C&H sex discussion thread

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 17-01-2009 7:13pm

challengemaster wrote: »

Ah it's great to be able to have a bit of craic with girls aswell as lads. mixed schools ftw.

Must say though... there's some fun to be had in single sex schools too :pac:

Durrty...

Toto Wolfcastle · 17-01-2009 7:13pm

challengemaster wrote: »

Ah it's great to be able to have a bit of craic with girls aswell as lads. mixed schools ftw.

Must say though... there's some fun to be had in single sex schools too :pac:

Mixed school ftw. I taught in an all girls school last year and the attitude they had towards boys was strange. It was like they were otherworldly or something.

cHaTbOx · 17-01-2009 7:15pm

challengemaster wrote: »

Must say though... there's some fun to be had in single sex schools too :pac:

that's why you got kicked out of the boys school then:P

I wish i went to a mixed school , oh well

Davidius · 17-01-2009 7:26pm

I've always been in a mixed-sex school and the idea of having a girl just be your friend is still foreign to me. :pac:

tolosenc · 17-01-2009 7:48pm

Davidius wrote: »

I've always been in a mixed-sex school and the idea of having a girl just be your friend is still foreign to me. :pac:

It's a different kind of friendship though. For example, don't nudge her with your elbow, point to another girl, wink and say "would ya?". Tends not to go down well.

Aisling(",) · 17-01-2009 7:48pm

Little Shyte wrote: »

You can't trust girls under 17 with sex. They don't understand the difficulties of having a pregnancy so they don't ever tell you when they are having "THE DAY".

Be careful like I was and you'll have no problems kids.

That a loada crap!
yes some peole under 17 are stupid about sex but not most and lads can be just as bad!I for one had sex while underage and i generally used two types of protection so dont generalise.

tolosenc · 17-01-2009 7:52pm

Davidius wrote: »

This is where I get lost. Can you explain?

Didn't see this. You are confused, aren't ya?

It's like a male friend, that may not be into guyish stuff, and has a pair of bewbz.

Davidius · 17-01-2009 8:00pm

obl wrote: »

bewbz.

Interesting.

challengemaster · 17-01-2009 8:23pm

Madeleine Nervous Knight wrote: »

Durrty...

Oi, mind outta the gutter you

random chatbox wrote: »

that's why you got kicked out of the boys school then:P

I wish i went to a mixed school , oh well

LOL. No chatbox, I wasn't...I left when it was time to go to secondary

janeybabe wrote: »

Mixed school ftw. I taught in an all girls school last year and the attitude they had towards boys was strange. It was like they were otherworldly or something.

Lol. I came up with a great reply to that, but for fear of bannage I shall keep it to be mine!

(congrats on the new modship btw!)

Yeah I remember that idea back in 6th class..ah... fun times. (girls are still alien!)
>_>
<_<

fonpokno · 17-01-2009 8:31pm

obl wrote: »

It's a different kind of friendship though. For example, don't nudge her with your elbow, point to another girl, wink and say "would ya?". Tends not to go down well.

Half the guys I'm friends with will say just that to me!

random chatbox wrote: »

I felt like that but thing is it was the language barrier. In like sixth class and such they asked me had I "shifted "(I hate that word) a girl .
I didn't know what they were on about it so I said no thinking it meant the whole way .Thing is I did when I was five or six . Just look back and laugh at what a load of BS it was.

I was asked about 2 weeks into first "are you a fridget?". I had not got a clue what she were talking about and asked her what she was talkign about! She then spread the word that I didn't know what this meant and that I also had never kissed anyone. She was a b*tch.

challengemaster · 17-01-2009 8:40pm

obl wrote: »

It's a different kind of friendship though. For example, don't nudge her with your elbow, point to another girl, wink and say "would ya?". Tends not to go down well.

Can be, depends! - One of my best mates (female) is bisexual - the two of us are at that the whole time

lol fonpokno

Wimmin, eh!

cson · 17-01-2009 8:46pm

Not his biggest fan but Des Bishop does a brilliant sketch about our very eleqouent sex talk;

"Did ya ride her? I ****in' burst her!"

