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Harassing texts from a guy I met online

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  • #32
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    Well, if that's what you've decided, we'll have to respect it ;)

    Of course, women have been known to suddenly change their minds, and if you do, you definitely shouldn't feel intimidated - report the scumbag.

    Aside from that; I guess lesson learned; just be more careful in future (and considering giving any future sound guys more of a chance than the psychos! :D )


  • #33
    Lollipops23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,420 ✭✭✭Lollipops23


    OP nothing gives him the right to say such horrible,malicious things. stop being paranoid; the gards have to deal with far worse things than this,they won't think anything of you for reporting it.

    even if you don't want to report it,i'd like to point out that you were lucky; what if you had met with him, he may have been violent and even more stalkerish. by reporting it it's at least on file that he is unstable and capable of real nastiness.

    please report him.


  • #34
    Micky Dolenz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,079 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    Lollipops23 wrote: »
    OP nothing gives him the right to say such horrible,malicious things. stop being paranoid; the gards have to deal with far worse things than this,they won't think anything of you for reporting it.

    even if you don't want to report it,i'd like to point out that you were lucky; what if you had met with him, he may have been violent and even more stalkerish. by reporting it it's at least on file that he is unstable and capable of real nastiness.

    please report him.

    I agree,

    remember that case in that hotel in Limerick?

    Internet meet ups happen all the time and mostly it is good humored and just people hanging with people.

    This creep needs a good reminder that you can't intimidate others regardless of the media.

    I'd love to have his number, oh the fun we'd have.


  • #35
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 15,077 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    OP, report him.


    If the guards call round to his house and have a word with him, chances are he'll never send a crude text again. People will say all sorts of messed up stuff via text and through the internet as they reckon they're completely safe. In real life, these people are, I'm sure, very different.


    For example:


    Lollipops23, i hope you die a horrible death!



    See... I've nothing against Lollipops, and im sure he/she's a nice person, and i'd never, ever say that to him/her in person, but through the anonymity of the net, I could say lots worse, just for the sake of it.


    If this guy is sending you so many horrible texts, chances are he's just an asshole with too much time on his hands, or is trying to impress his friends by being 'well ard'. However, if the Gardai contact him, I assure you; you'll never hear from him again. Definitely report him, and I certainly wouldn't feel threatened about him knowing someone working for your phone provider. The chances of that are very slim, and even if he had your full name and address, after a stern word from the Gardai, I doubt he'd be willing to do/try anything.



    The Guards get an awful rap for being useless (partly becuase they're useless) but when they do confront people, in my experience, they do come across very sternly, and aren't lenient. That's one thing I will say about them that I admire.




    (By the way, Lollipops, nothing against you, just the first username that I could see. Hope you live a happy and prosperous life :) )


  • #36
    Lollipops23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,420 ✭✭✭Lollipops23


    Deleted User wrote: »


    (By the way, Lollipops, nothing against you, just the first username that I could see. Hope you live a happy and prosperous life :) )

    why thank you!right back atcha!


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  • #37
    Chucky the tree
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19,341 ✭✭✭✭Chucky the tree


    Sign up to lots of gay chatsites and spam his phone number all over them.


  • #38
    Rb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,277 ✭✭✭✭Rb


    Chucky the tree wrote: »
    Sign up to lots of gay chatsites and spam his phone number all over them.
    That's a fantastic suggestion.

    Let's hope he doesn't find this thread on twitter now btw.


  • #39
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    roughly the same thin happened to a friend of mine, but the phone or sim wasnt registared so basiclly the person couldnt be found. To this day they still dont know who it was it stopped after about a month of not txtin back.


  • #40
    January
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,862 ✭✭✭✭January


    Unregistered wrote: »
    but if he knows anyone in vodafone I am sure he could get both details because of he has my mobile number. I'm just paranoid that i am bringing trouble on myself I guess if I go any further with this.

    The chances of this happening are very very slim OP. For one, if someone in Vodafone did give your details to this man they would be breaching data protection laws and all it would take was for the Gardai to get management in Vodafone to go back into the file and check the last person who was in the file and see if they are in any way affiliated with this nasty nasty man. They would then be prosecuted.

    I urge you to report him. I've dated online and fortunately have not had any nasty incidents like yourself. But I'd like to think that if I did have any, that I would have the courage to report this slimy person to the authorities.


  • #41
    legend365
    Closed Accounts Posts: 460 ✭✭legend365


    Send me his number and i'll pretend to be a 'damzle in distress'

    Then when i and the lads meet him he wont be so abusive :)

    Seriously people like that make all men look like creeps! Its a god damn shame.


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  • #42
    Silverfish
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,698 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    Can we steer away from the vigilante justice please, however tempting it may seem :)
    Seriously people like that make all men look like creeps! Its a god damn shame

    Nah, people like that make other men look better by comparison.

    I don't think the OP is going to judge all men on one loola, I certainly hope not. There's definitely plenty of good ones out there.


  • #43
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    Silverfish wrote: »
    I don't think the OP is going to judge all men on one loola, I certainly hope not. There's definitely plenty of good ones out there.

    It wouldn't seem like it anyways - she said she'd met two sound ones..... :)


  • #44
    christina_x
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 701 ✭✭✭christina_x


    my sister was in a similar situation.. only not from an online dating site, but she had those horrible things said. she just doesnt know who the guy is or how he got her number, but he was giving fire threats and knew where she lived, what she was wearing on a particular day ect.

    anyways! she went to the guards, who traced his location - they can still check that even if the sim isnt registered ;)
    and he hasnt bothered her since. but just be careful, my other sister (psychaitric student nurse) believes that the guy who was texting my sister (who acted very similar to your guy) has a personality disorder and its all about the chase for them. just dont piss him off too much. Like not texting him back is fine but just dont be bitchy back to him, safest that way. let the guards sort him. they WILL sort him. look about your phone, you might be able to block texts on your phone, i can (samsung noire). hope it works out, im sure it will.:)


  • #45
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    christina_x wrote: »
    my sister was in a similar situation.. only not from an online dating site, but she had those horrible things said. she just doesnt know who the guy is or how he got her number, but he was giving fire threats and knew where she lived, what she was wearing on a particular day ect.

    anyways! she went to the guards, who traced his location - they can still check that even if the sim isnt registered ;)
    and he hasnt bothered her since. but just be careful, my other sister (psychaitric student nurse) believes that the guy who was texting my sister (who acted very similar to your guy) has a personality disorder and its all about the chase for them. just dont piss him off too much. Like not texting him back is fine but just dont be bitchy back to him, safest that way. let the guards sort him. they WILL sort him. look about your phone, you might be able to block texts on your phone, i can (samsung noire). hope it works out, im sure it will.:)

    How can they trace him? when the sim is not registared??


  • #46
    christina_x
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 701 ✭✭✭christina_x


    Unregistered wrote: »
    How can they trace him? when the sim is not registared??

    The company can. like his phone is still using a satelite or whatever when making calls or texts. they can check his location, so she can be safe in knowing how far away he is


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