big boobs ruining my chances of meeting mr right

LegacyUser

i know this may shock some people but i have massive boobs and they are ruining my chances of meeting a nice guy. I feel so conscious of them and whenever guys check me out all i can think of them as is perverts (even though they may genuinely be interested in me and not how big my boobs are) I am a size 40G and only 5ft and 14stone! now picture me ! Squirt with massive boobs! i have gone out with guys that have complemented me on them but that just makes me annoyed and i come across as psycho and they dump me! I dont wear tops that draw attention to them for obvious resons and i still get the abuse! Even friends will make comments like ...They are like balloons you could jsut put a pin through them! Its a headwrecker if im honest! i know a few girls that have boobs as big as me but let them hang out and i think its disgusting - they dont seem to get the abuse i do though. this guy i was seeing loved them and always complemented me on them in bed and i didnt go psycho with him and he still didnt stay around.(another issue)

I wont get a reduction as i would never go under the knife - i dont know what to do and dont get me wrong i do dress well and wear nice clothes just not tops where everything is hanging out!

a few weeks ago a guy made a comment about them in a pub - now up until then we were gettin on great and then he went and ruined it by commenting on them! i gave out to him for being so rude as to point the obvious out but he asked my friend what had he done wrong and that i was such a nice girl what was the problem!! I dont know anymore!

What is your impression guys?- would you state the obvious to a girl with big boobs or is this something that is normal?

i am a tad confused if i am honest. ( and insecure as a result)

LadyE

I wouldnt be too worried about your boobs, its more the immaturity of the men that you are meeting rather than them.

If someone comments on them have a smartarse reply back..."Are you staring at my chest because you are unable to hold conversation" or something.

If you are insecure there are ways of wearing clothes (I dont know any tho:() to highlight other areas...I think trinny and suzanne have this one their website?

Sorry that you are upset by this...but some men are frick eejits and dont know what to say/not to say without stepping over the mark.

katie08

Try to see the positives of having bigger boobs, sounds like you have got into a very negative state of mind & under the illusion that all people see in you is the boobs...

you need to think about what makes you a nice person to be around? your personality? what traits do you have that no one else has?

Also have you got properly fitted for a bra? If not I would suggest that so you feel more confident.

also remember that no one can make you feel bad unless you let them!

Beetlebum

Aaaawwwwww....1, 2,3...awwwwwwwww....

How gullible to you think boardsies are??

Go marry some perma-tanned dude called Pete and call the Daily Star Titty..

dudara

I know where you're coming from. I'm a 38DD and only 5 ft tall. Even with exercise and being fully fit, they never drop below a 36D and just look daft on someone my size.

However though, I wouldn't say that they are ruining your chances of meeting Mr. Right. Mr. Right will love them as much as he loves you. He will see them as being part of you, nothing more and nothing less.

Any mature man will not explicitly comment on them to you off the cuff.

Anti

OP i think you are the problem here, not the guys in question. Some blokes love massive boobs, soem dont. Just because a guy is checking you out dosen't mean he is a pervert.

Any woman iv'e ever dated with large breasts loved them being commented on. And loved the attention she received from them.

Since you take such offence to a bloke finding your tits attractive, maybe when you meet a bloke you should lay down a ground rule and tell them nto to comment on them.

seamus

Let's get this straight - all men are interested in your tits, your ass, the shape of your body, as well your eyes and your face and your sense of humour and your personality.

Just because they're checking out your tits or your ass, doesn't mean they're perverts. It means that they're living, breathing, heterosexual males. We all do it.

Yours are exceptionally large, which is probably what causes some guys to say something about them. They are genuinely impressed and interested in them, so they want to compliment you. Fair enough, you don't go around commenting on everyone's, but if they feel like they're getting along with you, maybe they think you'll enjoy the compliment.

If you're sick of it, then my only suggestion is to work on making them less "out there". There are clothes and things I'm sure you're well aware of which will improve it for you, but the most effective method would be weight loss.