Theres another one about shifting her but its more a visual thing he does for it.

Bishop has it down to a tee

tolosenc · 17-01-2009 10:18pm

Davidius wrote: »

Interesting.

Dude, they're AWESOME! :pac:

randylonghorn · 17-01-2009 11:45pm

thusspakeblixa wrote: »

Yeah... maybe it is is a more urban thing that being a virgin in school is weird.
I don;t really know why, maybe you culchies are just more relaxed toward the whole thing

We have ... alternatives! >_>

/dreams of sheep :pac:

More seriously, I would agree with those who said that people who go to mixed schools tend to have healthier attitudes to the opposite sex, and less hang-ups ... though it by no means applies to all (and even though CM seems to have a hankering after the fun he could have had in an all boys school!! :pac:

)

I was lucky enough to go to a secondary where the ratio was about 2:1 female:male ... apart from the obvious advantages of that, it was a great mix in other ways ... plenty of lads around to have the craic with, but not top-heavy enough for the usual macho bs to build up.

I would actually kind of agree with cson when he says don't get all het-up about it or take it all too seriously, and enjoy yourself while you're young ... you'll have plenty of time to be serious and responsible later on, and probably a family to raise, and lots of other committments.

At the same time, I would say do what YOU want to do WHEN you want to do it, and don't let anyone pressure you or goad you into doing something you don't want to do or you're not ready for.

At first glance, those two philosophies may seem contradictory, but if you think about it, in actual fact they're not.

I would also echo boney about being prepared and responsible and having safe sex, obviously.

Also a wee bit of advice from my own experience ... care more about what the other person is getting out of it than what you are, and it will end up that you both enjoy yourself a lot more.

Gl;hf!

cson · 18-01-2009 12:16am

Listen to randy, his avatar knows

Ricky91t · 18-01-2009 12:21am

Single sex schools can be dangerous,
I heard that last year at the local convents Debs the girls were ditching their dates and "meeting" eachother :pac:

Funny what a bit of drink does to you

thusspakeblixa · 18-01-2009 12:22am

fonpokno wrote: »

"are you a fridget?".

Ahh the memories of that being a big deal...

challengemaster · 18-01-2009 12:36am

Ricky91t wrote: »

I heard that last year at the local convents Debs the girls were ditching their dates and "meeting" eachother :pac:

PICS OR GTFO

Piste · 18-01-2009 12:43am

Little Shyte wrote: »

You can't trust girls under 17 with sex. They don't understand the difficulties of having a pregnancy so they don't ever tell you when they are having "THE DAY".

Be careful like I was and you'll have no problems kids.

Don't be silly. Do you think most girls over 17 and under -say- 25 understand the dificulties of a pregnancy? Also the girls out there who know THE DAY exactly are few and far between.

Toto Wolfcastle · 18-01-2009 12:49am

challengemaster wrote: »

Lol. I came up with a great reply to that, but for fear of bannage I shall keep it to be mine! (congrats on the new modship btw!)

Yeah I remember that idea back in 6th class..ah... fun times. (girls are still alien!)
>_>
<_<

Thanks!

Risk bannage tbh! I need to know!

God wouldn't you hate to be back in 6th class now! The politics!

Insect Overlord · 19-01-2009 4:16pm

An File wrote: »

My only memories of in-school bragging about sex involved 3 lads from the rugby team gossipping like little girls. It wasn't a big deal at all for my LC group, which is funny when you think there was 140-odd guys in that year.

Rozabeez wrote: »

Yeah, you did have some pretty odd guys in your year..

Limerick Dude wrote: »

:pac:

LOL!

Back me up here, Limerick Dude, was there ever much emphasis put on the whole losing one's virginity thing at school? I really can't remember it being a big deal.

LivingDeadGirl · 25-01-2009 1:11am

Everyone's quick to say they've had sex, but who's gonna admit they've had anal sex?

