big boobs ruining my chances of meeting mr right

LegacyUser · 17-07-2008 01:42PM #1

i know this may shock some people but i have massive boobs and they are ruining my chances of meeting a nice guy. I feel so conscious of them and whenever guys check me out all i can think of them as is perverts (even though they may genuinely be interested in me and not how big my boobs are) I am a size 40G and only 5ft and 14stone! now picture me ! Squirt with massive boobs! i have gone out with guys that have complemented me on them but that just makes me annoyed and i come across as psycho and they dump me! I dont wear tops that draw attention to them for obvious resons and i still get the abuse! Even friends will make comments like ...They are like balloons you could jsut put a pin through them! Its a headwrecker if im honest! i know a few girls that have boobs as big as me but let them hang out and i think its disgusting - they dont seem to get the abuse i do though. this guy i was seeing loved them and always complemented me on them in bed and i didnt go psycho with him and he still didnt stay around.(another issue)

I wont get a reduction as i would never go under the knife - i dont know what to do and dont get me wrong i do dress well and wear nice clothes just not tops where everything is hanging out!

a few weeks ago a guy made a comment about them in a pub - now up until then we were gettin on great and then he went and ruined it by commenting on them! i gave out to him for being so rude as to point the obvious out but he asked my friend what had he done wrong and that i was such a nice girl what was the problem!! I dont know anymore!

What is your impression guys?- would you state the obvious to a girl with big boobs or is this something that is normal?

i am a tad confused if i am honest. ( and insecure as a result)

LadyE · 17-07-2008 01:51PM

I wouldnt be too worried about your boobs, its more the immaturity of the men that you are meeting rather than them.

If someone comments on them have a smartarse reply back..."Are you staring at my chest because you are unable to hold conversation" or something.

If you are insecure there are ways of wearing clothes (I dont know any tho:() to highlight other areas...I think trinny and suzanne have this one their website?

Sorry that you are upset by this...but some men are frick eejits and dont know what to say/not to say without stepping over the mark.

katie08 · 17-07-2008 01:53PM

Try to see the positives of having bigger boobs, sounds like you have got into a very negative state of mind & under the illusion that all people see in you is the boobs...

you need to think about what makes you a nice person to be around? your personality? what traits do you have that no one else has?

Also have you got properly fitted for a bra? If not I would suggest that so you feel more confident.

also remember that no one can make you feel bad unless you let them!

Beetlebum · 17-07-2008 01:55PM

Aaaawwwwww....1, 2,3...awwwwwwwww....

How gullible to you think boardsies are??

Go marry some perma-tanned dude called Pete and call the Daily Star Titty..

dudara · 17-07-2008 01:56PM

I know where you're coming from. I'm a 38DD and only 5 ft tall. Even with exercise and being fully fit, they never drop below a 36D and just look daft on someone my size.

However though, I wouldn't say that they are ruining your chances of meeting Mr. Right. Mr. Right will love them as much as he loves you. He will see them as being part of you, nothing more and nothing less.

Any mature man will not explicitly comment on them to you off the cuff.

Anti · 17-07-2008 01:56PM

OP i think you are the problem here, not the guys in question. Some blokes love massive boobs, soem dont. Just because a guy is checking you out dosen't mean he is a pervert.

Any woman iv'e ever dated with large breasts loved them being commented on. And loved the attention she received from them.

Since you take such offence to a bloke finding your tits attractive, maybe when you meet a bloke you should lay down a ground rule and tell them nto to comment on them.

seamus · 17-07-2008 01:56PM

Let's get this straight - all men are interested in your tits, your ass, the shape of your body, as well your eyes and your face and your sense of humour and your personality.

Just because they're checking out your tits or your ass, doesn't mean they're perverts. It means that they're living, breathing, heterosexual males. We all do it.

Yours are exceptionally large, which is probably what causes some guys to say something about them. They are genuinely impressed and interested in them, so they want to compliment you. Fair enough, you don't go around commenting on everyone's, but if they feel like they're getting along with you, maybe they think you'll enjoy the compliment.

If you're sick of it, then my only suggestion is to work on making them less "out there". There are clothes and things I'm sure you're well aware of which will improve it for you, but the most effective method would be weight loss.

I'm a male who's a full 12 inches taller than you, and the same weight as you, and I'm still overweight.
At 5' tall and 14 stone, you're a minimum of 5 stone overweight. Losing the excess slowly and in a healthy manner (i.e. not through crash dieting or other fads) will ensure that your breasts will also reduce at a reasonable rate and not end up hanging around your knees.

On the other hand, if you're happy with yourself at the moment, then I say just enjoy the attention. It's not necessarily meant in an offensive or sleazy way - many guys might just be trying to compliment you.

For the record, men love small girls with big boobs. I don't know what it is.

ntlbell · 17-07-2008 01:57PM

Why not try take the compliment? instead of getting upset about them..

you have big boobs men will look some will admire some will perv..

big boobs are bleedin deadly!

dudara · 17-07-2008 01:57PM

Beetlebum Consider yourself warned. Please read the charter.

dudara

kaimera · 17-07-2008 01:58PM

You get upset cos men complement you on them?

I mean are they genuine complements or sleazy?

Not our fault we appreciate them tbh.

LegacyUser · 17-07-2008 01:59PM

Beetlebum wrote: »

Aaaawwwwww....1, 2,3...awwwwwwwww....

