Girlfriend Has Never Had Orgasm during Sex - Help!

Kell · 13-04-2007 02:59PM

Jase Easy Tearful wrote:

* A great one is to apply an ice cube to the clit, alternating between the cube and her clit. The different temperature can create good results!

Or if you want to be dead flash, take a mouthful of champagne and also go down. Bubbles have great effect (apparantly), just trying to keep the champers in your mouth can be a bit tricky.

K-

muppetkiller · 13-04-2007 03:13PM

If I may also add when have a bit of fun in the Bath when she's on top turn on the shower head and let the water spray on to her Clit ...the vibrations cause waves hahaha

Dragan · 13-04-2007 03:34PM

My advice would be not to "make it your mission" to make her cum through penetrative sex everytime you have it. Sure, experiment, do different things, have fun….. But if you constantly thinking " I need to make her cum, I need to make her cum." I guarantee you that will ruin the vibe and you won't stand a chance.

You know what works for her in other means, which is a far better boat to be in than a lot of people. Mix and match, people seem to forget that mouth and tounge can be used during and after full sex, not just before.

Have fun, chill out about it, try new things and eventually you guys will get there.

jesus smith · 13-04-2007 07:07PM

Isobel wrote:

She's faking, Oral and "fingering" are easy to fake so you fake and they stop, no offence but you're doing them wrong, if you weren't she'd want sex, hell she'd be gagging for it. if she was a virgin when you met and you did it wrong the first time then thats all she expects now and tries to get it over as quickly as possible. I bet with oral and fingers she "cums" really quick? thats a lie.

that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard ever
Apart from the fact that foreplay is an integral and amazing part of sex its a completely different part of a vagina getting stimulated with cunnilingus and masturbation(provided your just massaging the clitoris not sticking your fingers in) then during intercourse.
also any girl who's prepared to fake an orgasm through cunnilingus of masturbation is will to do it during during sex, i mean its not like its that hard to fake, all you have to do is tremble your legs a bit get breathless and sqeeeeeze.

listen bro, a lot of girls don't come through sex, so its not your fault.
some learn what works for them and some never do, some women even cant come during sex because of something as stupid as a slightly ticker vagina wall which reduces the stimulation on the g spot
however no one can blame you for trying so try these

everyone so far has been going on about the clit and techniques to get it off but if you want her to come through sex then its the back of the clitoris inside her you need to hit, the g spot.

my advice is try different positions,
her gspot may be in a differant place then you think, so (gently) enter her with your finger(s), it should be about 3-5 inches in tords the front and feel like a walnut.
its harder to find on some girls then others
even if you can find it I'd recommend these for achieving orgasm fast

1. Try sitting up against the head board or on a chair and have her sit on you and then go back and forth (reduces the amount of area in the vagina that the top of your penis will be hitting hence more active stimulation) put your hands on her hips and push and pull her back and forth not up and down, the trick here is consistency, you have to keep her going even if she gets tired and she wont get tired as quick if your helping.

2.that last one works great if her g spot is further in but if its lower you should try this one,
get her in the doggie position and enter her,then gently bring her legs in between yours then back under you till shes lying on the bed facing down
with you in her. Then bring your legs up along side her hips so your balls are resting at the base of her ass (stay in her the whole time,it can be trick but its worth it)
then just go at it, the natural curve of the penis will be rubbing along a long stretch of her front and should pick it out for you.this works a bit better then doggie because her legs are closed and the muscles aren't as taught but her vaginas still not getting stretched at all so theres less resistance and the first 3 inches of a vagina are the most sensitive.

3.or if her g spot is too one side maybe try having her on top and then bringing one of her legs inside your legs and then slowly roll onto your sides ( the side where she lifted the leg obviously), this can be very tricky but it hits in different ways or you could just lay her down on her side knees up to her belly and enter her and go for it

the key with all of these is be relaxed, if she thinks your just focused on making her come she'll get stressed that its not good sex and she'll never come, don't go "oh some bloke on the net told me to roide ya sideways!" just do it "in the name of experimentation"

also if you are fingering dont just stick your fingers in and out slide them in gently so as not to pull on the lips try using your middle two then just start closing your fingers in breaking the joints just a little as if you where making a lower case "r" with your middle two fingers and slowly move it in a smal circle as you do this.

