Have you ever let "the one" slip through your fingers?

Firetrap

Was just thinking about this. Few years ago, I met this lovely guy in a bar. He wasn't a local but from about an hour away. We got on grand etc. It was only later when I thought back that I realised that he liked me etc. but I was too stupid to notice the signs. Maybe I'm reading too much into this etc. and perhaps he didn't really like me and it mightn't have worked out. You get the gist. But I do occasionally wonder what could have been.

Edit: I didn't explain this too well unfortunately. I'm not one of those people who thinks there's only one person out there for you. There are any number of "ones" out there

SV

I did indeed..back in the day..ahh

I'm destined to a life of loneliness now :(

rhapsody!

Don't think I've met the one yet lol
Maybe I have and he's too stupid to realise I like him??
Anything is possible!

I've been let slip by the one. Bastard. :mad:

Magpie!

He wasn't the one but I was mad about a guy in school. We became really good friends in 5th and 6th year and I didn't want to ruin things. He was so different from all the other assholes I was into at the time. Looking back it would have done me so much good and changed a lot in my life to have gone out with a really genuine, intelligent, nice guy at that stage of my life. There was definitely a spark there but neither of us did anything about it. I haven't ran into him in years but I still dream about him 5 or 6 times a year.

Dave!

All the freakin' time.....

ThE_IVIAcIVIAIV

happens waaay too much to me

chem

OH dear becoming the we hate men club thread.

To give it balance. My 1st love fu*ked me up for a long time. I am male and unlike pop opinion can love.

síofra

Firetrap wrote: »

Was just thinking about this. Few years ago, I met this lovely guy in a bar. He wasn't a local but from about an hour away. We got on grand etc. It was only later when I thought back that I realised that he liked me etc. but I was too stupid to notice the signs. Maybe I'm reading too much into this etc. and perhaps he didn't really like me and it mightn't have worked out. You get the gist. But I do occasionally wonder what could have been.

If he was the one, he would be with you now. Don't dwell too much on the past because you're looking at it from a different perspective than you were then. There was a reason that things happened the way they did. Learn from the experience and next time you meet someone in a bar you might be a bit more sensitive to the possibilities!! All the best

chem

Magpie! wrote: »

He wasn't the one but I was mad about a guy in school. We became really good friends in 5th and 6th year and I didn't want to ruin things. He was so different from all the other assholes I was into at the time. Looking back it would have done me so much good and changed a lot in my life to have gone out with a really genuine, intelligent, nice guy at that stage of my life. There was definitely a spark there but neither of us did anything about it. I haven't ran into him in years but I still dream about him 5 or 6 times a year.

its OK im still here:D

taidghbaby

yeah one night when out i seen this absolutley gorgeous girl!!

i observed her for a while, seen her smile, her interaction with her friends, the cute way she played with her hair!

then just as i was about to make my move......one of her neighbours spotted me hiding in the bushes at the back of her house and the guards were called

síofra

Moonbaby wrote: »

I've been let slip by the one. Bastard. :mad:

he wasn't the one for you so.

Phlann

I think people need to get this 'one person for everybody' claptrap out of their heads.

There's probably dozens in your locality.

Millions worldwide.

Why dwell on one when you could have them all.

Kold

Well I broke up with the only girl I've ever loved. But I'm 22 so I'm gonna go with 'No'.

ronnie3585

Twice:(

Both times too fu*king stupid to recognise that she was the one.

eldeabroad

taidghbaby wrote: »

yeah one night when out i seen this absolutley gorgeous girl!!

i observed her for a while, seen her smile, her interaction with her friends, the cute way she played with her hair!

then just as i was about to make my move......one of her neighbours spotted me hiding in the bushes at the back of her house and the guards were called

jigs**?????? that you????????

rhapsody!

taidghbaby wrote: »

yeah one night when out i seen this absolutley gorgeous girl!!

i observed her for a while, seen her smile, her interaction with her friends, the cute way she played with her hair!

then just as i was about to make my move......one of her neighbours spotted me hiding in the bushes at the back of her house and the guards were called

you "seen" her did you?

javaboy

rhapsody! wrote: »

you "seen" her did you?

