Anti-single people??

faceman

I've heard a few pieces on talk radio shows recently about single people feeling pressurised to be in a relationship! WTF? When did this happen? Do those of you in relationships frown upon your single friends??

Then again I suppose there will always be ugly people!!

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faceman wrote: »

Do those of you in relationships frown upon your single friends??

Yes.


Weirdos.

Steve_o

Single FTW!!!

I look down on people in relationships... Tied down for all eternity muhahahahaha



I'm all alone....:(

briantwin

Des wrote: »

Yes.


Weirdos.

Relationship excludes blood relatives Des.....

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briantwin wrote: »

Relationship excludes blood relatives Des.....

I know.

Thanks.

Captain Darling

faceman wrote: »

Do those of you in relationships frown upon your single friends??

Then again I suppose there will always be ugly people!!

Envious because they can go on the piss/pull whenever they like, yes.

Frown upon them, no.

MonkeyWrench

I've heard alot on Newstalk and RTE recently about this too. I think its just as a result of all the stats coming out about women having kids later in life, people putting off getting married until their 30's etc. It does get a bit on the annoying side, its still always prevalent at weddings though with ol grannys talking about whos yet to get hitched in their family.

6th

Stop picking on Anti just coz its his Birthday.

boneless

briantwin wrote: »

Relationship excludes blood relatives Des.....

:mad:.... damn society and it's rules....

metamorphic

had a friend's girlfriend pull the aul "we'll have to find you a girlfriend".

"no thanks, you've sh|te taste"

*stunned look* "whaa?"

"you're with him aren't you" walked off chuckling.

Dudess

On the one hand, I'd wager there are a lot of single people with a persecution complex about being single.

On the other though, single people can experience pity, which is dreadfully condescending.

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Dudess wrote: »

On the one hand, I'd wager there are a lot of single people with a persecution complex about being single.

On the other though, single people can experience pity, which is dreadfully condescending.

There, there.

metamorphic

Dudess wrote: »

On the one hand, I'd wager there are a lot of single people with a persecution complex about being single.

On the other though, single people can experience pity, which is dreadfully condescending.

agreed. there's people out there dying to get hooked up who'd welcome the help, there's others who are happy enough and don't need the interference.

dee8839

The grass is always greener on the other side, and everyones a bit touchy about it, so singles think they're looked down on by couples or pitied for being alone, while couples think they're missing out on the madness of singledom.

Single rocks!

Galvasean

metamorphic wrote: »

had a friend's girlfriend pull the aul "we'll have to find you a girlfriend".

In response to such matters I usually use the 'Give a man a fish...' answer.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Well, people whose friend circle have paired off might feel as if they're being looked down upon as they have to spend their entire time playing the third/fifth/seventh wheel? I don't look down on my single friends....

MonkeyWrench

Women are more prone to setting up their mates with someone but sometimes a womans perception of what a 'looker' she is can be a bit different from a males perspective..

Captain Darling

Des wrote: »

There, there.

Thats quality comic timing.

Dudess

It'd be even better if I was single :pac:

Captain Darling

Dudess wrote: »

It'd be even better if I was single :pac:

Just like that.

dr.bollocko

Single people suck ass. Why are they still alive? We have rejected them. What good are they now? Are there not workhouses?

Dudess

Extermination camps tbh.

dr.bollocko

Dudess wrote: »

Extermination camps tbh.

Yeah. Lock em up in their bedsits with a life time supply of single serving microwave meals and a club 18-30 catalogue.

Dudess

Hmmm... That could cost the tax payer quite a considerable amount though...

dr.bollocko

We'll have to soylent green the lot of them so.
Oh well. No loss.
huehuehue.

Ass

Dudess wrote: »

Extermination camps tbh.

The extermination camps would probably be more like fun camps if they were full of single people.

dr.bollocko

Ass Face wrote: »

The extermination camps would probably be more like fun camps if they were full of single people.

Yup. Like a sex farce comedy from the fifties. "Carry on until your government ordered murder you pleb."

Dudess

dr.bollocko wrote: »

We'll have to soylent green the lot of them so.
Oh well. No loss.
huehuehue.

Hey! :mad:
I'm not eatin' no soylent green made out of worthless single people!

dr.bollocko

Dudess wrote: »

Hey! :mad:
I'm not eatin' no soylent green made out of worthless single people!

I didnt think that through. And think of all the stray cats that would result too.
Damn.
Single people: A necessary (for now) evil.

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People in relationships who hate single people... sounds like jealous to me. :pac:

Dudess

dr.bollocko wrote: »

I didnt think that through. And think of all the stray cats that would result too.
Damn.
Single people: A necessary (for now) evil.

