Women wearing rings on their wedding finger when not married

nogoodnamesleft

Just wondering if someone would be able to clear this up for me. Was talkiin to a few mates about this one but still couldnt figure it out. Why do some women wear rings in their wedding finger when they arent engaged or married?

Talk about giving mixed signals. Is it just to keep fellas guessing?

jor el

Some sort of mental deficiency perhaps, or just lying?

source

I know a girl who is amazingly good looking, and she wears an engagement style ring when she is going out to stop guys coming onto her.

It works most of the time but some guys are persistent even when she's out with me or any of her other male friends.

nogoodnamesleft

Ya thought that as well foinse. Was talkin to dis girl d other nite for bout 20mins. she seemed quiet intrested asked me to go for a cigarette. "Grand" i thought (I dont smoke by the way but though I was makin progress). Then I spotted the ring.

petes

I wear a ring on my wedding finger. It is there purely to keep the women at bay.

Femelade

I wear two rings..they both only fit that second last finger. so i wear one on each hand. the fact that its on my wedding finger doesnt bother me. There's a guy i know and everytime i meet him,(every few weeks) he sees the ring on my wedding finger and says "oh, you got engaged"..ah, no..i didn't.

I just wear it because it fits....whats the big deal..?

Kinetic^

Femmy wrote:

whats the big deal..?

It can scare men away before they even look at yer face!!!

Sleepy

Don't nuns wear them to signify them being 'married' to Jesus :rolleyes:

Aside from that, I've mostly seen it done by women who feel they've been 'left on the shelf' and are particularly bitter about their singledom.

Donegal Lass

Femmy wrote:

I wear two rings..they both only fit that second last finger. so i wear one on each hand. the fact that its on my wedding finger doesnt bother me.
I just wear it because it fits....whats the big deal..?

i do the same, it has nothing to do with engagement/marriage, just simply that its the only finger it fits!

nogoodnamesleft

Isnt their some superstition about wearing rings on the weddin finger when ur not married?

Mrs_Doyle

foinse wrote:

....... she wears an engagement style ring when she is going out to stop guys coming onto her.

I have a Boyfriend, so when I am out without him I sometimes do this. When a guy comes onto me in a really noisy bar or club, I just politely indicate my 'engagement ring', and they usually just bow out graciously.

Don't get me wrong, its not like the guys are flocking around me every-time I leave the house or anything, but I hang out with a lot of single girls, who would generally be on the pull.
So when they attract a group of lads, its just easier for me to make sure they know I'm not up for grabs by saying I'm well and truly spoken for.

On previous occasion's guys have come up to me and offered to buy me a drink, when I say, "Oh no, sorry, thanks, but I have a boyfriend", they have responded with "well is he here", and when I say "no", they'll come back with "well whats the problem then?".

I could never get over that level of arrogance, so wearing a false engagement ring just saves me the hassle of even having to have that kind of conversation.

Talliesin

I know people who wear rings on their left ring-finger to cut down on unwelcome advantages, and take them off when they are more in the mood for them.

It's also worth remembering that there are a lot more people in Ireland now from cultures where wedding-rings are worn on the right hand (Eastern Europe, Germany, parts of Spain, Dutch except for Dutch Roman Catholics, Jews, Orthodox Christians, and more).

Donegal Lass

nogoodnamesleft wrote:

Isnt their some superstition about wearing rings on the weddin finger when ur not married?

that word there!:D

Faith

It's not called your wedding finger, it's called your ring finger. That is, the finger(s) for rings.

I wear a claddagh ring on my second last finger on my left hand. Couldn't tell you if that's the finger for my wedding ring, my engagement ring, whatever, and I couldn't care less!

I don't even know what finger or hand the ring finger is...

Femelade

Left hand. Second last finger. (next to your pinky)

Oh ok thanks.
Well I hate wearing rings anyway, they annoy my fingers, so I guess if I ever have one it'll go around my neck...

digitally-yours

My fiance wears her engagment ring on her wedding Ring finger :rolleyes:

I dont think its a problem for me .

I dont think its a problem you can ask her " Are you daves wife " hahah and she how she responds catch a trick with a trick !:D

digitally-yours

digitally-yours wrote:

My fiance wears her engagment ring on her wedding Ring finger :rolleyes:

Wtf? There's a difference?

