For yee men..

MagicMarker · 04-09-2008 03:51AM #1

Working in a jewelry store myself, I see many guys coming in looking for engagement rings and it always amazes me the amount they spend, even more so the amount their OH's demand.

So, i'm asking you, if/when you were to ever get engaged. How much do you think is an appropriate amount to spend on the engagement ring?

I understand there is a weddings/marriage forum, but i ask here to get the general consensus, as in opinions from people who have proposed in the past to those who've never even contemplated it.

Personally, i see so much money wasted on something so insignificant, most of the time it's the guy who spends thousands but why shouldn't the woman contribute? Sometimes they match it buy buying a nice watch etc, but that's a rarity.

So i think if the time comes for me (can't really see it happening) i probably wouldn't spend more than 1000 euro on a ring.

Xavi6 · 04-09-2008 03:52AM

Stirling silver with a cubic zirconia would set you back no more than 100. Just tell her it's white gold and a diamond. She'll never know the difference.

Ruu_Old · 04-09-2008 03:57AM

Thankfully, my wife would have been happy with a plastic ring so I'm all set.

I actually got a nice white gold one that she loved for much less than 1000 and if I spent anymore, she would have probably kicked the sheet out of me. I don't see the point in spending so much money on rings, save it for the house and/or honeymoon. Its not like people are going to recognise or guess the cost of it.

Kernel · 04-09-2008 03:59AM

Ruu wrote: »

Thankfully, my wife would have been happy with a plastic ring so I'm all set. I actually got a nice white gold one that she loved for much less than 1000 and if I spent anymore, she would have probably kicked the sheet out of me. I don't see the point in spending so much money on rings, save it for the house and/or honeymoon. Its not like people are going to recognise or guess the cost of it.

Cheapskate!

Isn't it supposed to be 2 months salary or something?

Ruu_Old · 04-09-2008 04:20AM

2 months salary? Says who? I pity the fool!

/me searches for post made where poster said she would not accept a ring less than €10000.

indough · 04-09-2008 04:24AM

Kernel wrote: »

Cheapskate!

Isn't it supposed to be 2 months salary or something?

its "supposed" to be 3 months salary

MagicMarker · 04-09-2008 04:55AM

Ruu wrote: »

2 months salary? Says who? I pity the fool!

/me searches for post made where poster said she would not accept a ring less than €10000.

It's quite clear when women like these come into the store, what's worse is that the guy they are with is usually really nice.

KnifeWRENCH · 04-09-2008 06:17AM

indough wrote: »

its "supposed" to be 3 months salary

Any woman who expects her man to spend 3 months salary on a little metal hoop is a selfish bitch.
Any man who spends 3 months salary on a little metal hoop deserves to be landed with a selfish bitch.

Unless the man is a gazillionaire he shouldn't be dumb enough to pay more than 1000. It's only a fcuking ring!

c - 13 · 04-09-2008 06:39AM

square_igloo wrote: »

Any woman who expects her man to spend 3 months salary on a little metal hoop is a selfish bitch.
Any man who spends 3 months salary on a little metal hoop deserves to be landed with a selfish bitch.

Unless the man is a gazillionaire he shouldn't be dumb enough to pay more than 1000. It's only a fcuking ring!

Well said.

I would probably go to 1500 if the ring was really nice, but I don't see what the point is in landing out thousands for a ring when that money could be put towards a holiday or the wedding or something like that ?

It shouldn't matter if it cost 100,000 or came out of a Halloween brack FFS. Its supposed to be about what the ring symbolises.

I think the person who pays 3 months salary for a ring needs a boot in the hole to be honest.

indough · 04-09-2008 06:46AM

square_igloo wrote: »

Any woman who expects her man to spend 3 months salary on a little metal hoop is a selfish bitch.
Any man who spends 3 months salary on a little metal hoop deserves to be landed with a selfish bitch.

Unless the man is a gazillionaire he shouldn't be dumb enough to pay more than 1000. It's only a fcuking ring!

im afraid you're preaching to the choir here, i chose "She can buy her own"

Overheal · 04-09-2008 06:54AM

that really depends on mine and her income really. in this fantasy world where im not lonely and single i presume i love her but im not about to live in the slums over a shiney fecking stone.

edit: wheres the option to propose with an atari jaguar? thats gotta be worth a few bob.

KnifeWRENCH · 04-09-2008 07:02AM

indough wrote: »

im afraid you're preaching to the choir here, i chose "She can buy her own"

Lol so did I!

hopalong_ie · 04-09-2008 07:24AM

Max i would pay is 1000 and only is there was a nice 42" Full HD LCD waiting at home for me within a week. Otherwise the ring would have to be returned

oeb · 04-09-2008 08:45AM

I always had it in my head that I would spend somewhere between 2 and 4 k.

They get to keep it till I murder them and pawn it off, and I could do with the extra cash when I am in hiding.