Is this a step too far for this thread? :pac:

cautioner · 25-01-2009 1:26am

From V-plates to brown wings :pac:

Fad · 25-01-2009 1:36am

LivingDeadGirl wrote: »

Everyone's quick to say they've had sex, but who's gonna admit they've had anal sex?

Any guy who has had it, in 2nd level instantly gets branded "Choco", deeply amusing!

I think for some reason this is a bit much for this thread though.

Piste · 25-01-2009 1:49am

LivingDeadGirl wrote: »

Everyone's quick to say they've had sex, but who's gonna admit they've had anal sex?

I don't think that's something people freely admit to doing. Actually people don't tend to discuss the ind and outs (oho!) of their sex life in polite (ok well, sober) company.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 25-01-2009 1:54am

Piste wrote: »

I don't think that's something people freely admit to doing. Actually people don't tend to discuss the ind and outs (oho!) of their sex life in polite (ok well, sober) company.

True dat. When I moved into my flat last year none of the five of us knew each other, and to resolve the situation we decided to play a game of "I never" (where one person names something they've never done, and anyone who HAS done it has to take a drink). One of the girls there was pretty much volunteering information, like she'd say "I never *whatever*" and then just drink-which is CHEATING :mad: Anyways, pretty much everything she said was something sexual, and the dirt-track issue came up. She proceeded to very loudly tell us all in detail precisely why she wouldn't reccomend it. This was in the college bar!!!

eVeNtInE · 25-01-2009 1:56am

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cautioner · 25-01-2009 1:58am

Good grief...

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 25-01-2009 2:04am

eVeNtInE wrote: »

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Ew, no! I'd get banned if I told you it was pretty graphic

Fad · 25-01-2009 2:04am

eVeNtInE wrote: »

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SHURRRRRRRRRRRUP

Insect Overlord · 25-01-2009 3:37am

eVeNtInE wrote: »

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This thread has taken too many steps in the wrong direction...

LivingDeadGirl · 25-01-2009 3:02pm

^^And I like it.

Insect Overlord · 25-01-2009 3:49pm

The thread could be closed or moved if it keeps going the way it's going, imo.

Fad · 25-01-2009 3:58pm

An File wrote: »

The thread could be closed or moved if it keeps going the way it's going, imo.

He's right, no more back door conversation, or at least dont mention traffic that would usually pass in the other direction.............

JC 2K3 · 25-01-2009 4:30pm

LivingDeadGirl wrote: »

Everyone's quick to say they've had sex, but who's gonna admit they've had anal sex?

Is this a step too far for this thread? :pac:

More completely off topic than a step too far for the thread, however, a thread asking people if they'd had anal sex would be not allowed on this forum (similar to the "Who here's a virgin?" thread that was locked a while ago.

Keep this thread about attitudes towards sex as opposed to descriptions of the physical act, please.

Piste · 25-01-2009 6:18pm

An File wrote: »

The thread could be closed or moved if it keeps going the way it's going, imo.

*shrug* I don't really care. I'm not a nazi like! Dunno if my co-mods would be too keen on the thread going that direction though.

The title did say it was an icky gooey sex discussion thread, so if you can't handle icky gooey stuff then don't read it!

cHaTbOx · 25-01-2009 7:35pm

JC 2K3 wrote: »

More completely off topic than a step too far for the thread, however, a thread asking people if they'd had anal sex would be not allowed on this forum (similar to the "Who here's a virgin?" thread that was locked a while ago.

Keep this thread about attitudes towards sex as opposed to descriptions of the physical act, please.

I don't know , but I think she was trying to bring up the topic of how it is still viewed as a tabooed subject in a light hearted way . I don't think she was actually asking who has had it , but actually what they think of it .If I am wrong it is pretty tactless, but I don't think she is like that.
I can see how it can be viewed that way though.

I have nothing against it at all, but I don't like the way in popular media it is made out to be the be all and end all .

