Totally screwed up relationship

Victor · 08-03-2007 02:22AM

Tone it down a bit. Telling it like it is is one thing, abuse is another.

ballsofire23 · 08-03-2007 03:25AM

Help yourself, run 6 pages away from her. Not joking, but very long and very confusing to me. I'll say two things: Call a friend and go somewhere for a bit of time away with just friends etc and don't call her. And please find another fish in the sea.

louisecm · 09-03-2007 03:25PM

She is not ready for a relationship and frankly neither are you if you use expressions like "playing" another girl. I've been through a lot in my life, much of which is similar to what she's gone through but that does not give me OR her the right to mistreat people.

Wait til you're ready and find someone who is also ready.

John Mason · 09-03-2007 03:36PM

this has got to a be a troll, seriously it cannot be real:mad:

shakaman · 09-03-2007 05:47PM

So after she gave some fella a handjob in a car shared with her friend and another fella goin at it, she came home to you and ye duely shared bodily fluids.

Classy chick

LegacyUser · 10-03-2007 10:11PM

Please_Help wrote:

'Hey well thanks everyone for the responces, especially dr bolloko!! I did quite a lot of pondering over them last night.

so i txted back 'Oh is this Emma from 2 weekends ago' lol and she went mad.

Most of the people here have advised you to stop playing games and you say you pondered over this info but went straight ahead and started playing games anyway! These are the games you really should avoid, they mess with people's minds and can often take ages for any misunderstanding to clear up, especially with two very insecure people. I understand that she started the game by texting you from her dad's phone, possibly trying to confuse you or maybe she just ran out of credit, whatever her reason you didn't need to respond by playing along with the game. 'lol and she went mad'.... Yeah, it's really funny to get someone mad, grow up.

Lust4Life · 12-03-2007 01:43AM

I think dr.bollocko really had the best answer of all here.
You both obviously get off on the mind games and it seems to fuel your relationship...

HOWEVER.... it really makes me wonder... a gal who will blatantly text you "Hey! Wanna have sex?" only a few paragraphs prior wanted nothing to do with sex because she had rape issues? Had "lost interest?"

Are you sure she wasn't throwing out a line to see if she couldn't hook someone better during that time? And when that didn't pan out she decided that you would suit her fine?

It's just a thought. Sorry to throw more kerosene on an already charging fire.

You need to really think hard on this. If she's The One, are you willing to put up with this long term?

And if the relationship gets more solid and things tame down will you both still be attracted to each other?

Caryatnid · 12-03-2007 05:03AM

Please_Help wrote:

Hi im going out with a girl and its turning into one wierd relationship!! This is a very long and detailed post but i just wanted to give readers an idea of my situation and hopefully advise me because neither of us have ever been in a proper relationship for this length of time.

That's a joke right?
Seriously OP - are you talking about Christmas not even three months ago? And you spent a lot of this time not even together???? That's a proper relationship?
Tbh nothing about your relationship seemed to me to be remotely proper.

I think if things are starting out like this you should run a mile - you're supposed to be in the honeymoon period and it's driving you mental.

Your 'girlfriend' sounds like a complete idiot. She will grow out of that need for attention when she gets older (well, normal people do), and it sounds like she's unbelievably immature with no disregard for your feelings.

She doesn't even respect you.
And really, if you are saying you are just like her, and you are putting up with her, you deserve it. Maybe you should stay with her until you learn your lesson about what a 'proper' relationship should be and go and find someone who you can respect, and who can respect you.

Actually I believe you should stay with eachother until you both drive each other mental. Methinks you will both self destruct, you are so mean to each other.

The Hill Billy · 12-03-2007 09:42AM

OP - I'll cut to the chase...
Neither of you are mature enough in the way you treat each other for this relationship ever to be a "proper" one.
That is not to say that you may not have "proper" relationships with others.
You really seem to be wrong for each other & (ahem) rub each other up the wrong way.
Move on.

frizzefreckles · 12-03-2007 10:57AM

The girl clearly has issues and you are certainly not mature enough to help her deal with them. She needs to either see a councillor as has already been suggested or find someone to help her deal with them. You need to grow up.

Totally screwed up relationship

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