Ponster · 04-09-2008 08:52AM

I paid €400 about 4 years ago.

Iago · 04-09-2008 08:53AM

Kernel wrote: »

Cheapskate!

Isn't it supposed to be 2 months salary or something?

It's supposed to be the ring she wants regardless of price. When my wife and I went looking for rings she picked the one she wanted before ever knowing the price of it, and that was the one she got.

Now obviously if you have a wife to be who is demanding that you spend at least X on a ring then maybe you need to think about your choices and decision making process.

You should spend no more than you can afford and never buy a ring for what someone else will think when they see it.

Silenceisbliss · 04-09-2008 09:19AM

i ticked 1000-3000,

I think the ring shouldnt be CHEAP per say, but it shouldnt be an uncomfortable purchase. It depends entirley on what your income is and how much you are willing to spend based upon that.

I personally think spending more than 3000 is too much, it is after all just a ring. You shouldnt quantify your love and affection by having to speand X amount on a ring.

jester77 · 04-09-2008 09:27AM

I'm glad there is none of that nonesense here. But if she wants a ring then I'll happily return to Ireland and buy a nice braic around Halloween!!

not yet · 04-09-2008 09:38AM

Paid 1k 20 years ago (young and foolish) That went pear shaped a few tears back and the woman i'm with now wouldn't let me spend that kind of bread on a ring (clever girl) rather a holiday together.

not yet · 04-09-2008 09:40AM

Fcuk me that was a freudian slip, it was meant to be years back..............

Honey-ec · 04-09-2008 09:52AM

I personally have turned down several marriage proposals due to the meagre caratage of the ring...

Seriously, though, the traditional "going rate" for years was a months salary. Then all of a sudden last year, I started hearing 2 months and now it's apparently 3??? Who keeps moving the goalposts???

I got engaged 2.5 years ago and my other half spent a month's salary on the ring. Then, I lost it about 3 weeks before the wedding back in May. I paid for the replacement myself - $3.5k in New York.

Some women are absolutely crazed about the whole engagement ring thing. I know of one girl who had been proposed to and was delighted, loved the ring, etc. etc. Then about 6 months later she found the receipt for it while she was clearing out a drawer in the house and was absolutely digsusted that her H2b had "only" spent €1,500 on the ring, and henceforth referred to it as a "piece of tat" :eek:

But not in front of him, funnily enough...

BaconZombie · 04-09-2008 09:54AM

For the cheap feckers : http://www.instructables.com/id/Hex-Coin-Ring/

nhughes100 · 04-09-2008 09:58AM

Idiots spending crazy money on a ring that she'll only be wearing till the wedding day, go first class on your honeymoon instead, nobody cares what the ring looks like or much months salary it cost- The "oh it's gorgeous" line is just something people say.

eveie · 04-09-2008 10:00AM

i know a women whos ex fiance bought her a ring worth 10 grand, she got to keep it even though they've broken up, also before this he proposed to her(1st time) the ring was worth anout 7 grand and she threw it at him on e night, and it flew out the wondow and was never found. bigger fool him. i dont think id honestly care how much someone spent because if i said yes it would be for the right reasons not the price they paid for the ring. although my mother has a ssavage engagement ring that i may possibly steel

Honey-ec · 04-09-2008 10:00AM

nhughes100 wrote: »

Idiots spending crazy money on a ring that she'll only be wearing till the wedding day.

You wear the ring with your wedding ring after the wedding...

Dragan · 04-09-2008 10:03AM

Never thought about it.

If you want to spend all your money on a ring then knock yourself out. Then pay a stupid amount of money for the wedding too.

Then sit back and spent two years paying it off.

I love watching people live outside their means.:D

SheroN · 04-09-2008 10:12AM

Is it three months salary net or gross?

Steve_o · 04-09-2008 10:19AM

I wouldn't go over €1500

stovelid · 04-09-2008 10:36AM

Would (did) go to about 1500-1700 for a nice ring. I guess rich people can spend what they want, but even for people on decent salaries, it's mad to splash out 3 months wedge on a ring. If someone was insisting on that, I'd be rethinking the engagement.

jim o doom · 04-09-2008 10:41AM

I paid around 1500 for my fiancees - she knewI was gonna ask so I just said up to around 1500, pick whichever one ya like best!

Not very romantic I know, but I didn't want to get her something she didnt like!
I wouldnt have gone anymore than that though, thats a fair bit of dosh really.. I got a REALLY nice telly for 200 less

but of course for the 1500 I get much more happiness!

Quazzie · 04-09-2008 10:44AM

I wrote my fiancee a blank check and told her to go pick her own. This was after i proposed with a €30 ring from Argos. I knew she wouldn't like any ring I picked so I let her pick her own. She only spent €650 on it so I was lucky enough. At least it was her choice not mine.

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