Do you believe in love at first sight?

IvaBigWun · 07-06-2008 08:00PM

beautiation wrote: »

I have a habit (that's got me burnt a lot of times) of thinking the best of everyone until they prove me wrong, so yeah, when I see someone I think really beautiful I fall in love instantly. Usually fall out of love quickly about 5 minutes later, but it's never boring at least.

Used to be like that but much more cagey these days. Which is a shame. I think when we're between around 15 and 23 we see nothing but the best in someone we fancy.

We get wiser but we also lose some of that crazy good stuff along the way.

Abi · 07-06-2008 08:12PM

IvaBigWun wrote: »

Used to be like that but much more cagey these days. Which is a shame. I think when we're between around 15 and 23 we see nothing but the best in someone we fancy.

We get wiser but we also lose some of that crazy good stuff along the way.

Cripes IBW.. its either fluffy chickens, rainbows, unicorns and neighbours dogs with you, the next minute you are like Carrie Bradshaw with a sythe.. :pac:

Are they not puttin' out or whaa?

IvaBigWun · 07-06-2008 08:31PM

Abigayle wrote: »

Cripes IBW.. its either fluffy chickens, rainbows, unicorns and neighbours dogs with you, the next minute you are like Carrie Bradshaw with a sythe.. :pac:

Are they not puttin' out or whaa?

I was trying to be deep and meaningful (man)

*AH Mode Back On*

I loves boobies

birdie08 · 18-06-2008 09:54PM

Abigayle wrote: »

I believe in strong driving-you-up-the-wall sexual attraction at first sight. Love may or may not follow. A strong friendship determines whether it can be love afterwards.

We are all just a bunch of animals man.

hi ye, well I do believe in intuition, love at first sight no but as for developing a strong foundation in friendship terms it def can determine the possibility of love afterwards. But be careful friends can be lovers but lovers cant be friends.. now I dont fully agree with that cause I believe in soul mates and whether its due to circumstances or not, your soul mate may not be the person you spend your life with. Any views?

birdie08 · 18-06-2008 10:01PM

Karl Hungus wrote: »

Yes, I do believe in it.

ok, but do you believe you can love more than 1 person???

Abi · 18-06-2008 10:12PM

birdie08 wrote: »

I believe in intuition, love at first sight no but as for developing a strong foundation in friendship terms it def can determine the possibility of love afterwards.

Its something to build from imo.

But be careful friends can be lovers but lovers cant be friends.. now I dont fully agree with that cause I believe in soul mates and whether its due to circumstances or not,

Fuck-buddy type lovers cant really be friends imo. The situation may go on contently for years for both parties until something changes for one or the other. But I think the OP is going after the LAFS long-termer relationship types (open to correction). This is different; There has got to be a solid base of friendship.

your soul mate may not be the person you spend your life with. Any views?

True. But what can be done if one or the other takes a different path?

birdie08 wrote: »

ok, but do you believe you can love more than 1 person???

I dont believe so.

birdie08 · 18-06-2008 10:15PM

IvaBigWun wrote: »

Used to be like that but much more cagey these days. Which is a shame. I think when we're between around 15 and 23 we see nothing but the best in someone we fancy.

We get wiser but we also lose some of that crazy good stuff along the way.

or maybe 15-27.... love is crazy.. not meant to be any other way

birdie08 · 18-06-2008 10:24PM

Abigayle wrote: »

Its something to build from imo.

Fuck-buddy type lovers cant really be friends imo. The situation may go on contently for years for both parties until something changes for one or the other. But I think the OP is going after the LAFS long-termer relationship types (open to correction). This is different; There has got to be a solid base of friendship.

True. But what can be done if one or the other takes a different path?

I dont believe so.

ok.. but I do believe we can have different love for different people..i also believe we can love more than 1 but for different reasons.. this is bloody complicated..

Abi · 18-06-2008 10:35PM

birdie wrote:

ok.. but I do believe we can have different love for different people..i also believe we can love more than 1 but for different reasons.. this is bloody complicated..

I think you could be talking from experience, thats hard to comment on tbh. But I've an inkling of where you might be coming from.

IvaBigWun wrote:

Used to be like that but much more cagey these days. Which is a shame. I think when we're between around 15 and 23 we see nothing but the best in someone we fancy.

We get wiser but we also lose some of that crazy good stuff along the way.

Only spotted that since Birdie brought it up. I agree. But you can get cut up and sore about stuff or chalk it up as an experience, and something you might avoid in the future. Its a bad assumption that the next one will be like the last one, or the one prior. Soak it up and move along I say. Taking too much baggage with you to the next gf would make you un-touchable. If you dont let a woman in, what you are trying to start is destined to be short lived.

We actually have no other option, but to put our árses out to the wind if we want to stand half a chance at being happy. You might have to go through a heap of fucked up situations to get you there, but it could be worth it in the end up.

My best advice I could give is obvious, stop actively looking. For some bloody reason it always shows up when you aren't actually looking.

Jigsaw · 18-06-2008 11:28PM

No such thing as love at first sight. Utterly false concept peddled in order to make millions at the box office with chick flicks. When you get to be as bitter and jaded as me you'll all see this.
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Pride Fighter · 18-06-2008 11:40PM

Jigsaw wrote: »

No such thing as love at first sight. Utterly false concept peddled in order to make millions at the box office with chick flicks. When you get to be as bitter and jaded as me you'll all see this.
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Jigsaw bitter? Never:eek:

Abi · 18-06-2008 11:43PM

Jigsaw wrote: »

No such thing as love at first sight. Utterly false concept peddled in order to make millions at the box office with chick flicks. When you get to be as bitter and jaded as me you'll all see this.
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Of course you'd be jaded if your looking for LAFS.

