Lads view on texting a girl

LegacyUser

Hi Lads,
Have a quick question for you about lads view on the rules of texting/dating!!!

Met a fab guy at the weekend, we appeared to completely hit it off (all quiet intense), he asked me to catch up with him this week to which I said I would. So we swapped numbers and he said that he'd text. Had a the most fab snog and said good night!

So next morning, true to his word he text, swapped a few texts, had a laugh and a bit of banter. On Sunday again we swapped a few texts ( I intiated initial conversation).

So the thing is.....i haven't heard from him since, I don't want to appear childish, but I don't want to text him again, for fear that he's not interested and take I make myself look like a fool.

Am thinking, that if was as interested as he appeared at the weekend, he would text again? What ye think!!?? I now its only Wednesday but how long would you wait to tet a girl again if interested?

OldGoat

It's Christmas. He's busy. Text him. Wish him a happy christmas. He'll either get back to you or he won't.

P.C.

OldGoat wrote: »

It's Christmas. He's busy. Text him. Wish him a happy christmas. He'll either get back to you or he won't.

Good advice there - just send him a text to say you hope he has a great Christmas, that kind of thing.

I am dreadfull at replying to text messages.
If I get a text while I am at work, I will read it, and then think to myself - 'I will reply to that later' - a week later I will still be thinking the same thing.

Dr Galen

text him!!!!!!!!

omb0wyn5ehpij9

Just text the guy, if he doesn't reply, so what! No skin off your nose! It's only a text, you have nothing to lose!

D.R cowboy

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He will text you on christmas day trust me

Fajitas!

Do the whole wishing a happy festive whatever thing. When things die down, see what happens. Don't think too much about it, it'll do either of you no good.

LegacyUser

Thanks lads, but seriosusly do I not make myself look like a bit of a pathethic fool? or am I just paranoid? He knows people I know, so I'm afraid of looking like a fool? Yee lads are hard to figure out!!!

lee_

Theres no harm in sending him a text, but If he really really likes you hell text either way.
He might be playing silly games or could have lost his phone.
If you really think he likes you wait a week and see what happens.
Its silly and ridiculous the games that boys and girls play..

CDfm

Call him to wish him a happy christmas and ask him what he is doing for xmas.Text swapping goes nowhere.

Snowie

dont build your self up for dissapointment. first of yeah every one wants to meet some one but there's wanting it to much, and being able to cool of... in words.

It could be that yeah he does like you and is playing cool,
He could be really busy.

either way all good.

Wish him a happy christmas :cool:

cocoa

If you want to text him, text him. Playing mind games and trying to second guess what someone else is thinking based on ridiculously insubstantial evidence will only make grief for both of you. There are a buh-zillion (somewhere between ten squillion and a frillion) reasons why he might not text, one of which is he's just not interested, but to assume that's the reason is to ignore all the other possible ones!

In particular, wouldn't it be tragic if you were both trying to gauge the others interest by waiting to see when they texted? You'd both be wrong, and you'd both lose out as a result. Just text him, at the very least you'll then know where you stand instead of guessing

fullback4glin

I def think you should wait till christmas day to text him and just wish him merry xmas like the posters said above, chances are he won't be as busy then (if thats the reason)

G-Money

If I'm into a girl, I love it when she texts me. Usually because I want to text her and I feel like I have to hold back otherwise I'll be coming on too strong or something.

Plus if I'm into her and she initiates contact with me it makes me feel good and makes me feel like she's interested.

targus

just text him something like"thought I'd get in first and wish tou a happy xmas"..i wouldnt wait til tomorrow...you'll know then whether he's interested..good luck.

The-Game

grandmaster hit it right there, from OPs original post on the first encounter he definitely sounds interested so OP i highly doubt youd be making a fool of yourself if you text him. Just watch that if he doesnt reply you dont bombard him with tons of texts in the meantime!

chrisr001

get over him and live your life, that's what I say,
but I'm only joking,
gotta make your own mind up unfortunately,
you have to kiss thousands of frogs before you find a prince!

Your never too busy to text someone you really like.

chrisr001

text away,
if he turns out to be a decent bloke, you'll find out.
If you're afraid he might be a gob****e, don't be!
better to know for sure.

mrDerek

mix it up a lil send him a pic of the goodies that might catch his attention

rizzee

girl-arse - feck

Snowie

Moonbaby wrote: »

Your never too busy to text someone you really like.

I'd like to agree with this but im crap at multi tasking

speedboatchase

I love how girls think we're difficult to figure out - if he texts you back, he wants to have sex with you, if he doesn't, he doesn't. Simple

robbie_998

usually "what kind of underwear are you wearing ?" will do the trick



even for a bloke !

speedboatchase

Or just end every sentence with "in my pants" - that would do it for me. "Ya I've a degree in Arts - in my pants". F*** YEAH

LegacyUser

Guys are very conscious that appearing too eager can be a big turnoff so they don't like to text right away. If I'm interested in a girl I will sometimes give it a while before I start texting again, lest she think I'm clingy. So text him yourself so he knows you want him to.

Point #2: It's Christmas Eve and tomorrow will be Christmas Day. Maybe wait until the day after Stephen's or Stephen's day evening because he's probably busy with family stuff and what not for the next few days.

The-Game

speedboatchase wrote: »

I love how girls think we're difficult to figure out - if he texts you back, he wants to have sex with you, if he doesn't, he doesn't. Simple

You simply cannot break it down any more then that!

Dave147

Moonbaby wrote: »

Your never too busy to text someone you really like.