Black Swan

nogoodnamesleft wrote:

Why do some women wear rings in their wedding finger when they arent engaged or married?

Ha ha! Well, if you just want to go to a pub or club with friends, to drink, dance, and have fun with them, and discourage a bunch of strangers coming with their one-liners, it normally works.

Femelade

digitally-yours wrote:

My fiance wears her engagment ring on her wedding Ring finger :rolleyes:

The engagement ring goes on the wedding finger.

Dragan

Mrs_Doyle wrote:

On previous occasion's guys have come up to me and offered to buy me a drink, when I say, "Oh no, sorry, thanks, but I have a boyfriend", they have responded with "well is he here", and when I say "no", they'll come back with "well whats the problem then?".

I could never get over that level of arrogance, so wearing a false engagement ring just saves me the hassle of even having to have that kind of conversation.

I believe the following answers would all be suitable!

1) Your face.
2) The bang of hooves off you.
3) Yore Ma!!!!

Now then, girls can be just as bad as guys when it comes to that type of thing. It's not often that a night will go by in work when i won't get some kind of offer. And many of these girls have "wedding rings" on.

connundrum

Dragan wrote:

2) The bang of hooves off you.

Hadn't heard that one before, very good!

My contribution would be:

The smell of neglect off ya! (as stolen from another Limerick person )

OP It isn't a mixed signal at all, if she makes it obvious that she is wearing a ring on her ring finger then its a clear signal that she doesn't want to be bothered. However, if she wears loads of rings and happens to have one on her ring finger then you may chance throwing a line at her.

constitutionus

actually some girls are just that stupid, and usually go home thinking theyre fat or something cause theyre only getting hit on by lecherous creeps.

DublinWriter

Mrs_Doyle wrote:

On previous occasion's guys have come up to me and offered to buy me a drink, when I say, "Oh no, sorry, thanks, but I have a boyfriend", they have responded with "well is he here", and when I say "no", they'll come back with "well whats the problem then?".

No no no! The obvious comeback is "Yeah he's here, but he's workin' on the door tonight".

...but only in Ireland would this whole ring-conversation occur! I'm not going any further except to say that those who have seen Daire O'Broin's performance on the Jack Dee at the Apollo last year would have seen him basically sum up Irish single-womanhood in about 10 seconds flat. Hilarous and deadly-accurate.

tba

http://www.threepanelsoul.com/view.php?date=2006-11-05

jazoo

foinse wrote:

I know a girl who is amazingly good looking, and she wears an engagement style ring when she is going out to stop guys coming onto her.

It works most of the time but some guys are persistent even when she's out with me or any of her other male friends.

most guys couldn't give a rats arse about wedding rings they're just looking for one nighter probably even enjoy it more if she was married or engaged.

constitutionus

jazoo wrote:

most guys couldn't give a rats arse about wedding rings they're just looking for one nighter probably even enjoy it more if she was married or engaged.

works both ways, i cant tell you the number of girls who've hit on me that turn out to be married or engaged or living with someone. its put me right off clubing as i seem to be some kind of slut magnet. i am actually looking for a relationship its just a pity all the single ones seem to be insane

antSionnach

Proof there's hope for Irish men yet...

OT: I really don't see the problem with that, but I can understand why some girls would want to pretend they're taken for.

If you were handsome/ beautiful, you'd know too:D

monkeyfudge

Do most people actually notice this kind of stuff?

I can't say I've ever paid any attention to what people are wearing on their fingers.

ats

Faith wrote:

It's not called your wedding finger, it's called your ring finger. That is, the finger(s) for rings.

I wear a claddagh ring on my second last finger on my left hand. Couldn't tell you if that's the finger for my wedding ring, my engagement ring, whatever, and I couldn't care less!

is that not the finger the claddagh is traditionally worn on?

Beruthiel

Sleepy wrote:

Aside from that, I've mostly seen it done by women who feel they've been 'left on the shelf' and are particularly bitter about their singledom.

Ah come on now sleepy, you're trolling!
I wear different rings on different fingers all the time, not for one second do I put any thought into which finger it should or shouldn't go on, only which one it fits.