I'm a male who's a full 12 inches taller than you, and the same weight as you, and I'm still overweight.
At 5' tall and 14 stone, you're a minimum of 5 stone overweight. Losing the excess slowly and in a healthy manner (i.e. not through crash dieting or other fads) will ensure that your breasts will also reduce at a reasonable rate and not end up hanging around your knees.

On the other hand, if you're happy with yourself at the moment, then I say just enjoy the attention. It's not necessarily meant in an offensive or sleazy way - many guys might just be trying to compliment you.

For the record, men love small girls with big boobs. I don't know what it is.

ntlbell

Why not try take the compliment? instead of getting upset about them..

you have big boobs men will look some will admire some will perv..

big boobs are bleedin deadly!

dudara

Beetlebum Consider yourself warned. Please read the charter.

dudara

kaimera

You get upset cos men complement you on them?

I mean are they genuine complements or sleazy?

Not our fault we appreciate them tbh.

LegacyUser

Beetlebum wrote: »

Aaaawwwwww....1, 2,3...awwwwwwwww....

How gullible to you think boardsies are??

Go marry some perma-tanned dude called Pete and call the Daily Star Titty..

Do you not believe me? I am telling the truth, now you have just made me feel 100 times worse! What do you not believe about this story?Does it sound ridiculous or what? Then i am ridiculous if that is what you are getting at!

cowzerp

TITTY wrote: »

I am a size 40G and only 5ft and 14stone! now picture me ! Squirt with massive boobs!

At 14 stone and only 5 foot tall, i dont think your boobs are your issue, your well overweight and thats why your boobs are huge! lose the weight and your boobs will be more to your satisfaction, and you will boost your self esteem too.

dudara

theramI've deleted your post as it didn't add anything to the topic. Please read the charter for this forum.

dudara

pvt.joker

cowzerp wrote: »

At 14 stone and only 5 foot tall, i dont think your boobs are your issue, your well overweight and thats why your boobs are huge! lose the weight and your boobs will be more to your satisfaction, and you will boost your self esteem too.

+1

drunkmonkey

TITTY wrote: »

What is your impression guys?- would you state the obvious to a girl with big boobs or is this something that is normal?

i am a tad confused if i am honest. ( and insecure as a result)

Boys will be Boys!

I like boobies but I don't think i'd blurt it out unless I though the moment was right....if you were wearing a low cut top I might complement you.....

I'd hate to think it would upset you....Don't be insecure, you've got a great asset, flaunt it and use them to win friends and influence people...;)

Cheer up Girl, enjoy being yourself and never worry about what other people think, most of the time there thinking something completly different...

amazingemmet

You should just set up your identity so that the main focus of your personality is the fact that you have big boobs, its in fashion nowadays some poster here has taken it to new levels in fact follow from her example

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EKRIUQ

+2, there's also a weight issue which may be effecting your confidence and are becoming a bit paranoid. Next time have a positive mental attitude when someone says something about your boobs.

dudara

amazingemmet Please don't cast any comments on other boards members. It's just not cool.

dudara

smartypants

yup losing the weight should be your priority...your boobs getting smaller will be a positive side affect.

Anti

Guys, her tits could be behind the weight, she may only be slightly overweight and not morbidly obese like whats being implyed.

smartypants

Anti wrote: »

Guys, her tits could be behind the weight, she may only be slightly overweight and not morbidly obese like whats being implyed.

can tits weigh 2 or 3 stone?

theram

Wow Dudara, you're quick on the draw there aren't you? Seriously, any sense of fun there at all? Wheres the difference between my post and kaimera's?

Anyhoo, back on topic, I would agree that the issue is weight related as opposed to boob related. 14st would be well over the accepted healthy weight for a 5ft woman.

cowzerp

smartypants wrote: »

can tits weigh 2 or 3 stone?

you mean 5-6 stone dont you?