4.if all else fails just get her to masturbate during sex and just as she feels shes about to climax to stop, after a few times of doing this in a row it should have the clitoris enlarged and excited to the point where pressure on the back the g spot will carry the orgasm through and hey presto.

of course try and get her off before you have sex too as she'll be wetter and more aroused

(also if you want to try isobels technique go ahead but the one man band is difficult to master and if shes the type who doesn't receive inter vaginal pleasure easily then you could just be waking her clit awkwardly with your thumb.)

best of luck!
- jesus

Caliden · 13-04-2007 07:12PM

75% of women can't climax during penetration alone without clitoral stimulation.
Try stimulation her clit with you hand when you're having sex. It's probably easier do this is she's on top but it's easily doable in other positions.

jesus smith · 13-04-2007 07:30PM

Isobel wrote:

It was genuine info, I spent over an hour givng him good advice, the picture was just a joke for everybody else to go "Like how obvious is that". I was giving you's a man joke I can't see how that is bad, esel started making it more, like for **** sake esel do you think if I didn't care I'd have wrote a fecking essay reply? it took me over an hour to reply, to write all that and in all that time I still ended up as the second poster???? if you're so ****ing smug where was all your morals when he really needed it? fuking no-where and you can go off topic now and get all righteous indignation on me but I'd be willing to bet that the advice I gave as the SECOND poster was based on nothing more than ADVICE, you used his thread to to start on me, what did you contribute?

is there a small chance that esel might not have seen the post till later? i know its a radical thought but some people do spend time away from their computers, I think people getting mad at you is justified the guy asked for advice not judgment on his technique from someone whos never had sex with him, if i came on here looking for advice and was told straight off by the "second poster" that i was just simply crap in bed i'd be out of here sharpish before i could get any "real help"

Isobel · 13-04-2007 08:22PM

jesus smith wrote:

that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard ever heard

hahaha are you for real? seriously I think I out rank in vaginal matters anyday

Apart from the fact that foreplay is an integral and amazing part of sex its a completely different part of a vagina getting stimulated with cunnilingus and masturbation(provided your just massaging the clitoris not sticking your fingers in) then during intercourse.

True

also any girl who's prepared to fake an orgasm through cunnilingus of masturbation is will to do it during during sex, i mean its not like its that hard to fake, all you have to do is tremble your legs a bit get breathless and sqeeeeeze.

Not true, some girls will fake cause they love the person they are with and (unlike yous) we can actually feel affection thats not based on sex

listen bro, a lot of girls don't come through sex, so its not your fault.
some learn what works for them and some never do, some women even cant come during sex because of something as stupid as a slightly ticker vagina wall which reduces the stimulation on the g spot
however no one can blame you for trying so try these

My god! no alot of girls don't cum (thats how its spelt be the way) through just bad sex and bad attempts at it and a "ticker vagina" my ass, try "small cock" next time you feel like using that phrase to blame girls.

everyone so far has been going on about the clit and techniques to get it off

CAUSE THEY WERE RIGHT!

but if you want her to come through sex then its the back of the clitoris inside her you need to hit, the g spot.

or in his case, on the head with a club, and then drag her back to your cave to make fire!

my advice is try different positions,
her gspot may be in a differant place then you think, so (gently) enter her with your finger(s), it should be about 3-5 inches in tords the front and feel like a walnut.

"walnut"?? are you sure you hadn't got you finger up her ass just after Holloween? cause serously if you find a G-Spot like a walnut thats not a girl

its harder to find on some girls then others

I'm sorry but after the last few statements all I can say is hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

1. Try sitting up against the head board or on a chair and have her sit on you and then go back and forth (reduces the amount of area in the vagina that the top of your penis will be hitting hence more active stimulation) put your hands on her hips and push and pull her back and forth not up and down, the trick here is consistency, you have to keep her going even if she gets tired and she wont get tired as quick if your helping.

2.that last one works great if her g spot is further in but if its lower you should try this one,
get her in the doggie position and enter her,then gently bring her legs in between yours then back under you till shes lying on the bed facing down
with you in her. Then bring your legs up along side her hips so your balls are resting at the base of her ass (stay in her the whole time,it can be trick but its worth it)
then just go at it, the natural curve of the penis will be rubbing along a long stretch of her front and should pick it out for you.this works a bit better then doggie because her legs are closed and the muscles aren't as taught but her vaginas still not getting stretched at all so theres less resistance and the first 3 inches of a vagina are the most sensitive.

3.or if her g spot is too one side maybe try having her on top and then bringing one of her legs inside your legs and then slowly roll onto your sides ( the side where she lifted the leg obviously), this can be very tricky but it hits in different ways or you could just lay her down on her side knees up to her belly and enter her and go for it

the key with all of these is be relaxed, if she thinks your just focused on making her come she'll get stressed that its not good sex and she'll never come, don't go "oh some bloke on the net told me to roide ya sideways!" just do it "in the name of experimentation"

also if you are fingering dont just stick your fingers in and out slide them in gently so as not to pull on the lips try using your middle two then just start closing your fingers in breaking the joints just a little as if you where making a lower case "r" with your middle two fingers and slowly move it in a smal circle as you do this.