First encounter you have with someone is their physical self, some lose out because they judge on this alone.If you get to know them that can change how you see them dramatically.

To me, the appearance is the shell of an egg. But inside that shell can be a good, or it can be rotten to the core. Put the shoe on the other foot. Would you like a good guy to dismiss you on appearance alone?

I know I would. Im not saying you cant have your preferences in personalities, but the more you rule out, the more you are reducing your chances of ever being happy.

gabgab · 18-06-2008 11:44PM

its more lust than love, well I think so anyway

Papillon87 · 18-06-2008 11:53PM

No.

You don't fall in love with someone the first time you see them.

Lust at first sight, sure.

Soul mates? Not really. I believe there are many people in this world we can find reciprocal love with.

Jigsaw · 19-06-2008 12:28AM

Abigayle wrote: »

Of course you'd be jaded if your looking for LAFS.

First encounter you have with someone is their physical self, some lose out because they judge on this alone.If you get to know them that can change how you see them dramatically.

To me, the appearance is the shell of an egg. But inside that shell can be a good, or it can be rotten to the core. Put the shoe on the other foot. Would you like a good guy to dismiss you on appearance alone?

I know I would. Im not saying you cant have your preferences in personalities, but the more you rule out, the more you are reducing your chances of ever being happy.

I am not looking for love at first sight. It would appear it has not been looking for me either.

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Abi · 19-06-2008 12:36AM

I personally dont believe in LAFS. But this is a bit different;

Jigsaw wrote: »

1)I am not looking for love at first sight.

2)It would appear it has not been looking for me either.

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Tbh:

2) It would appear its not looking for me either

1) Iam not looking for love

Im not telling you how you do or should think. But I thought I'd put that out to you.

Dave! · 19-06-2008 12:54AM

Woah....... that's deep.

Notorious · 19-06-2008 01:09AM

You can't fall in love with someone by just looking at them. Sure what if when they open their mouths a thick Cork accent came out?

Rb · 19-06-2008 01:53AM

Jigsaw wrote: »

I am not looking for love at first sight. It would appear it has not been looking for me either.

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Well it's kind of hard for them to fall in love with you at first sight when you're wearing a balaclava. Also, I'd imagine your "hit n' run" attitude won't get you far either.

Notorious wrote:

sure what if when they open their mouths a thick Cork accent came out

Get sick on them and walk away as quick as possible?

Tar.Aldarion · 19-06-2008 01:54AM

Raep at first site?

Call Me Jimmy · 19-06-2008 01:57AM

I don't believe in bullsh!t generally so I don't believe in love at first sight.

Yo jigsaw, thought you'd be laying low especially on a thread like this!

Jigsaw · 19-06-2008 02:07AM

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

I don't believe in bullsh!t generally so I don't believe in love at first sight.

Yo jigsaw, thought you'd be laying low especially on a thread like this!

I have nothing to be ashamed of. Simply commented upon an appearance. Plenty people do it every night, flippently in bars the length and breadth of the country. My epic failure was to do so on Boards.ie.

Rb · 19-06-2008 02:10AM

Jigsaw wrote: »

I have nothing to be ashamed of. Simply commented upon an appearance. Plenty people do it every night, flippently in bars the length and breadth of the country. My epic failure was to do so on Boards.ie.

Wrong, your failure was to post her picture and ask did anyone know her, and could they put you in contact with her as from the picture, you thought she was the girl for you, the light of your life, that your personalities would gel like locktite and that you'd go on to have children together and live a long a fullfilling life together.

Quote unquote.

kowloon · 19-06-2008 02:14AM

bellapip wrote: »

sick feeling of acid infected butterflys swarming your stomach.

Had that once, ketoacidosis sucks, so does casualty.

kowloon · 19-06-2008 02:15AM

Rb wrote: »

Wrong, your failure was to post her picture and ask did anyone know her, and could they put you in contact with her as from the picture, you thought she was the girl for you, the light of your life, that your personalities would gel like locktite and that you'd go on to have children together and live a long a fullfilling life together.

Quote unquote.

With puppies and long walks on the beach at sunset after which you would stare into the stars and profess your undying love for each other?

Call Me Jimmy · 19-06-2008 02:17AM

Jigsaw wrote: »

I have nothing to be ashamed of. Simply commented upon an appearance. Plenty people do it every night, flippently in bars the length and breadth of the country. My epic failure was to do so on Boards.ie.

Forget that actually.

Rb · 19-06-2008 02:17AM

kowloon wrote: »

With puppies and long walks on the beach at sunset after which you would stare into the stars and profess your undying love for each other?

Ah yeah I forgot that part, wouldn't have happened if the thread wasn't deleted though, it must be said

Jigsaw · 19-06-2008 02:17AM

Rb wrote: »

Wrong, your failure was to post her picture and ask did anyone know her, and could they put you in contact with her as from the picture, you thought she was the girl for you, the light of your life, that your personalities would gel like locktite and that you'd go on to have children together and live a long a fullfilling life together.

Quote unquote.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSoeBfsR1cw

My vow not to drink and board has fallen by the wayside.

Rb · 19-06-2008 02:18AM

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Will do so until the end of time

Damn right.

Rb · 19-06-2008 02:19AM

Jigsaw wrote: »

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSoeBfsR1cw

My vow not to drink and board has fallen by the wayside.

Well, they do say drink brings out the truth in people. Showed your true colours that night, Jigsaw, no going back on it now.

Do you believe in love at first sight?

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