That is to say I saw her.

Wibbs

Naw at the time I may have thought so, but nope. They were right at the time. That's about it.

The Master

"What's for you wont pass you"...............
and other such phrases

arybvtcw0eolkf

Taking a romantic walk along the cliffs of Howth with my one through love, she slipped on loose gravel, and try as I might she slipped through my fingers and fell to her death.

Yup, she was the one.

Joe Cool

I am the one.

ninty9er

Twice....in primary school admittedly:pac:

Made a fool of myself telling one of them years later how I felt....she pitied me for ages after that, I could see it in her face. Didn't help she was great friends with a few guys in my secondary school and that her brother was in my year...the ripping I got.....hugely embarassing!

Carsinian Thau

Yep.
Could go into a long story but on the off chance that she's on boards I won't.

But I will admit that I do still wonder about what might have been. She won't even talk to me anymore though (it's been about a year and a half at this stage).

It's strange regretting this situation because I knwo that it would never have worked. Her friends hated me and I never knew what to say to them anyway.

To make matters worse I didn't just let her slip away once. It happened about four times. Each one was accompanied with a "will they/won't they?" vibe until finally I lost her to some jackass after stumbling into an arguement between her and one of her friends (that I had known for ages) and accidentally made it seem as though I was more loyal to the friend.

I still text to wish her good luck in exams, happy Christmas, happy birthday etc. but she never replies.
Perhaps it's time I stopped as I'm reasonably sure she really hates me and could neer forgive me (even though I'm not entirely sure I did anything wrong).

Terry

Three times.
Had a dream about one of them last night. Although I'm sort of glad she didn't end up being the one.
I met her a year or so ago after she had been in Australia for several years and just thought to myself what the fúck was I thinking.

Carsinian Thau

The Master wrote: »

"What's for you wont pass you"...............
and other such phrases

I really hope that's true.

m83

I don't believe in "the one" ....plenty o' fish and all that...

girl_friday

The Master wrote: »

"What's for you wont pass you"...

Hopefully!! I've been dumped twice by the same guy... Wouldn't have gone back the second time only I really did (do?) believe he was the one... After recovering from my broken heart the second time I swore he wasn't getting another chance although we are still in contact. Have kind of knocked him back a few times since so hoping there is another 'one' out there!!

dmca77

I am a firm believer that you make your life the way you want it. I personally have always moved on and on to better things. I could just have been lucky.
You never look back at the past and dwell on things, look to the future and make your life happier.

GirlInterrupted

Don't think I've met the 'one' - assuming I'd recognise him that is....

I've regretted some decisions on occasion, but I've known they were the right decisions at the same time.

Creamy Goodness

I believe so, yes.

Loopy

Life is too short for regrets...

Whats for you wont pass you as someone already sorta said...

thelordofcheese

m83 wrote: »

I don't believe in "the one" ....plenty o' fish and all that...

O Rly?

Sparky

Yup!!

javaboy

The Master wrote: »

"What's for you wont pass you"...............
and other such phrases

I don't usually listen to advice from matchboxes and sugar packets. Mol an óige agus go néirigh an bóthar bla bla bla. If I didn't listen to those fortune cookies what makes me think I'm going to listen to a box of cara safety matches?

Clare Bear

Firetrap wrote: »

Was just thinking about this. Few years ago, I met this lovely guy in a bar. He wasn't a local but from about an hour away. We got on grand etc. It was only later when I thought back that I realised that he liked me etc. but I was too stupid to notice the signs. Maybe I'm reading too much into this etc. and perhaps he didn't really like me and it mightn't have worked out. You get the gist. But I do occasionally wonder what could have been.

Ah I used to think that about someone but I've met the one now so he obviously wasn't....and if he is your one then you'll meet again. If not, it wasn't him.

