Women wearing rings on their wedding finger when not married

nogoodnamesleft · 05-03-2007 03:20PM #1

Just wondering if someone would be able to clear this up for me. Was talkiin to a few mates about this one but still couldnt figure it out. Why do some women wear rings in their wedding finger when they arent engaged or married?

Talk about giving mixed signals. Is it just to keep fellas guessing?

jor el · 05-03-2007 03:28PM

Some sort of mental deficiency perhaps, or just lying?

source · 05-03-2007 03:29PM

I know a girl who is amazingly good looking, and she wears an engagement style ring when she is going out to stop guys coming onto her.

It works most of the time but some guys are persistent even when she's out with me or any of her other male friends.

nogoodnamesleft · 05-03-2007 03:39PM

Ya thought that as well foinse. Was talkin to dis girl d other nite for bout 20mins. she seemed quiet intrested asked me to go for a cigarette. "Grand" i thought (I dont smoke by the way but though I was makin progress). Then I spotted the ring.

petes · 05-03-2007 03:43PM

I wear a ring on my wedding finger. It is there purely to keep the women at bay.

Femelade · 05-03-2007 03:47PM

I wear two rings..they both only fit that second last finger. so i wear one on each hand. the fact that its on my wedding finger doesnt bother me. There's a guy i know and everytime i meet him,(every few weeks) he sees the ring on my wedding finger and says "oh, you got engaged"..ah, no..i didn't.

I just wear it because it fits....whats the big deal..?

Kinetic^ · 05-03-2007 03:52PM

Femmy wrote:

whats the big deal..?

It can scare men away before they even look at yer face!!!

Sleepy · 05-03-2007 03:53PM

Don't nuns wear them to signify them being 'married' to Jesus :rolleyes:

Aside from that, I've mostly seen it done by women who feel they've been 'left on the shelf' and are particularly bitter about their singledom.

Donegal Lass · 05-03-2007 03:58PM

Femmy wrote:

I wear two rings..they both only fit that second last finger. so i wear one on each hand. the fact that its on my wedding finger doesnt bother me.
I just wear it because it fits....whats the big deal..?

i do the same, it has nothing to do with engagement/marriage, just simply that its the only finger it fits!

nogoodnamesleft · 05-03-2007 04:08PM

Isnt their some superstition about wearing rings on the weddin finger when ur not married?

Mrs_Doyle · 05-03-2007 04:13PM

foinse wrote:

....... she wears an engagement style ring when she is going out to stop guys coming onto her.

I have a Boyfriend, so when I am out without him I sometimes do this. When a guy comes onto me in a really noisy bar or club, I just politely indicate my 'engagement ring', and they usually just bow out graciously.

Don't get me wrong, its not like the guys are flocking around me every-time I leave the house or anything, but I hang out with a lot of single girls, who would generally be on the pull.
So when they attract a group of lads, its just easier for me to make sure they know I'm not up for grabs by saying I'm well and truly spoken for.

On previous occasion's guys have come up to me and offered to buy me a drink, when I say, "Oh no, sorry, thanks, but I have a boyfriend", they have responded with "well is he here", and when I say "no", they'll come back with "well whats the problem then?".

I could never get over that level of arrogance, so wearing a false engagement ring just saves me the hassle of even having to have that kind of conversation.

Talliesin · 05-03-2007 04:31PM

I know people who wear rings on their left ring-finger to cut down on unwelcome advantages, and take them off when they are more in the mood for them.

It's also worth remembering that there are a lot more people in Ireland now from cultures where wedding-rings are worn on the right hand (Eastern Europe, Germany, parts of Spain, Dutch except for Dutch Roman Catholics, Jews, Orthodox Christians, and more).

Donegal Lass · 05-03-2007 04:46PM

nogoodnamesleft wrote:

Isnt their some superstition about wearing rings on the weddin finger when ur not married?

that word there!:D

Faith · 05-03-2007 05:22PM

It's not called your wedding finger, it's called your ring finger. That is, the finger(s) for rings.

I wear a claddagh ring on my second last finger on my left hand. Couldn't tell you if that's the finger for my wedding ring, my engagement ring, whatever, and I couldn't care less!

05-03-2007 05:26PM

I don't even know what finger or hand the ring finger is...

