Sleeping with your partner V sleeping solo?

IrishHomer

Just wondering should i really ditch sleeping with my partner after reading this article.

"Couples should consider sleeping apart for the good of their health, an expert has said.
Expert advocates sleeping apart




Getting a decent night's sleep is more important than cosying up between the sheets to please your partner, says Dr Neil Stanley.
Research evidence suggests that sharing a bed is bad for sleep, he told the British Science Festival.
One study found that if one partner moved in his or her sleep there was a 50% chance of it disturbing the other.
Another revealed that the longer couples had spent together, the more likely they were to have separate rooms. By the time they were aged in their 70s, 40% were choosing to sleep apart.
Other research showed that men were likely to prod their snoring partners awake, while women tended to put up with the noise - as they struggled to sleep.
Dr Stanley, who set up one of Britain's leading sleep laboratories at the University of Surrey, said poor sleep was linked to depression, heart disease, strokes, lung disorders, traffic and industrial accidents, and divorce. Yet sleep was largely ignored as an important aspect of health.
"If you want to live a happy and healthy life, diet and exercise are important but so is sleep," said Dr Stanley, speaking at the University of Surrey in Guildford.
He said the modern tradition of the marital bed only began with the industrial revolution, when people moving to overcrowded towns and cities found themselves short of living space.
Before the Victorian era it was not uncommon for married couples to sleep apart, he argued. In ancient Rome, the marital bed was a place for sexual congress but not for sleeping."

To be honest i have never slept as well since i shared my bed for the past 14 yrs

The Big Red Button

IrishHomer wrote: »

Other research showed that men were likely to prod their snoring partners awake, while women tended to put up with the noise - as they struggled to sleep.

I'm the opposite, I beat the crap out of my OH if he tries to snore!

He doesn't need to beat the crap out of me coz I don't snore coz I'm a lady. :cool:

bronte

I love snuggles.
I don't love the special person in my life planting their freezing cold foot on my leg to heat it up.

Sharpshooter

King size bed ftw.

Misticles

bronte wrote: »

I love snuggles.
I don't love the special person in my life planting their freezing cold foot on my leg to heat it up.

haha Im the person who plants the freezing foot!

they do be like ice blocks--- only right and proper they share the heat!

oh but comin looking for it off me.... pfft now thats a whole other ball game

Professey Chin

Severe case of deja vu with this thread

ScumLord

Alcohol fixes all those problems.

I_am_Jebus

if i had a partner. I defo prefer to sleep with them. I've a king size bed though. the only thing is getting woken up by digs cos of my snoring. ah well!

Wibbs

It depends. If I like/love em then I'm off like a baby and miss them terribly if they're not there. If it's just shagtasic, no can't nod off at all, though as Scumlord said beer helps as a soporific.

Wibbs

I have to say on the snoring front that's game over pretty much. Ditto with volcano like farting. Taxi at 5 of the clock for that one.

Mrmoe

IrishHomer wrote: »

Just wondering should i really ditch sleeping with my partner after reading this article.

Yes you should, PM me your home address and I will do it for you just this once, only because I like you.

Pygmalion

Something isn't already linked to heart disease/cancer/depression.
Scientist that no-one has ever heard of links it with heart disease/cancer/depression (2 out of 3 in this case).
No-one cares.

I mean if you think you're not getting decent sleep then by all means go ahead (hopefully your partner will understand), but if you were listen to every scientist linking mundane, everyday things to heart disease because there may be a 0.0000000001% chance of it then you'd be living in a bubble.

the_syco

If I'm on my side, I'm more inclined to sleep. If I lie on my back, I snore like a train

Piste

I hate sleeping in a bed with someone, I even hate sharing a room. I can only sleep properly if I have solitude, quiet and complete darkness. So when I'm cohabiting I will demand my own room, with the occasional sleepover.

Wibbs

the_syco wrote: »

If I'm on my side, I'm more inclined to fart. If I lie on my back, I snore like a train

That's you off the list for a start.

Exclamation Marc

Have to say I much prefer sleeping on my ownsome. I don't mind if the girlfriend stays over maybe once a week but I need my uninterrupted sleep and solitude. I snore the house down at the best of times, and it's generally out of my control so being smacked to shut up every few hours doesn't appeal to me!

ProjectColossus

I need access to each edge of the duvet, left and right. I seem to need to roll once or twice before I nod off, and I can't do that if there is someone else in the bed. 2 duvets on one bed is a compromise that works pretty well for me.

liah

I can sleep in any given situation, through fire alarms and massive thunderstorms, etc. So a partner moving around or snoring or whatever doesn't bother me.

I've been sleeping alone the last 2 nights for the first time in 2 months and I really miss having someone to fall asleep in the arms of and wake up to.

SoupyNorman

I like sleeping on my own just as much as I like sleeping with my gal, but as Sharp has indicated...when you have a kingsize bed you can have the breast of boast worlds.

MizzLolly

I would have disagreed before but lately I definately think I get a better nights sleep alone.

Derek B

ProjectColossus wrote: »

I need access to each edge of the duvet, left and right. I seem to need to roll once or twice before I nod off, and I can't do that if there is someone else in the bed. 2 duvets on one bed is a compromise that works pretty well for me.

Same

Working nights is a good way of getting the bed to myself.

Tar.Aldarion

I get to sleep grand with somebody, out lkuike a light o that doesn't matter. But I also steal the duvet a lot! Did they factor that in?

