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Have you ever let "the one" slip through your fingers?

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  • #32
    Loopy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,220 ✭✭✭✭Loopy


    Life is too short for regrets...

    Whats for you wont pass you as someone already sorta said...


  • #33
    thelordofcheese
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,368 ✭✭✭thelordofcheese


    m83 wrote: »
    I don't believe in "the one" ....plenty o' fish and all that...

    O Rly?


  • #34
    Sparky
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,227 ✭✭✭✭Sparky


    Yup!!


  • #35
    javaboy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,094 ✭✭✭✭javaboy


    The Master wrote: »
    "What's for you wont pass you"...............
    and other such phrases

    I don't usually listen to advice from matchboxes and sugar packets. Mol an óige agus go néirigh an bóthar bla bla bla. If I didn't listen to those fortune cookies what makes me think I'm going to listen to a box of cara safety matches?


  • #36
    Clare Bear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,613 ✭✭✭✭Clare Bear


    Firetrap wrote: »
    Was just thinking about this. Few years ago, I met this lovely guy in a bar. He wasn't a local but from about an hour away. We got on grand etc. It was only later when I thought back that I realised that he liked me etc. but I was too stupid to notice the signs. Maybe I'm reading too much into this etc. and perhaps he didn't really like me and it mightn't have worked out. You get the gist. But I do occasionally wonder what could have been.

    Ah I used to think that about someone but I've met the one now so he obviously wasn't....and if he is your one then you'll meet again. If not, it wasn't him.


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  • #37
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 36,733 CMod ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Too young to have a "One that got away" story to tell, but it would make for grand romantic film, if the producers would stop focusing on pure violence (like "No Country for Old Men") and screen something that relies more on acting in real life situations.


  • #38
    sputnik2_2000
    Closed Accounts Posts: 31 ✭sputnik2_2000


    In college a few years ago there was this guy in my lectures who I got on great with, we sat beside each other, we'd meet up on nights out & the odd night share a taxi home together, we always flirted and nearly kissed one night, at the time I was raging that nothing had happened and even till a year ago (until I met my current bf) I used to always think what if... but now I'm so glad that nothing ever did happen; we've lost touch and I hear the odd bit about him & he appears to be a complete tosser now (maybe he always was) and I'm just glad that I wasn't just another girl to him, if anything I now love the fact that nothing did happen and if I saw him on a night out I can honestly say I'd be thinking 'thank God I didn't!' Strange how things change...


  • #39
    Ginny
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 13,426 ✭✭✭✭Ginny


    I don't think I have, wasn't there a thread in AH recently about this?

    Something similar: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=55768339#post55768339


  • #40
    McSandwich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 593 ✭✭✭McSandwich


    Yes, but in hindsight I'm glad the way things worked out.

    so tempted to say something involving slipping, fingers, and Yore Ma, but I won't


  • #41
    sunnyside
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,428 ✭✭✭sunnyside


    Clare Bear wrote: »
    ....and if he is your one then you'll meet again. If not, it wasn't him.

    That's what happened for me with a previous long-term relationship. I met this guy maybe once a year. There was definitely some chemistry there but the communication skills to turn it into something more were seriously lacking. It was about 4 years before we finally got together.


    sputnik2_2000 wrote: »
    I can honestly say I'd be thinking 'thank God I didn't!' Strange how things change...


    I hate when that happens. I don't like to be reminded of how much I've changed.


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  • #42
    Trojan911
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,194 ✭✭✭Trojan911


    Yep, only two months ago at the Co Co's reunion in Cork.... (bangs head against monitor repeatedly).... Why, oh Why..........


  • #43
    i71jskz5xu42pb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,806 ✭✭✭i71jskz5xu42pb


    Everybody has it seems



    _


  • #44
    georgem25
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,255 ✭✭✭georgem25


    Left one.. possibly 2 go..
    2 have definitely left me go....

    what was meant for you wont pass you....

    As per the wise old words of Gareth Brooks....
    Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
    Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
    That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
    Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers
    etc etc ........


  • #45
    HoneyButterfly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 170 ✭✭HoneyButterfly


    Phlann wrote: »
    I think people need to get this 'one person for everybody' claptrap out of their heads.

    There's probably dozens in your locality.

    Millions worldwide.

    Why dwell on one when you could have them all.


    Well I dont' believe you can have them all, but I mean, lots of people are saying they've missed 'the one' loads of times....then I'm guessing they wern't the one, but just one.


  • #46
    ats
    Closed Accounts Posts: 118 ✭✭ats


    yep we all have i think. the worst part for me was finding her again only she's married with kids .

    god damn it should have followed up on that message i left all those years ago.


