Going to the chapel and we're gonna get married.....

Dragan · 15-10-2008 02:13PM #1

Okay, so at the tender age of 27 i have watched both my older brother and my older sister get married. Both did so in a Church. Now i am reasonably clear on both of their religious views and neither of them would really be down with the Risen Jesus.

I see friends get married in Churches who do not believe in God and haven't been to mass since Conformation.

At my sisters Wedding i was chatting away to the rents and informed them casually that should i ever end up married it will be done in a civil ceremony as i would feel like a liar and a sham for proclaiming my love in front of a God that i simply don't believe in.

So, why do people do it? Is it as simple as keeping the family happy or is it just covering your bases? I mean, you don't believe but He could exist, right?

MagicMarker · 15-10-2008 02:16PM

Conformity? Who knows, people are generally idiots.

My brother is getting married in December, as far as i know the ceremony is being held in the hotel we're staying in.. (i think, no one tells me anything!), if it's in a church though i'll probably have a chuckle to myself, considering they've had 3 kids out of wedlock and none of them are baptized. Heathens!!!

partyatmygaff · 15-10-2008 02:17PM

church for religious reasons because i believe in God and think atheism is just something that people do to give them an excuse to do as they like

c - 13 · 15-10-2008 02:18PM

Some of it is to do with tradition and keeping the family happy. I'd say there are quite a few people out there who's parents/grandparents would disown them if they even thought about having it outside the church !

Other reasons would include those who have the dream of their big fantasy wedding. Fantasy doesn't really work out so well for them when they're getting married in a registry office instead of prancing down the aisle in their dream dress.

Yet another reason would possibly be the lack of known alternatives. I'm going to show my ignorance here but - Other than church weddings and registry office weddings what are the alternatives in Ireland ?

MagicMarker · 15-10-2008 02:19PM

partyatmygaff wrote: »

church for religious reasons because i believe in God and think atheism is just something that people think makes them cool

No, this makes me cool >>> :cool:

javaboy · 15-10-2008 02:21PM

Dragan wrote: »

I see friends get married in Churches who do not believe in God and haven't been to mass since Conformation.

Was that deliberate?

Malari · 15-10-2008 02:22PM

partyatmygaff wrote: »

church for religious reasons because i believe in God and think atheism is just something that people do to give them an excuse to do as they like

Damn, I think I've been missing out on some entitlements. Can you let me know what atheists can do that religious people can't?

Silenceisbliss · 15-10-2008 02:22PM

I know where ur comin from and to be honest id prob do the same. It's just tradition to get hitched in a church though.

I mean I dont believe in god in any way or form or any of these stories bout jesus, but I still do christmas aswell...

tradition is all it is, but like I said, I wouldnt have mine in a church either...

I only ever go to a church for funerals so, a church for me is a place of death

davyjose · 15-10-2008 02:24PM

partyatmygaff wrote: »

church for religious reasons because i believe in God and think atheism is just something that people do to give them an excuse to do as they like

Or....

Religion is something that people do to give them an excuse to be self-righteous.

brianthebard · 15-10-2008 02:24PM

Churchs' are generally prettier places to get married than a govt building.
Also, for the parents.

MagicMarker · 15-10-2008 02:25PM

Silenceisbliss wrote: »

I know where ur comin from and to be honest id prob do the same. It's just tradition to get hitched in a church though.

I mean I dont believe in god in any way or form or any of these stories bout jesus, but I still do christmas aswell...

tradition is all it is, but like I said, I wouldnt have mine in a church either...

I only ever go to a church for funerals so, a church for me is a place of death

Or sodomy?

Canis Lupus · 15-10-2008 02:26PM

Because we come from a catholic background where everything (media, life etc) portrays a wedding as something that occurs in a church (is the entire wedding notion a religious thing anyway).

Therefore when people want to get married it must be done in a church.

Personally I think it's a load of hypocrisy(both my brother and sister have married in a church and baptised their children as well despite not being religious).

After growing up and realising religion is a farce I no longer have nothing to do with the church, I won't be married in one and won't have a funeral in one etc etc.

Magic Pips · 15-10-2008 02:27PM

Dragan wrote: »

...at the tender age of 27...

Anyone else think he was older?

Anyway if i ever do come to get married, i'd first and foremost do whatever makes the missus happy, but my preference would be for an outside wedding.

I believe in God, but not so much the bible...

Didnt see an option that suited me, so i went with the atari!

Canis Lupus · 15-10-2008 02:28PM

Malari wrote: »

Damn, I think I've been missing out on some entitlements. Can you let me know what atheists can do that religious people can't?

Sex before marraige... No hold on.... they do that already.

I know. SIN!!! Nope, hold on again, they have that covered as well.

