUser · 25-12-2009 04:15AM

Guys are very conscious that appearing too eager can be a big turnoff so they don't like to text right away. If I'm interested in a girl I will sometimes give it a while before I start texting again, lest she think I'm clingy. So text him yourself so he knows you want him to.

Point #2: It's Christmas Eve and tomorrow will be Christmas Day. Maybe wait until the day after Stephen's or Stephen's day evening because he's probably busy with family stuff and what not for the next few days.

The-Game · 26-12-2009 03:43AM

speedboatchase wrote: »

I love how girls think we're difficult to figure out - if he texts you back, he wants to have sex with you, if he doesn't, he doesn't. Simple

You simply cannot break it down any more then that!

Dave147 · 26-12-2009 03:46AM

Moonbaby wrote: »

Your never too busy to text someone you really like.

Absolute nail on the head. When I first started going out with my gf I texted back always within the hour. If you really like them you will text back..

CDfm · 26-12-2009 03:53AM

I will never understand this. Pick up the and ring him and ask him if he wants to meet up.

It really is that simple - what you are afraid of his him saying no but even if that happens you are in the same sitation that you are in now.

Mimikyu · 26-12-2009 03:59AM

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anonymous_joe · 26-12-2009 04:06AM

speedboatchase wrote: »

I love how girls think we're difficult to figure out - if he texts you back, he wants to have sex with you, if he doesn't, he doesn't. Simple

Not always true.

A mate of mine as a point of principle won't reply to more than half the texts a girl sends him because he's afraid of seeming too eager. I know other people with similar attitudes.

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