Anti

smartypants wrote: »

can tits weigh 2 or 3 stone?

Mabybe not 2 or 3, but at 40G i would imagine 1stone minimum.

smartypants

cowzerp wrote: »

you mean 5-6 stone dont you?

well i was assuming that not all of the excess weight would be in in the tits... that would be like carrying around an eight yr old on your front all the time

LeixlipRed

Not trying to be harsh here but the weight is your real issue here. I'm 5' 10" and I way a stone and a half less than you!! I'm sure with eating the right food and a lot of exercise you could reduce your weight and everything will look proportionate.

judas101

Anti wrote: »

Guys, her tits could be behind the weight, she may only be slightly overweight and not morbidly obese like whats being implyed.

5ft and 14 stone is a massive body mass index which couldnt be totally attributed to big boobs.

ntlbell

judas101 wrote: »

5ft and 14 stone is a massive body mass index which couldnt be totally attributed to big boobs.

Maybe she has a large head, we don't know, but she doesn't seem to have a problem with her weight she hasn't mentioned it.

she's worried about mens reaction to her boobs...

rescue26

Guys, she didnt come on here asking how to lose weight, dont knock a girl when shes down. OP, I do think though maybe you need to start thinking of them as something positive. If someone passes comment on them, say thanks and walk away. Dont let it get to you. I think its the way you react when people comment on them that are driving men away not the size of them. Also a good bra makes the world of difference and get properly measured as well. Chin up girl. See them as an asset.

theram

ntlbell wrote: »

Maybe she has a large head, we don't know, but she doesn't seem to have a problem with her weight she hasn't mentioned it.

she's worried about mens reaction to her boobs...

I think we're going to need a picture to be in a position to adjudicate fully on this.

MyPeopleDrankTheSoup

At 5ft and 14 stone, be happy that lads are looking at ya at all

dudara

theram: Consider this a final warning. You are new here but you've already picked up one warning. Please read the charter about posting in this forum before posting again.

To all other posters Cop yourselves on and behave. Constructive advice only or bannings will follow. Boobs are pyschologically very important to women, comparable to men and their penises, so please take that into consideration before making any flippant remarks.

dudara

smartypants

rescue26 wrote: »

Guys, she didnt come on here asking how to lose weight, dont knock a girl when shes down.

fair comment ok no more weight talk!

Looby_Loo

I also have some big-uns and they generally do get looked at/ commented on during nights out. I am also single but do not blame that on my how big/ small bits of my body are. People will only treat you well if you treat yourself well and work on improving your self esteem. It can be done- I was also pretty overweight but worked on losing the weight healthily and safely. I am now happy with the way my body looks and I dress to make the most of it.
Ditto some of the others on learning to dress to make the most of your body shape- even the difference good clothes make will do wonders for your self esteem.
Everyone takes note of how someone looks before they know who they are, its only natural and some guys will comment.
I have only gotten positive comments on mine but learning how to deal is also important.
Drunken comment from a randomer- ignore
Positive comment from someone you have clicked with- enjoy the compliment

smartypants

georgiecasey wrote: »

At 5ft and 14 stone, be happy that lads are looking at ya at all

ah lad thats abit harsh

KatCookie

Dont take this too badly when people tell you to lose weight, you could be quite muscly and muscles weigh more than fat, but maybe a little weight loss wouldnt go astray.
You need to decide whats an acceptable comment on your boobs and whats not, if a guy just stares at your chest all night then thats obviously not acceptable, but if a guy makes a small comment on them, itsnot too bad

may i just congratulate you on something, i know somebody who is going into college and she is a 40-42 DD or E last time i asked, shes majorly overweight and her boobs are huge too. But she never goes out, she never gets chatted up, i dont think shes ever had a boyfriend, she has no life, You do! Well done on having the courage to go and get out there!!!

helimachoptor

dudara wrote: »

I know where you're coming from. I'm a 38DD and only 5 ft tall. Even with exercise and being fully fit, they never drop below a 36D and just look daft on someone my size.

