Is it necessary for a man to be present at his childs birth?

Pighead · 10-09-2009 04:15PM #1

Was in the drawing room sipping brandy with some friends the other night when the subject of childbirth came up. Alice was banging on about how wonderful an occasion it was and how every man should be with their wife as she's about to pop, so they can experience the true miracle of life and to give their loved one encouragement and support.

Pighead told Alice he had no great desire to be in the delivery room and would probably wait outside and watch a bit of telly or have a snooze on a trolley. She was disgusted and called Pighead an inconsiderate oaf and questioned his abilities as a husband/boyfriend/father. Had her escorted off the premises before retiring to the thinking room to have a think about what had just transpired.

What purpose does attending the birth of your child achieve? The mother of your baby is in pain and you can do absolutely nothing about it except stand there and weakly say something like "Don't worry honey, it'll all be worth it". Ok for some men it's nice to see their newborns first breath in this crazy world but surely it's not a necessity.

It's far more important for the mother of the child to be in the delivery room!

Do you plan on being their to see your baby's first gasps of air upon being released into the world?

chin_grin · 10-09-2009 04:17PM

He was there at the beginning wasn't he? Should be there.

Besides you get your techie fix (video cam) and yer blood fix (the other bits!) in one sitting. Or standing and yelling.

tunney · 10-09-2009 04:19PM

Pighead wrote: »

Was in the drawing room sipping brandy with some friends the other night when the subject of childbirth came up. Alice was banging on about how wonderful an occasion it was and how every man should be with their wife as she's about to pop, so they can experience the true miracle of life and to give their loved one encouragement and support.

Pighead told Alice he had no great desire to be in the delivery room and would probably wait outside and watch a bit of telly or have a snooze on a trolley. She was disgusted and called Pighead an inconsiderate oaf and questioned his abilities as a husband/boyfriend/father. Had her escorted off the premises before retiring to the thinking room to have a think about what had just transpired.

What purpose does attending the birth of your child achieve? The mother of your baby is in pain and you can do absolutely nothing about it except stand there and weakly say something like "Don't worry honey, it'll all be worth it". Ok for some men it's nice to see their newborns first breath in this crazy world but surely it's not a necessity.

It's far more important for the mother of the child to be in the delivery room!

Do you plan on being their to see your baby's first gasps of air upon being released into the world?

A well timed "HTFU" might go down well

10-09-2009 04:20PM

Maybe. Depends what's on telly that day.

I was talking to a couple of gynecologists recently.
This topic came up. Neither would think that it is a good idea for the man to be present.
Something about horror, psychological damage and romance.

pikachucheeks · 10-09-2009 04:22PM

You got her up the duff, so you should be there to understand her pain, when she's forcing it out of her.

chin_grin · 10-09-2009 04:23PM

Suppose if you were there and you did video tape it you could then edit the video so it looks like an alien is bursting through. Or the lil un is coming out of a cake. Or stuck in a pipe. The options are endless! Of course when the kid is 18 you have to show it to him, on a projector. In front of all his/her mates.

RonMexico · 10-09-2009 04:24PM

Maybe. Depends what's on telly that day.

I have been traumitized ever since seeing that alien popping out of William Hurts chest. So no.

IvyTheTerrible · 10-09-2009 04:24PM

I'd prefer my mum to be there, at least she would understand the pain!

Or if he had to be in there, he can stay away from the business end of things! :pac:

Pighead · 10-09-2009 04:25PM

Maybe. Depends what's on telly that day.

pikachucheeks wrote: »

You got her up the duff, so you should be there to understand her pain, when she's forcing it out of her.

But how can you understand the pain? It's impossible and whatsmore there's not a thing you can do about it. And when she's suffering this pain surely she's going to be feeling a lot of anger towards you and won't be particularly bothered if you hang around or not.

And so what if you got her up the duff. Doesn't mean you have to attend the birth. As long as you look after the kid that's all that really matters.

wudangclan · 10-09-2009 04:25PM

pikachucheeks wrote: »

You got her up the duff, so you should be there to understand her pain, when she's forcing it out of her.

a little ditty...
...when she's forcing it out of her, after he horsed her out of it...

Bob Z · 10-09-2009 04:27PM

No but he should be thee for the conception at least

K4t · 10-09-2009 04:27PM

Depends on the girl tbh.

Stark · 10-09-2009 04:29PM

Nope, only at conception.

I mean if a man is to continue to think of his wife in a sexy way, he does not need to see her spread eagled with his first born child being squeezed through her special area.

Rob_l · 10-09-2009 04:29PM

Moonbaby wrote: »

I was talking to a couple of gynecologists recently.
This topic came up. Neither would think that it is a good idea for the man to be present.
Something about horror, psychological damage and romance.

and that we will just be in the way we really have no useful purpose there.

pikachucheeks wrote: »

You got her up the duff, so you should be there to understand her pain, when she's forcing it out of her.

But its a natural urge women feel to want to have children surely they dont need men for this finally natural stage of the pregnancy I mean we have done our part some nine months previous to this, so naturally speaking our job is over.

pikachucheeks · 10-09-2009 04:30PM

Pighead wrote: »

But how can you understand the pain? It's impossible and whatsmore there's not a thing you can do about it. And when she's suffering this pain surely she's going to be feeling a lot of anger towards you and won't be particularly bothered if you hang around or not.

And so what if you got her up the duff. Doesn't mean you have to attend the birth. As long as you look after the kid that's all that really matters.

Pikachucheeks was merely joking with Pighead.
:rolleyes:

The woman is going through labour, which is undeniably a hard time in her life. If she wants the father of the child to be in the room, then he should honour her wishes and be there.
My point being, whether or not the father of the child is in the room depends on the mother's wishes.

