Is cheating THAT common?

Rhiannon14 · 14-08-2007 04:44PM

In my personally inexperienced opinion cheating is only something that happens in relationships where one or both parties simply aren't ready to love. If you're thinking of cheating, wouldn't it make more sense to either break off the relationship, or consider opening it up? If you can't respect your partner's safety enough to tell the truth that maybe your hoo-hah has some foreign specimen within, then you should not be in a relationship.

Nala · 14-08-2007 04:53PM

a) been cheated on? Yes
b) cheated? Never
c) was the person cheated with? Yes
d) has been came on to by someone with a bf? Yes

Reku · 14-08-2007 05:49PM

If someone cheats with you are they not also cheating on you if you didn't know?
If you did... HOMEWRECKER!

SimpleSam06 · 14-08-2007 08:05PM

You Suck! wrote:

Had a weird one on saterday, was out on the town, went out for a ciggie and met this couple on holidays, was chatin away to them anyway, and next things shes gettin pretty friendly right in front of her boyfriend, all flirty and shít, till I called the bluff and established that they were together.

Just what the fúck was all that about?!?

Thats what is known as a hotwife, the boyfriend or husband enjoys fourballing her with another man. Or possibly just watching, or simply letting her "play away". Its different from the cuckold scene in that there is no dominance-submission thing going on, he just likes her to have fun. I ran into a dozen of them on holiday from France in a nightclub a few years ago.

You Suck! wrote:

Christ people, play nice for fúcks sake. What the fúck is wrong with this world, nice guys rarely get the girl and all for what? To think humane is supposedly a word espousing the good and higher ideals of humanity yet we act like a pack of fúcking animals when it comes to relationships.

Barely out of the fúckin jungle in some respects.......

Well whats more animalistic, butting heads like cavemen over the ownership of the females (and vice-versa for the males), or realising that your body is a temporary commodity and enjoying it to the full? Just because most of Ireland is stuck in some sort of semi-victorian fit of the vapours doesn't mean its the best way to go.

Mrs. MacGyver · 14-08-2007 08:12PM

Wouldn't cheat. Was cheated on once. Not nice to be on the receiving end, especially when you caught them openly.

Mr. CooL ICE · 14-08-2007 08:17PM

Was the one being cheated with - but I didn't know she wasn't single until a few weeks later. The unfortunate guy in question is in the army, so I'm lucky i didn't get my ass kicked. Settled for a few complaints and failed attempt at rumours being spread

You Suck! · 14-08-2007 09:07PM

Thats what is known as a hotwife, the boyfriend or husband enjoys fourballing her with another man. Or possibly just watching, or simply letting her "play away". Its different from the cuckold scene in that there is no dominance-submission thing going on, he just likes her to have fun. I ran into a dozen of them on holiday from France in a nightclub a few years ago.

Or more like she was acting the shít. Sadly my life do's not play like your average porn script.

Well whats more animalistic, butting heads like cavemen over the ownership of the females (and vice-versa for the males), or realising that your body is a temporary commodity and enjoying it to the full? Just because most of Ireland is stuck in some sort of semi-victorian fit of the vapours doesn't mean its the best way to go

What dos that have to do with people cheating on each other and treating each other like shít? Its prudish now to have some fúckin balls and break it off before going on to the next ride? WTF?

Turkilton · 14-08-2007 10:11PM

irishbird wrote:

everyone is doing it

last november, an old flame came over from england for the weekend, he had a girlfriend but my god the sex was so good and it was so worth it. i know he had a bit of a guilt trip going back home but that was his problem not mine.

You're a whore

Terry · 14-08-2007 10:20PM

916-Turkilton is banned for personal abuse.

bullets · 14-08-2007 10:40PM

When I was a young fella my first love cheated on me.
It took me years to get over her as I was gutted.

It made me have some sort of moral value where I said
to myself I would never cheat on someone to cause that hurt.

I have been in a few situations in the past where I was going out with someone
where I have been in the situation where I could of cheated with ladys that
I have lusted and longed after for ages. In those cases its been the most
difficult thing I have ever had to do to refrain from cheating and constantly
think what it would have been like if I had cheated.

But our of pure stubbern-ness and moral values would not cheat,

~B

You Suck! · 14-08-2007 10:45PM

916-Turkilton is banned for personal abuse.

It probably was personal abuse for the sake of it, but none the less what was said was probably on the tips of many a tongue here.