4.if all else fails just get her to masturbate during sex and just as she feels shes about to climax to stop, after a few times of doing this in a row it should have the clitoris enlarged and excited to the point where pressure on the back the g spot will carry the orgasm through and hey presto.

of course try and get her off before you have sex too as she'll be wetter and more aroused

Now I agree with all that some of it should work, if it doesn't then check for a pulse

(also if you want to try isobels technique go ahead but the one man band is difficult to master and if shes the type who doesn't receive inter vaginal pleasure easily then you could just be waking her clit awkwardly with your thumb.)

Yet again, a typical male answer to a very discriptive set of instructions (by a person who actually owns the equipment) , listen do what he says and I bet tomorrow you'll have NO shelfs, be minus 3 screws and will think yourself lucky if you can still find 2 nuts.

best of luck!

Izz

Isobel · 13-04-2007 08:34PM

jesus smith wrote:

is there a small chance that esel might not have seen the post till later? i know its a radical thought but some people do spend time away from their computers, I think people getting mad at you is justified the guy asked for advice not judgment on his technique from someone whos never had sex with him, if i came on here looking for advice and was told straight off by the "second poster" that i was just simply crap in bed i'd be out of here sharpish before i could get any "real help"

I was already warned and I apoligised to a mod for what I said, and for the record ESEL I apoligise to you too, I was totally out of line and what I said was beneath contemp and I deserved the warning I got, it won't happen again

Wibbs · 13-04-2007 10:22PM

Isobel wrote:

hahaha are you for real? seriously I think I out rank in vaginal matters anyday

so what. I have a guitar, it doesn't make me Jimi Hendrix.

(unlike yous) we can actually feel affection thats not based on sex

eh so can we, just like yous(sic). You really should meet more men, not boys, men.

My god! no alot of girls don't cum (thats how its spelt be the way)

The irony of misspelling "spelt" in that context is enough to explain the term to even the dumbest American.

a "ticker vagina" my ass

Bad juxtaposition of words.... Maybe it's an invite. I'm not too clear.

try "small cock" next time you feel like using that phrase to blame girls.

Issues much. He's not blaming girls.

CAUSE THEY WERE RIGHT!

Only partially. You do know how big the structure actually is? You do know what gets you off, may not work for others? Understanding that not everyone shares your experience and viewpoint is the beginning of wisdom.

"walnut"?? are you sure you hadn't got you finger up her ass just after Holloween? cause serously if you find a G-Spot like a walnut thats not a girl

I'd say hard spongy thingy, but i get the walnut analogy slightly. A spongy walnut, I suppose.

Yet again, a typical male answer to a very discriptive set of instructions (by a person who actually owns the equipment)

Whoopee, we know what works for you, it will work for a lot of women. It may not work for the OP's girlfriend. He needs to ask her. I've been pleasantly surprised as to what can get some women off. In one case direct stimulation of her clitoris stopped her getting much further, no matter how gentle. Women differ. Men differ. That's what's great about people. The only way to find out is by asking.

stovelid · 13-04-2007 10:28PM

Beruthiel wrote:

Unless you know the girl, I can't see how you can come to that conclusion based on what he has said above.

My thoughts exactly.

If the OP's gf is willing to fake orgasms during oral/masturbation, why not just fake it during penetrative sex as well.

Isobel, I'm sure you meant well but your attitude in storming in like that before asking the OP to expand on his post was a bit remiss.

jesus smith · 13-04-2007 10:42PM

your a petty little thing aren't you.
listen i have a friend whos slept with over 30 guys of various lenght/girth/race/age and has never come through penetration, now there is a chance that she just happened to have sex with a lot of really bad in bed guys but i doubt it. (for the record op she loves head)
shes gone to gynacologists as this gets to her and they found nothing wrong.
It can't remmember where she got the thicker vaginal wall theory, but it is plausable. its rare but it does happen,
incidently faking orgasms isn't just a girl thing, I've done it with at least 2 girls who where crap in bed and they're none the wiser.
now i think you'd should probably just leave it before you make an even bigger prat of yourself.

stovelid · 13-04-2007 10:46PM

jesus smith wrote:

your a petty little thing aren't you.
listen i have a friend whos slept with over 30 guys of various lenght/girth/race/age and has never come through penetration, now there is a chance that she just happened to have sex with a lot of really bad in bed guys but i doubt it. (for the record op she loves head)
shes gone to gynacologists as this gets to her and they found nothing wrong.
It can't remmember where she got the thicker vaginal wall theory, but it is plausable. its rare but it does happen,
incidently faking orgasms isn't just a girl thing, I've done it with at least 2 girls who where crap in bed and they're none the wiser.
now i think you'd should probably just leave it before you make an even bigger prat of yourself.