Now that you mention the cats though, maybe the single people could be used as pet food soylent green? But then of course, what to be done with all the stray - and fatter if my idea were to come to fruition - cats...

javaboy

Dudess wrote: »

Now that you mention the cats though, maybe the single people could be used as pet food soylent green? But then of course, what to be done with all the stray - and fatter if my idea were to come to fruition - cats...

Put captions on them and send them to work in the internet mines?

Dudess

Lolcat models - of course!

Maximilian

I'm 36 & single. I tend to find most women over 30 are basically ovarian terrorists. Women my age are pregnancy jihadists. I recently had an issue with a stalker, albeit a text message stalker. It's scary. I tend to walk away from someone after a very short while for fear of commitment. I wish I was 25 again - it was a lot simpler and women didn't sound you out as to your attitude towards kids on the first 10 minutes of the first date. Of course, maybe it's just me.

Dudess

Why don't you nab yourself a chick under 30 so? Y'know, conjure her up out of thin air?

Maximilian

Dudess wrote: »

Why don't you nab yourself a chick under 30 so? Y'know, conjure her up out of thin air?

I try & I do (occasionally). It gets harder every year*. Plus, I have less interest in partying until dawn anymore.

*pun unintended, although welcome.

thelordofcheese

I like how my dad asks from time to time "isn't it time you got a girlfriend?" as if they are a commodity you could aquire just by walking down to the nearest shop with the right amount of money.

The only excuse my father could have for this outlook on life would be if the story of how he and my mother first met is drastically different to the one I've been told.

And if it is I don't want to know......

P.C.

Galvasean wrote: »

In response to such matters I usually use the 'Give a man a fish...' answer.

MMMmmmmmmm

Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day.

Show a man how to use the internet, and he won't bug you for weeks!

PrivateEye

I like how my dad asks from time to time "isn't it time you got a girlfriend?" as if they are a commodity you could aquire just by walking down to the nearest shop with the right amount of money.

Exacto.

I'm only 18, but thinking of my circle of friends 4 or 5 would be in 'relationships' of the minute.

1 of them relatonships is what I'd call solid, as in they're the ones not bickering/making threats etc. all the time. They also seem to actually love each other, which means they instantly stand out from the other bebofests of relationships.

I'd love to NOT be single being honest, I think I'd bring a fair bit more to the table than lads in some of the above relationships, but I wouldn't jump into one just to go 'there ya are Dad/Mate/Whoever else. We could all go and make a haims of a relationship if we only wanted one for the status of having one, which seems to be the case most of the time.

Anytime I get the "Ah we have to find you a ____" from the mates I'm incline to think 'Can somebody else lead the search' :rolleyes:

Sleepy

The only thing I can think of that's anti-single people is our obsession with owning your own property - something which is next to impossible for the average singleton in modern Ireland.

Dudess

Yep, that's true. I'm noticing an increasing trend in people getting mortgages with friends.

Kipperhell

I think you are missing a key element here namely age.

Single at 25 is fine at 35 it looks odd.

Somebody who doesn't have any serious relationships by a certain age do tend to be strange. The ones that already had them tend to want them again.

My single female friends tend to want babies now and are not really bother how. It happened quickly and dramatically. The guys really don't like it and go for younger woman as a result.

445279.ie

Maximilian wrote: »

I'm 36 & single. I tend to find most women over 30 are basically ovarian terrorists. Women my age are pregnancy jihadists. I recently had an issue with a stalker, albeit a text message stalker. It's scary. I tend to walk away from someone after a very short while for fear of commitment. I wish I was 25 again - it was a lot simpler and women didn't sound you out as to your attitude towards kids on the first 10 minutes of the first date. Of course, maybe it's just me.

I'm 36, female and single and don't want kids at all :eek: - and looked upon as being strange :mad:

What bugs me is my aunt telling me she's lighting candles that'll I meet someone :rolleyes:

P.C.

Kipperhell wrote: »

I think you are missing a key element here namely age.

Single at 25 is fine at 35 it looks odd.

Somebody who doesn't have any serious relationships by a certain age do tend to be strange. The ones that already had them tend to want them again.

What has age got to do with it???

So, you are a freek if you are over 35, and still single???
I am a single male over 35. I have just not found the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with, and may never find her. I am happy with that. I have had relationships, and a few of them have lasted a few years. Does this mean that I am 'odd'???

DCC160 wrote: »

I'm 36, female and single and don't want kids at all :eek: - and looked upon as being strange :mad:

What bugs me is my aunt telling me she's lighting candles that'll I need someone :rolleyes:

Nothing wrong with not wanting kids. But, I understand about the aunt.
A friend of mine once told me that I need to make marrage a priority.

