Would I be a dirtbird?

23-01-2007 06:03AM #1

Tonight I was over at my very good friends house.We were going to go out but evetually decided to stay in with a dvd.

W bough a bottle of wine between us and that drank over the space of 3 hours was all we had drunk.We were messing about when we were watching the movie.I tickled her and she was all giggly.Then she lay in towards me and put her head on my shoulders.Then it all went quiet.I was unsure what to do.I had only thought of us as friends till then.I just played it cool and we continued watching the dvd her occasionally her body towards me while she had her back turned.Am I totally picking up the wrong signals?

We have been getting closer since we got back to college this term.There is a stumbling block as she was with a good friend of mine last september.Would I be a dirtbird to pursue this girl?

Coileach dearg · 23-01-2007 06:14AM

As Chopper would say "Harden the F*ck up". Do it for god's sake! What more of a signal do you need, a post card?
No, you wouldn't be a dirtbird.
PS: What is a dirtbird?

Ruu_Old · 23-01-2007 06:17AM

Well ye both were drunk remember but if you have feelings for her then let her know when ye both are sober.

23-01-2007 06:27AM

Ruu wrote:

Well ye both were drunk remember but if you have feelings for her then let her know when ye both are sober.

I was not that drunk.God I dunno.I had started to fancy her over last coupl of weeks.Thanks for the advice ruu.

A dirtbird is somebody who does the betrays a friend by going with a girl his friend fancied/had a relationship with.

Adam · 23-01-2007 06:34AM

You are a dirtbird.

But stick it in her anyway, that's not the reason!

petes · 23-01-2007 09:54AM

He couldn't have been too drunk. It was a bottle of wine between them. Give it a lash. Its not as if you are getting mixed signals there.

Although, what if shes not up for it? Would you be okay with that? Would the friendship suffer?

Miss Fluff · 23-01-2007 10:18AM

Go for it. Obviously likes you. Organise the same type of evening again soon and get two bottles of wine instead

KTRIC · 23-01-2007 10:23AM

Are you or her spoken for ? if not then whats the issue.

humanji · 23-01-2007 10:24AM

She was with your friend last September? As in 4 months ago? So what's the problem? If your friend was going out with her up until recently then that might be a problem, but as it is, there's nothing you're doing wrong. If you do feel guilty, then you could tell your friend and ask their permission, but you really don't need to.

23-01-2007 10:27AM

Neither of us are taken.Its just weird though.She was trying to set me up with her friends last week.Then all of a sudden she was all flirty last night.

KTRIC · 23-01-2007 10:30AM

Deleted User wrote:

Neither of us are taken.Its just weird though.She was trying to set me up with her friends last week.Then all of a sudden she was all flirty last night.

Try going for a "meal" and leave the drink out of it this time. See if you still get the same vibes from her then. If so and you like her, then go for it.

23-01-2007 10:33AM

Meeting her for lunch.So I will update later.:cool:

Kolodny · 23-01-2007 10:39AM

Deleted User wrote:

She was trying to set me up with her friends last week.Then all of a sudden she was all flirty last night.

Ah, classic story. Friend A wants to set Friend B up with someone, and whilst thinking of all the positive points about Friend B they could tell a potential date, Friend A realises "Hey, I should probably be with this person myself!"

Star Lord · 23-01-2007 10:43AM

Deleted User wrote:

Meeting her for lunch.So I will update later.:cool:

Best of luck!!!:)

Iago · 23-01-2007 11:07AM

you're only a dirtbird if you pursue her with the intention of getting your leg over and nothing more. You have to consider what the friendship is worth and would it feel awkward if anything sexual happened.

Maybe invite her for a meal and talk about it with her, either you feel enough that you're comfortable telling her that you are interested in seeing if a relationship can work out or you're not. If you're not then don't pursue her.

Marksie · 23-01-2007 12:15PM

Deleted User wrote:

Neither of us are taken.Its just weird though.She was trying to set me up with her friends last week.Then all of a sudden she was all flirty last night.

no you are nto a dirtbird, why not ask her on a date? or just ask her about the previous night?

