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Sleeping with your partner V sleeping solo?

  • 09-09-2009 12:02AM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,121 ✭✭✭


    Just wondering should i really ditch sleeping with my partner after reading this article.

    "Couples should consider sleeping apart for the good of their health, an expert has said.
    Expert advocates sleeping apart




    Getting a decent night's sleep is more important than cosying up between the sheets to please your partner, says Dr Neil Stanley.
    Research evidence suggests that sharing a bed is bad for sleep, he told the British Science Festival.
    One study found that if one partner moved in his or her sleep there was a 50% chance of it disturbing the other.
    Another revealed that the longer couples had spent together, the more likely they were to have separate rooms. By the time they were aged in their 70s, 40% were choosing to sleep apart.
    Other research showed that men were likely to prod their snoring partners awake, while women tended to put up with the noise - as they struggled to sleep.
    Dr Stanley, who set up one of Britain's leading sleep laboratories at the University of Surrey, said poor sleep was linked to depression, heart disease, strokes, lung disorders, traffic and industrial accidents, and divorce. Yet sleep was largely ignored as an important aspect of health.
    "If you want to live a happy and healthy life, diet and exercise are important but so is sleep," said Dr Stanley, speaking at the University of Surrey in Guildford.
    He said the modern tradition of the marital bed only began with the industrial revolution, when people moving to overcrowded towns and cities found themselves short of living space.
    Before the Victorian era it was not uncommon for married couples to sleep apart, he argued. In ancient Rome, the marital bed was a place for sexual congress but not for sleeping."

    To be honest i have never slept as well since i shared my bed for the past 14 yrs :(


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,390 ✭✭✭The Big Red Button


    IrishHomer wrote: »
    Other research showed that men were likely to prod their snoring partners awake, while women tended to put up with the noise - as they struggled to sleep.


    I'm the opposite, I beat the crap out of my OH if he tries to snore!

    He doesn't need to beat the crap out of me coz I don't snore coz I'm a lady. :cool:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,331 ✭✭✭✭bronte


    I love snuggles.
    I don't love the special person in my life planting their freezing cold foot on my leg to heat it up.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,859 ✭✭✭✭Sharpshooter


    King size bed ftw.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,746 ✭✭✭✭Misticles


    bronte wrote: »
    I love snuggles.
    I don't love the special person in my life planting their freezing cold foot on my leg to heat it up.


    haha Im the person who plants the freezing foot! :)

    they do be like ice blocks--- only right and proper they share the heat!

    oh but comin looking for it off me.... pfft now thats a whole other ball game :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,054 ✭✭✭✭Professey Chin


    Severe case of deja vu with this thread :confused:


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,787 ✭✭✭✭ScumLord


    Alcohol fixes all those problems.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 458 ✭✭I_am_Jebus


    if i had a partner. :( I defo prefer to sleep with them. I've a king size bed though. the only thing is getting woken up by digs cos of my snoring. ah well!


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,386 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    It depends. If I like/love em then I'm off like a baby and miss them terribly if they're not there. If it's just shagtasic, no can't nod off at all, though as Scumlord said beer helps as a soporific.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,386 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    I have to say on the snoring front that's game over pretty much. Ditto with volcano like farting. Taxi at 5 of the clock for that one.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,216 ✭✭✭Mrmoe


    IrishHomer wrote: »
    Just wondering should i really ditch sleeping with my partner after reading this article.

    Yes you should, PM me your home address and I will do it for you just this once, only because I like you.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,082 ✭✭✭Pygmalion


    Something isn't already linked to heart disease/cancer/depression.
    Scientist that no-one has ever heard of links it with heart disease/cancer/depression (2 out of 3 in this case).
    No-one cares.