Galvasean

thelordofcheese wrote: »

I like how my dad asks from time to time "isn't it time you got a girlfriend?" as if they are a commodity you could aquire just by walking down to the nearest shop with the right amount of money.

Lots of money = Lots o' women.
Although I can't vouch for their overall moral fiber.

Slidey

Maximilian wrote: »

I'm 36 & single. I tend to find most women over 30 are basically ovarian terrorists. Women my age are pregnancy jihadists..

DCC160 wrote: »

I'm 36, female and single and don't want kids at all :eek: - and looked upon as being strange :mad:

What bugs me is my aunt telling me she's lighting candles that'll I meet someone :rolleyes:

Jaysus ye 2.. the PM should have been sent by now.

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445279.ie

slideways wrote: »

Jaysus ye 2.. the PM should have been sent by now.

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You're gas

And I looked at Maximilians profile and i'm only 8 days older than him!!

Kipperhell

P.C. wrote: »

What has age got to do with it???

So, you are a freek if you are over 35, and still single???
I am a single male over 35. I have just not found the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with, and may never find her. I am happy with that. I have had relationships, and a few of them have lasted a few years. Does this mean that I am 'odd'???

Read what I said again.

I said somebody at 35 who has never had a serious relationship is often odd. If you have a had a few and it doesn't work out is pretty normal. Most people who have had serious relationships tend to want them again unless something was seriously wrong.

Age is a big contributor to how being single is seen. If you don't understand why there really is no point explaining.

Slidey

DCC160 wrote: »

You're gas

And I looked at Maximilians profile and i'm only 8 days older than him!!

Jaysus Max.. check your windows, jigsaws sister is on the loose...

What have I done? :eek:

Dudess

Kipperhell wrote: »

I think you are missing a key element here namely age.

Single at 25 is fine at 35 it looks odd.

Somebody who doesn't have any serious relationships by a certain age do tend to be strange. The ones that already had them tend to want them again.

That's a really ignorant thing to say. When single people get annoyed at how society perceives them I'd totally understand based on that statement.
Single at 25 is "fine" is it? Not 25 years ago. So really, it's more about societal perceptions than any particular reality - and you've bought into that.
I think some people truly believe you can produce a partner out of thin air.
Where is the guarantee anyone is gonna meet anyone? And remember, some people choose to settle out of fear of being alone - those who are still alone well into their 30s or whatever don't opt for settling. That to me seems far more healthy.
It's ironic that you commented on your female friends in their 30s grabbing a man out of desperation, yet you'd also consider those same women strange etc for not getting a man - which is it?
Using age to categorise adults is misguided. Seriously, you're basing your assessment of them on the number of years they're alive, the date on their birth cert. What relevance do these have?

DCC160 wrote: »

What bugs me is my aunt telling me she's lighting candles that'll I meet someone :rolleyes:

But... but aren't you grateful that she's doing something about your desperate situation??!!

P.C. wrote: »

What has age got to do with it???

So, you are a freek if you are over 35, and still single???
I am a single male over 35. I have just not found the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with, and may never find her. I am happy with that. I have had relationships, and a few of them have lasted a few years. Does this mean that I am 'odd'???

That's the crux of it - not everyone meets someone by 35 or whatever. I can't understand this consensus that it's an inevitability.

What makes me laugh is the settling thing by people in their 30s out of fear of being alone - because they're not getting any younger. Then they're divorced in ten years' time, now with an even more diminished chance of finding someone, and possibly with kids to support.

Kipperhell wrote: »

Read what I said again.

I said somebody at 35 who has never had a serious relationship is often odd.

Prior to that though you said "Single at 25 is fine at 35 it looks odd."

If you have a had a few and it doesn't work out is pretty normal. Most people who have had serious relationships tend to want them again unless something was seriously wrong.

But not all people who are single at 35 and have had relationships in the past don't want a relationship again.

Age is a big contributor to how being single is seen. If you don't understand why there really is no point explaining.

Oh right. So it's how the single person is "seen"? What about the person themselves? Seriously, people need to stop defining others by their age.
It really seems like a person whose age is unknown would be treated very differently to how they'd be treated if their age was revealed.

And also, it gets more difficult by the late second half of the 30s for people to meet partners, so it's unfair to say people who are single at that age tend to be "odd".

445279.ie

slideways wrote: »

Jaysus Max.. check your windows, jigsaws sister is on the loose...

What have I done? :eek:

Ah it's OK, he's safe. I'm not desperate enough to stalk yet