However though, I wouldn't say that they are ruining your chances of meeting Mr. Right. Mr. Right will love them as much as he loves you. He will see them as being part of you, nothing more and nothing less.

Any mature man will not explicitly comment on them to you off the cuff.

Firstly how you doing:D

cowzerp wrote: »

At 14 stone and only 5 foot tall, i dont think your boobs are your issue, your well overweight and thats why your boobs are huge! lose the weight and your boobs will be more to your satisfaction, and you will boost your self esteem too.

Secondly, for some only only 5 foot tall and even if your boobs weighed a stone each i;m pretty much sure that your one of these girls who has her boobs supported by her belly -> Massive turn off i'm afraid (well for me)

Op as said above guys love boobs but if most likely they are staring at your as a whole and not just your boobs, i stare at fat people as it freaks me out.

Hit the gym eat right and lose weight.

cowzerp

rescue26 wrote: »

Guys, she didnt come on here asking how to lose weight, dont knock a girl when shes down..

Your missing the point, its the weight thats causing the big boobs.
its the big boobs causing her problem-there 1 and the same issue.
im not trying to be smart but trying to offer some positive advise.

LegacyUser

OP
I'm really sorry that you are feeling bad, But Like others have said here, at 5ft tall and 14 stone I don't think its your boobs that are the problem your BMI is approximately 38
This is not healthy,
If you lose weight you will inevitably drop a few sizes in your bra and your dress size and feel better about yourself.
Why not check out the fitness forum here or the diet and nutrition forum,
There is loads of great advise there

tbh

well, I think the majority of posters here have proved your point OP. You're concious of yourself and all anyone can say is "what's the problem?". Maybe it will help you get a bit of perspective - i.e. that guys don't really come pre-conditioned to like or loathe huge boobs. It's like having a hairy chest - for every girl who likes it, there will be a girl who hates it.

It certainly sounds like this is becoming a bigger issue for you than it should be. If you are worried about what people think, there's a good chance that you are overly-sensitive about this, you will interpret innocent remarks as slagging you off. I'd have a look at where you are meeting these guys - if it's happening in a pub it's probably cause the guys are drunk, and are saying things they would never have the guts to say in real life.

At the end of the day, tho, it comes down to you. You're not going to be able to change the behaviour of the entire population, you say you don't want surgery, so I'm afraid the only option you're left with is to grow a thicker skin, and just accept that some people make dumb comments every now and again.

The main thing is to try to stop expecting people to make a big deal out of them, because all that will do is cause you to modify your behaviour (psycho time!). Sorry I can't give you any more constructive advice because I know this is upsetting for you.

missmatty

What everyone else said. I'm also 5 foot nothing and I'm a 34E. However I'm also 4 stone lighter than you, but I'm still fat and I joined WW last week. I've lost weight before and the boobs will go down as the weight goes down. Seriously 14 stone at our height is really bad

BubbleWrap85

Okay agreeably, the weight is causing the boobs. BUT she could just have naturally big boobs anyhow! There are slim and petite girls out there with massive boobs. Her boobs are quite big though, and more than likely cause back ache and all the rest, seeing as she is so small. As a bigger girl myself with fairly big boobs, I would suggest

getting a proper bra fitting - amazing what a proper fitting bra can do for those beauties!
looking into losing a bit of weight [only you know whether you need to or not, and we've discussed muscle weighing more than fat, but if you are overweight, losing some of that weight would indeed decrease the boobs]
accept the compliments. I get complimented all the time - men are horny ba$t@rds but take it as a compliment - why do you feel like you do when they're complimented? Nobody is going to go out with a girl purely because she has big boobs, so if he's showing interest, go with it! He obviously likes you!