Piste wrote: »

The title did say it was an icky gooey sex discussion thread, so if you can't handle icky gooey stuff then don't read it!

+1

LivingDeadGirl · 25-01-2009 9:41pm

JC 2K3 wrote: »

More completely off topic than a step too far for the thread, however, a thread asking people if they'd had anal sex would be not allowed on this forum (similar to the "Who here's a virgin?" thread that was locked a while ago.

Keep this thread about attitudes towards sex as opposed to descriptions of the physical act, please.

I don't see how it's completely off topic, this thread is entitled 'the icky, ooey, sex discussion thread', not the 'let's talk about sex EXCEPT FOR TEH ANALZ thread'. And I fail to see how I was making a 'description of the physical act' by simply mentioning the word(if that second part was also directed towards me that is, if not, ignore previous statement).

Anyway, I was just making a lighthearted comment on how anal can be very taboo still, as random chat box picked up on.

JC 2K3 · 25-01-2009 11:10pm

Nothing to do with the fact that it's anal sex. It was just off topic in the context of the OP and the general nature of the conversation before that. Oh, and the second part wasn't directed towards you.

The bottom line is that S&S exists for the discussion of sex. In AH, for example, threads about sex get locked on sight. Certain forums allow discussion of it to a certain extent if it fits in the context of the forum, and therefore the discussion of attitudes towards sex from the point of view of young people is allowed on here. I feel that the discussion of specific sexual practices, such as anal sex, are outside the scope of such a discussion and would be more suited to a topic in S&S.

Of course, you can make light hearted comments about the likes of anal sex if you like (as long as you're not too graphic), but that'd be more suited to a topic for banter such as The Den.

The Charter should probably be amended to include something like this. I'll see what Piste and squigloo think.

KnifeWRENCH · 25-01-2009 11:52pm

LivingDeadGirl - you do have a point, anal sex is considered a bit taboo. I guess it's seen as "messier" than other sexual acts. That's about as much as you can say about anal sex without going into the "gory details" which would be inappropriate for this forum.

JC 2K3 wrote: »

The Charter should probably be amended to include something like this. I'll see what Piste and squigloo think.

You rang?

I think this thread has gone surprisingly well so far. It's reassuring to see a mature discussion about sex and teenagers attitudes to it.
As far as anal sex is concerned, I don't think it should be a completely taboo subject but at the same time it should only be discussed if (a) it's on-topic and (b) it doesn't descend into a vivid physical descrition.

Personally I don't think the Charter needs to be amended as long as people remember not to go into graphic detail about any sexual act, encourage underage users to have sex or ask pointless survey-type questions like "Who's a virgin?" and "Who's had anal sex?".

Pyr0 · 26-01-2009 1:06am

LivingDeadGirl wrote: »

Everyone's quick to say they've had sex, but who's gonna admit they've had anal sex?

We both know the answer to that babeh !

Sex was never really a bragged about thing in my year strangely enough, if someone happened to asked me I'd tell them, although when in the earlier years of secondary "meeting" someone was a huge thing, people laughed at you if ya didn't 'meet' someone by 2nd year.

Aisling(",) · 26-01-2009 1:44am

A while ago myself and my mates were sat around relaxing and the conversation turned to sex which it does all the time and the idea of anal sex came up.most people were disgusted at the idea even though oral or normal sex wouldnt bother them at all.One of the girls who had tried it said it really hurt the first time but the second time she and her boyfriend tried it it wasnt as bad as she was alot more relaxed and a lot of lube was used.

it seems to be the biggest sex taboo that comes up in normal conversation with my friends...that and the spit or swallow conversation.

Insect Overlord · 26-01-2009 1:56am

It's strange, my friends and I are really open with each other (we all went on an amazing 6th Year retreat) and we can talk about anything, but sex hardly ever pops up in conversation. Thinking about it right now, I'm pretty sure only 2 of my closest friends actually have experience of intercourse. However, because we've all known each others' partners, there has been some kind of un-spoken agreement not to divulge anything too personal about them.

Funny how I only just realised that!