Black Swan

Too young to have a "One that got away" story to tell, but it would make for grand romantic film, if the producers would stop focusing on pure violence (like "No Country for Old Men") and screen something that relies more on acting in real life situations.

sputnik2_2000

In college a few years ago there was this guy in my lectures who I got on great with, we sat beside each other, we'd meet up on nights out & the odd night share a taxi home together, we always flirted and nearly kissed one night, at the time I was raging that nothing had happened and even till a year ago (until I met my current bf) I used to always think what if... but now I'm so glad that nothing ever did happen; we've lost touch and I hear the odd bit about him & he appears to be a complete tosser now (maybe he always was) and I'm just glad that I wasn't just another girl to him, if anything I now love the fact that nothing did happen and if I saw him on a night out I can honestly say I'd be thinking 'thank God I didn't!' Strange how things change...

Ginny

I don't think I have, wasn't there a thread in AH recently about this?

Something similar: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=55768339#post55768339

McSandwich

Yes, but in hindsight I'm glad the way things worked out.

so tempted to say something involving slipping, fingers, and Yore Ma, but I won't

sunnyside

Clare Bear wrote: »

....and if he is your one then you'll meet again. If not, it wasn't him.

That's what happened for me with a previous long-term relationship. I met this guy maybe once a year. There was definitely some chemistry there but the communication skills to turn it into something more were seriously lacking. It was about 4 years before we finally got together.

sputnik2_2000 wrote: »

I can honestly say I'd be thinking 'thank God I didn't!' Strange how things change...

I hate when that happens. I don't like to be reminded of how much I've changed.

Trojan911

Yep, only two months ago at the Co Co's reunion in Cork.... (bangs head against monitor repeatedly).... Why, oh Why..........

i71jskz5xu42pb

Everybody has it seems



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georgem25

Left one.. possibly 2 go..
2 have definitely left me go....

what was meant for you wont pass you....

As per the wise old words of Gareth Brooks....
Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers
etc etc ........

HoneyButterfly

Phlann wrote: »

I think people need to get this 'one person for everybody' claptrap out of their heads.

There's probably dozens in your locality.

Millions worldwide.

Why dwell on one when you could have them all.

Well I dont' believe you can have them all, but I mean, lots of people are saying they've missed 'the one' loads of times....then I'm guessing they wern't the one, but just one.

ats

yep we all have i think. the worst part for me was finding her again only she's married with kids .

god damn it should have followed up on that message i left all those years ago.

sunnyside

m83 wrote: »

I don't believe in "the one" ....plenty o' fish and all that...

I agree that it's possible to have good relationships with various different people but people who've had a few relationships can always tell you who the love of their life was even if they're happy now with someone else.

Captain Darling

Reality is never as good as the ideal. If you dont realise that you're sunk.

Get the finger out and enjoy what you have.

adsgirl

No never, am much to smart, I let them all go..

JangoFett

Firetrap wrote: »

Was just thinking about this. Few years ago, I met this lovely guy in a bar. He wasn't a local but from about an hour away. We got on grand etc. It was only later when I thought back that I realised that he liked me etc. but I was too stupid to notice the signs. Maybe I'm reading too much into this etc. and perhaps he didn't really like me and it mightn't have worked out. You get the gist. But I do occasionally wonder what could have been.

Well the good news is there's no way of knowing if he's "the one" because all ye did was talk in the bar or whatever, unless you believe in love at first sight, which doesn't happen really

But on the subject at hand, last year I was dumped by this girl I had been with for a year and was left with a major fear of commitment, I was having panic attacks if I met a girl a second time, it was a really messy break up. And then I started seeing a friend of mine, but wouldn't commit cuz of the fear but she tolerated my crap and then she eventually got sick of me and left. She went to New Mexico, then Uganda and will be back soon, I'd like something to happen again, I'm ready for a commitment with her but I've blown it

panda100

Theres a few guys who thought I was 'the one' for them but they definatly werent for me. If they really are 'the one' then feelings must be reciprocated and mutual.

Theres definatly one ex I regret breaking up with and I think he was 'the one'. The feelings I had with him were something I had never experienced before and havent experienced since him. Unfortunatly that ship has sailed and Im destined to a life where all the people I date will always be second best.