We atheists can't kill in the name of religion however so the next time a crusade comes along we won't be allowed to join in

Dragan · 15-10-2008 02:28PM

javaboy wrote: »

Was that deliberate?

Yes*

*No, i just can't spell very well.:pac:

Dave! · 15-10-2008 02:30PM

No, I don't plan on it. Couldn't see myself marrying someone who would insist on a church marriage, either.

Kiera · 15-10-2008 02:31PM

Vegas, pick Cadillac and Elvis. I’m gonna try and do it as cheesy as I can. Feck all that white wedding crap, i aint no sheep :P

pseudonym1 · 15-10-2008 02:32PM

Church vows are pretty cool imo Obey and serve sickness health till one of us kills each other etc
Yep- church in vagas for me

Nevyn · 15-10-2008 02:33PM

No option for religion is important but not intrested in getting married in a christain church ?

Nevyn · 15-10-2008 02:33PM

pseudonym1 wrote: »

Church vows are pretty cool imo Obey and serve sickness health till one of us kills each other etc
Yep- church in vagas for me

Obey is more often left out in modern vows.

davyjose · 15-10-2008 02:35PM

Thaedydal wrote: »

Obey is more often left out in modern vows.

That was my favourite one!!!!

Dragan · 15-10-2008 02:35PM

Thaedydal wrote: »

No option for religion is important but not intrested in getting married in a christain church ?

The pole doesn't make mention of any type of religion or god, justs uses the world Church because i couldn't be arsed typing all the other varieties of places people call their places of Worship.

Then again, i guess i could have used place of Worship.

pseudonym1 · 15-10-2008 02:39PM

Magic Pips wrote: »

Anyone else think he was older?

Anyway if i ever do come to get married, i'd first and foremost do whatever makes the missus happy, but my preference would be for an outside wedding.

I believe in God, but not so much the bible...

Didnt see an option that suited me, so i went with the atari!

YA! shame was thinking if he looks as good as he sounds would ask him to marry me...in a church !:eek:

oleras · 15-10-2008 02:40PM

Canis Lupus wrote: »

Personally I think it's a load of hypocrisy(both my brother and sister have married in a church and baptised their children as well despite not being religious).

I am sure they done it for their children, do you realise how much it would hinder a child in primary school not being able to make their communion ?
How left out they would feel ?

Dyr · 15-10-2008 02:43PM

Mate of mine had a civil marriage recently, first time i attended one. Way better than the full-fat church wedding with some sky pilot playing the "simon says sit down, stand up, kneel" game for an hour.

Lets face it, most people opt for the church because bridezilla wants a PERFECT day or because its what the family (aka mammy) expects.

Nevyn · 15-10-2008 02:43PM

oleras wrote: »

I am sure they done it for their children, do you realise how much it would hinder a child in primary school not being able to make their communion ?
How left out they would feel ?

Both of mine managed just fine and were happy to be able to say they would get to choose their own religion when they are older.

Canis Lupus · 15-10-2008 02:44PM

oleras wrote: »

I am sure they done it for their children, do you realise how much it would hinder a child in primary school not being able to make their communion ?
How left out they would feel ?

Jeez... The poor kids.... Maybe it would help protect them against catholic indoctrination and allow them to think for themselves.

If a child ever has the misfortune of having me as a parent they won't be doing anything religious and I'll explain that all their friends are sheep.

Dragan · 15-10-2008 02:46PM

pseudonym1 wrote: »

YA! shame was thinking if he looks as good as he sounds would ask him to marry me...in a church !:eek:

I can be mature or immature. Its all swings and roundabouts with me.

Also, i am ugly.

And taken.

Dyr · 15-10-2008 02:47PM

Also explain that if they're friends arent going to church every sunday that they're hypocrites and their parents are lapsed catholics. :pac:

Mena · 15-10-2008 02:47PM

partyatmygaff wrote: »

church for religious reasons because i believe in God and think atheism is just something that people do to give them an excuse to do as they like

You don't really know what you're talking about and have not given any thought to the above have you

Anyway, on topic.

The OH and I would have preferred soaking our genitals in acid over a church wedding, so we did it out in the open, next to a huge swimming pool. "Vows" ended up being agreed in the water half-way through

. Never trust a best man to not chuck you both into the water!

Was good, wet fun all the way through.

Dragan · 15-10-2008 02:48PM

Canis Lupus wrote: »

If a child ever has the misfortune of having me as a parent they won't be doing anything religious and I'll explain that all their friends are sheep.

I don't know dude, that is heading into Dawkins territory. At the end of the day i lived my life and came to my own decisions about things.

I would not hazard to try and guess as to whether that means i am possessed of decent logical thought or simply lacking in faith.

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