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We've all had moments of madness JJ. You've just got to learn from it. It's feels great to build up a big balance but if you don't think you've got control or you feel like you're betting beyond your limit, you've got to take action. I know this is useless to you now but that's the nature of gambling I suppose and at the end of the day, it's only money. Things could be a hell of a lot worse.

If I were you I'd take that remaining balance and go buy your girlfriend somethin nice and give the gambling a break for a while. You'll only be trying to get back to were you were and that's what got you here in the first place.

Tough break though..

i would say that you have a gambling problem and really need to take a look at what you are doing

buddy, I've been there.
Its all about control. I found myself in that scenario about 2 years ago.
Built up and built up and built up on bf and when I felt invincible, BOOM, like a house of cards.
The main step is a backwards one, just to rationalise the whole thing.
If you look at the bets you make to chase losses, and analyse them, you will probably see that you wouldn't have done them if you were up.
The other, bigger reality, although you can't see it now, is that although you went from 2500 to 360 in one day, you'll probably see that over the few months you are actually breaking even (you did say you grew it to 500).
If you did that once, you can do it again.
I now set myself daily or weekly targets and try to meet those. When I do I get out. Its not easy, as you think you are on a roll, and can't lose. But nothing is worse than meeting the target and saying, just one more, which wipes out everything you've made!
I dropped almost everything 4 weeks ago, but based on the 100% outlay that day I am now at 400%, so it can be done, if you can discipline yourself. But its not easy if you have the "urge".

JJ009 wrote: »

Hi,
I'm sitting here in work and I'm totally depressed about this. I don't know how this happened. Worst of all I was snappy to my girlfriend earlier and she thought she did something wrong I woke up this morning contemplating putting another 2k back in to my account.

I'm so upset about this. Had plans to go away in the new year etc, was all going well. What the hell do I do? I honestly cannot focus at all here in work today.

Thanks for reading.

Classic behavior for any gambler, if someone that gambles regularly tells you that this never happened to the they are lying or very early in their gambling life.

You have 2 clear choices....

walk away now and remember this whole experience like some mad trip you went on (some people go skiing, you went mad gambling ), if you stop now consider it as I had that life changing experience and it cost me 2k not bad value over the course of your life, people have wasted money doing worse things. Do not worry about the sickness that will go with time, your betting has only effected you, no children etc.

2nd choice is try and learn from your mistakes improve your methods learn to walk away, some people are successful at doing this and have a healthy and enjoyable life experience with gambling at the centre of all entertainment.
But most gamblers don't learn long term, and you will find yourselve in bother again, this is fine but you will have to put up and shut up about the sick feeling and the highs and lows because they are part and parcel of gambling. The amounts of money mean nothing they are all relative to the persons time of life and circumstances.

My advice for what its worth is do not lodge anymore of your money with betfair, withdraw the €360 (if its still there ) and enjoy yourself along with your girlfriend with it, you don't need to explain anything to anyone its your life.... its supposed to be fun !!!

I gave up serious gambling a few years back - I was up thousands and withdrew alot of it. I was on a roll - I couldnt lose. I won big and lost big but lacked any sort of system. I initally deposited €100 and somehow the balance kept on growing and growing. I dont know how I did it but I did

Later on with my balance bulging I was playing turbo heads up games of poker for up to $1000 and min bets on sports of anything from €100 to €1000

However it affected me in adverse ways. I was playing poker before work and late into the nights. I was contantly thinking about my next gamble or researching horses, soccer teams, even baseball and american football ffs.. :rolleyes:

It was affecting my work, social life etc... So I gave it up more or less. It wasnt worth it.

I now only really gamble during Cheltenham and in a small time betting syndicate (€5 a week). I now enjoy my time relaxing instead of contantly on the edge betting like a maniac.

So if I were you OP I would take a break and see what happens. If you really miss the gambling etc too much; follow a strict system. Only gamble a percentage of your bankroll a day. If you lose that day - dont attempt to recover. the next betting day you can gamble up to the same percentage: eg 3%

JJ009 wrote: »

Thanks am i bovvered. I know it may come across as me feeling sorry for myself but at this moment I cannot think straight and just felt a need to post something here. It's hard when my girlfriend is asking if everything is okay when quite clearly it isn't.

Anyone including me that gives advice on this thread is speaking fron personal experience
There is no problem feeling sh1t at the moment, this is normal, what I was talking about is if you decide to continue gambling in the future, taking the highs and lows together.

For now, a good tool for getting over the bad feelings you have is to change the mind set....... do this......
decide that you have enjoyed the ride, someday in the future, it might be 6 months, 1 year, 5 years from now you will lump on a decent bet, and walk away on top !!!!! but for now your gonna let it go with positive thoughts.

Whether you ever get around to placing that bet nobody knows, as of yet I have not ... its been nearly 3 years.

Hi JJ, I've been there too. Fairplay to you for seeking advice here. No better heads to get advice from.

I would agree that you should take that money out - at least until the bad taste is out of your mouth. Any bets you make with that will be questionable. Take a step back from gambling and ask yourself one question....

Do you trust yourself?

You'll know what to do when you can answer that question honestly.

About telling your girlfriend, I personally wouldn't but it does contribute to a healthy relationship.

All the best mate

JJ009 wrote: »

Hi,

I've set up a new account as I really don't want anyone to know who I am. I cannot believe that I am actually posting this considering my account balance yesterday showed €2500.

It all started a few months ago when I threw some money into my Betfair account. Started off slowly but after a while I built it up to around 500. This soon became 1000 and a few weeks ago it was 2700. But yesterday it all went wrong. I placed a 500 euro bet in the afternoon but this did not work out. Attempting to recover this loss I layed a team at 2.26 for around 600 euro to try and get this back. This team won and I was panicking at this stage. Balance of roughly 1300 and in a desperate attempt to regain some of this I placed 1000 on over 2.5 goals in the Valencia match. Of course it was 0-0 at ht and I bailed out here to leave me with a balance of 700. I then managed to have one more bet that also did not win which left me with a final balance of 360. From 2500 to 360 in the space of 6 hours.

I'm sitting here in work and I'm totally depressed about this. I don't know how this happened. Worst of all I was snappy to my girlfriend earlier and she thought she did something wrong I woke up this morning contemplating putting another 2k back in to my account.

I'm so upset about this. Had plans to go away in the new year etc, was all going well. What the hell do I do? I honestly cannot focus at all here in work today.

Thanks for reading.

you never had the money in the first place..think of it that way..it's like your giving several jellybeans.. lets say 14.. nice round number.. then you find 53 more jellybeans and you add them to your stash.. now a jellybean loving animal comes along one day.. lets say an Angora Rabbit for instance.. and he eats 50 of your jellybeans.. well it was your fault for not putting somewhere safe where the angora cant get them but it doesn't REALLY matter cause you didn't own them in the first place..

i turned 40 euro into 2600 once playing blackjack and blew it all in a matter of minutes.. do i have a gambling problem?? no i do not.. i have a drinking problem.. and if you can direct me towards the right forum for that i would appreciate it v.much.. danke