Maybe the young turk can gain a reprieve just by saying:

everyone is doing it

Terry · 14-08-2007 10:51PM

You Suck! wrote:

It probably was personal abuse for the sake of it, but none the less what was said was probably on the tips of many a tongue here.

Maybe the young turk can gain a reprieve just by saying:

He may very well have been right, he may have been wrong, but personal abuse is against the rules.

Piste · 14-08-2007 11:07PM

Define "cheating"?

You Suck! · 14-08-2007 11:34PM

Piste wrote:

Define "cheating"?

You know, Wallhacks, aimbots, the like.....

Reku · 15-08-2007 07:56AM

Piste wrote:

Define "cheating"?

lol
True enough one girl I knew had spoken to her mum about this one night and her mum came out with something to the effect of as long as it doesn't go past oral sex it's not cheating.:eek: Anything past a single kiss on the lips is cheating IMO, 1 kiss could be a mistake, more than that and clearly you didn't think it was a mistake the first time.

SimpleSam06 · 15-08-2007 08:05AM

You Suck! wrote:

Or more like she was acting the shít. Sadly my life do's not play like your average porn script.

Well if they were just pulling the mickey, I feel sorry for them. Seems a pretty sad way to be getting your jollies.

You Suck! wrote:

What dos that have to do with people cheating on each other and treating each other like shít? Its prudish now to have some fúckin balls and break it off before going on to the next ride? WTF?

Some people see sex as no more of an issue than a sporting event, would be my point, and I find it hard to disagree with that, as long as everyone knows the score.

nice1franko · 15-08-2007 12:37PM

irishbird wrote:

everyone is doing it

my ex cheated on me with his hairy chinless secretary, i mean hello?

and i have had two of my friends husbands come on to me so much that i have had to leave parties/dinners early and go home.

last november, an old flame came over from england for the weekend, he had a girlfriend but my god the sex was so good and it was so worth it. i know he had a bit of a guilt trip going back home but that was his problem not mine.

half of my office are having affairs with each other, and they think no one knows

you're damaged goods lady.

John Mason · 15-08-2007 01:16PM

You Suck! wrote:

It probably was personal abuse for the sake of it, but none the less what was said was probably on the tips of many a tongue here.

Maybe the young turk can gain a reprieve just by saying:

why am i am i a whore? my ex-boyfriend whom i havent seen in four years, comes to visit and we decide that yes, there is still a lot of feelings there but it could never work with him in england and me here (yes, we did attempt a few years for him to move over here but situations didnt allow it). he was with his current girlfriend a month and had booked to come over to see three months. we enjoyed ourselve said a very tearful goodbye in the airport and spent the next month emailing each other and finally decided it wouldnt work, he is still with his girlfriend and all is going well for them and i am very happy for both of them

to call me a whore is completely out of order and if you know anything about me, you would realise how far off the mark you are

John Mason · 15-08-2007 01:19PM

nice1franko wrote:

you're damaged goods lady.

i am damaged goods because the love of my life cheated on me and i had a weekend fling with an ex - LOL

i notice a number of people on this thread had admitted to cheating several times, yet do you not single them out? i have never cheated on anyone in my life and yet i am a whore but the boys/men who have repeatly cheated are not. i am afraid i cannot follow your logic here? is it because i am a girl?

Caliden · 15-08-2007 01:41PM

irishbird wrote:

i am damaged goods because the love of my life cheated on me and i had a weekend fling with an ex - LOL

i notice a number of people on this thread had admitted to cheating several times, yet do you not single them out? i have never cheated on anyone in my life and yet i am a whore but the boys/men who have repeatly cheated are not. i am afraid i cannot follow your logic here? is it because i am a girl?

But they realise they were wrong, you seem to think there's nothing wrong with the fact you slept with a guy knowing full well he had a girlfriend...

John Mason · 15-08-2007 01:53PM

Caliden wrote:

But they realise they were wrong, you seem to think there's nothing wrong with the fact you slept with a guy knowing full well he had a girlfriend...

He was the one doing all the chasing not me. i would never sleep with someone who was married or in a relationship or have an affair. he was with his girlfriend 4 weeks and wasnt sure what was happening with it.

to be honest from what i see, everyone is having affairs. i have had two friends husbands come on to me very very strongly. one of them turned in my bedroom (i was spending the night in their house), i woke up with him naked in bed with me with a hard on, trying to convince me that his wife wouldnt hear???? i told him to get out or i would scream, i have never spent a night in their house again and limit my contact with both of them. i even refused to go to the christensing of their daughter. if i was a whore, i would have said "yeah, no problem buddy, just jump on"

Terry · 15-08-2007 01:58PM

irishbird wrote:

He was the one doing all the chasing not me. i would never sleep with someone who was married or in a relationship or have an affair. he was with his girlfriend 4 weeks and wasnt sure what was happening with it.