    I mean if you think you're not getting decent sleep then by all means go ahead (hopefully your partner will understand), but if you were listen to every scientist linking mundane, everyday things to heart disease because there may be a 0.0000000001% chance of it then you'd be living in a bubble.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,310 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    If I'm on my side, I'm more inclined to sleep. If I lie on my back, I snore like a train :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,440 ✭✭✭✭Piste


    I hate sleeping in a bed with someone, I even hate sharing a room. I can only sleep properly if I have solitude, quiet and complete darkness. So when I'm cohabiting I will demand my own room, with the occasional sleepover.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,386 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    the_syco wrote: »
    If I'm on my side, I'm more inclined to fart. If I lie on my back, I snore like a train :D
    That's you off the list for a start.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 14,292 ✭✭✭✭The Iron Giant


    Have to say I much prefer sleeping on my ownsome. I don't mind if the girlfriend stays over maybe once a week but I need my uninterrupted sleep and solitude. I snore the house down at the best of times, and it's generally out of my control so being smacked to shut up every few hours doesn't appeal to me!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 766 ✭✭✭ProjectColossus


    I need access to each edge of the duvet, left and right. I seem to need to roll once or twice before I nod off, and I can't do that if there is someone else in the bed. 2 duvets on one bed is a compromise that works pretty well for me.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,750 ✭✭✭liah


    I can sleep in any given situation, through fire alarms and massive thunderstorms, etc. So a partner moving around or snoring or whatever doesn't bother me.

    I've been sleeping alone the last 2 nights for the first time in 2 months and I really miss having someone to fall asleep in the arms of and wake up to. :(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,257 ✭✭✭SoupyNorman


    I like sleeping on my own just as much as I like sleeping with my gal, but as Sharp has indicated...when you have a kingsize bed you can have the breast of boast worlds.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,556 ✭✭✭MizzLolly


    I would have disagreed before but lately I definately think I get a better nights sleep alone.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 136 ✭✭Derek B


    I need access to each edge of the duvet, left and right. I seem to need to roll once or twice before I nod off, and I can't do that if there is someone else in the bed. 2 duvets on one bed is a compromise that works pretty well for me.

    Same


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  • Posts: 31,828 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Working nights is a good way of getting the bed to myself.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,119 Mod ✭✭✭✭Tar.Aldarion


    I get to sleep grand with somebody, out lkuike a light o that doesn't matter. But I also steal the duvet a lot! Did they factor that in? :p


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 645 ✭✭✭TriceMarie


    I'm the opposite, I beat the crap out of my OH if he tries to snore!

    He doesn't need to beat the crap out of me coz I don't snore coz I'm a lady. :cool:


    I've never had the heart to them him to "SHUT THE FOOK UP!! :mad:" :o

    But I also am a silent sleeper :D

    Aparently seperate bedrooms are becoming a trend!
    Did any of ye read that Tim Burton and the missus have seperate houses,not just bedrooms?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    TriceMarie wrote: »
    Did any of ye read that Tim Burton and the missus have seperate houses,not just bedrooms?

    Yep - they live in adjoining houses, with a connecting doorway.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 619 ✭✭✭FutureTaoiseach


    I find it impossible to sleep if I'm sharing a bed with someone else. Impossible. Especially if they snore like a pig.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,556 ✭✭✭MizzLolly


    2 duvets on one bed is a compromise that works pretty well for me.

    Me too. It's a good compromise! :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    IrishHomer wrote: »
    To be honest i have never slept as well since i shared my bed for the past 14 yrs :(
    Well then why change it, you lucky thing?

    It's quite a problem for me as I'm a ridiculously light sleeper. :(
    Earplugs help a bit though.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,526 ✭✭✭brendansmith


    Ride v ****?

    Tough one!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 70 ✭✭garyt24


    Will Dr Neil Stanley sleep with you after you try suggesting this to your partner and they kick you out for good???? eh i think no.

    So if i was you i wouldn't act on this report. enjoy the company


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,968 ✭✭✭✭Praetorian Saighdiuir


    I also have a king size bed....not that it matters though because the GF does this thing she likes to call the "starfish".

    Starts off on her side of the bed, 15 minutes later is in the middle of the bed, then 5 minutes later she just spreads out like starfish...wtf!

    While shes in the starfish, if even my toe touches her leg, she moans (in the cutest voice)that she cant sleep because my toe is making her hot and that im on her side!!

    There is no side at this stage, i just have to put up with being curled up in a ball on my allocated 5 inch sliver of mattress!

    Shes lucky I think its cute, but then theres the nights when Im wrecked tired and need to sleep.....

    ...nothing is cute then! when she does the starfish, i just try to stick my finger up her ass ;).....that usually sends her over to her side!:D


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