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Anti-single people??

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  • #32
    javaboy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,094 ✭✭✭✭javaboy


    Dudess wrote: »
    Now that you mention the cats though, maybe the single people could be used as pet food soylent green? But then of course, what to be done with all the stray - and fatter if my idea were to come to fruition - cats...

    Put captions on them and send them to work in the internet mines?


  • #33
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Lolcat models - of course!


  • #34
    Maximilian
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,400 ✭✭✭Maximilian


    I'm 36 & single. I tend to find most women over 30 are basically ovarian terrorists. Women my age are pregnancy jihadists. I recently had an issue with a stalker, albeit a text message stalker. It's scary. I tend to walk away from someone after a very short while for fear of commitment. I wish I was 25 again - it was a lot simpler and women didn't sound you out as to your attitude towards kids on the first 10 minutes of the first date. Of course, maybe it's just me.


  • #35
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Why don't you nab yourself a chick under 30 so? Y'know, conjure her up out of thin air?


  • #36
    Maximilian
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,400 ✭✭✭Maximilian


    Dudess wrote: »
    Why don't you nab yourself a chick under 30 so? Y'know, conjure her up out of thin air?

    I try & I do (occasionally). It gets harder every year*. Plus, I have less interest in partying until dawn anymore.

    *pun unintended, although welcome.


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  • #37
    thelordofcheese
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,368 ✭✭✭thelordofcheese


    I like how my dad asks from time to time "isn't it time you got a girlfriend?" as if they are a commodity you could aquire just by walking down to the nearest shop with the right amount of money.

    The only excuse my father could have for this outlook on life would be if the story of how he and my mother first met is drastically different to the one I've been told.

    And if it is I don't want to know......


  • #38
    P.C.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,765 ✭✭✭P.C.


    Galvasean wrote: »
    In response to such matters I usually use the 'Give a man a fish...' answer.

    MMMmmmmmmm

    Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day.

    Show a man how to use the internet, and he won't bug you for weeks! :D


  • #39
    PrivateEye
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,283 ✭✭✭PrivateEye


    I like how my dad asks from time to time "isn't it time you got a girlfriend?" as if they are a commodity you could aquire just by walking down to the nearest shop with the right amount of money.

    Exacto.

    I'm only 18, but thinking of my circle of friends 4 or 5 would be in 'relationships' of the minute.

    1 of them relatonships is what I'd call solid, as in they're the ones not bickering/making threats etc. all the time. They also seem to actually love each other, which means they instantly stand out from the other bebofests of relationships.

    I'd love to NOT be single being honest, I think I'd bring a fair bit more to the table than lads in some of the above relationships, but I wouldn't jump into one just to go 'there ya are Dad/Mate/Whoever else. We could all go and make a haims of a relationship if we only wanted one for the status of having one, which seems to be the case most of the time.

    Anytime I get the "Ah we have to find you a ____" from the mates I'm incline to think 'Can somebody else lead the search' :rolleyes:


  • #40
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 25,006 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    The only thing I can think of that's anti-single people is our obsession with owning your own property - something which is next to impossible for the average singleton in modern Ireland.

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  • #41
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Yep, that's true. I'm noticing an increasing trend in people getting mortgages with friends.


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  • #42
    Kipperhell
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,477 ✭✭✭Kipperhell


    I think you are missing a key element here namely age.

    Single at 25 is fine at 35 it looks odd.

    Somebody who doesn't have any serious relationships by a certain age do tend to be strange. The ones that already had them tend to want them again.

    My single female friends tend to want babies now and are not really bother how. It happened quickly and dramatically. The guys really don't like it and go for younger woman as a result.


  • #43
    445279.ie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 9,983 ✭✭✭445279.ie


    Maximilian wrote: »
    I'm 36 & single. I tend to find most women over 30 are basically ovarian terrorists. Women my age are pregnancy jihadists. I recently had an issue with a stalker, albeit a text message stalker. It's scary. I tend to walk away from someone after a very short while for fear of commitment. I wish I was 25 again - it was a lot simpler and women didn't sound you out as to your attitude towards kids on the first 10 minutes of the first date. Of course, maybe it's just me.

    I'm 36, female and single and don't want kids at all :eek: - and looked upon as being strange :mad:

    What bugs me is my aunt telling me she's lighting candles that'll I meet someone :rolleyes:


  • #44
    P.C.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,765 ✭✭✭P.C.


    Kipperhell wrote: »
    I think you are missing a key element here namely age.

    Single at 25 is fine at 35 it looks odd.

    Somebody who doesn't have any serious relationships by a certain age do tend to be strange. The ones that already had them tend to want them again.
    What has age got to do with it??? :confused:

    So, you are a freek if you are over 35, and still single??? :confused:
    I am a single male over 35. I have just not found the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with, and may never find her. I am happy with that. I have had relationships, and a few of them have lasted a few years. Does this mean that I am 'odd'??? :confused:
    DCC160 wrote: »
    I'm 36, female and single and don't want kids at all :eek: - and looked upon as being strange :mad:

    What bugs me is my aunt telling me she's lighting candles that'll I need someone :rolleyes:

    Nothing wrong with not wanting kids. But, I understand about the aunt.
    A friend of mine once told me that I need to make marrage a priority. :confused:


  • #45
    Galvasean
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    thelordofcheese wrote: »
    I like how my dad asks from time to time "isn't it time you got a girlfriend?" as if they are a commodity you could aquire just by walking down to the nearest shop with the right amount of money.