23-01-2007 03:53PM

We met up for lunch.It was fun but it was a big group of us.She sat down beside me and was in my eyes flirting with me.
Also remember from last night that her friends commented "that it was almost like a date" when we came back with wine and the dvd.
Can't believe I didn't cop this before.
Think I might play it cool till we are out some night this week!:)

Ruu_Old · 23-01-2007 04:00PM

Good for you, don't let her get away.

KTRIC · 23-01-2007 04:35PM

Sounds like a happy ending (nearly)

I'm sure the question on everyones mind at the moment is "Is she a cracker ?"

humanji · 23-01-2007 04:40PM

*sniff* it's not often we get a happy ending in here.

Cionn · 23-01-2007 06:16PM

A few pints can be a great way to sort these things out. Speaking from personal expieriance I ended up going out with a girl out of one of these situations for 2 years. I suppose you could call it a slow burner only knew her for 14 years before she made the move on me. I have to say though glad to be out when things went to sh*t. funny looking back on it now that I'm married now to someone else with a brace of nippers. same crap different people and suppose I have to admit different generation.
I suppose to summarise sit back enjoy a few pints whatever will be will be.

23-01-2007 11:59PM

Was just over in her house.I was supposed to go out with her and others.I was totally knackered so stayed in with her housemate.The other girl then asked her was she going to kiss some boy.She was like "maybe.He is cute".I was like I wouldnt mind going out but only if her housemate would come out.
She said no so I stayed in with her housemate.
I usually am the life and soul of the party but was really too tired to go out.

daiixi · 24-01-2007 12:02AM

If by "she was with a good friend" you mean she dated a friend then you should go to said friend and let them know you would like to pursue said girl. If she just shagged him then good luck.

randylonghorn · 24-01-2007 03:08AM

Deleted User wrote:

The other girl then asked her was she going to kiss some boy. She was like "maybe.He is cute".

... which could just mean she was trying to make you jealous / goad you into getting off the fence.

Deleted User wrote:

I was like I wouldnt mind going out but only if her housemate would come out.
She said no so I stayed in with her housemate.

... and you're sending her mixed messages.

Go for it ... not in one big mad charge, but a bit more forward motion definitely!

Not a time for your Ross OCK impression, but maybe a little more of his confidence might be appropriate!

Jaysus, I'm finally beginning to see what people see in soaps!! :eek:

GrumPy · 24-01-2007 07:33PM

Keep us updated OP, this stuff is gold!

(better than tv anyway)

TheBigLebowski · 24-01-2007 07:49PM

Sorry mate but you are clearly in the 'friend zone' and getting deeper into it with all this "I think I'll play it cool" bollox. Unless you grow some balls soon and go for it, you'll be stuck in the friend zone for good.

Savman · 24-01-2007 09:17PM

TheBigLebowski wrote:

Unless you grow some balls

:rolleyes:

dumbyearbook · 25-01-2007 12:20AM

Deleted User wrote:

I stayed in with her housemate.
I usually am the life and soul of the party but was really too tired to go out.

Seen this before the guy who is a great laugh; but when it comes down to it and a girl is coming on to you you dont know what to do and 'play it cool' (as said above) is a load or crap are you 16?

Good god if you like her will you score this girl and never mind her housemate, s*** sakes- get on with it or maybe you're afraid your friend will be mad if you're with her?:D

Victor · 25-01-2007 01:26AM

Deleted User wrote:

Was just over in her house.I was supposed to go out with her and others.I was totally knackered so stayed in with her housemate.

Hang on. You stayed in her house, with her housemate, while she went out?

Dude, you're wrecking the soft-on I was getting with this thread.

Zambia · 25-01-2007 02:43AM

ah the old friend zone a cra* place to be ...pee or get off the pot

de5p0i1er · 25-01-2007 03:08AM

Just do it/her whatever.

Would I be a dirtbird?

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