Stop digging. Seriously.

Iago · 15-08-2007 02:09PM

the vast majority of people when given an opportunity to sleep with someone else when they are involved in a non-serious/developing relationship will take that opportunity as long as they're sure that they won't be found out and they find the proposer attractive.

monogomy is not a natural state of affairs and we battle against it everyday. Sometimes people just get sick of fighting, sometimes they feel they're not appreciated where they are and sometimes it's just good to know that someone wants you that badly.

I've always said that as long as I could live with my partner doing anything I did and not treat her differently then that's ok. If you run that scenario through your head before you make your decisions then you'll find out whether or not it's something you should be doing.

15-08-2007 02:38PM

irishbird wrote:

He was the one doing all the chasing not me. i would never sleep with someone who was married or in a relationship or have an affair. he was with his girlfriend 4 weeks and wasnt sure what was happening with it.

to be honest from what i see, everyone is having affairs. i have had two friends husbands come on to me very very strongly. one of them turned in my bedroom (i was spending the night in their house), i woke up with him naked in bed with me with a hard on, trying to convince me that his wife wouldnt hear???? i told him to get out or i would scream, i have never spent a night in their house again and limit my contact with both of them. i even refused to go to the christensing of their daughter. if i was a whore, i would have said "yeah, no problem buddy, just jump on"

Yeah most girls know how it really is but this is AH and the whole attitude that the bloke's a legend and the girl is a filthy whore will more than likely always be the attitude you will get

dubmick · 15-08-2007 03:08PM

irishbird wrote:

i have had two friends husbands come on to me very very strongly. one of them turned in my bedroom (i was spending the night in their house), i woke up with him naked in bed with me with a hard on, trying to convince me that his wife wouldnt hear???? i told him to get out or i would scream,

sorry but the just made me LOL haha what a sneaky f*cker

Sleepy · 15-08-2007 03:22PM

TBH, I think cheating is very common. I've been with women who've told me afterwards that they were seeing someone / married and have known plenty of people to cheat. I cheated once in my youth and tbh the guilt was enough of a head wreck for me to learn my lesson, it just ain't worth it. I don't think I've been cheated on but who knows tbh?

nice1franko · 15-08-2007 03:27PM

A bloke does it and yay, a girls does it and boo: complete bollocks.

I know of a few blokes who are damaged goods too. Just to avoid any confusion, what I mean is: their trust is shattered so, naturally, their behaviour is duely affected.

I've seen some people do it given half the chance and know of others who have done it but think that nobody but themselves and the randomer know (so I'm sure there are a lot more who have done it and, indeed, no one but themselves and the randomer know) but I also know of some people who have never done it.

That said, by my own scientific formula of counting on fingers n thumbs and bit o guesswork, I'd say it occurs in about 80-90% of long term relationships by one, the other, or both.

jellie · 15-08-2007 04:19PM

nice1franko wrote:

That said, by my own scientific formula of counting on fingers n thumbs and bit o guesswork, I'd say it occurs in about 80-90% of long term relationships by one, the other, or both.

Thats a bit of a worrying thought. I was hoping people would tell me it was horrible & theyd never do it! instead it seems to be even more common than id thought..

I-like-eggs,mmm · 15-08-2007 04:28PM

Been cheated on a good few times by my ex (around 12, so he said)... someone posted about how they didn't understand why guys cheated on their good looking girlfriends- well (not my opinion) I'm a good looking girl, and eh, he still managed to do it that much so really I don't think looks come into it. I think it's attention seeking and I think he did it to boost his ego....

Cheating, what can I say, it's the worst form of betrayal- really really hurts.:(

Ishmael · 15-08-2007 04:35PM

Seems to be fairly common these days. Never done it myself (although I've had one or two opportunities to) because i doubt I'd be able to hack the s*it that comes along with it. Seems to be in keeping with the amount apathy in the country though.

I have a friend who has been seeing a girl for about 2-3 months and I've often copped him chatting up other girls while out with the girl on the same night and i think its one of the most disrespectful things i have ever seen. I have told him as much but he doesn't seem to take any heed of it, so i left it to himself.

Is cheating THAT common?

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