Pighead · 10-09-2009 04:31PM

Maybe. Depends what's on telly that day.

K4t wrote: »

Depends on the girl tbh.

Elaborate! What do you mean it depends on the girl? Surely it depends on the man! Are you saying that the chances of you seeing your newborn being delivered depends on whether the girl allows you too or not? That's weak K4t if you don't mind Pighead saying.

Scouserfan · 10-09-2009 04:33PM

have been told that it is essential that the man is in the delivery room-if only to deliver the big mac and fries or prawn curry immediately after the other delivery:)

ejmaztec · 10-09-2009 04:33PM

The medics don't appreciate the proud father giving birth to the contents of his stomach during the procedure.:eek:

Latchy · 10-09-2009 04:33PM

No not necessary but if you dont or cant attend the birth of your child ,you'll be missing out on something very important which is amazing to be at .

Stark · 10-09-2009 04:34PM

Pighead wrote: »

Elaborate! What do you mean it depends on the girl? Surely it depends on the man! Are you saying that the chances of you seeing your newborn being delivered depends on whether the girl allows you too or not? That's weak K4t if you don't mind Pighead saying.

The reasoning process in the male brain is quite simple really. It boils down to:

Woman asks man to do something. Man asks is she hot. If answer is yes, then he does it. If answer is no, then he finds an excuse not to.

Latchy wrote:

No not necessary but if you dont or cant attend the birth of your child ,you'll be missing out on something very important which is amazing to be at .

There is nothing more special and amazing in this world than a post birth queef.

R0ot · 10-09-2009 04:37PM

No chance. Will leave it to the experts.

I'll be at the birth of mine on the 28th of February

K4t · 10-09-2009 04:37PM

Pighead wrote: »

Elaborate! What do you mean it depends on the girl? Surely it depends on the man! Are you saying that the chances of you seeing your newborn being delivered depends on whether the girl allows you too or not? That's weak K4t if you don't mind Pighead saying.

No, it depends on whether she's hot or not.

Pighead · 10-09-2009 04:38PM

Maybe. Depends what's on telly that day.

pikachucheeks wrote: »

Pikachucheeks was merely joking with Pighead.
:rolleyes:

The woman is going through labour, which is undeniably a hard time in her life. If she wants the father of the child to be in the room, then he should honour her wishes and be there.
My point being, whether or not the father of the child is in the room depends on the mother's wishes.

It could also be said that, whether or not the father is in the room depends on the fathers wishes. If the pains as bad as women make out then surely they'll be oblivious to the fact the dads not there anyway.

ejmaztec · 10-09-2009 04:39PM

Latchy wrote: »

No not necessary but if you dont or cant attend the birth of your child ,you'll be missing out on something very important which is amazing to be at .

And you also get to use the branding iron with the family crest, so that there's no baby-swap problem in years to come.

Latchy · 10-09-2009 04:40PM

Stark wrote: »

There is nothing more special and amazing in this world than a post birth queef.

Indeed , actualy I seem to recall the smell was like fresh liver

ejmaztec wrote: »

And you also get to use the branding iron with the family crest, so that there's no baby-swap problem in years to come.

Dont ya just love tecnology

Pighead · 10-09-2009 04:42PM

Maybe. Depends what's on telly that day.

Latchy wrote: »

No not necessary but if you dont or cant attend the birth of your child ,you'll be missing out on something very important which is amazing to be at .

Ah c'mon Latchy. It can't be that amazing. Basically it's a lump of flesh squeezing through a hole which is a tad on the smallish side for such an activity. Pighead remembers seeing a calf being pulled out of his mothers insides. Ok, it was something different and it was kinda comical seeing the newborn calf trying to stand up before falling over again and again but it was by no stretch "amazing".

Washout · 10-09-2009 04:42PM

I tried and failed to be present twice...both times she ws carted away from me for caesarians.

*phew*

pikachucheeks · 10-09-2009 04:43PM

Pighead wrote: »

It could also be said that, whether or not the father is in the room depends on the fathers wishes. If the pains as bad as women make out then surely they'll be oblivious to the fact the dads not there anyway.

Childbirth is a natural thing. What reason could the father have for not wanting to be there? He's witnessing the birth of his own child.

Yes, there's going to be blood and screaming, but it's nothing worse than the likes of '2 girls, 1 cup' - if you can stomach that, you can stomach anything.

It doesn't matter whether the woman's oblivious to the dad being there. If she's asked him to be there, he'll be there, to respect what she wants.

If you were lying in a hospital bed, in pain, you'd want someone you loved there to support you.

AnonoBoy · 10-09-2009 04:44PM

Pighead wrote: »

Had her escorted off the premises before retiring to the thinking room to have a think about what had just transpired.

Come on Piggie admit it - you went to the jacks for a dump, didn't you?

Latchy · 10-09-2009 04:45PM

Pighead wrote: »

Ah c'mon Latchy. It can't be that amazing. Basically it's a lump of flesh squeezing through a hole which is a tad on the smallish side for such an activity. Pighead remembers seeing a calf being pulled out of his mothers insides. Ok, it was something different and it was kinda comical seeing the newborn calf trying to stand up before falling over again and again but it was by no stretch "amazing".

For jazus sake Piggy I was in so much shock .....like a wake up call ie '' Jeezze '''this creature child before my eyes is mine '' :eek:

I thought it only happened in the movies

* latchy faints at the memory ....swoon *

SeekUp · 10-09-2009 04:45PM

pikachucheeks wrote: »

The woman is going through labour, which is undeniably a hard time in her life.

+1

F*cking right. It's hard, it's tiring, it's sometimes scary. I know that I want the person closest to me there with me during the process, holding my hand.

But, as Ivy says, I'd prefer that he stay away from the "business end" of things.

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