Aisling(",) · 26-01-2009 2:06am

An File wrote: »

It's strange, my friends and I are really open with each other (we all went on an amazing 6th Year retreat) and we can talk about anything, but sex hardly ever pops up in conversation. Thinking about it right now, I'm pretty sure only 2 of my closest friends actually have experience of intercourse. However, because we've all known each others' partners, there has been some kind of un-spoken agreement not to divulge anything too personal about them.

Funny how I only just realised that!

out of my group of girl mates we know the most graphic things about each others sex lives and most other aspects.

I think were so often beacuse most of us are very accepting.aswell we throw stuff out there that a lot would be embaressed to bring up themselves but once someone else has said it other identify with it.

I think some of it mmay be because a lot of the time we wouldnt have ever even met the other person involved in the acts but even when we have we dont see any problem with sharing.

its crazy though because i know all our parents would think its sick and disgusting that we may compare peoples thecniques with others or talk about our sex lives as openly as we would tastes in music.

oh and when i mean sex lives i dont mean acctual sex im just refering to all things sexual

Insect Overlord · 26-01-2009 2:15am

Aisling(",) wrote: »

out of my group of girl mates we know the most graphic things about each others sex lives and most other aspects.

I think were so often beacuse most of us are very accepting.aswell we throw stuff out there that a lot would be embaressed to bring up themselves but once someone else has said it other identify with it.

I think some of it mmay be because a lot of the time we wouldnt have ever even met the other person involved in the acts but even when we have we dont see any problem with sharing.

its crazy though because i know all our parents would think its sick and disgusting that we may compare peoples thecniques with others or talk about our sex lives as openly as we would tastes in music.

oh and when i mean sex lives i dont mean acctual sex im just refering to all things sexual

Heh, I recognise what you're saying here. I'm in my second long(ish)-term relationship (i.e. over one year) and both my current girlfriend and my ex would tell their respective best friends everything. It takes a while to get used to knowing that somebody else has heard all about what you can do in the bedroom!

It's great that in both cases, despite the two being so different, the friends involved were really discreet about it and would never pass comments.

Aisling(",) · 26-01-2009 2:23am

An File wrote: »

Heh, I recognise what you're saying here. I'm in my second long(ish)-term relationship (i.e. over one year) and both my current girlfriend and my ex would tell their respective best friends everything. It takes a while to get used to knowing that somebody else has heard all about what you can do in the bedroom!

It's great that in both cases, despite the two being so different, the friends involved were really discreet about it and would never pass comments.

oh yeah like if i tell one of the girls she wont tell the rest of them and i know if they all know it wont leave the group...well except for one girl but as no one relly likes her she gets told nothing.

awww.and hope things go well with the lady.a year seems crazy long to me know.

Insect Overlord · 26-01-2009 2:26am

Aisling(",) wrote: »

awww.and hope things go well with the lady.a year seems crazy long to me know.

It'll be a year and a half next weekend! :eek:

Aisling(",) · 26-01-2009 2:30am

An File wrote: »

It'll be a year and a half next weekend! :eek:

MAD!!

closest ive got is like 6 months meeting someone
or that a chap im seeing now ive been meeting on and off since the november before last.
but im relationshiply challeneged anyhow:P

Censorsh!t · 07-02-2009 8:44pm

I lost my virginity while 18...only a few months ago, with the guy I love:)
Looking back after it, it really wasn't such a big deal. It's not like you suddenly feel different or anything. I'm happy I waited, although an oppurtunity had never really arisen before that. And only yesterday I found out I was his first too:)

Insect Overlord · 08-02-2009 8:40pm

Censorsh!t wrote: »

I lost my virginity while 18...only a few months ago, with the guy I love:)
Looking back after it, it really wasn't such a big deal. It's not like you suddenly feel different or anything. I'm happy I waited, although an oppurtunity had never really arisen before that. And only yesterday I found out I was his first too:)

I find it strange that the guy you love only revealed his virginity to you several months after the big event.

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