How gullible to you think boardsies are??

Go marry some perma-tanned dude called Pete and call the Daily Star Titty..

Do you not believe me? I am telling the truth, now you have just made me feel 100 times worse! What do you not believe about this story?Does it sound ridiculous or what? Then i am ridiculous if that is what you are getting at!

cowzerp · 17-07-2008 01:59PM

TITTY wrote: »

I am a size 40G and only 5ft and 14stone! now picture me ! Squirt with massive boobs!

At 14 stone and only 5 foot tall, i dont think your boobs are your issue, your well overweight and thats why your boobs are huge! lose the weight and your boobs will be more to your satisfaction, and you will boost your self esteem too.

dudara · 17-07-2008 02:02PM

theramI've deleted your post as it didn't add anything to the topic. Please read the charter for this forum.

dudara

pvt.joker · 17-07-2008 02:03PM

cowzerp wrote: »

At 14 stone and only 5 foot tall, i dont think your boobs are your issue, your well overweight and thats why your boobs are huge! lose the weight and your boobs will be more to your satisfaction, and you will boost your self esteem too.

+1

drunkmonkey · 17-07-2008 02:10PM

TITTY wrote: »

What is your impression guys?- would you state the obvious to a girl with big boobs or is this something that is normal?

i am a tad confused if i am honest. ( and insecure as a result)

Boys will be Boys!

I like boobies but I don't think i'd blurt it out unless I though the moment was right....if you were wearing a low cut top I might complement you.....

I'd hate to think it would upset you....Don't be insecure, you've got a great asset, flaunt it and use them to win friends and influence people...;)

Cheer up Girl, enjoy being yourself and never worry about what other people think, most of the time there thinking something completly different...

amazingemmet · 17-07-2008 02:10PM

You should just set up your identity so that the main focus of your personality is the fact that you have big boobs, its in fashion nowadays some poster here has taken it to new levels in fact follow from her example

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EKRIUQ · 17-07-2008 02:14PM

+2, there's also a weight issue which may be effecting your confidence and are becoming a bit paranoid. Next time have a positive mental attitude when someone says something about your boobs.

dudara · 17-07-2008 02:14PM

amazingemmet Please don't cast any comments on other boards members. It's just not cool.

dudara

smartypants · 17-07-2008 02:17PM

yup losing the weight should be your priority...your boobs getting smaller will be a positive side affect.

Anti · 17-07-2008 02:17PM

Guys, her tits could be behind the weight, she may only be slightly overweight and not morbidly obese like whats being implyed.

smartypants · 17-07-2008 02:19PM

Anti wrote: »

Guys, her tits could be behind the weight, she may only be slightly overweight and not morbidly obese like whats being implyed.

can tits weigh 2 or 3 stone?

theram · 17-07-2008 02:20PM

Wow Dudara, you're quick on the draw there aren't you? Seriously, any sense of fun there at all? Wheres the difference between my post and kaimera's?

Anyhoo, back on topic, I would agree that the issue is weight related as opposed to boob related. 14st would be well over the accepted healthy weight for a 5ft woman.

cowzerp · 17-07-2008 02:20PM

smartypants wrote: »

can tits weigh 2 or 3 stone?

you mean 5-6 stone dont you?

Anti · 17-07-2008 02:21PM

smartypants wrote: »

can tits weigh 2 or 3 stone?

Mabybe not 2 or 3, but at 40G i would imagine 1stone minimum.

smartypants · 17-07-2008 02:24PM

cowzerp wrote: »

you mean 5-6 stone dont you?

well i was assuming that not all of the excess weight would be in in the tits... that would be like carrying around an eight yr old on your front all the time

LeixlipRed · 17-07-2008 02:24PM

Not trying to be harsh here but the weight is your real issue here. I'm 5' 10" and I way a stone and a half less than you!! I'm sure with eating the right food and a lot of exercise you could reduce your weight and everything will look proportionate.

judas101 · 17-07-2008 02:24PM

Anti wrote: »

Guys, her tits could be behind the weight, she may only be slightly overweight and not morbidly obese like whats being implyed.

5ft and 14 stone is a massive body mass index which couldnt be totally attributed to big boobs.

ntlbell · 17-07-2008 02:28PM

judas101 wrote: »

5ft and 14 stone is a massive body mass index which couldnt be totally attributed to big boobs.

Maybe she has a large head, we don't know, but she doesn't seem to have a problem with her weight she hasn't mentioned it.

she's worried about mens reaction to her boobs...

rescue26 · 17-07-2008 02:28PM

Guys, she didnt come on here asking how to lose weight, dont knock a girl when shes down. OP, I do think though maybe you need to start thinking of them as something positive. If someone passes comment on them, say thanks and walk away. Dont let it get to you. I think its the way you react when people comment on them that are driving men away not the size of them. Also a good bra makes the world of difference and get properly measured as well. Chin up girl. See them as an asset.

theram · 17-07-2008 02:29PM

ntlbell wrote: »

Maybe she has a large head, we don't know, but she doesn't seem to have a problem with her weight she hasn't mentioned it.

she's worried about mens reaction to her boobs...

I think we're going to need a picture to be in a position to adjudicate fully on this.

MyPeopleDrankTheSoup · 17-07-2008 02:31PM

At 5ft and 14 stone, be happy that lads are looking at ya at all

big boobs ruining my chances of meeting mr right

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