If that is aimed at the OP, give it a rest ffs. The guy came on looking for advice and doesn't need censure.

Wibbs · 13-04-2007 11:01PM

stovelid wrote:

If that is aimed at the OP

I think it's aim lies elsewhere.

stovelid · 13-04-2007 11:18PM

Wibbs wrote:

I think it's aim lies elsewhere.

Just read back more slowly. Jesus smith, if your post was a retort to Isobel, I'm sorry dude. You didn't quote her and I jumped to conclusions.

I'm going back to Fashion and Appearance..

Isobel · 13-04-2007 11:23PM

stovelid wrote:

If that is aimed at the OP, give it a rest ffs. The guy came on looking for advice and doesn't need censure.

It was mostly aimed at me but I'm wearing my bat-cape today so PING, see there it just went off to the left

Isobel · 13-04-2007 11:25PM

stovelid wrote:

Just read back more slowly. Jesus smith, if your post was a retort to Isobel, I'm sorry dude. You didn't quote her and I jumped to conclusions.

I'm going back to Fashion and Appearance..

thank you stovelid

Gordon · 14-04-2007 12:02AM

jesus smith and Isobel, behave for fishbone's sake. Stay on topic and stop arguing like 12 year olds in the back of the car.

Thread is resetting for the last time..

Isobel · 14-04-2007 12:19AM

I agree totally gordon but his name isn't fishbone lol I made that up

:D:D

Isobel · 14-04-2007 12:21AM

About the clit, cause I thought it would make more sense to him lol

Gordon · 14-04-2007 12:39AM

:rolleyes: banned.

timmy69 · 14-04-2007 01:40AM

Unreg2000 like i said all women can orgasm from penetration, most havent in their lives cause of bad lovers and we arent born with a woman pleasing manual, so try the stuff i mentioned although i agree some women need both clitoral and G-spot stimulation simultaneously but its all to arouse and swell up the G-spot, thats what triggers it.

First work on the psychological stuff and then the techniques, it might not happen the first few times but ull soon hit the jackpot and itll keep happening from there on.

spurious · 14-04-2007 09:29AM

The clitoris and 'G spot' are parts of the same structure - massaging one stimulates the other. Again, the main reason why some women do not orgasm is because they do not allow themselves to. Many women 'hold back' during sex - for many reasons, upbringing, early sexual experiences, attitudes towards sex in general. I've been on both ends of this operation and there are many women who have no idea how their body works.

If there has been enough foreplay, then the clitoris will have been stimulated, the G spot will have swollen slightly and further friction from a penis or hand or fingers will have the desired result. When the G spot is being stimulated there is a feeling that feels like REALLY needing to pee. You get her to that stage you're well on the way. It's at that stage though that many women start worrying - about peeing the bed (they won't) and all the other psychological issues start coming in. Get past that point and away we go.

If there has not been enough foreplay you may forget it.

SarahSassy · 14-04-2007 12:25PM

Its normally easier for women to climax when they are on top as they have more control over the movement....

Dont make a big issue of it with her as it will only make her more tense.

Talliesin · 14-04-2007 11:27PM

Unreg2000 wrote:

Oral or using my fingers i can give her one no problem

From which we can take it that you actually know at least a good amount of what has been said in this thread about how to engage in oral and digital stimulation.

So, lets get to the actual problem.

Unreg2000 wrote:

but never during sex.

Thinking that sex == intercourse is one of those cute things that children think that are cute because we're listening to the opinion as adults that have grown out of the idea so long ago (as somewhat older children) that they stand out as showing a very different way of thinking to ours. You just haven't grown out of that idea yet. I blame our schools.

At the risk of growing boring through repetition, what do you think Lesbians do, sit around waiting until one of them grows a penis?

You are making your girlfriend orgasm during sex. You're just not making her orgasm during a particular type of sex widely noted as particularly unlikely to make the average woman reach orgasm.

Now, if you have an activity that delivers a certain result and an activity that you wish give you certain results but doesn't, surely anyone can reach the idea of combining them?

Engage in digital stimulation (whether it's your fingers, hers, or first yours and then hers) while having intercourse. Simple.

timmy69 · 15-04-2007 01:13AM

After some recent pleasure, i wanted to add some things which i didnt before:

Since you already know how to give clitoral orgasms, notice how swollen her G-spot is before giving them and then give her TWO clitoral orgasms and then it would have swollen up enough for her to orgasm after penetration without taking long guaran-f*in-teed. Try it tonight!

I guess clitoral orgams make them more responsive and aroused. And since/if its her first time, tell her shes not gonna pee, so let go!

P.S u gotta make sure shes not faking those clitoral orgasms as someone's mentioned, i hope u know how to give those man.

Girlfriend Has Never Had Orgasm during Sex - Help!

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