I really don't see why this should be a problem for you - physical things do NOT stop you from meeting men! [i.e. being too goodlooking or having big boobs! etc] It's the ATTITUDE of the person that stops that. All you need to do is develop your confidence and men will flock to you! And not because of your boobs!

rescue26

georgiecasey wrote: »

At 5ft and 14 stone, be happy that lads are looking at ya at all

God I didnt think Brad Pitt posted here

BubbleWrap85

georgiecasey wrote: »

At 5ft and 14 stone, be happy that lads are looking at ya at all

Not helpful, and it's comments like that from arrogant people like you who cause people to have such low self esteem.

Beruthiel

georgiecasey wrote: »

At 5ft and 14 stone, be happy that lads are looking at ya at all

Don't bother posting in this forum again unless you have something helpful to add.
B

AngryBadger

If a guy complained about women complimenting his package he'd be laughed out of it. For whatever reason it's perfectly fine for women to pet, purr, stroke, and comment as much as they want about guys, but when we do it we're obviously perverts.

OP the problem is with you, not with these guys. Sure, some guys are filthy cads, but not all guys, and in the same way that a guy would be complemented if his would-be bedroom companion complemented his abs/manhood/ass/whatever a lot of guys are just going to assume women feel the same way, we're all equal now after all (apparently...).

Also, 14st at 5 ft? As has been pointed out, THAT'S going to be a factor in your huge chest, and in my view a much bigger issue than guys commenting on your endowment.

rescue26

cowzerp wrote: »

Your missing the point, its the weight thats causing the big boobs.
its the big boobs causing her problem-there 1 and the same issue.
im not trying to be smart but trying to offer some positive advise.

Sorry that was aimed more at the likes of Georgiecasey who obvisously thinks he is George Clooney and who has nothing helpful to say.

otnomart

OP, as a woman it's nice to have a nice feature that you can play up if you want to, and that others might compliment on.
Perverts are a minority, most men just like to look, do look and I don't think there is anything wrong with it.
Staring and nasty comments excepted of course.
As a short term measure to feel better with yourself right now, I agree with other posters that a bra fitting (I saw minimizing bras in some department stores, they might help too) and clothes that you feel good on, can help.
Long term, it's true that breasts do get smaller by loosing weight, if you want to do that.
Cheer up!

Nevyn

Op there will be guys who will always make comments, mine are not as out of proportions to my build as yours are and I still get idiots will who make comments usually after I have shown no interest in their chat up lines and lets face it the last thing you want to hear on a night out it that you are a big titted cow/slut or other such utterly demeaning terms.

Reduction surgery is expensive risky and there had not been as much research into it as there has been for implants and with the scaring and reduced sensitivity I don't blame you for not wanting to have it done.

Yes I think you are at this stage pretty sensitive about comments about your outstanding physical feature, funny if you had really long hair and people commented on it that would be a lot different due to the stereotype that a large chest equals a low IQ and slutty behaviour so you are going to have to take a deep breath and look at not being as sensitive and learn to have better boundaries with your friends. If they are you friends they should not be making remarks that upset you.

You need to work at building up yourself estmee and keep looking for someone who is interested in who you are and not your cup size.

Also tbh you should be looking at doing some excerise in building up your torso and back muscles to help you carry such a load, your body will thank you for it when you are older and have you looked and minimiser bras ?

dublinmadyoke

Hi OP is there any chance you could post a picture as people are getting all sorts of thoughts into their heads??? I am 12.5pounds Stone, 38DD + 5"6 I hear you. I have started back training over the past month and I have noticed that my breasts have got smaller... SO anyhow- I hear you and I know what it is like...

I hate my breasts :mad:

MIN2511

OP... No one seems to be meeting the right people anymore
We are all single!:D

I am a 36F cup and i swear i know how heavy they are... Men do stare but what are you going to do?
A man would like you for who you are, your big boobs should be considered as an asset...

It's like shopping when you see the garment you assess it if you like it, men and women check out the package before making approach...