TriceMarie

chatterpillar wrote: »

I'm the opposite, I beat the crap out of my OH if he tries to snore!

He doesn't need to beat the crap out of me coz I don't snore coz I'm a lady. :cool:

I've never had the heart to them him to "SHUT THE FOOK UP!! :mad:"

But I also am a silent sleeper

Aparently seperate bedrooms are becoming a trend!
Did any of ye read that Tim Burton and the missus have seperate houses,not just bedrooms?

starbelgrade

TriceMarie wrote: »

Did any of ye read that Tim Burton and the missus have seperate houses,not just bedrooms?

Yep - they live in adjoining houses, with a connecting doorway.

FutureTaoiseach

I find it impossible to sleep if I'm sharing a bed with someone else. Impossible. Especially if they snore like a pig.

MizzLolly

ProjectColossus wrote: »

2 duvets on one bed is a compromise that works pretty well for me.

Me too. It's a good compromise!

Dudess

IrishHomer wrote: »

To be honest i have never slept as well since i shared my bed for the past 14 yrs

Well then why change it, you lucky thing?

It's quite a problem for me as I'm a ridiculously light sleeper.
Earplugs help a bit though.

brendansmith

Ride v ****?

Tough one!

garyt24

Will Dr Neil Stanley sleep with you after you try suggesting this to your partner and they kick you out for good???? eh i think no.

So if i was you i wouldn't act on this report. enjoy the company

Praetorian Saighdiuir

I also have a king size bed....not that it matters though because the GF does this thing she likes to call the "starfish".

Starts off on her side of the bed, 15 minutes later is in the middle of the bed, then 5 minutes later she just spreads out like starfish...wtf!

While shes in the starfish, if even my toe touches her leg, she moans (in the cutest voice)that she cant sleep because my toe is making her hot and that im on her side!!

There is no side at this stage, i just have to put up with being curled up in a ball on my allocated 5 inch sliver of mattress!

Shes lucky I think its cute, but then theres the nights when Im wrecked tired and need to sleep.....

...nothing is cute then! when she does the starfish, i just try to stick my finger up her ass .....that usually sends her over to her side!:D

Kiith

Definitely better sleeping with a partner. After months of sleeping alone, trust me on this.

Mr Maroon

Talking about this on today fm right now.

thomond2006

Ask a priest.

Gummy Panda

Spoons is the best

wudangclan

separate beds ftw.
that way i can retreat to my own bed and don't have to sleep in the gooey mess.
seriously though separate beds for prolonging of relationship (where i'm concerned anyway.)
preserve the mystery.

Gummy Panda

Nah! Sometimes when you wake up, you want to cuddle and bite someone.

Theta

benwavner wrote: »

I also have a king size bed....not that it matters though because the GF does this thing she likes to call the "starfish".

My missus does that too. It means I end out with a sliver of the bed but i always sleep on my side at the edge anyway.

Still prefer the company to sleeping alone.

Naos

Well I guess I should come forth and admit, I too do the starfish sometimes.

Although my mate calls it "Starman" - we had to sleep in the same bed a few times, holiday situations and what not.

He came up with a brilliant solution though, which was to hit me in the stomach. With herself it's not too bad, I'd just spoon/sleep on my front.

TheTubes

We share a queen size bed and its grand.
Although it was very hard to get any sleep when she was staying at my place in college, single beds are def only made for one.
maybe all the beds in this guys sleep clinic are single beds and that skewed the results of his tests?

the_syco

Wibbs wrote: »

That's you off the list for a start.

Aye, but if I sleep on my stomach, I sleep silently.

My name is URL

There's nothing more disenchanting than sleeping with someone that snores loudly / kicks you / talks in their sleep.

That's why people don't like sleeping in the same bed as me

Mr Benevolent

Piste wrote: »

I hate sleeping in a bed with someone, I even hate sharing a room. I can only sleep properly if I have solitude, quiet and complete darkness. So when I'm cohabiting I will demand my own room, with the occasional sleepover.

Jesus. I assume you're female?

renraw

Nobodys mentioned twiching? does anyone twitch? I've been told that I have the so bad that the OH thinks I'm having a fit. I'm supposed to be really bad. Arms, legs, everything seemingly twiches when I'm in full sleep

SoupyNorman

Gummy Panda wrote: »

Spoons is the best

Not for steak though

Cianos

For all ye snorers, a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar in a glass of water, 3 times a day should help a lot.

TheTubes

Gummy Panda wrote: »

Spoons is the best

you may be happy, but is your partner???

pickarooney

Partner or no partner makes no odds when the feckin' baby wakes you up every few minutes. Never heard something that small snore that loud.

Tif

You can't beat sleeping with your partner. I am a sucker for cuddles and hugs. I had a habit of following him wherever he went in the bed. I didn't do it on purpose. Think maybe I was looking for warmth Sleeping with a partner is nice just knowing that if I ever wanted a cuddle they are right there to give one which I looked for a lot but I do agree that the bed has to be big. King size would be perfect for the nights when it is just too hot.

candy-gal1

since meeting my OH iv never had a better sleep!
i love falling asleep in his arms, and then waking up to a kiss and a cuddle!:D

Max Power1

bronte wrote: »

I don't love the special person in my life planting their freezing cold foot on my leg to heat it up.

This!

Lol yes i am roasting hot but i dont need iced legs thank you! Its worse if its on your back though - the tempatation to roll away when semi asleep can lead to falling out on the floor!

Seriously though, always better to sleep holding the one you love than lonely IMO