    Lots of money = Lots o' women.
    Although I can't vouch for their overall moral fiber.


  • #46
    Slidey
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,811 ✭✭✭✭Slidey


    Maximilian wrote: »
    I'm 36 & single. I tend to find most women over 30 are basically ovarian terrorists. Women my age are pregnancy jihadists..
    DCC160 wrote: »
    I'm 36, female and single and don't want kids at all :eek: - and looked upon as being strange :mad:

    What bugs me is my aunt telling me she's lighting candles that'll I meet someone :rolleyes:

    Jaysus ye 2.. the PM should have been sent by now.

    Payment to [EMAIL="matchmaker@paypal"]matchmaker@paypal[/EMAIL] The fee is 12 wise virgins (female, over 18 and under 30, ye oldies freak me out)


  • #47
    445279.ie
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    slideways wrote: »
    Jaysus ye 2.. the PM should have been sent by now.

    Payment to [EMAIL="matchmaker@paypal"]matchmaker@paypal[/EMAIL] The fee is 12 wise virgins (female, over 18 and under 30, ye oldies freak me out)

    You're gas :p

    And I looked at Maximilians profile and i'm only 8 days older than him!! ;)


  • #48
    Kipperhell
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,477 ✭✭✭Kipperhell


    P.C. wrote: »
    What has age got to do with it??? :confused:

    So, you are a freek if you are over 35, and still single??? :confused:
    I am a single male over 35. I have just not found the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with, and may never find her. I am happy with that. I have had relationships, and a few of them have lasted a few years. Does this mean that I am 'odd'??? :confused:

    Read what I said again.

    I said somebody at 35 who has never had a serious relationship is often odd. If you have a had a few and it doesn't work out is pretty normal. Most people who have had serious relationships tend to want them again unless something was seriously wrong.

    Age is a big contributor to how being single is seen. If you don't understand why there really is no point explaining.


  • #49
    Slidey
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    DCC160 wrote: »
    You're gas :p

    And I looked at Maximilians profile and i'm only 8 days older than him!! ;)

    Jaysus Max.. check your windows, jigsaws sister is on the loose...

    What have I done? :eek:


  • #50
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Kipperhell wrote: »
    I think you are missing a key element here namely age.

    Single at 25 is fine at 35 it looks odd.

    Somebody who doesn't have any serious relationships by a certain age do tend to be strange. The ones that already had them tend to want them again.
    That's a really ignorant thing to say. When single people get annoyed at how society perceives them I'd totally understand based on that statement.
    Single at 25 is "fine" is it? Not 25 years ago. So really, it's more about societal perceptions than any particular reality - and you've bought into that.
    I think some people truly believe you can produce a partner out of thin air.
    Where is the guarantee anyone is gonna meet anyone? And remember, some people choose to settle out of fear of being alone - those who are still alone well into their 30s or whatever don't opt for settling. That to me seems far more healthy.
    It's ironic that you commented on your female friends in their 30s grabbing a man out of desperation, yet you'd also consider those same women strange etc for not getting a man - which is it?
    Using age to categorise adults is misguided. Seriously, you're basing your assessment of them on the number of years they're alive, the date on their birth cert. What relevance do these have?
    DCC160 wrote: »
    What bugs me is my aunt telling me she's lighting candles that'll I meet someone :rolleyes:
    But... but aren't you grateful that she's doing something about your desperate situation??!! ;)
    P.C. wrote: »
    What has age got to do with it??? :confused:

    So, you are a freek if you are over 35, and still single??? :confused:
    I am a single male over 35. I have just not found the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with, and may never find her. I am happy with that. I have had relationships, and a few of them have lasted a few years. Does this mean that I am 'odd'??? :confused:
    That's the crux of it - not everyone meets someone by 35 or whatever. I can't understand this consensus that it's an inevitability.

    What makes me laugh is the settling thing by people in their 30s out of fear of being alone - because they're not getting any younger. Then they're divorced in ten years' time, now with an even more diminished chance of finding someone, and possibly with kids to support.
    Kipperhell wrote: »
    Read what I said again.

    I said somebody at 35 who has never had a serious relationship is often odd.
    Prior to that though you said "Single at 25 is fine at 35 it looks odd."
    If you have a had a few and it doesn't work out is pretty normal. Most people who have had serious relationships tend to want them again unless something was seriously wrong.
    But not all people who are single at 35 and have had relationships in the past don't want a relationship again.
    Age is a big contributor to how being single is seen. If you don't understand why there really is no point explaining.
    Oh right. So it's how the single person is "seen"? What about the person themselves? Seriously, people need to stop defining others by their age.
    It really seems like a person whose age is unknown would be treated very differently to how they'd be treated if their age was revealed.