Absolute nail on the head. When I first started going out with my gf I texted back always within the hour. If you really like them you will text back..

CDfm

I will never understand this. Pick up the and ring him and ask him if he wants to meet up.

It really is that simple - what you are afraid of his him saying no but even if that happens you are in the same sitation that you are in now.

Mimikyu

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anonymous_joe

speedboatchase wrote: »

I love how girls think we're difficult to figure out - if he texts you back, he wants to have sex with you, if he doesn't, he doesn't. Simple

Not always true.

A mate of mine as a point of principle won't reply to more than half the texts a girl sends him because he's afraid of seeming too eager. I know other people with similar attitudes.

Magic Eight Ball

anonymous_joe wrote: »

A mate of mine as a point of principle won't reply to more than half the texts a girl sends him because he's afraid of seeming too eager. I know other people with similar attitudes.

That's just ridiculous! If she's texting it's because she's interested. How does having the courtesy to reply to a text seem eager?

cork1

bellorina wrote: »

Thanks lads, but seriosusly do I not make myself look like a bit of a pathethic fool? or am I just paranoid? He knows people I know, so I'm afraid of looking like a fool? Yee lads are hard to figure out!!!

the funny part is he is probably saying the same thing!!

chrisr001

There are all kinds,
hard to get types,
eager types,
afraid to be hurt types,
do anything for a score types,

which type do you like?

you're in the dark,
gotta switch on some light.

CDfm

Trevor Coulahan wrote: »

That's just ridiculous! If she's texting it's because she's interested. How does having the courtesy to reply to a text seem eager?

I love this thinking and its totally straightforward. Lots of sense.

chrisr001

Suppose there are other girls he's interested in too?
he not might like his comments ending up in the public domain.

CDfm

You meet someone that you are interested in and its over the holidays when people are likely to be free.

Whats so wrong with that as you can only be out with one person at a time.

Do the math.

anonymous_joe

Trevor Coulahan wrote: »

That's just ridiculous! If she's texting it's because she's interested. How does having the courtesy to reply to a text seem eager?

Because some women think a guy whose too attentive is desperate and that's unattractive.

chrisr001

We can't generalise too well when it comes to an individual,
few want to be clones.
They will be who they are,
if they don't text back, only that person is sure why.

LegacyUser

Ok, story goes as follows!!!

Text him yesterday, sweet, sincere and full of XMAS jolly!!! Got a response and swapped a few nice texts.

But still non the wiser!!!!!....is he just stringing me along or is he really interested? Ball is in his court now, I really think that unless he initiates conversation, I cannot be sure if he's really interested?

Oh man......!!!!!

robjones

text him for gods sake if you havent already

i dont think most guys worry about girls being to eager etc - just text him

Black Magic

Well. What's the news? Did he get the Xmas shag or what?

midlandsmissus

I hate texts!

People always get the wrong end of the stick with them.

Similiar story with me, I met a guy I liked last wknd, got on great, swapped numbers.
I haven't texted him all week, and I haven't heard from him all week. I'm not texting him cause I think if he really liked me he'd text me! In fairness it's been a week so he would have texted by now if he was interested.

I met another guy, who texted me straight away, and was very nice.

I think it's true really - if you really like some-one you will text them.

Or maybe he's just flat out busy, you never know. You texted him the last two times so just leave it now and see what he wants. Don't be worrying about it anyway!

cocoa

midlandsmissus wrote: »

Similiar story with me, I met a guy I liked last wknd, got on great, swapped numbers.
I haven't texted him all week, and I haven't heard from him all week. I'm not texting him cause I think if he really liked me he'd text me! In fairness it's been a week so he would have texted by now if he was interested.

In all fairness, it's clear you didn't really like him, or else you would have texted.

midlandsmissus

cocoa wrote: »

In all fairness, it's clear you didn't really like him, or else you would have texted.

See that's where everyone can end up getting the wrong stick with texts! I was waiting for him to text me first.

Bloody texts!

D.R cowboy

This is ridiculous at this stage I would have her tapped up by now what are you playing at!!!!

Colpriz

the 1920's are over..if you like em text em..but keep it light

cocoa

midlandsmissus wrote: »

See that's where everyone can end up getting the wrong stick with texts! I was waiting for him to text me first.

Bloody texts!

That's my point, he could quite plausibly have been doing the same thing, and drawn the same conclusion. And you'd both be right, neither of you was interested enough to drop some silly game or 'test'. But you'd both be wrong, because you both missed out on seeing what might have happened and maybe brightening someone's day with a text, instead of waiting for them to go first.

It's very simple, forget about gauging the other person's interest and concentrate on your own. Do you want to text? Then text. Do you not want to text? Then don't text.

Shane732

bellorina wrote: »

Thanks lads, but seriosusly do I not make myself look like a bit of a pathethic fool? or am I just paranoid? He knows people I know, so I'm afraid of looking like a fool? Yee lads are hard to figure out!!!

It's a text you're not declaring your undying love for him!! You think lads are hard to figure out - girl you have it easy!

Paulegend

bellorina forget him. if he hasnt txt by now he aint worth it. thrust me from all the posts here youd have loads of guys that would be waiting for you to txt them back. thrust me youll meet someone way better. but he will prob turn into a stalker. but then youll mett someone great;)

dRNk SAnTA

Seriously, it's 2010 what is wrong with a girl texting a guy/asking a guy out/proposing marriage!!

I've had girls text me and I never thought twice about it. Only a guy with some sort of mental problem or masculinity/confidence complex would care. And why would you want to go out with someone with such a problem?