So, my father died on saturday.

The guy · 06-04-2009 06:01PM

Sorry to hear that Karl Hungus.

RoundyMooney · 06-04-2009 06:04PM

Condolences Hungus.

I've been there, and it does get easier. Don't be afraid to lean on those around you.

Quality · 06-04-2009 06:09PM

I am sorry to hear your news. I hope your ok. Look after yourself and your Mammy. It's after the funeral when things settle downthat it will hit you most.

My deepest sympathy.

Karl Hungus · 06-04-2009 06:12PM

I really appreciate all the comments guys, I really do.

I think it's only just hit me today. I hadn't cried since I heard the news, I guess I was there being strong for my family, but today after we picked a grave for him, I let it out, just burst out in tears.

I really think I'm lucky to have friends that I do, I was out with some for a little while today, had a pint and a chat and I think it's really helped me. I know they'll be reading this too, so really guys, I can't tell you how much it picked me up.

Thanks to everyone here, and thanks to boards.

06-04-2009 06:16PM

Sorry to hear that Karl, and sorry for your loss.

koneko · 06-04-2009 06:17PM

If you need to talk, I'm here buddy, I can't tell you how sorry I am.

Karl Hungus · 06-04-2009 06:19PM

And a big thank you to everyone who's PM'd me so far, if I don't get around to replying to everyone, I'm not ignoring you and I do appreciate it.

TerrorFirmer · 06-04-2009 06:23PM

Man, that sucks. 68 is indeed quite young, but then again, sometimes I do think that life would be a wonderful thing if we all had a guaranteed 68 years here to do the best we could in our life. In your case, we know he had one good son at the very least.

I haven't lost anyone close to me prematurely, but I do live in fear of it, and it's terrible that so many people do have to experience it. Best of luck to the family and to yourself as well. Just adding my condolences to a very large pile of support..

Dudess · 06-04-2009 06:25PM

Karl Hungus wrote: »

I hadn't cried since I heard the news, I guess I was there being strong for my family, but today after we picked a grave for him, I let it out, just burst out in tears.

That's so sad...

I really feel for ya...
Crying's good though - can be very cathartic. If you feel your eyes welling up, head off somewhere to let it out, rather than forcing it back.

06-04-2009 06:26PM

Condolences to you & your family.

Luno · 06-04-2009 06:26PM

So sorry about your loss Karl, I know how you feel

ART6 · 06-04-2009 06:27PM

I lost my mother four months after her 100 th birthday, and she was very ill so I was prepared for it. I could handle her death and all of the dealings with the undertaker, and visiting her with the rest of the family as she lay in the funeral home. It was only days after her funeral that it really hit me and I freely admit that I drove off by myself and cried my bloody eyes out. I still suffer pangs in the small hours about what I should have done for her and didn't, how I never really repaid the endless love she had for me. So I know where you are mate. I've been there. As others have said here it does get a little easier with time, but he will never be out of your mind permanently. God bless him and you.

frizzle-frazzle · 06-04-2009 06:30PM

I remember when my grandad died it didn't really hit me until 2 and a half years later

tony1kenobi · 06-04-2009 06:33PM

Sorry for your loss Sir.

banquo · 06-04-2009 06:34PM

I don't know how I'd cope if my father died.

My deepest sympathies Karl.

Fanny Cradock · 06-04-2009 06:35PM

I'm terribly sorry to hear that, Karl.

Biggins · 06-04-2009 06:39PM

My deepest condolences to yourself and your family.

dlofnep · 06-04-2009 06:40PM

Very sorry for your loss. It's good to share it with other people. Don't let it burden you. I wish you all the strength in the world to you and your family.

dolittle · 06-04-2009 06:50PM

my father passed away in 1997 and something a friend of mine helped , he said "you never get over it you just learn to live with", which helped me

yawnstretch · 06-04-2009 06:57PM

Condolences dude!

Lord Trollington · 06-04-2009 07:21PM

i lost my dad 3 years ago, it was a huge shock to the family and community. Wasnt sick a day in his life, never missed work. Just a hard workin man liked by everyone.
i felt privaledged that i got to call him my dad.

I think you should too with yours.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 06-04-2009 07:24PM

Very sorry to hear it

kittensoft1984 · 06-04-2009 07:26PM

Karl,

Sorry for your loss. My dad passed away on March 1st at the age of 62 from cancer.

I understand how you are feeling right now. Its hard to think about your feelings at a time like this. For me, I was ok the few days after it, but am now starting to feel the loss. Talking about it really helps, so try to talk to family members if you can.

Take care

Unpossible · 06-04-2009 08:12PM

Sorry for your loss Karl, I hope you will be ok.

Toots · 06-04-2009 08:14PM

So sorry to hear about your dad, Karl. Look after yourself and your family.

9st n 09 · 06-04-2009 08:15PM

My sympathies, may he rest in peace.

jos28 · 06-04-2009 09:03PM

So sorry to hear about your Dad. When my beloved Dad died, I found the whole funeral thing surreal. To me it was like a series of difficult hurdles to get over. Every stage was an ordeal to be got over and ticked off the list. Funeral home- done
Removal and shaking hands bit-done
Night before the actual funeral - done
Actual ceremony-done
Burial- done
I just kept telling myself once its done I will never have to do that again.
Friends are a great support and your good mates will both amuse and amaze you. Family will probably do your head in after a while.
Be kind to yourself, don't expect too much of yourself. Most people find that everything hits them when all the fuss of the funeral is over. That's when it gets difficult. You will have good days and bad days. Just remember that the bad days are just that- a bad day. It will pass and you will eventually feel better. Like one of the earlier posters, I found writing to my Dad a great help(very tear stained paper though). Cry, scream, rant and rave whatever you feel like, its all normal. That awful raw pain goes away and you will eventually be left with the overwhelming feeling that you were lucky to have had him, to have loved and been loved by your Dad. I wish you well and will be thinking of you on Wednesday.

galwayrush · 06-04-2009 09:06PM

Sorry to hear that Karl, way too young.

Our sincere condolences.

holly1 · 06-04-2009 09:19PM

My deepest condolences Karl,talk about him,cry about him and share funny and important things about him with your family.It realy helps.You will never forget but it gets a little easier.
I will be thinking of you and your family on Wednesday.

madds · 06-04-2009 09:29PM

My sympathies to you and everyone who grieves for your father at this time. May he RIP.

So, my father died on saturday.

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