Kinetic^

Beruthiel wrote:

I wear different rings on different fingers all the time

I wear me bird's ring on different fingers, depends on her mood!!!!!

Mrs_Doyle

Kenny 5 wrote:

I wear me bird's ring on different fingers, depends on her mood!!!!!

Classy ++++

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

monkeyfudge wrote:

Do most people actually notice this kind of stuff?

I can't say I've ever paid any attention to what people are wearing on their fingers.

i have never noticed any piece of jewelery on anybody until they've pointed it out to me and then I'm like. "oh yeah... that looks awful".

but then I just don't understand the fascination with putting metal in or over different parts of your skin

freaks

Beruthiel

Mordeth wrote:

freaks

Nice one Mr. Kettle.

Kinetic^

Mrs_Doyle wrote:

Classy ++++

Nothing but the best for meh I tells ya!!!

tba

Simple fact, is men in their late twenties are getting older, they are usually interested in a long term relationship, there is little point in flirting with intent if the girl is married or engaged.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

Beruthiel wrote:

Nice one Mr. Kettle.

you're such a flirt beruthiel ;p

Faith

ats wrote:

is that not the finger the claddagh is traditionally worn on?

Maybe... I don't know, I still get hassle from my friends for wearing it there. It's turned the appropriate way to indicate I'm single though, so no mixed messages here!

Sleepy

Beruthiel wrote:

Ah come on now sleepy, you're trolling!

Actually I'm not. From my experience they are the most likely group of women to wear a ring on their left ring finger whilst not being engaged/married. I'm not trying to say that all women that do so are bitter spinsters but that is the first thing that comes into my head when I meet someone doing this. Probably related to the fact that for years I didn't notice anyone doing it except a couple of battleaxes I had the misfortune to come across in a part-time job in college.

partholon

Faith wrote:

Maybe... I don't know, I still get hassle from my friends for wearing it there. It's turned the appropriate way to indicate I'm single though, so no mixed messages here!

whilst i know what a ring on your ring finger means i have to confess to not having a clue about the whole claddagh thing. i know which ever way its worn is meant to signal availability or not, but for the life of me i can never remember which way means what !

Faith

partholon wrote:

whilst i know what a ring on your ring finger means i have to confess to not having a clue about the whole claddagh thing. i know which ever way its worn is meant to signal availability or not, but for the life of me i can never remember which way means what !

Wearing it with the heart facing towards you means you are taken, and with the heart facing out means you're single.

Kinetic^

How in the name of jebus is a dude: 1. supposed to know that and 2. supposed to be able to see which way the heart is facing after half a dozen pints in a pub? :rolleyes:

constitutionus

plus if she's wearing it on a chain around her neck thats a quick way to a slap !

biko

This is how to wear the Claddagh ring:

If single the ring is worn on the right hand with the heart facing outwards. Crown closest to the arm like.

If you have a boy/girlfriend the ring is then turned so the heart faced inwards.

If married the ring is worn on the left hand with the heart turned inwards, to serve as a wedding ring.

Wearing it on the left hand, facing in or out means you're taken or married.
Hope this clear things up

Kinetic^

OMFG, it's a ring, you put it on your finger and that's it.

It's like cult or something, mods shut it down before the warp our minds and hurt all the childers!!!

Nevyn

How daft, really they are my fingers and what can wear what I want on them.
If someone makes an assumption it just that thier assumption.

Sleepy

You'd be surprised at how good you can get at observing the Claddagh actually. Saved me from making a tit of myself on many occasions in school/college

iguana

Sleepy wrote:

You'd be surprised at how good you can get at observing the Claddagh actually. Saved me from making a tit of myself on many occasions in school/college

But a huge amount of people have no clue about what way symbolism the ring has and just wear it the way it is more comfortable. I had no clue about it until I saw it on Buffy.

tba

Thaedydal wrote:

How daft, really they are my fingers and what can wear what I want on them.
If someone makes an assumption it just that thier assumption.

It is their assumption all right, but in reality it is not unusual to see such things expressed, and every little helps.

You can choose to not wear a ring or wear one, but it can confuse people, but prehaps thats what you want?