Femelade · 05-03-2007 05:36PM

Left hand. Second last finger. (next to your pinky)

05-03-2007 05:42PM

Oh ok thanks.
Well I hate wearing rings anyway, they annoy my fingers, so I guess if I ever have one it'll go around my neck...

digitally-yours · 05-03-2007 05:49PM

My fiance wears her engagment ring on her wedding Ring finger :rolleyes:

I dont think its a problem for me

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I dont think its a problem you can ask her " Are you daves wife " hahah and she how she responds

catch a trick with a trick !:D

05-03-2007 05:51PM

digitally-yours wrote:

My fiance wears her engagment ring on her wedding Ring finger :rolleyes:

Wtf? There's a difference?

05-03-2007 05:55PM

nogoodnamesleft wrote:

Why do some women wear rings in their wedding finger when they arent engaged or married?

Ha ha! Well, if you just want to go to a pub or club with friends, to drink, dance, and have fun with them, and discourage a bunch of strangers coming with their one-liners, it normally works.

Femelade · 05-03-2007 06:02PM

digitally-yours wrote:

My fiance wears her engagment ring on her wedding Ring finger :rolleyes:

The engagement ring goes on the wedding finger.

Dragan · 05-03-2007 06:34PM

Mrs_Doyle wrote:

On previous occasion's guys have come up to me and offered to buy me a drink, when I say, "Oh no, sorry, thanks, but I have a boyfriend", they have responded with "well is he here", and when I say "no", they'll come back with "well whats the problem then?".

I could never get over that level of arrogance, so wearing a false engagement ring just saves me the hassle of even having to have that kind of conversation.

I believe the following answers would all be suitable!

1) Your face.
2) The bang of hooves off you.
3) Yore Ma!!!!

Now then, girls can be just as bad as guys when it comes to that type of thing. It's not often that a night will go by in work when i won't get some kind of offer. And many of these girls have "wedding rings" on.

connundrum · 05-03-2007 08:47PM

Dragan wrote:

2) The bang of hooves off you.

Hadn't heard that one before, very good!

My contribution would be:

The smell of neglect off ya! (as stolen from another Limerick person

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OP It isn't a mixed signal at all, if she makes it obvious that she is wearing a ring on her ring finger then its a clear signal that she doesn't want to be bothered. However, if she wears loads of rings and happens to have one on her ring finger then you may chance throwing a line at her.

constitutionus · 05-03-2007 09:17PM

actually some girls are just that stupid, and usually go home thinking theyre fat or something cause theyre only getting hit on by lecherous creeps.

DublinWriter · 05-03-2007 09:27PM

Mrs_Doyle wrote:

On previous occasion's guys have come up to me and offered to buy me a drink, when I say, "Oh no, sorry, thanks, but I have a boyfriend", they have responded with "well is he here", and when I say "no", they'll come back with "well whats the problem then?".

No no no! The obvious comeback is "Yeah he's here, but he's workin' on the door tonight".

...but only in Ireland would this whole ring-conversation occur! I'm not going any further except to say that those who have seen Daire O'Broin's performance on the Jack Dee at the Apollo last year would have seen him basically sum up Irish single-womanhood in about 10 seconds flat. Hilarous and deadly-accurate.

tba · 05-03-2007 09:37PM

http://www.threepanelsoul.com/view.php?date=2006-11-05

jazoo · 06-03-2007 12:38AM

foinse wrote:

I know a girl who is amazingly good looking, and she wears an engagement style ring when she is going out to stop guys coming onto her.

It works most of the time but some guys are persistent even when she's out with me or any of her other male friends.

most guys couldn't give a rats arse about wedding rings they're just looking for one nighter probably even enjoy it more if she was married or engaged.

constitutionus · 06-03-2007 12:54AM

jazoo wrote:

most guys couldn't give a rats arse about wedding rings they're just looking for one nighter probably even enjoy it more if she was married or engaged.

works both ways, i cant tell you the number of girls who've hit on me that turn out to be married or engaged or living with someone. its put me right off clubing as i seem to be some kind of slut magnet. i am actually looking for a relationship its just a pity all the single ones seem to be insane

antSionnach · 06-03-2007 01:20AM

Proof there's hope for Irish men yet...

OT: I really don't see the problem with that, but I can understand why some girls would want to pretend they're taken for.

If you were handsome/ beautiful, you'd know too:D

monkeyfudge · 06-03-2007 02:01AM

Do most people actually notice this kind of stuff?

I can't say I've ever paid any attention to what people are wearing on their fingers.

ats · 06-03-2007 09:53AM

Faith wrote:

It's not called your wedding finger, it's called your ring finger. That is, the finger(s) for rings.

I wear a claddagh ring on my second last finger on my left hand. Couldn't tell you if that's the finger for my wedding ring, my engagement ring, whatever, and I couldn't care less!

is that not the finger the claddagh is traditionally worn on?

Women wearing rings on their wedding finger when not married

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