  • #47
    sunnyside
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,428 ✭✭✭sunnyside


    m83 wrote: »
    I don't believe in "the one" ....plenty o' fish and all that...

    I agree that it's possible to have good relationships with various different people but people who've had a few relationships can always tell you who the love of their life was even if they're happy now with someone else.


  • #48
    Captain Darling
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,542 ✭✭✭Captain Darling


    Reality is never as good as the ideal. If you dont realise that you're sunk.

    Get the finger out and enjoy what you have.


  • #49
    adsgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 260 ✭✭adsgirl


    No never, am much to smart, I let them all go..


  • #50
    JangoFett
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 854 ✭✭✭JangoFett


    Firetrap wrote: »
    Was just thinking about this. Few years ago, I met this lovely guy in a bar. He wasn't a local but from about an hour away. We got on grand etc. It was only later when I thought back that I realised that he liked me etc. but I was too stupid to notice the signs. Maybe I'm reading too much into this etc. and perhaps he didn't really like me and it mightn't have worked out. You get the gist. But I do occasionally wonder what could have been.


    Well the good news is there's no way of knowing if he's "the one" because all ye did was talk in the bar or whatever, unless you believe in love at first sight, which doesn't happen really

    But on the subject at hand, last year I was dumped by this girl I had been with for a year and was left with a major fear of commitment, I was having panic attacks if I met a girl a second time, it was a really messy break up. And then I started seeing a friend of mine, but wouldn't commit cuz of the fear but she tolerated my crap and then she eventually got sick of me and left. She went to New Mexico, then Uganda and will be back soon, I'd like something to happen again, I'm ready for a commitment with her but I've blown it


  • #51
    panda100
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    Theres a few guys who thought I was 'the one' for them but they definatly werent for me. If they really are 'the one' then feelings must be reciprocated and mutual.

    Theres definatly one ex I regret breaking up with and I think he was 'the one'. The feelings I had with him were something I had never experienced before and havent experienced since him. Unfortunatly that ship has sailed and Im destined to a life where all the people I date will always be second best.


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  • #52
    [Deleted User]
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    panda100 wrote: »
    Theres definatly one ex I regret breaking up with and I think he was 'the one'. The feelings I had with him were something I had never experienced before and havent experienced since him. Unfortunatly that ship has sailed and Im destined to a life where all the people I date will always be second best.

    Panda your max 21. Chill.


  • #53
    Howard the Duck
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,289 ✭✭✭Howard the Duck


    georgem25 wrote: »
    As per the wise old words of Gareth Brooks....
    Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
    Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
    That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
    Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers
    etc etc ........

    Yea he got divorced.

    There was one girl i met on a night out she was a friend of friend of a friend.. so i'll never meet her again she wasn't the one but she was really cool.


  • #54
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,387 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    panda100 wrote: »
    Unfortunatly that ship has sailed and Im destined to a life where all the people I date will always be second best.
    That's a pity. I do know where you are coming from though. I would have thought the same before, but I've had that connection twice and more to the point I've had really great times with women that it never went further than that(had a fair few loons too mind:)). Stay open to the possibility basically.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #55
    faceman
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    Nah, i dont buy into that anymore. Someone being "the one" would have the mean that they feel the same way. And if they do, then it would happen, but if they dont they can hardly be "the one"

    The grass is always greener and the world looks great through rose tinted glasses.


  • #56
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 25,004 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    I was pretty sure I had until I became an adult and realised that life is more complicated than Sandra Bullock movies make them out to be...

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  • #57
    DerKaiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 505 ✭✭✭DerKaiser


    Why are you so desperate to be monogamous anyway? The one? Perhaps there is no "one" but a succession of people that will make us happy in some way or another, and maybe one of those will stick around for longer than the others, enjoy your life and stop confusing yourself


  • #58
    dade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,178 ✭✭✭dade


    Howard the Duck wrote: »
    Yea he got divorced.

    and married Trisha Yearwood


  • #59
    Howard the Duck
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,289 ✭✭✭Howard the Duck


    dade wrote: »
    and married Trisha Yearwood

    God saw fit to answer that prayer it seems


  • #60
    Swampy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,105 ✭✭✭Swampy


    taidghbaby wrote: »
    yeah one night when out i seen this absolutley gorgeous girl!!

    i observed her for a while, seen her smile, her interaction with her friends, the cute way she played with her hair!

    then just as i was about to make my move......one of her neighbours spotted me hiding in the bushes at the back of her house and the guards were called :(

    lol brilliant


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  • #61
    dade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,178 ✭✭✭dade


    Howard the Duck wrote: »
    God saw fit to answer that prayer it seems

    yeah i think so, but the song wasn't about her, if i remember right it was writen by Pat Alger & Larry Bastian.


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