    And also, it gets more difficult by the late second half of the 30s for people to meet partners, so it's unfair to say people who are single at that age tend to be "odd".


  • #51
    445279.ie
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    slideways wrote: »
    Jaysus Max.. check your windows, jigsaws sister is on the loose...

    What have I done? :eek:

    Ah it's OK, he's safe. I'm not desperate enough to stalk yet :D


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  • #52
    Sir Oxman
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    Dudess wrote: »
    That's a really ignorant thing to say. When single people get annoyed at how society perceives them I'd totally understand based on that statement.
    Single at 25 is "fine" is it? Not 25 years ago. So really, it's more about societal perceptions than any particular reality - and you've bought into that.
    I think some people truly believe you can produce a partner out of thin air.
    Where is the guarantee anyone is gonna meet anyone? And remember, some people choose to settle out of fear of being alone - those who are still alone well into their 30s or whatever don't opt for settling. That to me seems far more healthy.
    It's ironic that you commented on your female friends in their 30s grabbing a man out of desperation, yet you'd also consider those same women strange etc for not getting a man - which is it?
    Using age to categorise adults is misguided. Seriously, you're basing your assessment of them on the number of years they're alive, the date on their birth cert. What relevance do these have?

    +1,000,000 <--- is that allowed??;)

    I get ragged over being single at 41 (have had previous relationships, therefore according to Kipperhell I'm not THAT odd, though I fcking am and proud to be!) - it is sometimes okay but most times it is HUGELY annoying and quite patronising.

    My age is 41 though I look early 30s - revealing my age seems to set the tongues a-wagging so it most definitely is dull, dull people that have the problem with age and partner status.


  • #53
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    gambiaman wrote: »
    My age is 41 though I look early 30s
    Are you black? (Going by your username). Cuz "black don't crack". Denzel's in his fricking 50s and looks 30-something (the hottie :pac:).


  • #54
    Slidey
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,811 ✭✭✭✭Slidey


    Dudess wrote: »
    Are you black? (Going by your username). Cuz "black don't crack". Denzel's in his fricking 50s and looks 30-something (the hottie :pac:).
    Fcuk sake, dont beat about the bush there:rolleyes:


  • #55
    kelle
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    I certainly don't look down on single people. It seems to be the general consensus of married people with children that single people have plenty of free time, don't suffer stress ("what would she be stressed about? She doesn't have a husband or kids!" is a line I heard said in our staffroom last week) and have plenty of energy. I remember life not being like that when I was single.


  • #56
    Sir Oxman
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    Dudess wrote: »
    Are you black? (Going by your username). Cuz "black don't crack". Denzel's in his fricking 50s and looks 30-something (the hottie :pac:).

    LOL.
    Nope. I never, ever said I was goodlooking or anything...


  • #57
    rubadub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,387 ✭✭✭✭rubadub


    Well the government imposes a sly tax on unmarried people, blatantly "anti-single". If you are not getting benefits then you are being taxed more. The whole tax benefit thing should really only apply to married couples with children, if at all. The whole marriage thing is supposed to revolve around kids from the governments view, and some old timers would too, so they would see a woman of 35 getting on and having no kids, but many want that these days. It is other people presuming you want to be married or have kids at a certain age that think you odd, the person themselves probably doesn't give a damn, and would think them odd for having such presumptions.

    A lot of people are not having kids these days so I do not see any stigma being attached as much.The older you get the more normal it seems, just like when you were sneaking into pubs at 16 with fake IDs and the bouncer said "over 23s" and you thought, "jesus, 23? I'll be at home knitting at that age."


  • #58
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    gambiaman wrote: »
    LOL.
    Nope. I never, ever said I was goodlooking or anything...
    No, the age thing, seeing as you look 10 years younger. "Black don't crack" refers to how black skin tends to age more slowly than white skin.


  • #59
    Sir Oxman
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    kelle wrote: »
    I certainly don't look down on single people. It seems to be the general consensus of married people with children that single people have plenty of free time, don't suffer stress ("what would she be stressed about? She doesn't have a husband or kids!" is a line I heard said in our staffroom last week) and have plenty of energy. I remember life not being like that when I was single.

    Yup. I get that too.
    I mean, I don't have money troubles, things to do, people to see, crises etc cos apparently I'M ODD AND SINGLE AND WORTHLESS!!!! <--slight exaggeration


  • #60
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    A lot of people are just obsessed with other people pairing up. I like to do a bit of matchmaking myself, but only if I know of two single people whom I think would be ideal for each other.


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  • #61
    Sir Oxman
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,490 ✭✭✭Sir Oxman


    Dudess wrote: »
    No, the age thing, seeing as you look 10 years younger. "Black don't crack" refers to how black skin tends to age more slowly than white skin.

    I understand Dudess.;)

    Great counterpoints you made above - I'd add in that being childless (whether single or married) is possibly more 'terrible' and provokes more 'odd' finger pointing than being just single at 30/40/50 or whatever the new weirdo age is now.


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